| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 10/22/2006 11:46:03 AM | | I always say, "I'm sorry but I'm not attracted to you." Then I block them. Too many jerks email me so I removed my pics. I'll probably put them back on but only after my mental state has had a break from their pathetic emails. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 10/22/2006 1:01:47 PM | Depends on what the pic is that you don't like... their Face or body shape, offensive as in dead animals. Or poor lighting, blurry, un thought out back ground, or????
I have met men who's picture did not match the person... One man was at least 20 years older... several that were much better looking in person... some looked the same as their photo....
I respond to all emails unless rude or sexual in nature...
maybe I need to get a life!!
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 10/22/2006 6:52:45 PM | | I would always respond to someone who contacts me. It's just good form. But the real question isn't what you asked. The real question is would you date someone you are not physically attracted to. The answer to that is no, and what is attractive to differs for each person. Honesty is the best policy. Be wary when asking for advice. Some people are just looking for a chance to try and claim the moral high ground by grand-standing. They say things about how they only see what's "inside". They are only trying to make people believe they have a special affinity for people that they, or someone else, may find unattractive. Then use that to boost themselves as "better" than everyone else. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 10/22/2006 7:43:45 PM | I would respond to them.
My reasoning is so messed up, that I would probably guarantee myself never to get a date with anyone who might read this, so I must keep it to myself.
The fact that I have managed to say absolutely nothing defeats the whole purpose of me using a forum, and it especially makes the fact that I replied a complete waste!!
Reminds me of the childhood game of "Hey, Charlie", Charlie: "Yeah", "how far would you have gotten if I didn't call your name?" - but, I digress | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 10/22/2006 8:02:53 PM | If someone takes the time out of their day to say hello to me then they will always get a reply. Might take a day ot two or three, but they will get one...LOL
It does'nt matter to me what their picture looks like because not everything to me is a potential hook-up. I come on here to have fun and lighten up on my downtime. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 1/3/2007 1:01:35 PM | | this has happened many times....some guy contacts me without a pic....I ask them to email me one and when they do, I find them unattractive...then I just don't know what to say....I don't want to hurt their feelings.... | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 1/3/2007 2:27:11 PM | ifulike,
Same thing has happened to me Ifulike many times. Kind of makes me get to the point where I am wary of asking for them to send a picture. I wish everyone would put a picture in their profile, especially if they are going to send e-mails out. Just makes things that much easier.
And we do not like to think of ourselves as shallow, but looks do matter to a certain extent.
And attractiveness is different for all of us.
I think most people have something about them that is attractive or stands out in a special way. So if they are messaging they should have a picture up. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 1/3/2007 8:21:31 PM | I get around to responding to everyone that sends me something, no matter what that something is. I mean maybe it's because dudes get less email than women... but, I don't know... I was raised a certain way... and even if I wasn't, I still would.
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 1/3/2007 10:19:46 PM | I will respond to anyone who sends a nice message, regardless of the picture. I think it's only fair. I've had both experiences--the man being more attractive in real life, or being less attractive than the picture. The picture can only express so much about a person. If a picture isn't very clear, I don't make a snap decision about a person because the quality of the picture isn't very good.
There are times when I might politely decline based on a picture when it is evident that the man is very overweight. I would be polite and say that I do not think we are a match without mentioning why.
The only time I tell someone outright WHY I am rejecting them is when the man makes racist, sexist or homophobic remarks. People like that should be told off, as clearly and as firmly as possible. If someone sends a sexualy explicit or rude message, I just block the sender and delete the message. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 1/4/2007 8:08:41 AM | | I have always responded in some way to anyone who has messaged me. I try to be courteous and respectful, regardless of the picture or the comments. If the pic shows a lady who is not to my personal taste, I still respond respecfully, but am careful not to lead her on in any way. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 1/8/2007 2:35:53 PM | The only time I really dont respond to an email is when they have no pic and write a stupid message saying just hi how r you...
Give me something to respond too and glady I will respond especially if its a commen interest we share...even if im not attracted to that person if they take the time to write a decent paragraph, sometimes your best friend can be that person u didnt respond to cuz of what "looks"....if they write about possibly looking for something that im not attracted to then yea a friendly no thanks is nice to be sent out, but never disclude them from a friendship...commen interest are a big key for myself.. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:24:13 AM | I will respond to anyone who sends a nice message, regardless of the picture. I think it's only fair. .... The picture can only express so much about a person. If a picture isn't very clear, I don't make a snap decision about a person because the quality of the picture isn't very good.
There are times when I might politely decline based on a picture when it is evident that the man is very overweight. I would be polite and say that I do not think we are a match without mentioning why.
If someone sends a sexualy explicit or rude message, I just block the sender and delete the message. I pretty much agree with is, with the added point that the 'nice message' needs to be more than, "Hi, how are you?" Something that responds to my profile in some way and gives me something concrete with which to respond. The 'very overweight' issue for me is that I know this is someone who does not have the same type of active lifestyle I do, so we wouldn't be a match. This rarely happens, though. Perhaps it is because in my profile I mention the active things I do, but by far, most men who contact me look reasonably fit or very fit. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/7/2009 5:36:57 PM | Tiger I know how you feel. I would answer anyone, but if you never get an email you can't answer.
Why don't men ever want to talk and email. They say what they are looking for in there profiles but aren't interested in making friends with anyone to see whether they would have those qualities they are looking for.
How do men know if they never talk to anyone.
Is it true that they do only go by looks?
I have emailed 1 guy and ask him what lake he was on in Winchester. He emailed me back and said he was intrested in Marriage.
I was just asking him a question. Because I don't remember a lake in Winchester.
Hope I didn't ask too many Questions.
I cant figure out how to put questions on the forums
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