| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/7/2009 6:00:41 PM | All else being equal, the picture doesn't mean a whole lot. My hunny had none, and by the time he sent one I was already feeling a serious connection. The picture was dreadful, lol! So I ignored it and went with the feeling. Wise decision: in person, he's as cute as a bug's ear -- he simply takes a really lousy picture. . . .
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:17:07 AM | Hell if I know.
Pics haven't been the problem, but these very brief messages that leave me nothing to go on or respond too - I hate that. I spend too much time wondering about what to say that eventually they don't get responded too.
Anyone who sends me something always get their profile read - and whether I respond or not is more based on that.
I think too much stock is based on pics - but so far my experience on POF has been that men DO NOT READ PROFILES!
And you can always tell when they saw a pic and thought 'well I just gotta send her a message like... NOW!' and didn't read the profile. And they wonder why women don't write them back.  
The most important feature I mention in my profile is about communication and listening - and if you don't read the profile then clearly you fall short of what I desire. I don't mention anything about desired or preferred looks because that's pretty broad. But I haven't had the chance to turn anyone down on pics, just on not reading the profile and sending brief or obscure messages. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:23:37 AM | | When I began using this site I found it intolerably rude of people not to reply to messages, even with a polite, but short, no thank you. After a few months of abusive come backs to my no thanks messages I now have taken the decision not to enter into any conversation with someone I'm not interested in whether it be by the fact I am not attracted to their pic, distance or any other reason. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:32:37 AM |
Pics haven't been the problem, but these very brief messages that leave me nothing to go on or respond too - I hate that. I spend too much time wondering about what to say that eventually they don't get responded too.
Anyone who sends me something always get their profile read - and whether I respond or not is more based on that.
I think too much stock is based on pics - but so far my experience on POF has been that men DO NOT READ PROFILES!
And you can always tell when they saw a pic and thought 'well I just gotta send her a message like... NOW!' and didn't read the profile. And they wonder why women don't write them back. Agree completely. I could have written this myself. Although, I do get a lot of men who specifically say they have read my profile, and I do appreciate that, there are many of the other as well who are just responding to a photo. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:33:38 AM | oh yeah and how come she gets to put up a pic of a stone patio and I can't put up my 'I Love Rush Limbaugh' picture and one of an American flag with Africa on it? I had both of those up in my profile and when I check they are gone. So someone is watchin my profile closely because I've seen more than a few questionable pics in some people's profiles that is a pic of their interest or surroundings but not them.
Think I'm gonna keep my 'I Love Rush Limbaugh' pic on private and send them to folks I may contact. That should go over real well.  | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 1:38:01 AM |
oh yeah and how come she gets to put up a pic of a stone patio and I can't put up my 'I Love Rush Limbaugh' picture and one of an American flag with Africa on it? I had both of those up in my profile and when I check they are gone. So someone is watchin my profile closely because I've seen more than a few questionable pics in some people's profiles that is a pic of their interest or surroundings but not them.
Think I'm gonna keep my 'I Love Rush Limbaugh' pic on private and send them to folks I may contact. That should go over real well. I get this too. I see lots of profiles with photos of all kinds of stuff---landscapes, cars, pets, posters, etc. But, whenever I put up something like, it is immediately deleted. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 5:24:41 PM | | The current rules regarding profile pics were put in place only a couple of years ago. Prior to that, people were allowed to post just about any type of pic (except nudity) on their profile and even as their primary photo. There was also no photo review and rejection by the membership back then. So you’re either seeing pics that were uploaded prior to the new rules or that have escaped rejection/deletion by the membership. | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:00:44 PM | | hi.. I respond no matter what... regardless of picture or profile, if there is not an attraction to them I tell them in the nicest way possible.. I am always open to chatting with people who are decent and balanced, it does not always have to be about romance... blessings | |
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/8/2009 8:31:30 PM | Yes. I always respond. But I'm not always bearing good news. I am very open and I'll tell them sorry, but you aren't physically attracted to me. If they get pouty I chuckle a bit. People think it's shallow, and while it can be, it's not always shallow. If I don't date the 350 pound women am I shallow? No, I don't think so. If I'll date a 200 pound woman but not a 201 pound woman am I shallow? Yeah, probably if we assume that both women are intellectually the same.
Everyone has physical limits, and if I feel they fall outside mine then I'm not interested. Whether people like to admit it or not a relationship is not just emotional, it's also physical and the end result of finding a partner is to have sex. If this was a *find friends!* site and not a dating site many people would befriend people outside of their physical comfort zone because they don't care what they look like. But it's not so they do care.
I require being physically and emotionally attached to my partner. If I can't have one then I don't want the person. I don't require picture perfect, or an IQ of 130, but they have to meet my requirements.
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| if someone contacted you and you didn't like their picture
Posted: 11/9/2009 4:55:18 PM | | I recently went out with a woman from here who had a terrible photo. She looked better in person. We had a few evenings of great phone calls. Met her and spent a day with her but the great conversation on the phone did not translate to in person, too bad I liked her. | |
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