| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:16:16 AM | some of the posts really wanna make me laugh with embarrassment....sacastic enough though.......
but i felt not so bad when i see some supportive ones....thanks | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/20/2006 12:18:37 AM | I have only very recently ended a relationship with someone 20 yrs older then me, (didnt end cause of the age difference) we had an awesome time together and had much of the same interests, if u like the guy go for it, u only live once... it can definetly be an interesting ride | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/20/2006 9:02:36 AM | Age is a state of mind, not a number. I've dated women who acted much older than their age and women who have acted much younger. Just depends.
Go for it and see what happens. Better to try and fail than to never have tried at all. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/20/2006 11:47:21 AM | | Your 20 years old. It wouldn't be as big a deal if you were 30. But its not the healthy thing to be dating someone 20 years older than you when your 20. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/20/2006 4:26:20 PM | | Nothing wrong with it. But do not expect it to turn into a serious long term relationship. That will be very difficult given the age difference. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/20/2006 4:44:35 PM | agrees with kewlpeeps.....
If I were 20 again.....a 42 year old woman would be no problem.....
now that I'm 43.......well....it would be the equivalent of getting a birthday card with a five dollar bill in it...... I already get those from my grandma.....
But hey...nothing like dining on a AARP DISCOUNT CARD!!! whoooopeeeeee | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/21/2006 11:17:15 AM |
I realize that age is a personal preference, and some of these May-December romances do manage to work out - but if you were my daughter I would tell you this:
22 years is more then a gap, it is a generation. I would re-think this.
The difference in mind set and life experience between 20 and 42 is too substantial. It is hard to think highly of any man that would date a girl your age, I would feel he was taking advantage of your youth and probably getting the better deal.
I disagree. It all depends on the personalities involved. If the younger woman is mature or an "old soul," there is nothing to keep the two from being mentally on the same level.
I am engaged to a man 22 years older than me, and if anything, I think "older" than he does because I am more old-fashioned in my values. However, I have always been more comfortable with the culture of my parents' generation; I can't relate to people my own age at all! I think this is partly because I was an only child and partly because I was a gifted student. Either way, I always felt like kids/adults my own age were rather silly. When my peers were going crazy for the New Kids on the Block, I was rolling my eyes and listening to the Beatles. My fiancé and I love exactly the same music (from his generation) and most of the same movies (again his generation,) etc. I've always been a retro thinker, dresser, etc. so despite the 22 year difference, there is no generation gap.
As far as a man taking advantage of youth and "getting the better deal." Again, this is not always the case. It is the stereotype, but every person is different. In my relationship, I actually have more experience in some areas. For example, I own my home and he has never purchased a home until now. I was able to help him understand loan types, the process, appreciation, escrow, values, etc. He gained from my experience rather than preying on naiveté. On the other hand, he makes far more money than me and has excellent credit, so one could say I'm taking advantage of him.
We don't have lifestyle issues as other people have mentioned either. He has no children and we both really want 1 or 2. We even agree on the names, etc.
If we were different people, it wouldn't work, but it really all comes down to individual personalities. If he was a slimy Hugh Hefner type and I was a giggly teenager at Backstreet Boys concerts, it would be completely different because there would be a strong chance of manipulation going on in an unequal pairing, but I would never discount someone that I related to mentally just because of their age. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/22/2006 10:38:59 PM | What are u dumb????.Come on now....Who's ur daddy for sure.I have to wonder also are u in it for love or a father figure darling?,are you lacking attention you never received from ur father? and this man is ur father figure?.This man has been there done it and your just beginning,to also add ...the sex ...his drive will go to perhaps once a week and you'll be in ur prime....stock up n Viagra lol.Its crazy your young..you have a life ahead of you take it and run.I would never date a man who is in my case 65, for one thing I would have nothing in comman other then pushing his wheelchair for excercise. You wanted my opinion you got it. Best of luck young lady | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/22/2006 10:58:17 PM | | It's up to u..that is a personal choice..the advantage to dating an older man is that we/they finally learned how to better treat a woman...you benefit from their experience...probably in more ways than just interpersonal... | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/22/2006 11:28:58 PM | If there is real love there go for it!!
There is so many sick people on this site I do not know where to begin.
She will just be in her prime??? Did you happen to think that she is'nt a SLUT.(Im talking to those who think that).Love means love not how often he has wood!!A relationship is about Love and Commitment not about how good of f@#k buddy he or she is.So who knows what life has in store.You can marry some one at 25 that is 25, accident or sickness they can end up in a wheelchair.What then go down the road?Love matters more then sex. Sex is a DESIRE
not a need. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 5:44:27 AM | | Bravo to you for defending ALL men in there 50's.....Tell me something ...say your baby girl came home with a man 22 years older...Would you be thrilled??. I know I'd be put out,but then again my 23 yr old daughter would never do that. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 8:22:59 AM | This question is like the interracial ones.
What's between two people is between two people.
For other people to say it's disgusting etc. is their problem, not that of the couple who want to be together.
When someone has to beg the question on a public forum however, it begs the question why do you care what other people think? Since you obviously do or you wouldn't be asking, perhaps this isn't a good idea for you. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 8:42:12 AM | | It's been said that our personalities are basically set once we are 25; that being the case, it really depends on what you want out of the relationship. As far as marriage and children go, for a woman if you want your own kids it is of course easier if you are younger, and for men it really doesn't make much of a difference. And it being so hard to find someone who we are compatible with, does anyone really want to pass up on someone who seems so perfect just because they don't fit the 'picture' of who we've been brought up to believe is supposed to be our 'soul mate'? I've never believed in that; in this day and age where so many people live to be 100, why not try to find out if that person is the one we can be ectsatically happy with? Most relationships fall apart or the romance wanes anyway; if the relationship feels right in all other ways, I would say try it out and see where it leads. The 'rose colored glasses' come off in about three years max anyway, so if you're still crazy about them after that, you've got it made. One year or 22 years, we're all adults, we may die tomorrow. Mays as well enjoy the time we have together. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 9:21:04 AM | | Speaking as the voice of experience (I'm 59), many things in life are the same, take for instance the idea of not missing your water until your well runs dry. A man does not learn to appreciate the wonder, majesty and beauty of all young women, until he's become invisable to most. (In case you didn't know men my age usually don't register on young womens' man radar). To my way of thinking there are three good reasons why a young woman should date older men; (1) adoration, to a young man you're just one of many, but to an older man you're a rare and beautiful breath of fresh air. (2) Young men are incapable of being true to one woman, and I believe it's by design. Please all of you ask men who have no reason to lie if they've ever cheated, and I think you'll come to agree with me. Older men, on the other hand, are usually content, and some times a bit stressed to please one young woman. (3) Since experience is the best teacher, the best lovers, would have to be older men. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 9:22:26 AM | | Dont listen to anyone but yourself! I dated a girl that was much younger and we got along great, had an awesome time together and we both enjoyed it. Yes there are vast differences but isnt that what makes the other person interesting? I dont want to date myself, although I am a fun date, lol. If the person, male or female is attractive to YOU and has all the qualities you are looking for then go for it, you may miss out on something great and why, because everyone ELSE who is lonely tells you not too??? Everyone always told me not to get a motorcycle too, I would get killed etc, etc, I wouldnt trade my bike for anything! Follow your own voice! | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 3:54:19 PM | | My daughter is 18 and yes that would be okay Now!! Be better then wanting to date a 18 year old at 15.But when I see 14 to 17 year old girls with with boys 18 to 22.I think well thier parents did'nt do a good job either.It was'nt allowed in my house while I was there.When a girl turns 18 she can date 18 to 88 its nobodys business.It would be nice to have some order to the way things are surppose to be again.If its been done one way for 7000 years and it was right, it does'nt become wrong in the last 50 cause a group didn' like the norm! | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 4:08:35 PM |
My daughter is 18 and yes that would be okay Now!! Be better then wanting to date a 18 year old at 15.But when I see 14 to 17 year old girls with with boys 18 to 22.I think well thier parents did'nt do a good job either.It was'nt allowed in my house while I was there.When a girl turns 18 she can date 18 to 88 its nobodys business.It would be nice to have some order to the way things are surppose to be again.If its been done one way for 7000 years and it was right, it does'nt become wrong in the last 50 cause a group didn' like the norm!
In my state the legal age of consent is 16. I see nothing immoral about a 19-22yo dating a 15 or 16 yo. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 4:24:46 PM | 22 years older than you... he may as well be your father, youre disgusting, go get someone your age.
You don't even know what you are talking about. I know a couple where there was 39 years difference in their ages. They were married, happily, I might add for almost 30 years and were truly in love. I know, because they were my mom & dad. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 5:02:46 PM | [In my state the legal age of consent is 16. I see nothing immoral about a 19-22yo dating a 15 or 16 yo.]
See that is what is wrong with most people and this site for sure .The age of consent.I do not care if the age of consent is 12 or 25 If your a Father worth a damn (save it I do not want to hear it, thats not opinion its FACT!!)You are going to want to kill the S O B and in some case's they do. There is less chance of that happening with her dating in her own age group.When she is 18 and both parents did a good job, you have nothing to fear. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 5:59:40 PM | Gee!!! thats why when younger guys e-mailed me I always tell them how old I am or maybe they missed looking at my age. There's some that I am really attracted to, its the opposite of the OP's forum, I am the old lady and him the younger man. The problem is some really judge us when we date someone younger than us, why does it matter? If you are in love , love conquers all. Anyway some of them even younger than me looks older, I am very medically healthy and there's only few older guys that are medically healthy. I want someone whgo takes care of themselves. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/23/2006 7:23:16 PM | If you really want him to pay for your visa and airfare, you'll make the relationship work.
Otherwise he'll have you deported back to your own country.
In the asian dating sites, their are no older woman that want marriage. They just want someone to pay for them to get to the U.S.A.
I hate to be nasty, but how much you know about Chinese university students in Peking? Damn it, their parents have tons of money. Being the only child in the family she is like a pearl in their parents hands. Unless you are a well to do profession man, their daughter would go with you. Dude, don't think American are everything everyone would envy. Go to Peking and see how rich people live there then you know U.S.A. are far from rich compared with them.
Your post suits the poor village girl in China, but not the girls who have computers at their upscale mansions.
My late husband was 26 years older than me. Our marriage last 27 years. And I was an oversea bride. Not every one just want a visa, you can keep quiet for me. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 11/24/2006 3:44:08 AM | Piano4te??? You think you look young at your age 43? and you wont date a grandma? Lets see and count our wrinkles on our face and see who has more lol.
Crystal heart, you are right those Asian has money in thier country, and the way American guys think about Asian women being here in USA is by mail order bride, and almost all of them generalized all Asian women. I came here in USA on my own, went to school here by student visa. Those mail bride maybe cant go to USA because of no reason to get here. Professional Asian dont have problem getting visa from American embassy, so PLEASE dont generalize all Asian women that they use American for the money.  | |
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