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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/25/2011 9:19:38 AM |
22 years older than you........he may as well be your father,youre disgusting,go get someone your age.
You have NO RIGHT TO TELL HER SHE is disgusting,YOU ARE NOT HER FATHER!!!!!!!
I was happily married to a 20 years my senior for more than 18 years until he passed away. Age is not a factor to two people in love and want to be together.... | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/25/2011 4:23:17 PM | Unfortunately. I mean seriously how do you even meet someone 22 years your elder in order to start dating in the first place? You don't wander up to them in clubs or single them out at the gym or latch on to them at speed dating events.
10 years is already pushing it a bit but 22 years, sorry, when they're old enough to be your dad/mum that's just plain weird. I wouldn't go as far as the other guy to say "you're disgusting", but seriously, was there NO ONE younger? | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/26/2011 12:52:04 PM | | Date who you want to. Personally I wouldn't have any type of sexual or romantic relationship with a man who is 22 yrs older than me. A man is 22 yrs younger might be good for a FWB / casual relationship. But I wouldn't have a LTR with him. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/26/2011 2:14:38 PM |
You don't wander up to them in clubs or single them out at the gym or latch on to them at speed dating events.
...Ummm, that's EXACTLY how they meet! | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/27/2011 5:35:30 PM | Hallmark card? Hilarious comment.
Neither one of us were ready to take the plunge. Simply put. We were going in different directions in our career. He went to war, I went to college. Two different places in our life. Love means letting go, and if it returns, it could be for KEEPS.
So far, it has been a dream, he's a gentleman, we are moving slowly down that road, because we both are mature enough to commit wholeheartedly. It doesn't have to be a fast hookup to be worthwhile, would you agree? | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 6/29/2011 8:25:55 AM | So JCO you're in a nightclub, standing at the bar or in a corner with your mates, i.e. the typical setup, and some old lady with visible wrinkles and aging walks by the bar.
Before even beginning to ask yourself what a woman that old is doing in a nightclub in the first place, you'd latch on to that before latching on to a younger girl?
Or at the gym, compared to the younger girls showing how fit they are on a treadmill, you'd take the saggy one at the end who's 20 years older?
I sincerely hope not, otherwise raise your standards a bit! :D lol! Speed dating is I'll admit probably the only setup where anyone would realistically meet someone that much older than themselves and actually talk to each other........but then compared to a younger person at the same event, it's just mind boggling! | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/2/2011 9:32:59 PM | | older men dating women that much younger...i'd say he is just looking for sex or a trophy... if i were you i wouldn't do it...when i was in my 20s i had older men approach me and it was always rather disgusting...it was so obvious that they were looking for just sex...also, when the guys were married it was even worse...it made me sick to my stomach...the guy is probably a major creep and you would be wise to move on... | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/3/2011 2:16:52 AM |
So JCO you're in a nightclub, standing at the bar or in a corner with your mates, i.e. the typical setup, and some old lady with visible wrinkles and aging walks by the bar. Well...I don't know where you're coming from with THAT...and it's obvious you don't know where I'm coming from. I'm the guy with the girlfriend who is 22 years younger... | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/3/2011 10:46:12 AM | ^^^^ and your point was?
So going off your logic, couples...lets say skinny guys with fat chick, for example...
So because the skinny guy likes fat chicks and the fat chick likes skinny guys, YOUR logic indicatesthe fat chick should have to ALSO like fat guys and the skinny guy should have to also like skinny chick? .....What grade are we in?
How about this; people have their preferences and the universe is set up so that just because someone PREFERS something doesn't mean they also have to BE what they prefer... | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/3/2011 11:37:48 AM | Fat chicks liking skinny guys ain't exactly uncommon! They get very optismistic in that front! Skinny chicks liking fat guys though...ahahahahah!   | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/4/2011 5:05:47 AM | | I had one, you didn't notice it and I'm too lazy today to bother explaining it! :-) Not like you got to worry anyway. She's the one with the bizarre likeness for significant others old enough to be their dad, you effectively won the lottery! | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/4/2011 10:23:21 AM | ~OT~ My SO was married in his late 20s to a women who was 14 years older. When he was describing that marriage to me, I wasn't surprised in the least that the break-apart happened when he wanted to be late-20s and she wanted to Mother him into his 40s just like she was. Different places in life, for sure. I can NOT fathom (and the thought really does creep me out) being with someone 69 years old.  And that's what it would be if I were with someone 22 years older than I am. **shudder** This is another "to each their own" but I seriously wonder about HUGE age differences and how much fore-thought was put into such relationships. My guess? No one is thinking in terms of 20 years from now, it's much more "what works today" scenarios. JMO  | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/4/2011 10:57:18 AM | Its pretty clear to me that those who have negative things to say about "large" age differences are simply expressing their own preferences about relationships. Historically, it was completely common for "older" men to marry younger women for many reasons, economic ones being one of the most significant ones. Its still pretty common in many places in the world today. The fact that your 45+ American woman finds the idea repugnant is hardly surprising.
Myself, I think it is nice to connect with someone my own age, but in the end, you connect with those who you meet and connect with you. There are all kinds of relationships going on which involve significant age gaps in both directions, and to label them as not well thought out, shallow, based on sex, looking for a trophy, etc, is pointless. If you are not part of a relationship, you don't actually know, and can not know, the basis for the relationship. Its always true that as time goes on relationships have to adapt to the physical, emotional and intellectual changes that happen to both of the people involved, and lots of relationships don't make it because one or the other or both of the parties decide to go their own way. As far as I can see, it does not really matter what the age gap happens to be when the split happens. The spectators will offer some reasons in their view for the split, but again, they typically know nothing of the actual situation, and their reasons reflect themselves more than the couple.
If you want to restrict your life to those people who you can meet who are near your age, go right ahead. You cut yourself out of many other potentially spectacular relationships by doing so, but if you are happy, as in if it works for you, then party on! As for those who take a more liberal view of their relationship lives, let them be who they want to be as well. You don't know what your preaching about, and since you would never accept a relationship with their characteristics, you never will know what its all about either. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/4/2011 11:18:04 AM | Unless I'm 40 and she's 20, I doubt it's going to be a "spectacular" relationship as you say! And I ain't waiting 13 more years for the privalege! :P
And you said "historically" which is a killer. Yes in Medieval times and similar it was common place for 15 year olds to end up with 30+ year olds etc, but that was back then, this is now, the world is a lot different. | |
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| Dating a man who is 22 years older than me?
Posted: 7/4/2011 12:29:25 PM | Well, you don't have to go back that far to see situations where a young man went off to make his fortune in the colonies, then returned in his 40s with the purpose of having a family, marrying a 16 year old and living more or less happily ever after.
So, what is the "line of disgust"? A 60 with a 40? a 70 with a 50? a 90 with a 60? I personally know a 76 with a 55 who have been happy for a decade. Is she just plain stupid? Is he revolting?
The more you really look at it, the whole idea is, to my mind, rather arbitrary and baseless. Nobody is forcing these couples to be together or to stay together in our society. Why should others have any opinion on the matter at all?
The only practical consideration that I see is related to having children. You need a fertile woman to have babies. Is it the general position that men over 45 should have no possibility of having children because you think that a 55 year old and a 20 something woman are disgusting, stupid, exploitative, ill advised, short sighted or whatever?
I know a good few intelligent, educated women who would be quite thrilled to take up with me. I stay clear of them because I have raised all the children that I want, and younger women want children, usually. But that is something to do with me and my choices. | |
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