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Posted: 7/3/2006 4:00:43 PM | I welcome it.
I don't think anyone any "lesser" for it. Infact, it might just earn you some positive points. However, turning me down can be a turn-off. Then again, I wouldn't push for it on a first date either. It would have to be all her idea. Because it's probably been my idea as well. But, I don't want to give the impression "that's all I want her for." | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 7:59:09 PM | | I must say I'm shocked that I seem to be the only guy left with morals... perhaps girls dont want that nowadays | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:01:48 PM | nickjbor,
I prefer a guy with morals and i think thats because i've had bad experiences with sleeping with guys too early. I think if i a guy is not willing to wait for a while then he's not worth my time. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:19:05 PM | | nickjbor, i find it very pretentious of you to think that morality = not having sex on the first date. did you ever consider not imposing YOUR morals on everyone else? | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:28:41 PM | I have morals!!!
Im an upstanding gentileman!
My morals exceed far beyond what most people do.
I dont take advantage of a woman if she is drunk....only if I know she is down to have sex..before we drink.
I dont pretend to be someone Im not...that is a good moral.
I dont date my friend's x's, or family members....alot of people dont get that one.
I definitly dont re-bound date....9 time out of 10 we date....x gets jealous...they get together...thats life I guess.
The list gos on and on....chooseing to have sex on the first date...is a choice....a choice that I respect...I might not tottaly agree...but that doesnt matter...
Sass is right....you can state your opinion....dont push it up on anyone elese tho......oh and um....
Salad is murder | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:37:34 PM | | Sass I'm starting to think that you're a trouble maker and just want to see fights :) | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 9:41:11 PM | | Or that I have an opinion - they tend to look similar! hahaha | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 10:05:31 PM | | but why wait if it really feels right? if you meet someone that feels special, and know what you want, what's the point of going through those three dates, it just some kind of principal that people follow, it doesn't seem to mean anything. you don't really know anyone so much better after three dates anyway. specially when it comes to online dating, and you might have been chatting and emailing for weeks before meeting face to face. that can be worth more than 3 dates. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 10:24:10 PM | | You've got a point there Felicity. Obviously things are situational. I guess if you've been chatting and emailing for weeks you may feel comfortable enough to take that step. I guess for me, I'm more of the type just to hang out quickly instead of chatting and emailling for weeks. I just find that when you meet, things are a little more real and not so thought out. Sitting at the comfort of your desk, you can create yourself into whoever you feel like. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 10:37:51 PM | ^^^Wow....I never thought about it like that!!!
Its true tho...everything is thought out....I just fly buy the seat of my pants when im face to face with someone...but here I think before I type...sometimes
I guess IRL...I would probly get a smack or two..hehe. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 10:49:24 PM | dddddddiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrttttttttttttyyyyyyyyyyyy. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2006 11:58:38 PM | I happen to agree with you Sass... wtg speaking up about morals not meaning sex or no sex "tonight".
I have had both types of relationships....ones where we "got it on" the first night.... and ones where we waited. There was nothing about that single act that made any of the relationships any better or any worse. I go with the flow...go with the attraction. Im am an adult!
Trouble making by speaking your opinion...come on now...that is what the whole forum idea is about... the right to speak your mine and your opinion! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 12:17:56 AM | | I don't want it if it's that easy. What makes me so special? | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 12:24:39 AM | | I love it, in my opinion there is only one thing greater though, a woman that will make you wait! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 1:34:16 AM | | it is on the call of the female there, but it does give insight to how they will be toward you around other guys in the future, if they make you wait and you do then they know that you will be moreso faithfull than someone who f**ks on the first time out, then they gotta worry bout every guy you associate with | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 3:05:06 AM |
nickjbor, i find it very pretentious of you to think that morality = not having sex on the first date. did you ever consider not imposing YOUR morals on everyone else?
I'm proud of my morals.
if a girl can dress in nearly nothing and push that fact in my face because they are proud of their bodies, then I can clearly state I think that people who treat sex selfishly are wrong. I never said that anyone had to change (THAT would be imposing) I just said you are wrong. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 5:03:38 AM | "Realistically, my attitude has changed as I've gotten older. I think it forces intimacy in a potential relationship too soon. Sex should come out of intimacy and trust; this forces it before it's there naturally"
Excellent point !
GEB | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 2:27:27 PM |
I just said you are wrong.
wrong according to you, not me...what part of that aren't you getting? | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 3:28:05 PM | I learned that if you behave like a prize he will try to win you. Men like a challenge.
If you give it away he will love you for it and then treat you like the 'pick any prize from the bottom shelf' gifts you get at fairs. I dont mean be a tease, just remember that if you have sex with himfirst date he will assume you give it away to all guys first date and you wont be worth the effort.
Not about morals, Im not prude at all just how it often is. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 4:13:31 PM | My ex wife and I went out on our first date on a Friday evening, we went back to my place after for a cappuccino and we spent the whole weekend in bed. We had a great 7 year relationship and a beautiful son.
What i am saying is ... go with your instincts. There is no process or plan. If it feels right, it is right. If it feels wrong, then it is wrong. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 4:28:57 PM | It depends on the girl and the situation. I don''t care if she wants to sleep with me on the first date, but I do care what happens during sleeping with me. If she tries to connect with me...how she reacts...what she likes...That speaks volumes about herself and the reason she wanted to sleep with me in the first place... (and if there will be a second date or Pan will disappear into the forest... ) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 4:32:20 PM | Okay, but can we have sex before the date?
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Posted: 7/4/2006 6:52:45 PM | | sass - your free to be wrong. I never said otherwise. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 8:57:43 PM | lord almighty, am I the only guy who'd say no?
from what i've read i'd say yes you are. (but i have no input to the question) | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 9:23:11 PM | | nickjbor...do you actually get dates with an attitude like that? i mean with real women? | |
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