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Posted: 7/4/2006 10:36:49 PM | | I'm with you on this Sass.... nickjbor, your attitude stinks | |
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Posted: 7/4/2006 10:47:30 PM | Yall need to settle the **** down... seriously...
If you looking just to have a **** buddy... then fine, screw away...
but if you looking for a relationship... like long term.... wait... atleast a few weeks. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 6:56:23 AM | Really this question is very subjective. It depends on how they met and how long they got to know eachother before the first date. Most important of all, how hard did I have to work for it 
If it is to easy, that is bad. If you make me work for it (that doesn't mean emptying my wallet on you either!!!) then it is much more appealing, and you will probably be respected more. Having sex on the first date does NOT mean the guy will just f*ck you and leave you contrary to popular belief. However it is a good bet that in general if you want a relationship with him you should wait. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 6:59:01 AM | if you dont like my attitude that's your problem.
if you dont like hearing that somewhere out there someone thinks what your doing is wrong, then so be it.
but if it bothers you then perhaps your the one who needs to question this, not me | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 7:18:56 AM | What do I think of myself if I try to get her to have sex on the first date? A horn toad? It pretty much depends on how I feel as the date progresses. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 9:06:38 AM |
Now guys....honestly, what is your opinion on girls who sleep with you on the first date?
What do I think of a woman who would sleep with a guy on the first date?
NO SELF RESPECT..... | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 12:43:33 PM | | why do you say that jarbarian? what's wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and doing it? sleeping with someone on the first date doesn't have to mean you sleep with everyone. it can mean you are very attracted to this specific person. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 12:49:02 PM | why do you say that jarbarian? what's wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and doing it? sleeping with someone on the first date doesn't have to mean you sleep with everyone. it can mean you are very attracted to this specific person.
Sex is an expression of love. You can't love someone you just met. It's "meaningless" sex -- and literally playing Russian Roulette with your body.
It means you are trading sex for approval. You like someone so you should sleep with them on the first date?
As a man that tells me several things about this woman:
1. If she'll sleep with me on the first date, she'll sleep with other men on the first date.
2. She doesn't respect herself or her body.
3. She sees sex as an act, not an expression of love.
I wouldn't sleep with a woman on the first date.
Besides, why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free? It's not going to make a man want to stay with you. If anything it's going to make him doubt you are good, long term relationship material.
It's up to you to decide. I'm not saying you can't do it. I just think the risks far exceed the rewards. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 6:59:48 PM | | ok... if sex only is an expression of love for you, then obviously you have to wait until you really know the person to have sex, i understand that. so how long does it take for you to know that you love someone? months? anyway, for many people sex is not only about love. sex can be an expression of love, but sometimes it's about sexuality, sensuality and the need to be close to someone else. there are different kinds of sex... i don't see why a woman wouldn't respect herself or her body by having sex on the first date (do you have the same opinion about men who have sex on the first date?). you're perhaps talking about prostitutes? well... it's just sad to read that people regard women with a strong sexuality as sluts. it's not necessarily about that... it can be about enjoying life and and enjoying sex... what's wrong with that? | |
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Posted: 7/5/2006 8:01:18 PM | Haha...jeez...
Have any of you thought about how many other 'first dates' that person might have been on? Kinda creepy when you think of it that way, isn't it?
It's like if you meet a girl who dumps her boyfriend for you. What makes you think she won't do that to you later on? (HINT--> She will.) If someone sleeps with you on a first date, I'm willing to bet that it's not their first or last time doing it (which is why I wouldn't do it - yuk!) | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 2:24:44 AM | I believe if you want a long term relationship it's best to become friends first.If you have sex on a first date you just become a sex object and becoming friends is almost impossible. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 5:49:27 AM | i think it's the only way to go!
after the sex is out of the way everything else matters.
i never see a woman in a bad way for doing the deed on a first date.
i respect her.
after the sex is out of the way the true test of compatability enters into things.
and it also shows me that she is worth my undivided attention! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 6:20:10 AM | | I think it is a bad thing if you intend to have something long term. The guy will be thinking "How many other guys has she done this with?" | |
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Posted: 7/11/2006 2:48:48 PM | I have had a 2 first date sex I have waited a few weeks and I have waited 4 months to have sex with a man. If I wanted to be a **** I would make him wait until marriage which is really easy for me since I go with out a lot. But I would have to say the ones that start out with sex end in just that. I end up feeling used and taken advantage of. The times I had sex on the first day I was pressured into by the men and really after it was all sad and done it really mad me feel bad about my self. And no person wants to feel that way about their selves. So guys before you try to pressure a woman into sex on the first date. If she wants it she will let you know, but if those signs are not given clearly then leave it be she will tell ya when she is ready. Which it seems most of the men in here understand.
I don't see anything wrong with people who have sex with someone on the first date. I have talked to men online for months before we both had time to meet in person so we knew each other more then if we had gone on 3 dates. So don't bash those who want sex on the first date or the ones who wait for marriage it is their choice on what they want to do with their bodies.. I just pray that they have common sense to be safe.. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 11:44:55 AM | | I think it depends on the couple and wether or not you wanna relationship with that person if not then sleep away if you do then take it slow and let it work its way out. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 2:22:36 PM | I kinda lost respect for my girlfriend after a while because of that. But then you can't really put time limits on it either.
Remember back when sex was a taboo act outside of wedlock. What was a relationship without sex? *gasp* | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 2:55:47 PM | My first and second wife slept with me on the first date....... It just means the chemistry is there.............. And with my first wife it was unsafe sex.......lol She mounted me as I was driving down the road.............(lol) It not easy driving down the road with a woman infront of you as you drive  | |
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Posted: 8/5/2006 5:32:15 PM | let's see... first date sex. unless i'm wrong, that means both the man and the woman slept with each other on the first date.
Sex is an expression of love. You can't love someone you just met. It's "meaningless" sex -- and literally playing Russian Roulette with your body.
It means you are trading sex for approval. You like someone so you should sleep with them on the first date?
As a man that tells me several things about this woman:
1. If she'll sleep with me on the first date, she'll sleep with other men on the first date.
2. She doesn't respect herself or her body.
3. She sees sex as an act, not an expression of love.
a. i wasn't aware there was anything wrong with meaningless sex...if that's what's wanted. humans are sexual beings. every sex act releases endorphins, which make you feel good. so, no wonder people like meaningless sex.
b. approval? a woman doesn't need a man's approval. just his penis. see a, above.
c. so he's slept with other women on a first date, too, right? this is why everyone wears a condom. (i hope!)
d. so, he doesn't respect himself or his body, either? no. it's respecting oneself enough to trust one's own decisions. also, the meaningless sex is how the two worship each other's bodies and sate their desires.
e. there are times sex is just an act, and times when it is an expression of love. when the man takes a lady out, plies her with numerous drinks, to the point where her hormones are overruling her brain, and they have sex...well, that's the sex that's only an act. when the man spends a while getting to know her, via mail or phone, and they finally meet, even if they had sex right then, they've already developed some intimacy, and the sex is part of enhancing that intimacy...that's closer to being an expression of love. after they've been seeing each other for a time, have agreed to be monogamous, and are getting serious...then sex is definitely an expression of love. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:41:15 PM | | Well it depends on many things i think both can tell if there is something there or if its just a roll in the hay | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 7:45:43 PM | I've only ever had one girl I dated where we slept together early in the relationship. In retrospect it was too soon for us; and after having a relationship high for a few months we realized things weren't going to work out.
I usually would say not to sleep on the first date, but if I met someone and it seemed like we REALLY clicked I could see it happeneing. But due to my past experiences I'd be inclinded to wait a few dates even if things were going well.
But then that's just me, I have plenty of friends who'd argue otherwise. I suppose it's really a reflection of what you're after. If your focus is mostly on the physical aspect of a relationship it'd be appropriate; if you're looking for a relationship with more of a mental / emotional connection maybe it'd better to wait.
The answer (as always) depends on the people involved. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2006 8:15:24 PM |
if a girl offered to sleep with me on the first date, I'd say no, and never talk to her again.
but I speak for myself - most guys I know would date her another 20 times.
Nickjbor, I don't think it's a good idea to sleep with someone on the first date either. Part of it is because I'm a bit of an untrusting soul. However, I would still speak to them and go out with them again. I hate it when women are judgemental with me, I'd be just as bad if I was as judgemental to them just because they wanted to have sex on the first date. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 12:13:42 AM | Yes humormonger - exactly what I was thinking. Do guys worry about being respected if they put out too soon?
Sometimes the sparks are flying and its just gotta happen. As long as both are consenting adults what is the big deal?
I've had first date sex turn into long term relationships, too. Its all about chemistry. I don't have sex with guys to get them to like me - I do it because I am turned on by them. Yes - love those endorphins. My self-worth has little to do with holding out. I like sex as much as any guy so why not treat myself? I deserve it. Plus I am far more pleasant the next day.
I've had numerous dates with guys with no sex that didn't go anywhere. If 'its' not there, no amount of dates is going to make 'it' magically appear.
Meh, if a guy wants to judge me on it then he's not the type of guy I would go for anyways. And what a double standard - was he not there, having sex on the first date too? You're either cool with it or you're not.
I thought we were past the 'women must withhold sex in order to get a man to pursue her' crap. How outdated. And I guess I can't pursue a man, either?
Its easy enough to read people. Some guys so obviously just want to get laid, so you walk away from that. Usually first date sex happens when you are so totally engaged with each other - the conversation flows, time flies, the world has stopped, then you both just look at each other like, wow! This is fun!
But the people involved cannot be insecure or have fears/hangups or it just turns ugly. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 4:10:19 AM | I think it's the way the GODS of Plenty Of Fish intended it to be. That way there's no need for a SECOND date.
Next? | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 10:55:13 AM | As moms always say.. there are two types of girls.... That's ingrained in most every dood's head. Don't kid yourselves.
Things is... you're all really both those types of girls at the same time. Note to self - stop kidding me about that. Just decide what kind of girl you want to be for/with that particular guy. The worst is when you do it for one reason, and then expect a different result. So sad really.
Interestingly... it seems that as MEN get older, they care less about having instant sex than when they were younger (relatively speaking, of course). Whereas, as WOMEN get older, they get more casual about sex than when they were younger.
Go figure. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2006 10:56:38 AM | | One date and your having sex? Geez...that's not a date...that a one night stand or hooker situation. | |
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