| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/1/2006 1:18:06 PM | I think it depends on the woman, the experiences and the attraction/situation.
I've never really understand that whole 'time frame' thing where time frames need to dictate when it's alright to move to another stage.
I have noticed that recently (since my time on POF) I'm more cautious of someone that says they feel X but its too soon to tell or They want to do X but shouldn't/wont - it makes me wonder how well they know themselves that they feel they need to put in place 'time frames' to ensure that their feelings are accurate and/or true! | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/2/2006 8:27:44 AM | I think the point isnt so much the initial sex on a first date its the feeling of being used and not being able to have sex many times over weeks or months. Like maddoctor said if the person sleeps with you on the first date they can sleep with anyone on a first date. Is that someone you want to be with not being able to trust them?
An orgasms lasts approximately 8 seconds and after your done he/she leaves? What if you want more the next day? What if you want someone who is that good in bed over a long period of time? Are you truly willing to search endlessly for partner after partner just to find that 8 seconds? Or wouldn't knowing someone is there for you waiting to be not only your lover but a friend and confidant and mate for a long period of time?
That 8 seconds feels fantastic but not if you have to search for it time and again. Give yourself one person to build something with and that 8 seconds can turn into a lifetime! | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/2/2006 11:30:05 AM | OK.... so I've through this whole thread now, and counted 5 women who aren't opposed to first date sex....
Cool... 5 new favourites
 | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:27:41 AM | i have ask that question to the men that I went out with on those first dates,,, I basically got the same respond.
i would be busy to hang out and someone is coming to town... make up every excuese in the book....
All of them responded the same, she was pretty and cute that there is no hope for a 2nd tae... that was a farewell....coming from a guy who thought what's in his pants that what is in head /// | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/3/2006 8:18:53 PM | I don t know ladies i just had this experience with a girl that is awesome. Everything about her is great and we really connected and then we went back to her place and had sex and KABOOM it exploded she made me out to be this bad guy and now we dont talk but she says she really wants to be with me but she is scared and that she loves being with me and spending time together. What the hell does that mean. And for the record yeah we had sex but she was their when it happened too. What do i do next and how do i approch it with out scaring her off more. Im lost and need some advice.
Bryce | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:01:54 PM | First date sex... really is one to call completely dependent on the circumstances or individuals involved. I think the woman is trusting, I determine whether I'm unusual or its common practice for her (like to think the former of course, but some times misguidedly so!). I've had first date sex two times... the first began an 18-month relationship... the second, a five-year marriage... so you never can tell if its just an urge/spur-of-the-moment type thing, or a very strong instant bond. I'm not going to judge someone who has sex on the first date... but if the relationship develops into just sex and no talking... that's bad. Weigh up how much you talk to each other, versus how much you're in the sack together... the ratio will tell you if something is wrong.
Peter
xx | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/3/2006 9:17:54 PM | | As for Trixster's message... post that one to the "ask a woman" forum because it sounds like you have an emotional woman there with all the mental oddity that comes with it, so us guys will just be guessing with our responses. The only similar experience I had is that she really liked me and thought she blew it by going to far on the first date. So she was just a bit embarassed, and nervous. Result, the 18-month relationship. Give her a call, do coffee... get some more words in there and show her you want her too (since you described it as awesome). :) ps. congrats! :) | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/4/2006 9:45:23 PM | I find it odd that in the twenty first century, this double standad still exsists!
Why is it that when a guy has sex with someone on a first date, he is considered a stud.
However, when a gal does the very same thing, she is looked at as a slut?
What happened to equal rights? Why is this considered a moral issue?
Better yet, why is this even an issue? | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:11:35 PM | Another thought on this subject.
I see where a lot of those replying seem to equate sex at the beginning of a relationship as a detriment to having a lasting relationship.
As we all know, sex is an essential part of any successful relationship between a man & a woman. If the sex isn't good or isn't satisfying for both people, the relationship is going to fail! Therefore, I could see sex as one of the things both people are going to need to find out about BEFORE they start planning to have a long term relationship.
What happens if you wait until some point where you have learned all about each other's like & dislikes, find you have similar interests, and then you find out that the sexual chemistry between you stinks?
Do you go your separate ways wishing you hadn't wasted so much time? | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/4/2006 10:37:04 PM | Ok here's a new one ........ sapose me and this guy have known each other 8 years. He's handsome, works, is interested in me, wants a date soon. He's hot for me .. I'm hot for him. Both of us 50, neither of us have had sex with another person in over 3 years. WHAT WOULD YOU DO?????? You know the fella wont run off, you know he's interested, has been for a long time, been barking up your tree for months, very gentlemanly like. We've never been out on a date per se, but have been with friends at clubs before together!. H'es coming back to town in about a week. AND I'm seriously thinking of giving him a wellcome back to Texas moment. Would I be considered a HO?  | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:53:33 AM | Texsan,
Personally I hope you do, and that you two start a great relationship.
Worst case scenario....you both broke a longgggggggggggggggg dry spell of no sex, which can be great to.....been there done that, and its  | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/11/2006 5:02:03 PM | | If she didn't put out for YOU on the first date, it's a bit arrogant to think you're the best there is... I'd rather get it on the first date knowing that I'm the latest in a (perhaps rather long) string, but at least I'm not the guy who she makes wait forever while she's banging everyone else the first time | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/12/2006 1:49:56 AM | | Well, i personally prefer to know the women i sleep with and since i am a virgin, its more important to me to know the person first. | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/12/2006 1:25:59 PM | | Had to jump in here....i met a guy and we liked each other but so did his friend so we hung out but never by ourselves...then when we finally did (had our first date i mean)...we ended up having sex...we are still together to this day....yet sometimes having sex on the first date can make a guy have less respect for the girl...so i guess it all depends on the man and on the woman that are having sex | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/21/2006 12:09:15 AM | | Can another girl jump in? I think it totally depends on the situation, and every situation is different, and you have to do go with what you are comfortable with. I do not judge men for wanting to have sex on first date, as it is my option to say no, just as it is there option to ask. | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/21/2006 10:33:31 AM | nothing wrong with it at all. if the chemistry clicks, go for it.
kenny | |
|
| |
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/24/2006 1:26:06 PM | Even if I might have sex on a first day, that does not mean if we started dating exclusively, that I would not be faithful. If I am dating someone I like, I do not sleep with anybody but him. I like sex yes, but I do have some control.
The way I figure it, If I have sex with a guy on the first date because we both want too, and he can't handle it or thinks less of me, he is not the one for me! | |
|
| First Date Sex
Posted: 9/24/2006 1:29:25 PM | I had sex on the first date a little while ago - I felt an amazing chemistry and I had no inhibitions at all. Nor did I feel like a slut in any way - I felt wonderful after. I was attracted like I had not been in years, and there was just something about him sexually that I just had to experience - I was floored by my reaction to him, it was unlike me in every way.
Just don't ask me if he has called me to go out since LOL Do I regret it? No. I only miss it happening again and wish he had given me a chance to see each other again. | |
|
Home
login 
