| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 12:18:04 AM | If I get an email, or intend on sending one, I read their profile.
If I'm just checking the profile because of the forums, I might skim a bit. I skim quite a bit in the forums. There's way too much to read. What they say in the forums tells me more about them than what's in the profile anyway. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 6:36:05 AM | | I have never gone for looks, on here a profile gives me an inside view of you and to my mind that allows me to see what is on the inside and what makes you tick. A photo on here can be fake or an out of date one, if relationships were based on looks alone then the world would be filled with alot of single people. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:14:28 AM | Personally, I do read the profiles of those I intend to contact--every time. After all, there's no point writing to someone who lives 1,500 miles away, wants a 6'4 stud who is also a millionaire, and who drives a BMW. That isn't me, won't ever be me, so why waste my time?'
But that last part is the issue for many people. Time. Some men may feel they simply don't have time to read through all the profiles, and are hoping that a 'shotgun' approach will work, that by sending out X number of emails they will get Y number of replies. It's a foolish way to approach something like this, but they do it.
The nice thing about online dating is that when you get mail from someone who obviously hasn't bothered to find out a little bit about you before writing, you can just hit that wonderful 'delete' button and move on to more important business. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 7:29:24 AM | | Sorry Missy, It's better I tell you. Most guys don't caer what type of personality you have or if you love animals or love walks on the beach. They are most concerned if you can be made. Some guys have a profile in thier mind on what is in your picture fist to see if they want to do it with you. Then they form an oppinion on how hard it is going to be to get you to do it with them. The they read more profile. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 8:16:41 AM | | I read the profile and look at the picture before I email someone. To just look at a picture without reading the profile before emailing is just dumb! | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 8:44:40 AM | I had a guy tell me that he hadn't read my profile yet...I gave him credit for being honest...but c'mon...Does he really think I'm going to be interested?
I think that pics are important on here. There has to be an initial physical attraction. But looks are definately not everything. Especially if you want to spend more time with someone, they have to have substance and common interests or why waste the time.
my thoughts....Smiles  | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 9:04:46 AM | If you are receiving email messages from guys that sound like they did not read your profile, they probably didn't. I know a lot of guys use "form letters." Sort of like casting a net instead of using a fishing pole and specific bait, lol.
When I receive email messages from women that obviously did not read my profile: DELETE :) | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/5/2006 2:01:26 PM | | I might check someone out because of their pic but I won't email them unless I have read their profile...sometimes the pic is hot and the profile is a dud and I don't email them..sometimes no pic and great profile so I email them....so the answer is the pic is good for initial interest just like in the bar but once you read the profile if it is not interesting I am not interested | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:04:53 AM | | A pic is just the icing on the cake......I want to enjoy the cake as well. I won't PM someone if their profile doesn't interest me in someway. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:09:51 AM | There are guys and gals who both do nothing more than see a nice picture, and send off a message.
Which is fine if the person they're contacting only wants a fling or encounter.
But most people looking for a serious relationship deserve more than random mindless comments from people who can't bother to read about who it is they're writing to.
I always read the profile. That's what's important.
Pictures are meaningless, they are simply a way to put a face to the person you're trying to get to know.
Hell, I still get women contacting me, saying about "we have so much in common" and "you sound like such a wonderful man"... yet then they ask how my luck has been on PoF... if I've found anyone yet?
The hell? Are they seriously so lazy that they can't read the blurb right at the beginning of my profile?
Some people are just pathetic. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/21/2006 5:17:31 PM | | I always read the profile & i like a picture so i can see who i'm talking to but that being said there have been times when a profile with no picture has gotten my attention simply because of the header. So usually i need both. What really pee's me of is when theres a picture & absolutely no info about the person in the profile. Jeez are you people so into yourselves that you think you can get by on your looks or so called looks in some cases. Or are you just lazy? | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/21/2006 5:30:08 PM | Always respond based on a proflie, especially online. So much of the relating online is verbal and so if we have no similarities, the conversations will be flat and hard to sustain. Ifeel the profiles give real ways to establish an opinion of a person and as such are useful tools when assesing a potential date.
As far as the question goes, what did you mean? Why don't guys check profiles or why are you connecting with those who haven't. I think the answer to both is rather obvious.
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Joined: 6/16/2006
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 7/21/2006 6:30:56 PM | | Both. But unless the profile is really well done, I have trouble thinking about what to write about. It usually comes across as a flirt because the profile was written rather lazily or desperately... I try to IM first when possible. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 8:08:30 PM | sorry to sound shallow, but i email by picture. If i find you attractive, then i email you. If by the end I find your character to be kind of insulting I let you go. I also read profiles once the lady takes her time to reply back to me. Because form my own experience, I've spend lots of times reading profiles, only to end up not getting any replies back.
so it is just something I've learned | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 8:26:27 PM | Pic can make me open one's profile. But, I send email based on what's in the profile... or, because something that people post here....
Seems like I am mostly emailing with forum posters lately... all of whom live at least 1000 miles away...And, those are mostly friendly emails...
In fact, I don't even remember when was the last time I browsed local profiles. If I open somebody's profile and they don't appear to be posting I am not that interested in them...
Damn it, I just realized that I have turned into a total forum junkie... Sad, sad, sad.
*goes away mumbling... swears off forums*
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 8:30:20 PM | | Both. A woman could be attractive, but there is something about her profile that is dealbreaker whether it's smoking, having multiple kids, lack of common interests, she is arrogant in her profile etc. On the other hand ,a woman could have a good profile that I like, but I think she is completely unattractive. | |
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Joined: 8/12/2007
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 9:23:50 PM | I have never emailed any woman on any singles site without reading every word in her profile. And I have emailed women with no pics based solely on her profile. Though there has to be physical attraction eventually, to be sure...
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:14:23 PM | | I read them , personally, and it has to be a mix of factors between the pic(s) and profile to be honest. For myself at least. I can see (usually do see daily) profiles with girls who I think are hot, physically attractive , whatever, but they're either A) way too far away for a dating / relationship potential (I'm not really into Long Distance things), or B) something in or about their profile in general just screams "no match", so I pass by. And I'm sure the same things happen with a lot of ppl here, pretty much. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:26:06 PM |
Just curious if guys actually read the profiles before they decide to email/chat with someone.
Absolutely.
For instance, a woman with a lot of grammatical or spelling errors on her profile is pretty much a no-go for me, because it shows me that she's 1) not very serious about finding a guy here, since she can't be bothered to proofread or spell check, and 2) she's probably not very bright.
I'm also looking to see what kinds of interests she has. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/19/2007 10:35:48 PM | Looks will always get my attention....but it will be brain power that keeps me around......so you figure it out...... 
Just my opinion........   | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/20/2007 4:40:40 AM | I always peruse the profile before sending an email.
It is for this reason that anyone who just puts "heres my msn, ask me anything you want" annoys me, even in a bar you have the chance to see how someone is with there friends, or eaves drop on a conversation to give yourself an in for some natural chat flow.
Giving a little something about yourself, even if it is just "I enjoy spending weekends with my mates taking random road trips" really helps, I can query a recent destination, tell you one of my favorite places to drive to etc. | |
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| Do you email based on pic or profile?
Posted: 12/20/2007 7:32:28 AM | | I most often e-mail someone based on what say in the forums...I also look at a person's profile if they add me to their favorites....they can be really good looking, but if their profile or posts are "weak", they will not make my favorites list... | |
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