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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/12/2006 4:51:46 AM | | if she is human, she can be a player...not much difference between a female or male player... neither are worth anyones time or effort | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/12/2006 4:53:06 AM |
but just because a woman shoots you down does not mean she is a player
If she waits until after you bought her a new car in exchange for sex, then I'd say she is... | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/13/2006 3:00:22 PM |
If she waits until after you bought her a new car in exchange for sex, then I'd say she is...
thats not a player hun..thats a whore...and to get a new car inxchange for sex...she is damn good at it! | |
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Snugs
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Joined: 4/30/2006
Msg: 81 | |
| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/13/2006 3:08:08 PM | | I was with my ex for 8 years my man, I supported her the whole time. But she ended up leaving me for another dude too. But cmon, REALLY. I mean REALLY. The women are worse then us.. See where impulsive, but women... Oh there Verrrrry thoughtful, & with all that thought comes alot of conniving. They think out everything before they do it... Everything. They say were the bad ones.. but in the end, there no better.... Or worse. People really dont get that were equal & opposites do they they. WE ARE ALL ONE IN THE SAME.. Take a REEEEEEAL good look at yourself & youll see evryone else inside you. There should be no surprises really. There shouldnt. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/13/2006 5:08:36 PM | | Players come in all shapes, sizes, ages...and yes...both genders...sad but true...and they all make a bad name for the decent ones such as myself.... I have been played way too many times (hence the reason why my profile is so harsh)...Being ready to give up many times, but NOT going to let any of them win at their little immature childish games...We might all be adults but most are not mature enough to even carry that label. Some trusting good male friends of mine have been played by many women as well. Its not fair too anyone. But the ones that are obvious players( eg. the ones that lie about what they seek, out for sex, their discription, living arrangements, employement or even their careers, age, sexuality.... etc.. etc..) deserve to be played..As they say... what comes around goes around, and they will get theirs!! Karma gets them back 10 fold! And they are the ones that will wonder in 10/20 years, why they are still single and lonely!..DUHHH!!!..LOL (thats if they dont catch something in the meantime)..Nuff said! | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/13/2006 5:13:35 PM | Ok, so I got played. By a woman no less!, actually this has happened a few times now and I'm just curious to see if anybody else has had this happen or not?
Yup it happens....but live and let live..forgive and carry on until you find the right one..
Take a REEEEEEAL good look at yourself & youll see evryone else inside you. There should be no surprises really. There shouldnt.
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/24/2006 7:27:29 PM | But it's ok for men to think that because they buy a woman dinner, or take them to a movie that it entitles them a one way ticket to the bedroom. It would take alot more than a pack of cigarettes or dinner at the Krystal to bed me. By the way not all women are that way so don't class us until we call you and ask you to bring a pack of cigarettes and a six pack. Then you can stop and say where have I heard that before? | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 87 | |
| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/26/2006 2:54:01 AM | I'd like to see how many guys on here who have been hit up for money from girls on here.
I know I have
" Ohh I really like you and want something special, but I am short on rent, can you help ?? "
I'd like a woman who didn't expect anything, just let me be a gentleman the way I know how, rather than telling me where to take her, what to buy her, and how much money I should be making.
Back when relationships ment something, that was how it was.
Today's women are way too clouded over with TV, movie stars, and friends. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/26/2006 6:35:04 AM | I have OFFERED but it has never been asked of me. I was dating a gal who was unemployed and had been for a while and she had no cash at Christmas so I dropped $100 on her so she could buy her very young grandkids some stuff. She paid me back like half of it and then we stopped seeing each other, but for other reasons .
Then again every year at Christmas I also find a poor family with kids and buy them some gifts so whether I was doing this gal or not really didn't enter into it that much. Chirstmas is for kids and they should have a visit from Santa. Since I fly solo $100 bucks for poor kids won't hurt me much. | |
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MERC01
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 89 | |
| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/28/2006 6:11:25 AM | | Well according to the bible of women, any woman that asks or hints at money or material gain is a whore/ ummm so what is it when they expect you to take them for dinner, drinks, movies, shows etc. Isn't that somewhat whoring?? Another thing women state that they are seeking their parnter in life?, other half, and soul mate, lol well you aint going to find them here. As for men being the only players? In one blog I heard that women only reject men when the sex isnt good ?? The same goes for men too, if she is a lousy lay, why go back for seconds? you know it won't improve lol. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 7/28/2006 7:16:27 AM | WOW...I have done plenty of ****ed up things to guys but that one really tops it. I feel really bad for you Bruce!
I am definetly a women player. I get whatever I can out of the deal. If you think about it, if your not doing it there is a good possibilty that it will come from the other end. I have been burned one to many times by men, so I will continue to play the game until I find a real, genuine man. Until then let the games begin. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/16/2007 6:11:54 PM | It's called interent dating.
It's sensory overload for most of the females on here. So many new guys emailing them everyday, no doubt they have a hard time staying focused on one guy that they are chatting with.
"what new email will come tomorrow?" she says
I guess they have a difficult time concentrating on one guy, what's that saying
"so many guys so little time" | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/16/2007 8:39:10 PM | | I'm still recovering from being played by a woman...long story short, she was gorgeous, seemed really sincere and interested, and I really tried to get together with her. But in the end all I got was excuse after excuse why she didn't have the time to get together for a date and I kept getting suckered in by her, despite her inability to answer me straight when I told her she could tell me she wasn't interested. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/16/2007 10:07:58 PM | For the 52nd time... Everyone is a "player", which is a female term of convenience. Women "play" men all the time, only they call it "dating" or a "relationship".
The reason women tend to make such a big fuss over the issue is their sense of entitlement in this arena, which includes it being somehow wrong if they don't win no matter what. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/16/2007 11:02:48 PM |
The reason women tend to make such a big fuss over the issue is their sense of entitlement in this arena, which includes it being somehow wrong if they don't win no matter what.
heh.
I like that quote. It makes me feel warm & fuzzy inside.
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/17/2007 12:20:34 AM | are there female players? absolutely!
they tend to be young, VERY beautiful, and SMART. i would not go so far as to say they consciously do something hurtful (although that can very well be the net result), but because they have SO MANY choices when it comes to men/dates they will always be thinking to themselves that they can do better and are NEVER satisfied.
i have met a couple of ladies like this and i will tell you they are not happy people at all... | |
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nona37
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Joined: 11/12/2007
Msg: 96 | |
| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/17/2007 12:49:30 AM | | Yes, women play men, but I find that both genders play the opposite sex. Now with being brutally honest here and having been "played" myself in the past, I have found that the first couple of times we get played, we can blame the opposite sex, but if it becomes a habitual occurrence within our lives, this is when we have to start blaming OURSELVES as compared to the obvious sex. Most of the time, the obvious signs are there, we just choose to ignore them, and that is when it falls on ourselves as individuals, therefore, we play ourselves more times to none, and in reference to some man coming into my home if he's that lucky to make it into my home, I would NEVER allow him to use my homephone, if he wanted to call his home etc,,that is when he would have my cell phone handed to him, my home number comes to a man who I know is going to stick around for awhile, and I say that as a single woman, not a playin' hussy. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/17/2007 1:04:04 AM | There are unfortunately a significant number of women on dating sites who are clearly there only to boost their ego's.
Sadly, so many lack honesty or even openness in communication. I have no issue with people doing what they want in respect to dating etc... but surely it's not that difficult to just be open & honest about it. If you want a casual relationship etc... just say so rather than stuff people around and leading them on.
Obviously this applies equally to both genders, however, I have had 2 years of experiencing this with women who have over-inflated egos due to the amount of contact they receive [due to more men than women available] and as a result of this they believe it's ok to treat people like conveniences...
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/17/2007 1:57:58 AM | Women are much better at 'playing' than men will ever be because generally they are more socially skilled. Male players tend to be sex orientated whilst female players tend to be both money and power orientated with sex as the bait.
A woman player plays you while at the same time making you think you're the player. I don't think they do this just with men, I think they do it with women in social circles as well. You come out of such a 'relationship' believing at a deep emotional level it was all your fault and you were the one who didn't live up to her standards.
On deep reflection, and with the support of a counselling team and 10 years of talking to other women, it dawns on you she actually had no standards at all other than a satisfaction with the power she had over you and you'll realise all those false beliefs working intensely inside of you are nothing more than a smoke and mirrors mental construct someone else put there in order to get certain things beneficial to them from you.
Your only hope of not going through this again is to observe and carefully study retrospectively what actually went on and treat the whole thing as a valuable learning activity. If at any time you find yourself thinking 'one day they'll come to realise who I really am and what my motives really are and they'll come to love me and then when I've become good enough they'll apologise and reveal their inner selves and we'll trust each other and ...' you're most likely being played in the long term. You're good enough now. It's their behaviour that's the problem.
I think female players are raised on the basis of a 'shopping' mentality; almost all the women who take an interest in me already have other men in tow but will either pretend 'there's 'something wrong with him - he shows me no respect' (strange you've been living with him for so long then; and when I ask what you mean you can't give me a specific answer) or they hide his existence completely and will tell you those two weeks away in Spain were with female friends. On the rare occasion someone is blatantly honest they'll come out with a corker along the lines of already having 4 men on the go - I kid you not. And I thank them for that because they're not going down the playing route. An honest woman is a treasure to find, even if you don't want to touch her with a barge pole.
Women will often tell me how I work as a man - this is based on their long years of genuine experience of dealing with us silly men (and we are generally silly, us men - we're controlled by the sight of pretty eyes and big boobs mostly and that is silly, isn't it?) - and they find it disconcerting when they find I don't quite work that way. The most frequent comments I get are 'you're too deep a thinker; you think like a woman!' and because it means I'm non-manipulable it will have the tone of an insult to it. You see if you're not easily manipulated and you don't suck up you're just not good enough!
Players think they've got you all figured out from the first look and in the majority of cases they have because too many people in this game, male and female, rely on hope and have a vision of what could be (too many Mills and Boon novels, IMO, and yes I have been through a period where I read them - 10 books for free offer) and that hope opens us up to dangerous over-commiting and ignoring what's actually going on right now. But I think we all have to learn this lesson and often the most hardened female players are women who have been made that way by playing men (and often violent men). Playing is really just a defensive behaviour based on fear of handing your future over to someone else - but there is another way. Learn not to want; learn to go without and just sit back and observe. It's our wanting and neediness that gives players the power they have over us.
Learning to trust your intuition/gut instinct and being very clear on how you want to be treated and taking nothing less is the best way to avoid the affects of a player, male or female. And playing doesn't just happen in the romantic world, does it?
Oh no. We're only just getting started here. | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/17/2007 2:20:27 AM | Wow! I have to hand it to some women they gotten Bold or are Bold!
Well guys I guess it's paid back time for you all , after all men have been playing women longer then women have. I wouldn't do that , I come out and say hey can I take you home ? (ok now I am dreaming  ) Quick someone wake me up!  | |
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| Female Players, Is there such a thing?
Posted: 11/17/2007 2:27:47 AM | What's that old saying?
Women are like parking spaces... the good ones are taken and the rest are handicapped.
Of course, I don't put much stock in broad generalizations or stereotypes. Still, makes you think...
Of course there are female sociopaths/players who find gratification in emotionally manipulating men. There are men that fit this description too. Healthy relationships seem to be as rare as Yeti sightings these days, as are people who want one.
I had coffee the other morning with a woman who was filled with glee that there was a guy pining away for her. In my head, all I could hear was Stewie Griffin's voice proclaiming, "your anguish sustains me." That, not sex, is the primary motivation for a player. Sex is just a symbolic act of victory.
When you meet someone, take your time to get to know them. Players are in for the quick kill before the strain of pretending wears on them. Use your own eyes and ears to construct reality... don't let them do it for you with the spin machine. And don't be afraid to call her on her own bullsh!t.
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