| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 4/20/2007 10:24:41 AM | nope, you are wrong, tha good christian men are not looking for "it" . It is wrong to fornicate and good christian men won't play w/ a womens heart like that, but yeah , in a bar most guys do want it. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 4/20/2007 10:47:43 AM |
nope, you are wrong, tha good christian men are not looking for "it" .
And I guess they want to get married for the wedding cake, RIGHT?
Michael | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 4/20/2007 10:55:54 AM |
It is wrong to fornicate and good christian men won't play w/ a womens heart like that, but yeah , in a bar most guys do want it.
Abstinent Lady? I think they're talking about playing with something else besides the heart. lol And I had no idea that to find guys that "want it," I had to go to the bar. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 12/20/2007 10:51:55 PM | Anytime i approach a woman at a bar, it's to say "Please... no dancing on the stage... you're skipping the records"
Other than that, i go to a bar to listen to music or play music. I'd rather meet them somewhere else. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 12/21/2007 9:07:23 AM | If you're her type, it doesn't matter where you approach her, how or when.
If you're not her type, it also doesn't matter.....
Bars are not my favorite places either, but they are very often the ONLY places where there's any appreciable number of attractive females.
(Please, no list of other places, tried 'em all, it's all a bunch of crap)
On your average night in your average night club, there's probably somewhere between 2 and 5 ladies whom I might like to get to know a little better, AND who don't already have at least one guy hanging from their neck.
(No, not just looking for sex, can it)
If they all say no, I might as well leave, go elsewhere, go home, whatever, not interested in the rest.
I'm good at picking the ladies who are only there for that one evening, goofing around with their friends, only in town for the day, with the band, etc. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/3/2009 1:48:01 PM | | While not every girl is looking for a guy to talk to, a lot of them are. If you approach lots of women, and they all turn you down, the problem is with you. Notice i did not say, the problem is you. No matter how nerdy, thin, fat, skinny, or ugly you, if you have the right game you will always be able to find some success in approaching women. My biggest advise is to remember that women (like men) are really looking to have fun when they go out. make a joke, introduce yourself, complement them, and then make your exit ("I gotta meet up with my friends, but ill hook up with you later") and then either actually go to your friends or walk 20 feet and find your next target. Whatever you do, don't stay too long... it will get akward and you will look like a creeper. Do this at the start of the night when things are kind slow anyway, and then harvest them out on the dance floor later in the night. Go out on the floor... maybe give'em a nod, or a slight eye contact (don't over do it creeper!) and you will generally be surprised with how many women will come to you... why, cause you are a fun guy, and they want to have fun. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/6/2009 11:59:19 PM | More than likely you came off a bit weird. Girls can read you from a mile away. They're paying attention to your tone of voice, the eye contact and your body language...allllll that crap.
I've been bar hopping and clubbing for almost a year and a half and I've gone on quite a few dates from meeting chicks out at bars/clubs.
Picked up my ex at a bar actually, LOL! Dated the psycho for 7 no, make that 9 months.
Just gotta step your game up a lil. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 9:52:10 AM | They KNOW that any man who speaks to them in that environment is merely looking for a pick-up. Bars/clubs are NOT a place to begin "a relationship" if that's what you're looking for.
Yeah, I think many of them are merely there to drink and have a few laughs with their friends, maybe flirt a bit with guys like you, and that's it. Unless they're really drunk and/or horny; then you might get lucky. But, BECAUSE she's drunk, she could prosecute you for rape later if she wakes up the morning after feeling "used", which happens, and she'd win. Don't go to prison over some barfly chick. You're not THAT nice if you're in a bar, and she knows this.
Steer clear of trying to pick up a lady in a bar. Go there to drink YOURSELF, with friends if possible, and have a good time. Let a lady come TO YOU if she so desires. Play pool, throw darts, do something that shows off your physical skill. They do notice-! And be charming and funny.
Meanwhile, I think supermarkets are better. Shoppers are sober and you can actually hold a conversation without having to scream over a bar's loud music. Same rules apply--keep the convo light and fun. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/7/2009 12:53:50 PM | They go to bars to meet guys, period. Why else would you go to a bar unless you're a drunk? They'll say it's to have fun with their friends. Sure. You can have fun with your friends at home, rent a movie, cook, etc.
On some level, despite the fact that they will deny it...they go out in public to see and be seen.
Bars and clubs are all about meeting the opposite sex. Restaurants are about going out with friends.
If you get shot down, you're not what they're looking for. And it's tougher when a guy walks up to a group, because you have to win them all.
Keep plugging dude, it's not easy.
You won't be a "nuisance" to the right woman. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2009 6:01:05 PM | | Approaching women is easy. It's called confidence. It's all about socializing and having fun anyways. If you can keep someone intrigued and interested in you for 60 seconds then you are fine. That's how I see things. You have to have no fear. Don't worry about what anyone else has to say or do. I believe that if any guy out there, really likes a girl, he'll do almost anything to get that one chance to approach her. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/9/2009 10:15:53 AM | Guys go out to bars and other places consciously and openly looking to meet women.
Some women go to bars just to have a drink with friends or listen to the music. Other women go to those same places looking to meet men, but when approached by a man that they are not interested in, will say that they are just there to have a drink with their friends or to listen to the music. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/9/2009 3:34:33 PM | | In short the answer to your question is yes, women want to be approached. Why else would they get all dressed up in short shorts, tight skirts with high heels and ask her friend does she her butt look big. However buying a drinks for is an easy way to forv a good night to go bad. I rarely buy drinks unless i actually know the girl. Too many times ive seen girls use the same pityfull guy to buy her drinks all night for her to only say thanks but i have a man. My best advice is be yourself wait to see how she reacts to other guys approaching her. Looks really dont matter that much to girls at a club its all about showing her you are capable of having a good time, they see right through the guys with a set agenda. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/9/2009 3:46:18 PM | trying a 'hi' and a smile is the best 'pick up' line, i'd think
it allows them to 'hi' and smile back and thus encourage further discourse... or discourage it, with little energy expended on either part :) | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/9/2009 8:18:49 PM | Partially I think the location matters alot.
Over the labor day long weekend I was in Austin Texas, on 6th street right after the Longhorns played their first game and won.
I never had so many women grab my arm and lead me to the dance floor, buy me drinks and just talk in a bar.
I never get this in Kansas City, which is much more conservative than Texas Hospitality.
Btw: I highly recommend Austin Texas, a great music town filled with beauty queen atmosphere.  | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/9/2009 9:03:08 PM | Sure, some women want some men to approach them in clubs. I've found the best way to tell if they're open to it is the good 'ol smile and eye contact.  | |
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Posted: 9/9/2009 9:25:18 PM |
Do you think many women actually want to be approached by a man in a bar or club?
Simple answer -- it doesn't matter.
Just approach. They will either like it or not. If they do, great, and if they don't, then you still haven't done anything wrong. Once in a great while, you'll find someone who's hypersensitive about it and may jump down your throat, but in those rare cases, you can just laugh them off and be glad you found out early that they're psycho.
They make it look so easy in the movies and on TV, but the few times I've tried to strike up a converstation with a woman in a bar they seem, well, polite, but distant and sometimes even slightly annoyed.
You sure they really are annoyed or do they seem so because you're predisposed to think they are?
I try very hard not to sound like one of those sleazy pick-up artists
Don't try so hard to sound or not sound like something. Just speak what comes to mind.
Besides, there's nothing wrong with what pickup artists do. Many people who fancy themselves as "pickup artists" really are looking for one woman with whom to spend the rest of their lives. They just want to make sure they find a good one.
Do you think most women go to bars only to drink, listen to music and have a good time with friends?
Why do you care why she's there? What difference does it make? My brother met his wife on a train while they were both commuting to work. Do you think she got on the train that morning thinking she was going to meet her future husband?
Is being approached by men (even the nice ones like me! lol) more of a nuissance than anything else?
If they're annoyed by a guy coming up to them and initiating a conversation, then they have the problem, not you.
Or do you think the problem lies with me, and that many women do indeed go to clubs in the hopes of meeting someone new?
The problem lies with you as long as you allow yourself to believe it does. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/9/2009 9:42:37 PM | Approaching women at bars. It's called the Neg, and you probably only need one or two since it's a bar for Christ's sake. It's a place to get drunk. So, you're going to find plenty of drunk girls. Let's bounce.  | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/15/2009 7:39:17 AM |
Yeah, I think many of them are merely there to drink and have a few laughs with their friends,
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Steer clear of trying to pick up a lady in a bar. Go there to drink YOURSELF,.
It's funny to see self-claimed nice to give out advice how to pick up girls in bar.
kpooks, how many girls have you picked up in a bar and how many have gone home with you? | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/15/2009 9:11:37 AM |
Bars/clubs are NOT a place to begin "a relationship" if that's what you're looking for.
Not to pile on kpooks, but he is perpetuating a misconception that one can not find girls worthy of relationships, AKA "good girls", in bars. The reality is that women of all kinds and from all walks of life will hit bars/clubs/lounges either by forced will of their friends or of their own volition. The quality of one's character and how they will relate to you has NOTHING to do with the environment in which you meet them.
Over several months I've met the following women in nighttime DC venues sorted by their profession:
Teacher
Nurse
Harvard Law grad
Retail clothing manager
Executive assistant
Washington Wizards dancer
I mention this because I know most of the ignorant masses would argue that quality women can be found in the 'nurturing' professions such as teaching and nursing. Newsflash, a malignant personality doesn't care about her resume or where she primarily hangs out.
Men should make assessments based more on how she acts, not so much where she is.
F. | |
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| Approaching women in bars
Posted: 9/15/2009 11:02:53 AM |
It's funny to see self-claimed nice to give out advice how to pick up girls in bar.
kpooks, how many girls have you picked up in a bar and how many have gone home with you?
Could you be more dense? Going to a bar with the intent of getting laid is just fail. Seriously. | |
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