| Meeting for the first time
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:46:44 AM | I definately say meet as soon as possible..both have to have some sort of attraction towards the other first..instead of just building up a false persona in yer head..not only that..everybody can talk the talk on a computer...it is completely different in person. Have a quick meet of sorts...I have a 5 minute rule..because I know within the first ten seconds of meeting a person what category they could fall into (there are always exceptions to the rule)..I am just being social for the other 4 minutes and 50 seconds..then once you meet go back to the computer..and talk..all ya have to do is communicate..and for some this does not come natural. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 1:19:23 PM |
I also dont get how people can get on here and say they will not meet people they do not know, only ones from the forums, or a POF function, well in my opinion, there isnt too many people that do the forum thing, or the functions for that matter
Everyone I've gone out with (/become friends with) from this site, I've met at a POF function or through the forums. There are more people on here and at those functions than you think. The first friends I made were at a semi-POF function, and they are still my friends now. And others, I have met through planning the POF Fest - and I love them all. I have yet to go out to meet someone who just sent me an email... so I think odds are better, for me, of meeting someone through forums/functions than random emails. Mind you I'm pretty active in the forums... and more of my personality can shine through in here... so guys know more of what they're getting into with me... and i've found they either love me or hate me here in the forums...  | |
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| Meeting for the first time
Posted: 7/6/2006 2:28:10 PM | I will second that Robbie! And third, and forth, etc.......
1cc 
I have met people from just e-mailing/MSN chatting/talking on the phone.
I really don't feel very comfortable doing it.
The POF functions have anywhere from 200-300 people in attendance.
Everyone I have met at the POF get-togethers are wonderful people.
I am developing some good friendships.
Also, I have bumped into people downtown who recognized me from the
forums and new friendship seeds were planted. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 4:45:16 PM | | So whats the difference between going to meet random people at a function as opposed to random people (no not really, just for argument sake) for a coffee. Both are in public places and I have no expectations for either. I find its better to meet within a week or two. If you wait longer then that too many expectations are built up and they are hard to live up to. Having said all that I have only met about 4 people over the last 6 months so I may not be the expert. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 4:57:03 PM | I think the difference is confidence. Meeting someone through a party/event is always more relaxed than on your own, blindly. Many of us may have been in long-term relationships and are just starting over again, having not had a "first date" in 10 years. The more our confidence can be built by just learning to introduce ourselves to new people again, the easier it will be to do the date. JMHO of course. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 5:13:26 PM | You party animals heading down there tomorow night Logan let me know will ya
Oh to keep with the post i met a few pof ers my firstime was great | |
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| Meeting for the first time
Posted: 7/6/2006 8:14:00 PM |
I also dont get how people can get on here and say they will not meet people they do not know, only ones from the forums, or a POF function, well in my opinion, there isnt too many people that do the forum thing, or the functions for that matter
I definitely concur with what 1CC had to say. 
I never dated anyone from this site (well, until now  ) , even though I was quite active in the forums. That forum activity got me to recognize people at the functions. It's a lot easier to meet when people feel familiar with you (good or bad). 
It was a lot easier to ask someone out when you have actually met/talked to each other without it being a Date.
The forums may have a small number, but they do become friendships. Shit, Man, who turns away friendship??? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 8:57:14 PM | | When you guys go to these POF functions, do you go alone or go with someone? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 9:14:10 PM | My first time was alone. I know, easier for a guy, but you recognize people and it's easier to introduce yourself. After that first one it is like you are going to meet friends there. Thus not "really" going in alone. Then the next one, there are more friends. It just grows. You start off thinking it's going to be an early night as you don't know anybody and are not sure who is going to be there. Next thing you know you are going to the next event with the excitement of meeting the people you know are going to be there and have no feelings of being alone.
I heavily encourage attendance at POF events. They are successful. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 9:41:06 PM | | My first one was the cruise Tallgirl i went alone never knew a sole but couldnt belive how many people knew me when i went there it was awesum a great feeling | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 10:23:25 PM | | They sound fun, but think I'm too shy to go it alone. Would have to drag a friend. I will probably go to the camping though...again, dragging a friend along lol | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 10:32:23 PM | I think Robbies experience exemplifies the importance of POF functions and being on the forums.
Edit: Tallgirl, if you recognize anybody here than you will feel welcomed. Not that you wouldn't if you didn't. I've never noticed any negativity to anyone at POF events. I always encourage people to seek me out as I will introduce them to more great people.
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Posted: 7/7/2006 4:12:54 AM | You're a kewl dude too, leafs! 
I haven't met anyone that I haven't liked actually!! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 4:16:32 AM | I agree with Leafs. Even if you have issues with each other on the boards, all is forgotten when you meet in person.
Personally, I don't take half the stuff said on the boards too seriously. People are much dif in person and once you get to know them. Here I speak my mind completely unhindered, in person though I'm much more tactful. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 4:35:15 AM | Polly i wish i were like that...i find on here i rarely say what i think...I think i need to toughen up a bit...I mean i don't wanna hurt people's feelings..i just find i always wanna be liked so i hold back something i think coz i dont know if other people will agree with it..how dumb is that eh??
I've met alot of nice people from this place. I had just moved to halifax and didnt know anyone..Everyone's been super nice to me...kinda making me rethink about moving back home in the fall...You just really have to go to the parties..I've been to 2 parties and to cheers and the boat cruise..i keep meeting more people each time..and everyone is really nice.
EDIT--Tallgirl sounds like i did when i frst joined here until everyone convinced me to go..i was so shy and didnt know anyone..i ended up going by myself and having a great time..talked to and met alot of people. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 4:50:09 AM | Cassidy, I'm more the way you descibe in person. Over the years, I have become more outspoken and opinionated in person but I still am concerned over hurting people's feelings. On-line, I care a lot less which is not necessarily a good thing. I just don't have the patience with people on-line that I do in person.
I don't mind if people disagree with me though. Its more about their feelings I'm concerned about. I'll even disagree with them but more in a "that's interesting, I don't quite see it that way though, the way I feel is.....". That way you aren't slamming their opinion but still get to express your own.
I always try to let people know their opinion is just as important as my own so they aren't left with those feelings of its not ok to feel the way they feel. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and what a boring place it would be if we all thought the same way. We'd never learn anything from each other.
Even if a disagree, I usually find myself thinking later about another person's opinions. I will continue to analyze to see if they have a valid point and if so, will incorporate them into my own opinion. If I do, I usually thank them for the enlightenment which most appreciate.
The only way to really push my buttons is to try to tell me how to behave. Woah..that doesn't go over well. Its better expressed from the point of view of the person without trying to enforce it on others. E.g. Instead of someone telling me they think its inappropriate that I'm wearing jeans with holes in the knees at a get together, its best expressed as I don't wear jeans with holes in the knees at get togethers because I feel like I'm being innapropriate.
One way is insulting and condescending (which I despise) and the other is just expressing an opinion which I don't mind at all. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 4:54:09 AM | Good way of thinking. I find that if i say something someone disagrees with its the back lash i cant handle even on the forums. I should start though might be useful in real life one day..you know to have a backbone and all..hahaha..
But i will start on the other forums though coz i wouldnt want anyone here to hate me..otherwise i'd never have anyone to hang out with..hahahah | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 5:25:10 AM | Don't be silly!!! You seem really nice Cassidy.
I've gotten into it with two people in the forums over opinions. I still have no problems dealing with them in person. Granted, I couldn't hold a grudge if my life depended on it.
I am usually pretty easy going but I can't stress enough to people that they will get a reaction if they try to inforce their opinons or beliefs on me. If they are hyper sensitive and I can't express my opinions, I start bottling. This is a very bad thing because I will eventually explode at this already sensitive person. By then I just no longer care though and tell them exactly how I feel about them. I go too far sometimes though and will even say stuff to undermine their confidence.
The friendship then is usually over by mutual decision. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 5:49:06 AM |
You're a kewl dude too, leafs!
Jordannne, you're such a sweetheart.
I agree with Leafs. Even if you have issues with each other on the boards, all is forgotten when you meet in person.
That's the attitude I take. Just wish everyone did too. Some great friendships can be lost by taking forum comments to seriously. | |
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