| Serial dating: Does the internet promote it?
Posted: 2/26/2007 12:58:10 AM | Internet; aye, perhaps.
This attitude of "I'll see what you're about, but keep an eye out for something better" only seems to promote the attitude that people are requiring acquisitions. Not a warm, loving relationship with someone who might think the world of him or her.
Maybe, as women anyway, we should be adamant that we wish to be treated not as a number or one in a queue of many, but as the special individual we all are? Men too!
Really, how can you connect with a woman if one only sees her as a trophy, an object, a temporary fix? Doesn't that lend to ignoring her depth as a woman?
To apply this consumer technology to describe a human relationship is shooting ourself in the foot. It won't work. We all miss out and lose. And if you think no one is getting hurt here, it's not true. All involved end up feeling used or unfullfilled. It's a shame.
We all have our "must haves", of course, but really, if someone was a couple of inches shorter than you expected would that Really affect your decision to dismiss knowing whether this person was a person who would treat you like the smashing chap or lassie that you are? Would baldness be such a deal breaker that you would refuse to see that sexy, passionate man wanting to please you in bed? Would the woman who's a little "cuddly" in her pictures not merits a chance to show how wonderful she feels when she holds you and makes you smile with delight when you're around her?
Looks are only one part of this... they may fade. One's personality and motivation to be attentive towards you will show up fairly quickly, I think. I'd be more inclined to eliminate if I felt something wasn't right. It's a vibe, I suppose. ...then again, I'm older now. *grins* I'd like to think that I may have actually learned something by now. | |
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