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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:09:31 PM | I haven't looked that intently, but is there even a chat here?
Yes, I know, mixed feelings on unmoderated chat, but when I first joined a single parents site, I didn't participate in the forums at all, but had some good fun in chat.
Forums are foreign to some, and daunting to others who approach what may appear to be a clique with great trepidation? Concerned about being disregarded, etc?
I now know it's the best way to ingratiate yourself to the community, a better way to make more friends.
They should just jump in with both feet, to hell with it, lol. | |
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| Well, singleguy, I can see your point,
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:12:52 PM | but a forum is a community discussion.
I'm a newb here but not to boards, and I hear that a lot.
People make 'me too' posts to allow the OP to draw their own conclusions from a multitude of other members from diffferent backgrounds. It probably would serve to get a better idea from a cross section than one or two responses, no? | |
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| Well, singleguy, I can see your point,
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:35:14 PM |
I'm totally guessing, but I wouldn't be surprised if only 2% of the people with profiles use the forums.
I looked but couldn't find it, although I'm pretty sure I remember reading here that it's only 1% of total members that use the forums. Use as in actually participating, not solely reading, which doesn't even require being a member by the way.
How do you enable it to show on your profile? I don't see anything... By biding your time, maybe read the FAQ while you're idling. You'll find a wealth of information there.
They should just jump in with both feet, to hell with it, lol.
That attitude will make your stay here a short one. POF has done a really great job of enforcing the rules lately. You'll find most any of the 'regulars' more than courteous as well as more than willing to help with and POF question.
Now, what was the OT again?  Oh yes, guys with no forum posts on their profiles. You know, that has struck me as strange. From what I've noticed, seems more women than men do post in the forums. Yet stats say there are more men on this site than women. There's a percentage I'd like to see compared. Percent of women members posting vs. percent of male, excuse me, 'members' posting? | |
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| I think you misunderstood me, 4real,
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:47:53 PM | What I meant by that was jumping in on a discussion and stating your opinion, providing it doesn't impinge or denigrate another person.
Participation.
Unless the 'H' word is what you took offense to? If so, scuse me. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:57:24 PM | | It's kinda surprising that few actually log here; however, I experience near the same thing. Probably because so many are afraid to let the cat out of the bag and be real; however, one must paint a pretty picture to be famous... or should I say infamous? | |
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| I think you misunderstood me, 4real,
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:31:07 PM | | For me, unless someone contacts me first after reading my profile (it happens :), I most often contact someone after reading a post in the forums that caught my interest and got me to check thier profile. So the forums are a very important part of PoF to me. I never just page through profiles now that I have found the forums. I honestly think a great many people just don't even know the forums are here. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:52:36 PM | | Finding out what percentage of men vs. women actively participate in the forums would be interesting. It would also be nice to know what percentages the view only users are and break that down between people with or without profiles. The without may be misleading because I read posts from other computers without logging in. | |
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| I think you misunderstood me, 4real,
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:54:28 PM | | I have only recently joined POF and run into forums accidentally. I didn't think I would start participating but I found some subjects very interesting so I couldn't help myself but responded/posted. While it is true some threads are just for the entertainment part, just to get people's attention. I avoid those, the answers seems to be repeated over and over. What I like about the forums is that I have learnt some threats are really genuine and I can relate to people's dilemmas etc. which makes me want to hung around a little. I don't feel alone, as I see there are others going through the same dilemma. And last but not least, some posts are hilarious, I can't stop laughing. It's all good. | |
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| I think you misunderstood me, 4real,
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:18:41 PM |
Unless the 'H' word is what you took offense to? If so, scuse me. LOL, LeLL no, takes a LOT more than that to offend me. I was only trying to point out that many new POF users come here w/o knowing there are rules, that's all, heck, I'll buy the  's
This is a good example of what's happening of late. Redundant threads are deleted on mass while older ones are revived. Why? Because people are reading the rules more than they used to and following them. This one 'died' about a year ago yet has all kinds of new posts now.
While it's true that some 'beat a dead horse', many bring water to the trough. Even as I write this, many others are writing and posting in this thread, it's all good :)
Now, I'm off to read the e-mail messages I have on the 'other side', and yes, most are because of my forum posts :) Nite All <<<< Not to be confused with an advertisement for a sleeping aid! | |
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| Gotcha, 4real,
Posted: 6/13/2007 10:24:06 AM | | That's an online faux pas that bugs anyone familiar with forums, there should be a self study quiz as an intro that one has to pass before being allowed to post, lol. | |
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| Gotcha, 4real,
Posted: 6/13/2007 1:02:48 PM | | That'd weed out most men right there! lol I can say I've talked to a nominal few who have treaded the waters of the fourms. I think most are just scanning profiles for the most part. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 6/13/2007 4:24:28 PM | | Most guys play it smart and won't say what they think,wether in the forums or especially in person.What if he says something you don't like to hear? most women are looking for anything or any reason to walk,guys know this so most say what you want to hear or stick with small talk.I know you think honesty is the best policy and thats fine as long as he's saying what you want to hear.I'm honest and half the women in here don't like it.I know I've lost a few potential girlfriends over it in here or have been attacked in the forums but I stick to my guns cause thats how I am.If you punish a man for saying what he really thinks don't be surprised when he starts to sugar coat things,then becomes condescending then later out right lying to you.A smart woman would endure what he really thinks cause at the end you'd know where you stood with him.Don't be surprised to see more and more mens profiles becoming vague and full of insignificant small talk and hobbies purposely avoiding his real thoughts. | |
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