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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:07:40 PM | belgarion wrote:
I think it should be mandatory that noobs post at least three times in the forums. It would be a whole new world out there!!!!
Yes, it is too bad. I think you can learn a lot more about a person from reading their posts here on the forums than from just what they might write in their profile. You just get a much fuller picture of who they truly are as well as their opinions and ideas about things. I have never seen a single post from any woman in my area. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:14:07 PM | I read more than I post. I don't think I would care if someone posts or not. Some men have difficulty expressing what they think, or are afraid that they might offend somone. Most men don't post to the forums, so no one should expect that they will or think badly of a guy who doesn't.
Aside to Herding Cats - Don't go turning sweet on us. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:43:31 PM | Most of the members here do not use the forums. I don't post all that often, but do read them quite a bit. Sometimes they are quite entertaining, and once in a while I find an informative post.
Someone keeps saying I'm sweet and I think he'd think again if he came here for a minute.
Sweet? No. I respect your opinions and enjoy your posts, but then I'm not trying to get together with you.
Many of the posts I have read from men in these forums seem to be written to impress the women instead of saying what they really think. Just my opinion, of course. Easy to see through some of them. Being as politically incorrect as I am, I have no interest in not being myself to try and impress someone I don't know.
We can pretend to be whoever we want when we are online. I prefer to be myself. If by some chance I were to meet someone, it is much better if I am as they thought from what I have shown online. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:57:43 PM | original poster,
i admit i have been posting quite a lot since joining, such would not be the case if i was not sick with a cold. i just find dispensing advice in the forums more entertaining than browsing profiles, and it allows people to learn more about me. however for the most part i save my sense of humour for one-on-one contact, since i have to get to know someone before i can decide what kind of humour they prefer, and i wouldnt want to get off on the wrong foot before even meeting them. that is why i am in the forums for now. good luck and all the best. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 8:58:09 PM | 4realru points out:
I looked but couldn't find it, although I'm pretty sure I remember reading here that it's only 1% of total members that use the forums. Use as in actually participating, not solely reading...
That sounds about right. You'd be surprised, I bet, to find out how many people are actually frightened of offering an opinion, or an insight, here or anywhere else, in written form.
There are thousands of lurkers here, but relatively few active posters by comparison. It's not unlike public speaking. Except your words are recorded and searchable essentially forever. That's a scary thought to some. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:33:00 PM | You'd be surprised, I bet, to find out how many people are actually frightened of offering an opinion, or an insight, here or anywhere else, in written form.
There are thousands of lurkers here, but relatively few active posters by comparison. It's not unlike public speaking. Except your words are recorded and searchable essentially forever. That's a scary thought to some.
It is a very small percentage of members who actually post in the forums and I have some people who have never posted here themselves, but will send me an email to discuss a topic I have written on. I usually suggest they post their opinions to add to the discussion, but most of the times, they do not. The forums are a great way to get to know a bit about the other people on here.
Then, there are a select few who will use what I write as an approach to get to know me ... to break the ice. They don't bother me much, but I have had one or two who have creeped me out a bit! I remember writing a post on Blow Job Etiquette in Humor .... it was a joke, but guys who only read my postings via my profile did not know that and I had a dozen emails from guys wanting to hook up!! I think they thought the thread was a serious one!! | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:43:33 PM | Maybe I'm just simple minded (go ahead...run with that one...haha) but it only seems to make sense that if you don't like the people that are emailing you then take the bull by the horns and start browsing and emailing those that interest you.
I like the easy questions!!  | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:12:47 PM |
"I mean how long does it take to write something? 2 minutes? And how long does it take to read something? 10 minutes?"
Um... think about it. If that's too much trouble for them, are you SURE you really want them to post anyway??
Besides, the more "trash" and "me too" posts you get, the longer you have to wait for the realgems from H/C, Frau, Indigo, Weasel, Merlot, Sucka, Bethlett, etc... (alright, I prefer the ladies, so sue me!)  | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/5/2008 11:17:12 PM |
Someone keeps saying I'm sweet and I think he'd think again if he came here for a minute.
HC, you may not be the sweetest, but your unquestionably one of the wittiest and funniest.
Sometimes I think I should install windshield wipers on my monitor to clear off all the spat coffee. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:09:49 AM | Baber. wrote:
People are too busy to write or go into a forum? I mean how long does it take to write something? 2 minutes? And how long does it take to read something? 10 minutes?
Depending on the thread and the question or subject, I have spent over a half hour composing a post. I believe that if something is worth saying, it is worth saying well. I haven't read any posts here yet that took me 10 minutes. I might have spent 10 minutes after I read it trying to figure out what the post meant. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/7/2008 3:36:32 PM | I post (erratically) in the forums. I only write because of inquisitiveness, personal interest, or humor.
I also have several POFers that are friends, and I POFmail them regularly.
As a practical matter, I do not expose the innards of my soul on the forums -- these sweet li'l fishies can (and will) turn into big piranhas QUICKLY! They are carnivores! | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/7/2008 3:42:10 PM | | Probably just those peeps havent used the forums but often ladies have contacted me from post i made from the forum so it can actually be a nice way of matching up with another individual. People like seeing what you have to say, so its nice when you say something in the forums to see where you "jive" at some point... | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:30:54 PM | Surfgyrl, I think there are many men here of POF who don't even know what the forums are :)
I'll add that when I first came here, I didn't want fellas knowing what my opinions were. I thought that they might think me 'harsh', or 'silly', or something that I am not, based on what they read on forums...
It's very hard to know someone from what you read on a page, and maybe that's why men don't leave comments on the forums ? | |
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