| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/7/2008 6:45:41 PM |
Probably just those peeps havent used the forums but often ladies have contacted me from post i made from the forum so it can actually be a nice way of matching up with another individual. People like seeing what you have to say, so its nice when you say something in the forums to see where you "jive" at some point...
So true!! The forums IMO are where it's at. I met my SO here, if it weren't for the forums, we were just on the site (neither of us were "looking" anyway, so we wouldn't have been here) and know many other couples that only met because of the forums.  | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/7/2008 7:45:55 PM | OP ... most of the men who email me do not participate in the forums. I do wonder about that. Also, it seems a lot of the profiles I seem interested in do not participate in the forums either.
I often wonder if they just don't know about the forums or perhaps really just don't have any opinions on anything. You know there are a lot of people out there who just go through life letting others talk at them ... they just really don't have much to say ... don't really give a lot of stuff too much thought. I can't imagine going through life like that ... but there are truly a lot of people out there who are like that.
Television has turned us into that ... it talks to us, we don't have to think about much while it talks to us, we fall asleep on the couch as it talks to us, and that's it. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:18:14 AM | From what I've observed, men and women who actually posts on the forums are probably the the ones who GENUINELY want a relationship; they're the ones looking for "answers" to the reason why they are single. The rest are either 1. Looking for casual sex or 2. They think they're too "cool" for that "nerdy stuff" or 3. They're just plain boring. In other words, they're all douche bags with no relationship potential. Now, I could be wrong, and they could simply be shy and just lurking in the forums without posting, so you never know. Just be sure to read the profile instead of looking at their pictures.
Seriously, why the hell would a "player" be blogging on a forum? Don't they have bars and clubs to go to? Women to pick up? They don't care about "broken hearts", "relationships" and "love advice" (although some might be doing some research of what women want in terms of dating and preference, assuming they are the scholarly player). The internet to most players is only a back up for them to score if they don't find some p*ssy on the weekends.
I'm not an expert on psychology, but let's just say that men who can "market" themselves are not genuine (I assume that's why POF doesn't like people "marketing" themselves in the forums). This is just my opinion of men(or women) who don't post in the forums; they're just looking for a quick hook up filled with alcohol, maybe drugs (25%) and parties. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:23:28 AM | ...some just couldn't be bothered to post or check out the forums, afterall its a dating site and not a 'forum site'! (don't u think so?)...not meaning they r shallow or whatever.
Don't get why that should bother you, what you should be concerned about is the person's personality and not the 'postings on the forums' (like they say, humans are just insatiable by nature, true talk!)
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:58:30 AM | PrimeWoman wrote:
Participating in forums is not a requisite for being a member on a dating site. POF is, first and foremost, a dating site.
POF may foremost be a dating site, but it is by no means exclusively a dating site because you are given a number of choices as to what you are looking for that do not include dating. No, participating in forums is not a requisite for being a member here at POF and in fact the forums have a separate logon from the main site, but the 1% of the total number of POFers who do post in the forums have, I believe, a big advantage over the 99% who do not. We have a much better chance of getting a fuller and more rounded picture of who a person really may be based upon the post they make day after day.
For instance, there is a guy here who has a decent profile and probably seems just fine when you read it, but in another thread here he made some remarks about women and their weight that were just derogatory and demeaning to women and it was he that came across as a pig. That aspect of who he is was revealed in his posts, and not his profile. So a person's collection of posts will reveal a lot about who they really are and it's too bad that so many miss out on this opportunity of not only learning more about others, but also about exercising some self expression. I know I appreciate a woman who has something to say, even if I disagree, rather than a bobble head doll. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:17:13 AM | | The forums have little to do with the rest of the site. Posting often here doesn't give anyone an advantage dating, and neither does not posting in the forums at all. But yeah, there is a good mix of men and women on the forums. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:31:47 AM | | Noone is obligated to post or respond to the forums. Have you read some of the silly questions on the forum. Why do you need validation from the men who email you. You should formulate your own questions on your profile. If the men want to respond to you personally with their answers, then it is their choice. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:43:22 AM | I do think that someone at least reading what you say in the forums is a good way for them to decide whether or not they think they'll actually have anything to talk about if you meet them. More than once I've suggested someone look at some of my posts to get an idea of what I'm like because what you see IS what you get. For them it can be like eavesdropping at a party on conversations I'm having. If they don't like what they hear, no prob... Don't approach me! I never have to be offended.
As has been mentioned here, there are often profiles that you see are very well written, often funny, thought provoking... And then you see the posts of the person and wonder if someone else wrote the profile.
I have to admit though, because it is easier to get into discussions on the forums it does make it somewhat tedious starting a conversation from zero when someone emails a simple "Hi, you're cute. Wanna chat?"
I'm thinking... About WHAT? | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:15:19 AM | Men check out the forums.
If they lie in their posts (or tell everybody what they think they want to hear), they get a virtual pat on the head from someone 3,000 miles away via keyboard.
If they tell the truth, they are ripped to shreds by the rabid harpies of the hate squad.
Ergo: the men who message the OP but do not post in the forums are either chicken or wise. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:15:18 AM | Hi, you're cute....wanna chat......
Since I am here mostly for the forums now, I think most that contact me do so because of them and my postings here...... I have some that will follow and read what I have to say and let me know what they are thinking as well.
Some of these are friends from the forums and we banter often here and other ways, and others do not post to the forums, or hide their postings, and read what I have to say and email me their comments other times.
My thoughts and comments in the forums are just a glimpse of who and what I am, but as shared others on here, it in no way tells or shows ALL of me and my life. I keep that very personal and private, and it would take one a long time to see all sides and parts of me and my total life.........
Just my opinion........   | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:09:31 PM | @ Smiling Laughing
You said, "men cannot do 2 things. monofunctional creatures.
either send private messages,
or active on forum.
but never both"
Thud > Oh Sh!t, I guess I no longer qualify to be a man! Please outline my remaining available options? | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 3:46:37 PM |
Oh Sh!t, I guess I no longer qualify to be a man! Please outline my remaining available options?
But can you talk and chew gum at the same time? 
op, I enjoy the fora but don't necessary rely on it for a better catch.
The fora is many thing to many different people. At least for me
after a while for some ,you'll see a pattern in where this person is in there life and
where they are at in the big sea of life.
For a lot, it is to rant and rage, then there are the funny ones who really make me laff, which is the best meds, then there are one's who give personal experiences, who are un-bais,honest and understand and claim their own responsibility's without generalizing humanity for there mistakes and failures,
then the one's who talk the talk and most of the time sit on the fence ,
and if asked a question in what they mean will run and keep one step ahead of your lure. These are the un-catch ables or emotionally not ready and your better off watching paint dry. ~smile~
So whether in my opinion they are actively uninvolved not is no big deal
and if you got a lot of time on your hands, read on...and good luck.  | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:09:41 PM | Well to be honest with you This is the first forum I've done in a while. I originally used this site for forums when there wasn't ever 20,000 members on line. It seems to me it has become a feeding frenzy that guys dont use this site much for much other than meeting people. With the amount of people in the ocean its sometimes easy to spend a whole day walking around the earth meeting people and never even talk. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:16:06 PM | Many don't have the time.
Some are more interested in a woman's live full figure , rather than simply in her intelligence (or lack of it).
Some are new to POF and haven't figured out what the Forums are here for.
Some men have terrible writing skills or don't have any original thought to put forward....
A bit of everything, I guess.
It is a shame because the Forums is the best place to check brains out.
Passion Fish
it is easier to get into discussions on the forums ...it does make it somewhat tedious starting a conversation from zero when someone emails a simple "Hi, you're cute. Wanna chat? I'm thinking... About WHAT? Very true! | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:27:56 PM | Only when the one checking it is awesome.........
OT.......The forums are a great place to banter and get to know one another......checking brains out happens once you meet and know that the attraction is there, now hoping the chemistry will be as well..... That and checking out others things as well......
Just my opinion....... | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:31:23 PM |
"If they tell the truth, they are ripped to shreds by the rabid harpies of the hate squad."
Wasn't that a punk group out of East Jersey? RHHS.... yeah.... I think they disbanded about 2 1/2 months after they started gigging, because all of the fans had to check their brains at the door....
(Getem, h/c!) | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:44:50 PM | mind......
I am far from typical.....even though very male.......and I know what and where my priorities are and what door I am entering and for what reason.......
You do not know me at all and if you care to understand more about me, read my posts from the last three years and then come back and call me typical if you must........
OT........I suggest that if you want to have the men post to the forums in order to get a better feel for who and what they are, that you return their email, tell them thank you for the interest and to take the time to banter with you some in the forums......might just help you.....
Just my opinion....... | |
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