| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 5:00:26 PM | I'm a dedicated 'lurker.' I just don't feel comfortable about jumping into a huge 'pond' full of strangers...but the forums are HILARIOUS! They've even been informative in some very unusual ways.. LOL
I would ONLY message someone who had participated in the forums so I had a chance to get a feel for who they were. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:36:42 PM | The forums are the best part.
The postings are better than TV!
I read many more than I ever post on. And have sent emails to people based on their postings. As I've been here longer, I find I post more.
The forums show more about a person than does the profile. Sometimes wonder if it is the same person | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:44:00 PM | "I am far from typical.....even though very male"
Yup! C deacon's been a friend of mine here for years, he's a very classy gentleman with an awesome sense of humor and smart as a whip. You couldn't be more wrong!! | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 6:56:13 PM | I should clarify about that comment because I forgot the OP was about men:
I actually mean that comment about checking them at the door for both sexes.
Y'know... The reel smrt wuns.
But yes, Red, you're right ;) | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:41:04 PM | | I thoroughly enjoy most of the forums but being just an ordinary average male, find that most of the time someone has already said what I would say so I don't repeat it and don't post anything. I will upon occasion write a poster and tell them how much I enjoyed their post. Sometimes while posting I open mouth and insert feet but I have a terminal case of that so I am used to eating crow too. Hope your day is great!! | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:57:20 PM | | Most men on her are only looking to get laid, not get a wife. So they do not hang out in the forums to learn from mistakes and to share success stories/horror tales. I am here after a recent break up and was here before. I like chatting in the forums. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:11:33 PM | I am far from typical.....even though very male.......and I know what and where my priorities are and what door I am entering and for what reason
Good for you. I was just kidding, by the way. Obviously the 'typical' got to you. The door thing was just a metaphor
that applies to all ( me included), meaning that what catches one's interest is different for everybody........each one
has a different door, typical or not typical is just a matter of opinion. From my own experience I can say that the usual male that I meet checks my figure out first......my irreverent brain is usually what they back off from, not my physical body. While, if they had read the forums, they would have backed off right away. As for me, I screen by mail, through the forums and on the phone easily, meaning that I do not need to see you ( a man) at the door. Hormones are a big trap and I learned that lesson a long time ago. PS: quite frankly....I do not need help....I have enough offers to keep me busy for years, if I so wished. ( but I don't) .......Quality is hard to come by....as you may well know. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 12:01:12 AM | Dating sites require a focused effort for men. I'd guess that they just don't have the time.
At the same time, a lot of women seem to be rather popular and consequently don't really have the time to share in forums either.
I'd guess that there's close to a 50:50 mix between men and women posting. At the very least, I'm surprised at how many men actually post.
Incidently, most women I browse haven't posted either. Most people are likely here to find a significant other. Forums I think are a recreatioinal activity for those who do it while watching TV or listenning to music. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 12:05:19 AM | no need to worry i do not think it means anything
many men are just very busy
or do not come here to chat but to date and meet someone
soooooooooooo
its not a big deal at all
thats the least of your worries on the men on here hun realllllllllllly | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 3:57:28 AM | krimiariver--
kotc. You are preaching to the choir. I am clued in, it ain't my first rodeo cowboy.
My point was that we can't expect all the people on a dating site to do what pleases us.
The OP would be best advised to use the headspace that she spends wondering why the men she refers to don't forum and instead just accept the fact and control what she can. One idea would to be to assert in her profile that forum posters will generate more interest on her part.
I have seen an interview and read a couple of articles about Markus Frind, the creator, CEO and chief bottle washer of this site. Not once was the forums feature mentioned. I stand by my initial response...the short answer. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 4:04:53 AM | My point was that we can't expect all the people on a dating site to do what pleases us.
The OP would be best advised to use the headspace that she spends wondering why the men she refers to don't forum and instead just accept the fact and control what she can.
I take responsibility for bumping an old thread based on a search (as per rules).
I was curious so the quoted response applies to me as well. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 4:07:56 AM | | because this is a dating site. guys probably dont have much time and are not much of complainers. i'm just here for fun, i have met my match already. i dont think i would want to date a guy that has time for this. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 12:01:55 PM |
The OP would be best advised to use the headspace that she spends wondering why the men she refers to don't forum and instead just accept the fact and control what she can
Agreed. But she was just wondering.....inquiring: I do not see anything wrong with it. Perhaps it is you that needs to use the headspace better...if you feel like advising on issues that have to do with whom one is and wishes to do. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 3:23:40 PM | mindmyownbusiness wrote:
Agreed. But she was just wondering.....inquiring: I do not see anything wrong with it.
Yes, wondering, inquiring. Then that simple wondering or inquiring gets transformed and puffed up by others into some giant and deep philosophical statement that requires pondering, pontification, and dissection. In reality it was something very simple, but many feel compelled to make a mountain out of a molehill. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 6:16:17 PM | mindmyownbusiness--
<div class="quote">Perhaps it is you that needs to use the headspace better...if you feel like advising on issues that have to do with whom one is and wishes to do.
OBVIOUSLY I felt like advising, but not without being polite enought to first respond to the OP's question. Who she is is a POF'er, apparently using this site for both fishing and foruming. Her issue is that she wishes to see more men on POF forum. I offered a constructive idea for her profile. Nothing I said could be construed as asserting that the OP is wrong for anything.
So, your complaint or issue with me is what?
Your comment lacks focus.
I conjecture that my use of the word headspace was an irritant. Headspace is just aother means of expressing what resides in our mind and the energy spent on maintaining those residences.
Let me give a practical example.
The sky is blue, I wish it were pink. Now I can spend time, effort and energy wondering, inquiring, researching what makes the sky blue instead of pink. No matter how much, how long or how deep I wonder why, and how many other people I involve, it won't change the fact that the sky is blue and my wish to view it pink. And, with all that which was spent, I still see blue sky.
Cost/benefit analysis: Residency duration? Openended. No productive results.
Now, instead of wondering why the sky is blue and not pink, I accept it for a fact and use my mental energy...what options and resources are available to see a pink sky? I buy rose-colored glasses. The sky is still blue, but with my rose-colored glases, I see it pink.
Cost/benefit analysis: Residency duration? Brief. Results produced to satisfaction.
I still stand by my initial response. It was simple,true, practical and sound.
krimiariver--
I might have a forum cyber crush on you. lol. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/9/2008 7:39:50 PM | mindmyownbusiness--
Ok, so in forums you can get more than you ask for. It's the nature of the beast.
Next thread will be:
Why dont forum participants answer only questions asked, merely provide advice when advice is sought, suggest explanations only when the question is why, no more, no less?
The nice thing about advice is that you can take it or leave it. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:01:41 PM | The OP questioned why people think a lot of men don't post in the forums. It's a fair question for discussion and that was why I bumped it to discuss it more. I am curious how many people hear from others that read the forums but never post and how many send people TO their own posts to give them an idea of who they are.
Doesn't mean anyone is obsessing about it. It's a discussion. Not everything has to be about how to save the world or stop the seal hunt.
The nice thing about the forums is you can read them or leave them. | |
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