| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:48:37 PM |
I am curious how many people hear from others that read the forums but never post and how many send people TO their own posts to give them an idea of who they are.
I get a fair number of people (both men and women) emailing who don't post... some disagree with something I've said and we often have a lively debate/exchange about it.. others pass on a supportive comment. I suspect Cats, it is that they are intrigued with the subject but, for whatever reason, don't want to get engaged in public.
I've also noticed the number of non-posters emailing me has increased since I changed my profile to "not single/not looking"... I suspect that is because they don't have to worry about ulterior motives... it clearly is just for discussion.
Regardless of their reasoning... I very much enjoy it. The "behind the scenes" conversations with regular posters as well as non-posters is part of the addiction here. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:53:50 PM | It just really occured to me not one has ever put anything in the forums. Are men just by nature that way? Why don't guys check out the forums?
it's not my nature to hang on the forums , I feel Women find it a big turn off for any male that would hang out in the forums so much.
the forums can be a coping mechanism for some users , I'm just glad I'm not one of them . I would be suspicious of anyone that was on them constantly and what their hidden agenda was or is.
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:57:24 PM | I've also noticed the number of non-posters emailing me has increased since I changed my profile to "not single/not looking"... I suspect that is because they don't have to worry about ulterior motives... it clearly is just for discussion.
Actually I get the same thing. Quite a few people ask me things privately because they're uncomfortable asking in a public forum but have seen my posts and for whatever reason chose to ask me. Names I don't recognize and know have never posted before which is kind of flattering really.
I suspect that there are many times more forum lurkers than there are posters. I even found out that my ex's wife comes here to see what I have to say. How flattering. *snort*
I wonder what the ratio of male/female posters is? I don't think it would have much of a relation to the ratio of male/female POF dating members, but it would be interesting to see if there are more men than women or vice versa that post.
It is addicting. I wish I was a non-poster sometimes. I would get a LOT more done!
cough !!! hi cats cough !!!!
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:59:10 PM | It is addicting. I wish I was a non-poster sometimes. I would get a LOT more done!
the first step is admitting you have a problem...... there's help available.
your not alone.
I suspect that there are many times more forum lurkers than there are posters. I even found out that my ex's wife comes here to see what I have to say. How flattering. *snort*
there's a big difference between lurking and stalking my dear....LOL!!!
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 1:17:08 PM | We're all worried that, no matter how much thought we put into crafting some enlightened words, something won't come out right and all the women will be thinking "ewwww, I don't want anything to do with this guy!"
That's why I've never posted anything and won't actually hit the 'post' key .....
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 7:43:07 PM |
It's a fair question for discussion
The fairness of the question was never disputed. It was the reason for it I questioned.
Not everything has to be about how to save the world or stop the seal hunt.
It was never implied that OP should spend headspace on solving world problems. The sarcasm is unwarranted.
She did clearly state that her issue is one of preferential behavior. The question asked wont provide usable results for changing the behavior that suits her preference. So in the end, what difference does it make?
I pointed that out, offered an idea for letting her preference be known by posting it in the bigger pond, to be seen by some of those she has the issue with.
The nice thing about the forums is you can read them or leave them.
Semi-clever turn of the phrase I closed with last post, permeated by sarcasm...a cut-down, and again, unjustified. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 9:12:51 PM | Looks like brains aren't the only thing parked at the door, seems like some folks have parked the sense of humor there too. Relax, have a  , this is only words and opinions and while many folks think everybody has to agree with them, it just isn't true, everyone is entitled to their very own opinion.  | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/10/2008 11:32:51 PM | RE: First post.
When people register with POF... they want women or men... not intellectual conversation, hahah, not to say that intellectual conversation OCCURS in here but those people usually classify it as "reading and writing". Simpler people. Half the people I know, more than half, hate to write and DETEST reading of any kind. Its actually sad cause I have no one to relate to. I like poetry, cant share it with anyone. I like writing, cant share it with anyone. I like art etc. Its odd that Ive never found those kinds of people and made friends with them... hmmm... wonder why. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 1/11/2008 5:43:16 AM | Ignoble wrote:
When people register with POF... they want women or men... not intellectual conversation...
Sorry, no, not me. When I registered I had to have a profile, even if it said nothing. I am here for the forums and for the forums only in spite of the fact that I had to put down that I was looking for a woman. It would be nice to find intellectual conversation here, but then, I don't often find money just laying on the ground either. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 9/30/2008 9:35:05 AM | Forums are a lot of fun, I've been posting on these things for a while and even found a good friend in the forms who lives less than two blocks from me and I never knew existed until I met her through the forums. But we are friends only because we have nothing else in common, except the two of us love a hearty debate which we've been getting into quite a bit lately, because she supported Hillary Clinton, I'm not going to take you what I think of Hillary Clinton, but this difference of opinion has led to many debates.
One of the primary reasons I'm in the forms is to try to figure out women. I'll be 52 years old in 13 days and I still don't know what makes women tick. So I always read the women's opinions when I look into a subject, such as the subject of sex, a subject men and women could not be more different on.
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 9/30/2008 11:10:00 AM | I read them but this is my FIRST reply..and here are my reasons:
This is a dating site...men and women sign up and search for potential mates, however, the ratio is extremely different..I know women that get hundreds of responses per week without ever making initial contact..on the other hand, men rarely receive 100 responses per month, and this includes responses from our initial contacts. This vast difference in ratios shows that men are reaching out to various types of profiles while women are focusing on one type. Yet, in the forums it is completely opposite: women are more open to communication and are less specific regarding who they communicate with. If women would open up more with men that contact them on the site, allow the exchange of these ideas on a one-to-one basis rather than using these forums, everyone's success rate in finding that "special someone" is more apt to increase.
Think about it: Most relationships fail due to lack of communication. We prefer to talk with strangers in groups about real issues than to share them with those closest to us...that is what we do in these forums, we hide in groups rather than seek out a special person to communicate with one-to-one. I say we focus all this energy on corresponding with those contacts from our POF profiles, which is the whole purpose of being a POF menber, and we may actually find that special person. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 9/30/2008 11:20:57 AM | These Forums reveal your personality, and opinions, political and others. While its good to know these things, people can be easily turned away by reading a post typed in anger, or ignorance.
As for women making contact, well thats just not happening, and never did. | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 9/30/2008 12:27:19 PM |
It does seem that once you become a routine poster ~ not many others email. I don't know why that is ~ and it could be just in my case, nevertheless that is my perception
My experience has been just the opposite, Verygreeneyez. Of course, when you post on here, you're going national, even international! lol
But I love "attention"! Getting and giving.
OP-I'll email you, if you want. Might not be the kind of Wonkabar golden ticket you have in mind, though. lol | |
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| All the men who email me from POF have no posts in forums?
Posted: 9/30/2008 8:19:57 PM | The men I've met through POF and had actual dates with have not been forum posters. I don't know why.
But, I get a LOT of email from men who've read my posts - many more than from men who only found my profile. Although I haven't met any 'IRL' yet (or they live too far away to meet) I'm hoping to meet my first 'poster' this weekend. As a 'marketing tool' the forums have been much better than a profile.
Re: the 'last 5 posts' that show on the profile - between that and the history function it's a nice way to learn more about someone who catches my eye.
*giving a certain gentleman, who shall remain nameless, some attention ;-) | |
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