| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/14/2006 11:09:19 AM | [OK, so how about Harrison Ford, Clint Eastwood, and Sean Connery ... do 40-something women find them attractive?]
Finding a man attractive and wanting a relationship with him are different things. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/14/2006 11:27:24 AM | Everyone before me has pretty much summed up all my opinions. The only one left is...
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/14/2006 4:12:10 PM | Too old depends on the people involved.
I've now dated men who were 10 yrs younger than me up to men who were 9 yrs older than me.
But I can't see myself dating someone old enough to be my father or young enough to be my child and re: the 60-year-old who likes to date 19-year-olds... that gets a huge EW from me! | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:25:32 PM | | Well how about 100 now manoman thats old hehehe your never to old you are as old as you feel im really 30 hahahahaha thats notta old | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:45:15 PM | For you to be a 60 yrs old & prefer 40 some thing women. Their Is nothing wrong that way but better 60 & 41 or 40 & 21. Some mentality chalenge people like younger people though.  | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/14/2006 10:33:46 PM | | My 24 year-old daughter fell in love with one of her college professors who is 28 years her senior and they have been engaged for two years. It is very easy to see when they are together that they have a very special bond. Age CAN be just a number, but I think it is important for that to go both ways and not limit yourself one way or another, lest you be guilty of a double standard. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/15/2006 2:34:14 AM | | It means you look like (or look threateningly older) than my father. Sorry age is NOT just a number... | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/15/2006 11:22:31 PM | Well, if ya wanna go and bring MATH into it; women still outlive men by an average of about 7 years. So, with that logic, we women should all be with YOUNGER men instead of our daddies.
Personally, I'm not gonna have alot in common with a guy that's 20 years older than me. Dating is already hard enough as it is!
If a man is a MILLIONNAIRE in Hollywood, he can get the best TROPHY wife money can BUY.
And he'll also end up getting EXACTTLY what he deserves.
Stick to women who are around your own age! | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/15/2006 11:31:24 PM | No way to justify this..... no matter how hard you try. A 60 year old man with a 19 year old girl is just WRONG ........ If his name was Hugh Heffner would you find it wrong- probably not? Lot of people think he something for always dating younger women- no difference. And besides the little 19 year old slut doesn't have to go out with him-its her decision. I say go for it buddy. Im 46 if I were rich and could sling some dough around I would get some sweet 18 year lovy dovy.ummmmmmmmmmmmmmm young and fresh
and what about Harrison Ford, Clint Eastwood and Sean Connery.... Im not so sure about Ford (haven't seen any of his movies in since that prison escape, Tommy Lee Jones movie) but the last time I saw the other dudes in a movie they were pretty old and hard looking.
I would say 10 to 15 years is the limit.
To the OP ....That one gal that posted in her 40's said she liked older men. Shes not bad pretty cute. Goofy smile but pretty cute and sweet looking. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/16/2006 12:30:44 AM | Well - the oldest female I have ever been around was my ex wife (married 17 years) and she is now 46. I am most use to her age group mostly because I have never been around any other age group. I am not exactly the poster boy for GrandPaws are Us and I am sure not ready for a gal that sits in her rocker and every other word is grand baby.
I do agree with the 60-19 thing is .......... over the top - good luck when some 25 years old stud muffin wiggles his ass at her. I have two step daughters that are now 25 and 27 and would not dream of dating anyone even close to that young. I guess there could be an exception out there somewhere but 45 is more or less my low limit.
As far as not having things in common - with people say 15 years younger - I don’t think that is actually a problem. It never was for me and my ex wife she is um 13+ years younger than me.
For me it is not the actual age - it is if I could see her as a real honest to goodness - girl friend. Eye candy is eye candy and that is it - too young and they are just eye candy. It (to me) is silly to think about the real young ones. Actually more than silly - it goes to the twisted side but it is none of my business what other people do if they are both of legal age.
Oh - and OP your question was "What does too old really mean?" - it means they are NOT INTERESTED - don't feel bad I have learned that many 50-55 yo gals that I could be interested in are looking for guys in their 30s. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/16/2006 12:47:22 AM | Oh I forgot - OP (or any other older guys that have not gave up yet on finding a girl friend) I have no idea what you look like in person (and don’t really care) but things are WAY WAY WAY different in real life. On these singles sites they see my age FIRST - it is plastered in all its blazing glory. In real life the gals see me FIRST and my age don’t seem to matter much to them.
After three years of mostly sitting at my computer - I am just now starting to try to find places around town. I work from a home office so don’t leave here all that much - that needs to change.
So ... I say get out there and show the gals YOU first - age don’t seem to matter as much in real life - as it does on these singles sites. The last two gals I met in person (not from singles sites) did not give two hoots about my age. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/16/2006 6:38:35 AM | newandreadyforu:
This is for you... and I'll go point form.
However, the poster I was refering to has targeted very young women.
So what... he has listed his preference on a public dating website. Is it not the CHOICE of people to respond.
Age between 18 and 45
This seems to be a fairly broad range to me.
psssst.
30's 40's 50's are all younger
You contradict yourself... This man has included half of this demo in his so called 'TARGET'!!!
I might not agree with 18 - 25 but I don't agree with alot of things. That fact alone doesn't make them sick.
If a young woman wants to experiment with a much older experienced man... it's her choice.
We need to wake up. There is a limit to what is acceptable in life.
I'm sure there is and I'm very thankful that in North America we live in a democratic society.
One person - one vote. If you had it your way... who knows what restrictions you might advocate for society... I shudder at the thought... Chastity belts in gun metal grey maybe?
If you had a 19 year old daughetr, would you want him dating this poster who clearly states that he wants to date young women purely for sexual purposes? No, you would not. I have a 24 year old daughter and that thought sickens me, as it should you.
If you are going to make a comment about the words I post in this fourm, you should at least read them!!!
I would not be thrilled about a 17 year old girl dating a 25 - 30+ year old guy if she were living under my roof and guidance issues would be dealt with on a person by person basis.
I also would not be happy about my 26 year old daughter seeing a man 20 years+ older and might advise her against it, but at the end of the day it's her choice and I would support and stand beside her whatever she decided.
I have pictures of my Son and one onf my Grand Daughters. How on earth is that disrespectful or showing poor judgement in any way?
Is your son and granddaughters looking to date? NO
Have you asked their permission? Maybe you have... I doubt it! I hope nobody in his circle of friends is exposed to POF... nice chit chat in the school lunch room - you think? After all YOU ARE THE ADULT!!!
Those children are a big part of my life and I am proud of them.
I'm sure you are and I'm sure they love you very much. I'm sure your son idolizes you.
I think it is an admirable quality to feel the way you do about your children and Grandchildren.
You would be better-off expressing this in words in your profile and sharing these pictures in private communications with whoever responds to you. My opinion!
So where is the harm in having their pictures in my profile?
Here is where the harm is...
I'm sure you have heard of 'identity theft'?
I'm sure you also realize that not everyone on the internet is who or what they say they are???
You have even said yourself about one person, that he is sick, sick,sick!!!
Why expose your children to any potential threat? - Real or imagined.
There is a huge population of people that TARGET all kinds of stuff for personal gain and other criminal ends.
Also... what if one of your sons' school friends has an older brother that frequents this website and shows your profile to his brother... I'm sure you know how cruel kids can be to each other. Why even take that chance. You may have not thought of this as many people on POF haven't.
I believe that people who are looking for 'whatever it is they are looking for' on a FREE website developed for adults SHOULD NOT post pictures of children and I stand by that opinion.
If you would like to respond feel free... If there is anyone else that think I'm wrong I'd love to hear about it. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/16/2006 8:29:47 AM | | FWIW, my brother (62) is engaged to a woman who is 40. They've known each other for a couple years. Some people don't look at age as a barrier. In other countries (I'm in the US) - it is not unusual at all for younger women to marry much older men - and I suspect they do it for reasons other than hot sex. It's a matter of perspective, culture and individual taste. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/16/2006 8:42:43 AM | | Too old is if you are old enough to be my parent and too young is if you are young enough to be my child. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/16/2006 9:00:19 AM | "Too old" can be defined by either the number of candles on your birthday cake or what a person's attitude is..
I agree with some of the other posts, if I was 40 something, I'd be a little gun shy about dating someone that is 60+ years old.. Partly because I'd feel like I'm dating dear ol Dad, but partly I'd be concerned that he would be mentally "old"... Even at the tender young age of 50 that I am, I'm not sure if I would date a fella who is 60+... I'd be open to meeting him, it would really depend on how his outlook is in life.
Unfortunately in the dating world we can't please everybody, there are no guarantees. Keep in mind that if you don't expand your horizons on a woman's age, you will go through countless frustration of the endless search. Good luck to you! | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/17/2006 10:59:01 AM | Hi, I've been reading everyone's post on the topic, I'm 48 years old and look to be about 30. I've gone on a date with a man who said he was 60. He was well groomed, handsome and intelligent. His manners were impeccable as his taste in the restaurant we dined at. The conversation flowed well, his sense of humor was ok. At the end of the evening as we were driving home, he showed a spirit of spontanaiety and we drove from New York to his second home in Virginia. The entire 4 hour drive was enlightening and easy going. He allowed me to drive his car halfway back to New York (as I didn't want to spend the night with him), and we made it back to my home a little before dawn. Sounds nice, huh? Well, we later decided to fly to Vegas for a long weekend. Before plans were made, I discovered a side of him that I didn't care for. He became extremely clingy. Calling just about every hour on the hour, fishing for compliments and wanting to hear how great he was as compared to men younger then him. It really creeped me out and I decided not to see him again. I guess the lesson I learned was that if a man is genuinely a nice person (well kempt), secure and confident in himself then age is nothing but a number. But for a guy looking to relive his youth or be controlling and insecure in himself with me, it just doesn't work for me. To me, an older man looking for a sex toy is the same as a young man looking for a sex toy. Two consenting adults should be allowed to date whomever they wish regardless of what others feel or think.
Live YOUR life to the fullest...try not to worry too much about other grown folks' lives.  | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/17/2006 11:13:07 AM | He became extremely clingy. Calling just about every hour on the hour, fishing for compliments and wanting to hear how great he was as compared to men younger then him. It really creeped me out and I decided not to see him again. I guess the lesson I learned was that if a man is genuinely a nice person (well kempt), secure and confident in himself then age is nothing but a number. But for a guy looking to relive his youth or be controlling and insecure in himself with me, it just doesn't work for me.
This was my experience as well.
it is not unusual at all for younger women to marry much older men - and I suspect they do it for reasons other than hot sex.
LoL...I also doubt it's for the hot sex. But from what I have witnessed it's for security, the sad thing and I'm talking about my own experience with this, is that they marry the older man for security and behind his back sleep with every young man they could find. | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/17/2006 4:52:29 PM | It seems like you have one or two options to help you deal with the extreme anger you feel regarding this issue.
First, you might want to contact your local state representative and begin a petiition for a change in the age of consent from 18 years of age to ...maybe... hows 25 years of age sound? I think you'll agree by this time in life, most people should be able to have enough sense to make up their own minds on personal issues and relationships their considering.. wouldn't you agree?
Secondly you could just get your angry butt out of other (consulting) adults personal business (no matter what age they are) and allow them to make their own decisions on what they (after taking everything into consideration regarding the relationship) find interesting in relationship to other adults.
In "my opinion!!", what is being focused on in this discourse is not what really matters in a relationship and never has in recorded history, nor for that matter in many other cultures in this present world. And by the way, it's only a recent cultural phenomenon that a ("sick relationship") neagtive relational difference between a male and female in years of age has come into play. And what many of the replying writers seem to be missing amongst their "eeechs! and eeehwwwws!", is that true happiness (no matter how short lived) is usually the main reason people find that a relationship has special meaning to them - no matter what present society has to nay say about it. So if two adult people of any age, in this short existence can find the kindred spirit of love between them - more power to them, and the power of love.
My question is, is your anger stemming from the fact that our society has stereotyped people into certain age related catergory roles and ("eeech"!) watch out if you dare stepout of those roles. Or is your intensely protective anger mostly due to other issues that you may have not considered yet? | |
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| What does too old really mean?
Posted: 7/17/2006 6:32:49 PM | I am really surprised at this thread that you posted Michael44094. You must have a huge ego. You actually expect us to give you a compassionate logical answer as to why a 40 something woman does not return your affection, and why they said you are 'too old'. Of course you are attracted to us, gee that is not a surprise, but have you tried to go beyond that feeling and apply it to a woman who is your equal. There are so many georgeous women in the 50's and 60's that deserve men in that age group. Of course many of those gals are attracted to men in their 30's but they don't expect it to be mutual, they know better. Anyone can see a tight butt and go 'nice', but we know logically what is right and what is not right. They know they are older and they logically look for a mate within their agr range, 10 yrs either way. I agree with newandreadyforu, re read his message. Try to rememebr that of course you find yourself attracted to younger pretty girls, but you are not young and pretty, you are considered older and daper I am sure but not as you once were.
My last rant is that I am offended when guys your age ask me out or hit on me, I mean yuck, you are my Dad's age, you perve, find a gal your own age and enjoy life. I wouldn't date my dads friends either, no offence intended to you, just older guys are gross to me, I'm 365 and I am attracted to young hot guys from 30 to 45, after that they are just old. Hope this helps you to know that it is not you that girls are reating to, it's your age. | |
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