| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/11/2006 9:04:52 PM | HELL WITH LA...COME ON DOWN TO THE SAN DIEGO AREA...ALOT MORE MELLOW HERE | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/11/2006 9:51:51 PM |  DaveDave:...I tried to send u an email and it came back and said I was not the right gender and was 52...whats up with that...only wanted to give u a compliment. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/11/2006 10:43:12 PM | I have lived in SoCal all my life, and have tried to treat everyone with the courtesy they deserve. HOWEVER, when hit on so many times by guys who think nothing of making sexually explicit comments over and over, it gets a little tiresome. Not ALL gals are hostile, I can only speak for myself tho and say that I really want to have a meaningful relationship with a man who can conduct himself with decency and common sense, AND behave like a gentleman. It is as simple as that, and yet the courtship dance is made all the more tredious and game-ridden by behaviors that both men and women find offensive. Unfortunately there is no set rules of engagement for dating, and all the relationship books in the world do not make up for honesty, integrity and the sincere desire to be loved and to love in something meaningful.
If all the BS would just stop and couples really communicate needs and what they are truely looking for in a mate/date, it would make things a lot better all the way around. Just my humble opinion...
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/12/2006 4:39:53 AM | Welcome to the world of So Cal WOMEN! You are experiencing what is normally reserved for Southern California women, especially if you're not a blond bikini model. I know women who have moved away. The funny thing is they usually found a great, handsome guy and got married once they moved. Its a sad statement about our fair state, but it is what it is. So Cal is not for the faint of heart.
By the way, I have never said an unkind word to anyone, even if they have been rude (sending me a photo of their penis). I moved here with my family. I'm from Louisiana. They grow nicer people there. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/14/2006 8:47:22 PM | Heard that same kind of thing today in class ... some serious California ragging.
One of the posters talked about the amount of transitioners we have and I have to agree that not all the women in SoCal (and how are you defining this geographic?) are native to the area. I have been here for over half my life now, but I remember when I first arrived and asked a friend's girlfriend how she swam in the crocheted bikini she was sporting to head to the beach. She looked at me like I'd just landed (felt that way many times from many 'types') and she not so politely explained "you don't swim in it." Silly me.
But I am a native Californian and I have to say I've found friendly people everywhere ... and the same goes for hostile ones.
Here in the desert, one of my friends thinks all local women are crack hoes and welfare moms. And another talks trash about Orange County and blames every untorrid thing that happens up here on the people coming from Orange County. I get rather tired of all the generalizations -- right across the board. 
Ps I just realized that I am following two Cyns ... don't worry I'm JustTrbl. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/29/2006 5:10:42 PM | All I can say is I've been here for just a few weeks and I'm not real happy with what I've seen so far. I've gone through the pages of women in my area only to find that they seem to want a normal guy but when you look closer, they Are looking for the 50yr old guy that looks 30 and has the nice car sitting in the mansion down by the beach close enough to walk to the yacht tied up at the dock. I see too many pages on here that have a laundry list of what they don't want in a man and that since they are financially well off, they don't need anyone in the first place.
Yes, I've sent out e-mails to women in my area and YES, in My age range and I've been polite and kind, even wishing them good luck if they're not interested in My profile. The responses have been Anything but kind and for the most part, all i see is "Read\Deleted" when I check my mail.
I have a page on that social site beginning with "My" and have many women friends on there so I DO understand the types of messages they get, (Mostly from snot nosed kids like one of the previous guys that picks up women on every corner) that want to know about their size, how ffast they can hit the sack with them and so forth. Types like that can and Do make women defensive, I can understand that but Geez... to take it out on others that send nice "would you like to get to know me on here using IM after taking a look at my profile" types of msgs and getting venom spit in your face as a response isn't helping things.
As for me, So. CA has been my home for 51 years now and I Can't wait to get out of here and leave it up to the snot nosed kid before me to use his fancy banter to get all the numbers he can handle and then just drop the one's he's had sex with already. Oh, and, by the way kid, NICE PIC OF YOURSELF GIVING US THE FINGER!!! | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:03:06 AM | Most people in California are Materialistic-Hyperconsumerd-Nip/Tuckians.
With that comes the crappy attitude and snobby self-importance, false pride, rudeness and contempt for those who do not share the same Hollywood Worship.
If you're "under" any of that, you're a scumbag to them.
This is not a healthy lot.
Oh, most of these people are Wilfully Ignorant too. Oh well.. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:17:37 AM | | YIKES....I've lived in SoCal all my life....I had no idea we "natives" were looked at so poorly! We're not all bad! | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:47:43 AM | | I understand what you mean. I used to live in the O.C. and glad I am out. I found it is easier if you let them come to you. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/30/2006 1:39:33 PM |
Could I please ask the women from SoCal why they're so hostile?
Newport Beach mentality. These are the shallow & the materialistic. SoCal is a phenomena in & of itself. It is after all, the lan d of silicon. | |
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| re: Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 8/31/2006 11:28:04 PM |
There are good people everywhere if you have the patience to search them out....Good Luck..
All out of patience, sorry | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 9/8/2006 8:23:07 PM | LA people are the best...natives, that is. I have found the transplants are the rude obnoxious ones.
Run into hostile people here, likely they have moved here from elsewhere. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 9/9/2006 1:00:49 PM |  No hostility here! 
Although, I am a native...I moved to Texas for a year and came back...I was kind of hostile when I came back.
I think it's because it's a new area for them and they're nervouse...about the area and the people. Just my thoughts :) | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/24/2006 11:09:49 PM |
u will be surprised of the great mails,an sinceredy,of these fantastic country gals, Happy Fishing, an when u meet one ,dont be a lazy ass, get in your car ,take a drive,even it is a 15 hour drive, an enjoy being a man again. Right on! | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/24/2006 11:13:41 PM |
LA people are the best...natives, that is. I have found the transplants are the rude obnoxious ones. I am 50/50 on that score. Half of the local girls are "Lets see what I can get out of him" and the others are "Thankyou but no thanks."
So the feeling that women will choose from amongst the agressive males still remains prominent. It is the same in Seattle. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/24/2006 11:57:58 PM | | well i got one for you all then..WHY ARE THE GUYS IN SOUTHREN CALI all a bunch of jerks.the ones i did meet are pot head and most are in their late 40ies and still living at home with their parents..my friend and her husband moved from Northren cali to Southren cali.her new neighbors are rude,crule,disrespectful,foul mout,cold,un friendly people i ever did meet.i come from a small town where were all friendly here.and now were getting people moving in here from the L.A. area,my cute little friendly farm town isnt so cute or little any more and the new comers act here just like they do in L.A. i tried to talk to a few of my friends neighbors when i was in Southren cali..they ask me right away if i was looking for pot,speed,black tar,you name it..maybe thats why their all so UNFRIENDLY their high or need to be..... | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 12:03:01 AM | | I've grown up here and then went to Las Vegas in 2004 to live for a while...trust me, people in southern California are delightful by comparison! (I LOVE Vegas but the people are completely awful for the most part) | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 1:59:08 AM | | exactly megan...remember trying to deal with traffic on boulder highway? | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 2:10:02 AM | | I know what you all mean about the snobs in So Cal. I put this pic up , to show my flaws.i dont have a nice body, Im not tanned and buffed, so I tend to weed out the superficial.But You should see some of the rude comments Im getting.Mostly from men though, suprisingly | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 3:43:21 AM | 
Jesus. I've said the hooter thing too. That was stupid. But I am looking for more then just sex and a good time. I couldn't care less about sex on a first or second date. But then again, thats me. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 7:50:55 AM | | You get what you pay for people. Remember, this is a free site and just a playground for adults. I have to admit though, I have not recieved any hostility on this site. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 8:16:05 AM | If you are getting a lot of obscene e-mails, I hope you report them.  This is suppposed to be a "clean" site.
Maybe even sending a list of the handles of baddies to the "Contact Us" would make things better for all of us. | |
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| Why so hostile in SoCal
Posted: 10/25/2006 9:54:55 AM | Hello Phoenix and everyone else that responded
California is the melting pot of everyone. I happen to be a native of california and I am a very nice,honest and respectful person to others.
You can not sterotype all women by a zip code. Yes that was very rude what the lady said to you. No one should be that immature. I was on-line at my nieces house and her computer did not work well and I had like 4 pop ups and of course I could not talk to them because the system was too slow. One guy got offended and said "sorry I won't bother you again"/
Take into consideration maybe she is in a converstation or having technical difficutlites. Or maybe looked at your profile and not interested in what you are interested in.
There can be many reasons. Do you answer all your mail? I agree with the lady that said if you are not interested bettter not to reply. I try to answer and at least say thank you.
Its not this site or even women in california, its people in general. Some are just nicer than others. The ones that are rude or immature, would you really want them to respond to you??
take care and good luck
CaSunshine | |
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