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Posted: 7/10/2006 7:52:29 AM | Hi.You made alot of good points.Im a college student and single mom of a 9 year old. For me when i was single i didnt go out.Seems like i really started going out once i had my son.I just waited till he was older so i could go out.For me guys dont have a problem that I have a child.I never let my dates meet my son.Never.And i go out all time.I balance it out, I make time for my son, my friends,dating and my singles group.Any my friends know that if they want to invite me out to a club,bar,etc, or some special event they know to ask me 2 weeks in advance.I love being a mom but i dont want any more kids.One is enough and plus im starting school for culinary arts to be chef.When you are single you can come and go as you please and i was lucky that i had and still have my family that wanted me to go out and didnt mind watching my son.Some women dont have babysitters and believe me all my friends that are married with 3 to 5 kids cant afford the babysitter.I would date a guy that had one child.Some people think of single moms as people that stay home 247 and live a lock in the cave life. lol I go clubing every week and i meet lots of Beautiful single moms that are out having a good time. Rather someone is single with no kids or single with kids everyone is living their lives.Thats what life is about. Do what makes you happy.  | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 8:55:28 AM | Thanks for not only expressing what it must be like for a single mom, but also for the single "non-moms" out there. Dating in itself is a tricky situation. There is so much involved... at times it just wears us all out. It gets old. The games, the dressing up, the "interviews"... the meetings.. the awkwardness....why does it have to be a question geared towards those women that are moms or not? I think there are more women on this site than men.. PERIOD! I believe the reason being... men are more physical, visual.. therefore they prefer to meet women in live social settings. Women are persuaded to follow towards men that are communicative, open... and they dont like to be groped right off the bat... that isnt just Single moms... its ALL women. This venue as any other dating site, provides a bit of a buffer or security from being a piece of meat, more so than a live social setting. It also kind of forces more men to actually write things down and communicate in written word, instead of JUST phone calls or having them drool all over you in a bar.. lol...
This is the new age.. technology allows us this venue.. why question it? If someone wanted to date only single "non-moms"... Im sure there are other sites out there to browse on... :)
Thanks again Broom Hilda... alot can be said about your open-mindedness and your views. You not only have an outward beauty, but it seems that the inward beauty matches.
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Posted: 7/10/2006 2:18:36 PM | | Angie you want to see beauty,just look in a mirror. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 2:35:56 PM | You're both perfect for each other! | |
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Posted: 7/10/2006 3:20:10 PM | | angie *is* quite beautiful.... and i have to respect anyone who has successfully raised two children, especially at such a young age :) | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 11:38:00 AM | Why is that sad?
Women have children, men act like idiots and cheat, abuse, lie and leave their families for the next hottie who has not had a c-section yet.
I for one, want a family. The last relationship I was in, she has two wonderful kids. She did not like to go out and get wasted with her "You-go-girl" "It's raining men" girlfriends and I would think that most women with children would not want to. Kids change things, but that does not mean life stops. You were a kid once too.
Oh, sure, me at age 39 living in a town of superficial bar flys...I might find a nice girl 30-40 that does not have kids to go out with, but not likely bud.
I am more open minded now. I realize that I may never get to have a kid of my own, so I would love to make someone elses kid's life that much brighter.
I am responding harshly because your title is outright rude, dude. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 11:51:53 AM | "I think there are more women on this site than men.. PERIOD!"
Not in my area....not even close. I do a serch in a broad age range and get the following results:
25 miles, 2
50 miles, 8
75 miles, 15
100 miles, 200
150 miles, 469
In other words, they all live in the city...Denver / Boulder. I am not willing to relocate, I can't, I have worked since childhood to live here. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:18:42 PM | i perfer a single dad ..only cause i really don't want any more kiddos... luckytopher not all single moms have drama ..i really don't have any drama in my life for the most part i keep things running smooth its part of being mature an independent... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:52:09 PM |
luckytopher not all single moms have drama ..i really don't have any drama in my life for the most part i keep things running smooth its part of being mature an independent...
if you had read ANYTHING i wrote you'd notice i never mentioned drama, and that is not the reason i dont date single moms... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:01:10 PM | | i may have read it in another thread but anyways nothing against you ..u never said quote drama in the words but anywho thats cool you have your reasons like the site says plentyoffish right.... an ya its hard for a single mom to get out an date.. i don't drink so the bar/club thing ... so to pass the time i find this interesting | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:23:08 PM | I think everyone seems to hit great points on both sides of the issue. And to answer the orginal post... I'm sure it has to do with quality and price.. This is a great site for those who dont have a lot of money, and for those that do.. they enjoy the diversity of the site. As for trying to meet someone when you have kids.. its hard.. I've been there.. Found that it was actually easier to Not date while my kids were younger.. HECK.. seemed we were always running here or there for activities, school functions, sports functions, church functions, and family functions.. But that was me.. I spent a lot of time with my kids and just didnt think it was fair to a man to have to be on the sidelines.. waiting for me to return. But now a days it seems more men are being involved with their children and its allowing moms to have a chance to date more.. and find relationships. But its still an issue of time/and money I'm sure. I'm just glad mine are all grown and on their own...
Good Luck to all the Moms and Dads!!
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Posted: 7/19/2006 9:58:54 PM | | First of all, not all "single moms" are on this site because they cannot find a date elsewhere. Many do it just for fun. It's very simple, we are not on this site to find a father for our children. Many single mothers have that and who wants to deal with that. Communcating with someone, whether it be on the internet or in a club, is fun. Women without children need someone to chat with every once in a while. It's always scary to meet someone on the internet and at the clubs. You never know! The only difference is the drinking. I can say that I'm a PROUD single mother that has no problem finding a date. I just chose not to go to the club or a bar to find one. ENTERTAINMENT! It's something to do. When it's your time to find true love and a sincere person for you, then it's done. Single mothers as well as single fathers work hard for their kids. When we want to go out, we'll go out. The only thing I can say is that the respect you receive from your children is all a single mother needs. A "true" man" will understand that and will deal with whatever comes his way. Everybody has drama! Some people can deal with it and others chose to just look away and live their lives. If you're a single parent then you know what I'm talking about. Keep it real and try to understand that we're single parents, we're not dead. | |
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