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Posted: 7/11/2006 10:32:30 PM | | please tell me all i can fix and how to do it how do i sound | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 4:51:54 AM | @clgsingledad
No need to review your profile. If I never have to cook again, I'm yours. 
Alright, it's a good basic profile with some questions. First question is...what in the world is on your head in your main pic? Looks like a mop to me. I'm assuming it's probably a Halloween picture. But you know what? That picture works if the effect that you're going for is a little bit of mystery. You have to open your profile to see what the picture really is of and it does peak some interest. If you're not going for mystery, you may want to change that picture with the full shot of your face. That's a really nice, clear picture. And with the second picture, you may want to give a sort of explaination as to why it's there.
You may want to expand on your interests in the about me. Give us a clear picture as to who you are, what things you believe in, and what qualities are important in a relationship.
And there is one little "prefer not to say" in there. People will always assume the worst and it looks like you're trying to hide something without lying. It just doesn't work. It's best to be honest. And I'm sure that it's the one about children. If you absolutely have decided that you will never have another child, best to put no. If there's a even a slight doubt, then it's best to put undecided/open.
And I'd get rid of the part about you not having a six-pack. You've already told us that you can cook. Trust me, I have more use for a man who can cook than one who has a six-pack. To me what you're saying is, "I'm not as good as the other guy because he has a six-pack, but please pick me because I have other qualities." Well, don't bother telling us what you don't have and start telling us what you do have. I'm not going to be attracted to you because you don't have something, but rather because of who you are.
It is a good profile. You do cover all of the basics, I just have a tendency to think of everything that is missing.  What I would also suggest are two other things: one, tell more about what kind of a woman you are looking for. And secondly, I'd definitely reword the first date. I don't think the first two sentences are needed. Just to basically tell what kinds of things you enjoy doing on a first date. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 6:12:34 AM | Thanks I really likes the review.
Made some changes and what do you think now? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 4:30:23 PM | @beachgardener
I'm being honest here...remember, I don't have a clue what you look like or anything about you, this is just my opinion on someone who has a profile like yours. When I see a profile without a picture that describes themselves using the words you do, it usually makes me think. Why doesn't the person have their picture up? To me, it says that the person has low self-esteem. They are hoping that they can chat with someone, get them interested in other things, and then be honest. I've done it myself. Now, not saying that applies to you, I don't know you. But there's always a big red flag when someone doesn't have their picture up. And it's always a big red flag when someone uses those particular adjectives to describe themselves. Especially with no picture. Some people do have legit reasons for not wanting their picture up and that's ok. A person might have a stalking ex, have concerns for some minor aged children, know someone else on the site and they don't want them to find out. Even in those cases, it's best to have a picture that tells us a little about you. For example, if you love flowers, maybe some pictures of flowers. If you can't (or don't want to) physically show your picture, at least help us by painting somewhat of a picture of yourself.
And fill in those interests! They will help to create an instant match. If you love reading and I'm looking for someone who loves to read, without looking at your profile it will tell me on the search page that we have that in common. It will show up as shared interest in bold and the interest in red. And, if I should look at your profile, then I'm going to want to know as much as possible. If there's not a whole lot there, especially without a picture, then chances are I'm going to skip you. You have to compensate.
I'd avoid using words such as sexy, lover, etc. Those words all have different meanings to different people. And I hate to go back to it, but without a picture, no one can say you're sexy. So it's better to give us some concrete interests to work with. For instance, you say you're secure. Why not expand on it? And what kind of a person do you want to meet? And what are some things that you enjoy doing in your spare time? What things make you you?
Don't worry, it is a good profile. I just love to use a lot of words to express myself. I think there are some things in there that you could add to, but overall it's a good start. Now, keep in mind with my suggestions that's all they are. Only add things if you feel it's necessary. And let me know if you need any further help. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 5:04:47 PM | @kermancutie
Honestly, your profile sounds pretty negative through and through. What I'm hearing is not, "I'd be great in a relationship and here's why." I'm hearing, "I hope I can find someone to love me despite the fact I'm a big girl."
Now, to break it all down...
doing group activities like sports get togethers with friends and family meeting easy going nice respectable guy(NO TIGHTWADS) definetely NO FLAKES going to the park on summer weekends
going to the zoo taking pictures of family at zoo watching movies especially action(home movies) barbeques
spending time with my children cooking from recipe books (new to me recipes) saving money for special outings
Your interests should come up highlighted. Yours aren't, because they're too long. For instance, try just putting zoo in instead of what you have listed. That will probably come up in blue. Try to shorten them to just one or two words. And put commas between them. Try gettogethers, friends, family, zoo, that special someone, the park, etc. Aim for at least six (although you do have more listed and that's ok.)
About Mei am 5'5",195lbs,a plus size I wear size 18 in woman a size 2xl in shirt,dont want to fool anyone i am attractive but in a plus size.lt brn hair,one man woman. im nice and warm and need someone to cuddle up to. If you can make this wonderful,sensitive heart,woman happy then send me a message.......And all liars,cheaters,flakes are not welcomed ultimately i want long term but first friends
First sentence...totally unnecessary. For starters, you have your picture and you have body type to tell the physical appearance. Clothing sizes and specific weight is not only not necessary, but no one's business. Your worth isn't measured by your weight! You don't need to apologize for your weight. You personally have enough issues surrounding it. I certainly do not apologize for my weight. Your weight is an issue that should be a concern between you and your doctor and that's about it. I'd lose the part where you tell us you're attractive. Yes, you're very attractive. But again, that's what the picture is there for. Instead of telling us you're not looking for liars, cheats, and flakes--why not tell us who you are looking for? And tell us more about youl. What are some of your interests? What do you enjoy doing in your free time? What are some things that you are passionate about? Make us fall in love with you, not hate other people who have been in your life. There is no such thing as "despite" your weight, your weight is just that. Sure, some may not accept you. That's their problem.
First Dateit's all about getting to know each other to make sure that's what we want so that no one gets hurt. you must really get to know me to see my inner beauty because i've been hurt it's hard to really trust immediately but love is so important to me that i'm ready to try it again i'm caring and your feelings are important to me and also once I get into a serious relationship i expect 100% faithfullness and respect in front of my face and behind my back
Again, I'm feeling hurt for you, not love. And yes, it is hard to trust. Maybe in that case you should state that you are looking for friends and then see where that develops. But who hasn't been hurt before? Seriously, if I was going to want to get to know you better, I doubt I'd even give you a second chance. Just way too much negativity. Sure, it can be difficult to let people know who you really are. It's easier to be negative. But it's also not fair to punish people who may not treat you the way you've been treated in the past.
I so want to see an updated profile from you, young lady!  I know you can do it. It's hard to put all of the emotions in your profile that you already have and be honest about it, so I know you can do it. And if you'd like, please feel free to email me any time if you want to vent or talk. I know too much about what you've written which is why I'm probably harder on your profile than any I've come across. And I know you have been hurt, that comes across loud and clear. But you may find that by being positive you'll find more positive friends in your life and it just may help you to change.
Good luck and I'll be checking for your updated profile.  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 5:08:13 PM | @clgsingledad
If you still cook, then I'm still yours. And I'll be yours forever and ever if you throw in cleaning.
Seriously, I like the changes. This picture is SO much better. Shows off your good looks.
Good job.  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 5:50:41 PM | Can I have a review please? I think Im attracting guys that just want me to take my top off and I really dont want that..I would prefere a nice clean guy that treats me like every girl should.
Though I know..I know your going to say my pictures and my words do not work together..But why cant a girl look hot in her pictures? It is all about attraction isnt it? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 7:22:08 PM | @redhead22
I'm sure Mother Theresa herself probably got quite a few invitations to take her shirt off and I'm sure she wasn't looking for it either.  There are some guys who are that insecure that they will abuse the internet for that reason. Rejection over a computer is easier to take, I guess. I certainly have no suggestive pictures or even a single reference to sex and I'll get the odd guy that will send me a picture of his, uh, trouser snake. So it's not necessarily because of your profile.
No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be sexy or to have a guy attracted to you. However, if that is the only basis for the relationship, the physical attraction, then chances are it isn't going to last for very long. As soon as they get what they want, they're going to move on. And if they don't get what they want, they're going to move on, too. So if what you want is for someone to be attracted to you fully and wholly, perhaps it's best for you to save those pictures for that special someone. Personally, I think that works on so many levels. It shows the guy that he is special, to be seeing pictures that no one else gets to see. And you know that he's not with you simply because you have a picture of you in just a bra. I think it's your own interpretation as to what you want. The above is how I see it. You may think differently. And I always say, go with what you think. I'll be the first to admit I'm a prude and would never have such pictures of myself. It's not because I don't want guys getting the wrong impression of me, heck, who does get the right impression anyway? That's just not something I personally am not comfortable with. And to be honest, I didn't really read anything in your profile that didn't match your pictures. The one person I did suggest to taking the pictures down is that she had over and over in her profile that she didn't want sex.
No right, no wrong--it's your own personal preference. You will get pigs regardless, trust me on that one. 
Try to add more to your interests and try to expand more. Try to use single words, for instance, try reading instead of reading romantic novels and it will come up as a common interest with others who have reading as an interest. I always say try for at least six and expand on at least three in the about me.
Regarding your first date...all of those uhm, personal restrictions...you can actually click on mail settings at the top and choose some of your preferences. For example, you can choose that you only want to hear from 20-30 year old's. You can click a box that says block married people, etc. You can take all of that out of your profile and it will actually filter those people.
Only other thing you may want to expand on is what kind of a person are you looking for and what qualities do you bring to a relationship?
Your profile is good. Does tell us a lot about you already--that you're a hard worker, that you love children, your pictures tell us that you have a daring side and that you like to have fun. It is a good profile and seems to me like you already have some fans. Just wanted to give some suggestions, but I really don't think you need them, do you? In fact, I should probably be asking you for advice on where in the world you get the courage to post a picture with just your bra strap online...wow. I could never do anything like that. And I really don't think there's much you could do about getting rid of the pigs, unfortunately. They'll always find you. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:21:54 PM | | Thank you for your honesty and suggestions. What do you think now, anything else that you might suggest. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 4:37:39 AM | O.K. Let me have it's a first for me so I know I can use some help. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 7:11:13 AM | If you could spare the time, I wouldn't mind a honest review and anything you may think could improve. Thank you very much | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 10:41:15 AM | | I would appreciate a review as well. I have revised my profile several times but I still have not had much luck. An honest review of what's there now plus suggestions on what should be added would be greatly appreciated. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 4:37:27 PM | @beachgardener
I love the picture! You definitely will get a second glance with a photo like that.
Your profile has more meat to it and that is great. There wasn't anything wrong with it before, it's just best to let others know who you are. You have the basics downpat and you should be able to make changes if you feel they are necessary. Have fun with it.
Good job.
BTW, LOVE the statment in the first date. Shows that you are a direct person. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 4:48:10 PM | @nycangel
I'm going to be honest. My very first problem with your profile is your nickname. I thought for sure you were a woman until I read your profile. Now, should you add a picture of yourself, then you might get some interest because what woman doesn't want a man who's an angel? No picture will get you passed over. And of those who don't pass you over, I'm sure there are a good number of them who are just looking to chat with you to find out what you look like.
Get rid of the prefer not to say for drugs. It doesn't fool anyone and looks like you are trying to hide something, but be honest about it. That is more negative than any answer you are going to give, which most people would assume is yes, you do.
You did do a good job on the interests. I would try to add one or two more to make it at least six. Any less than six doesn't really give us a whole lot to go on.
Use the space that you can in about me. Use it to expand on at least three of your interests. What kind of movies do you like? What about dancing?
What kind of person are you looking for? And what are some things that you are passionate about? What qualities of a woman are important to you?
And I'd reword the first date as well. Firstly, what about the woman? Does she not get a say? So at the very least I'd go with WE'LL think of something. Secondly, what are some things that you would do on first date? Or what are some things that you have done on a first date?
You have a good start, but you need to expand on it. Just keep picking at it and you'll be fine. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 4:58:42 PM | @Adoremas7
There's not a thing wrong with your profile. At all.
I did notice that you weren't on anyone's favorites list, but if you ask me, that has nothing to do with your profile, per se. You are just so ambitious that you are probably too young for people who can match your success and too old for those who are in the same age group. Seriously, it's one of the most mature profiles I've read in a long time. Hard to believe that it has to come from someone seven years my junior (or senior, never sure how that goes.  )
Sorry to give such a useless review, but hey, I can't fix something that isn't broken. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 5:13:24 PM | @neverduplicated
To be honest, I like the profile. There is but one statement that I'm not crazy about, but I'll get to that in a minute.
I like the picture assortment. They are all of you and each shows a different setting. One shows you dressed down, one shows you dressed up, etc.
I take that back, there are several things that I don't think quite belong there. First one is when you mention that you don't speak those languages fluently. Personally, I think that's being somewhat negative towards yourself and taking away the fact that you have studied those to begin with. Might even be better to reword it, such as I've studied (sorry, forget the languages) and have some basic knowledge of the language.
And the other one is this...
While not an absolute necessity, I do appreciate a woman with an education. For one, a person can be very smart without an education and be very stupid with one. So, perhaps you might want to reword that as well. To something like, I appreciate a woman who is intelligent. Or whatever. But I don't think the full sentence needs to be there. And secondly, you've done quite a bit yourself so perhaps a person with an education is important. And if it is, I'd put that in there. You're looking for a future wife, not someone whom you have nothing in common with. And I suppose it's kind of unclear. Because do you mean you'd like someone who has went to college, or just someone who is smart? See what I mean?
But other than those two things, I think the rest of your profile is good. You know what you want and you know who you want. You know where you've come from and you're not afraid to admit it. And from the fact that you lived in the ghetto and made something of yourself, really says a lot.
Good profile. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 9:19:28 PM | Thank you very much for taking a look though and for the compliment. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 2:47:09 PM | | shauna marie 78 i changed my profile like you told me tell me if that is good or can i improve on it thanks very much for the advice no wondre i dont get a second chance. I will try to keep more positive now | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 6:14:13 PM | @kermancutie
It's SO much better!
Just one quick thing--people have issues with body type and not using the correct one. I'm not saying what it should be, but people apparently will pass you over for not being able to recognize your body type. Personally, I don't see the point of body type being there is a person has a picture, why on earth does a person have to classify themselves as a certain body type? Whatever.
I'm glad you took my advice the way it was meant. I reread and thought how on earth could I be so insensitive? But sometimes it takes another person to point out what you're doing. I've been known to have some pretty negative profiles.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 6:30:08 PM | | SHAUNA MARIE 78 I APPRECIETE WHAT YOU ADVISED ME TO DO I HVE LEARNED SOMETHING FROM YOU. I WOULD RATHER KNOW THE CRUEL TRUTH THAN LIVE A FALSE DREAM. i AM GOING TO CHANGE THIS NEGATIVE CHARACTER DEFECT INTO A POSITIVE ONE AND YOU ARE THE ONE WHO OPENED MY EYES TO THAT THANK YOU VERY MUCH | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 8:32:23 PM | Hi, just wondering if you could give a quick review. If you have any suggestions, that would be nice too.
Thanks, Kevin | |
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Posted: 7/14/2006 8:40:59 PM | I'm currently bored so I'm seeking your opinion of my profile.
Besides the fact I have no pictures - review the rest please. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:44:18 AM | @kermancutie
You have no idea how much your words mean to me. Yes, it's a cruel truth to learn. But that's because some people look at the world as black and white, not grey. I've met some real idiots in my life and am glad that I made one friend who helped change all of that. If you ever want to email me, feel free. I'll be more than glad to share some of my experiences and hopefully you can realize that you're a wonderful person who should be celebrating that. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:52:22 AM | @misskelly
Personally, I'd steer clear of using lines such as, "Looking for a good catch? Then look no further." You tell us why you're a good catch with the rest of your profile, no need to tell us that you are a good catch.
I'd try to fill in the first date. Just to say what kinds of things you enjoy doing on a date.
Sorry for such a useless review, but I can't fix something that isn't broken. And it took quite some time to come up with the above two. Dresses are beautiful, btw. And your pictures are great. Camera loves you! | |
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