iris37
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Joined: 7/15/2005
Msg: 26 | |
| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/12/2006 8:43:11 PM | Here Here Mickey very well said...i rarely read such a lengthy response but your was well worth the read.....again well said | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/12/2006 8:48:34 PM | | i dont get the scary ones i get the mentally disturbed ones that sucks as well | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/12/2006 8:53:08 PM | | Sounds to me like a little old fashioned a.. kicking is in order. I hate a guy like that. Makes us all look bad | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/12/2006 8:59:06 PM | | "Really frustrating to read you were uncomfortable and yet you STILL went over to his place."Msg posted by LaughsAlot43 - I believe the OP wrote, I WAS comfortable with him at this point, so figured why not! Please make sure to read the post carefully before replying! :) | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/14/2006 9:17:01 PM | | You are the one whos mentally disturbed...and hygenically challenged as well...THIS IS FOR STEPHENL | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/19/2006 6:08:39 PM | | Mickey - thank you for what you wrote. I really do hope what I wrote will help someone else from making a mistake. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:07:07 PM | | Might I suggest you direct that person's name to the webmaster... ...and hopefullly prevent other women from suffering a similar fate.... | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:29:39 PM | | Look, we all make mistakes and have bad judgement at times. After going to a movie with a guy I'd met on the internet when i lived in Southern CA I agreed to talk in his car for awhile before going to my car w hich was in the same parking lot. After awhile he started his car, saying he was going to drive to my car. Instead, he started drving up to another parking lot and out it came. And he wanted me to do more than play with him. In fact, he was trying to force me into it. He wasn't driving fast, and I literally, opened the car door and rolled out of a moving car. I don't advise doing that, but he was a big, strong guy and i didn't know what would happen next. He shot away. I was bruised, but walked to my car. He wasn't on the internet anymore and his phone was disconnected. So that is my scariest experience and I'm still dating and still optomistic. So scary stuff can happen. You just have to have faith and move on. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/20/2006 9:41:05 PM | | Wow, jd, that was quite the close call! And you're right, you can get past these things. It's good to be cautious. One of my friends dated a married man (didn't know it at the time), and his psycho wife ended up pretending to be a man online, seduced my friend, and made a total fool out of her. That was a strange one! | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/21/2006 7:19:51 AM | | About a year ago I met this man and thought we had become buddies so to speak. One evening I went to his home to help him cook BBQ. He decided it was me that he wanted for dinner and when I said no and to take me home he took me 3 miles short of my house, pulled over jerked me out of his car, shoved my face into the pavement, then left. He even had the balls to call me to see if I got home ok. Funny part is that I walked almost the whole three miles bleeding and no one would help me. Then made it to the police station and made a report and nothing was ever done to the **stard. I guess I am lucky in the fact that I am still alive. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:54:51 AM | You are lucky that you got away, for all of you who've had these bad experiences. As for blocking calls and text messages, my service will only allow you to block all incoming or outgoing messages.
I've actually met a couple people from pof. One I met very recently, and we're still talking....we've had lunch, went swimming and had a great afternoon getting acquainted. Luckily for me, he's a gentleman...opens doors for me, etc. Wish me luck.....at least to keep him as a friend. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/21/2006 10:46:19 AM | I'm glad that you are alright. Yes, some internet dates are scarey. I had one last week. We chatted in the phone ....what a soft spoken sweet man. Such a gentleman I thought.
We met the next evening for a drink. After 20 mins he looks at me {with raised eyebrows} and says "what now?". I said " well, we could talk some more and get to know each other better". He looked insulted and started going off on me and insulting me. I sat there shocked....after a couple more insults I calmly stood up and walked out. Him following me screaming, swearing, calling me names. I asked some ladies walking down the street to walk me to my car and got out of there!!
When I got home I came online to block him and got flooded with emails threatening me and saying 'Im gonna get you back.' The most vulgar language and unbelievable threats! This went on for HOURS........FROM ALL HIS DIFFERENT PROFILES !!!! He finally stopped when I had a "friend" call him and tell him leave me alone. What a NUT!!
So ladies { and gents} BEWARE!! | |
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Phyn
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Joined: 6/5/2006
Msg: 38 | |
| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:03:42 AM | contrary to what someone else said, going to a person's home or bringing him to yours is not automatically an invitation to have sex. most civilized men would not construe it as such, but there is always a risk, unless you know him really well. I recommend the use of spoken language to clarify intentions in these situations.
kissing you is not a crime, but the bruises show he lacks self-control. at least he didn't try to detain you...did he?
personally, I rarely bring anyone to my place anymore, because when I do we always end up having sex. I don't plan it that way, but it always seems to happen. My couch is just super-comfortable I guess. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:14:42 PM | | Kissing is a crime if she didnt want to. The minute a woman says no it should stop right there. What gives any person the right to cross someone's boundries or get into their personal space? | |
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| "...so I went to his apartment"
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:36:49 PM | I so wholeheartedly agree with the tough love Sinsrus gave the Poster. There is no excuse for this kind of naivete, and especially not at 40 years of age. Have you never seen a movie? Not even a Lifetime TV Movie? Do you not watch the news?
What really bugs me about the original post is it's eerily reminiscent of every rape story that's ever been proved false or recanted. Some stupid chick does some stupid like gets drunk/gets high/leaves her friends/or just feels adventuresome, goes somewhere private with a guy they don't or barely know, he tries something (whether just ardent or actually forceful), the chick leaves. SHE GOES HOME or GETS CAUGHT and later realizes just how big a mistake she made but rather than just LEARNING from her mistake and going on....she either CRIES RAPE or whispers 'violence'. And the posters here fell right into her emotional booby-trap and gave her sympathy/empathy, "YOU'RE right, HE was terrible!" that she is looking for to assuage her conscience crying out to her: STOP BEING SO NAIVE! Listen to the little voice in your head BEFORE you make dumb moves.
This is what discounts real rape victims. And, just a word to the wise: If you go to the police, and things go to trial, the defense attorney will rip you to shreds.
Natalie | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:13:39 PM | I hope you reported that a-hole Pumpkin! You gotta watch those quiet ones(lol)... but seriously, can we say LOSER! Why do you think I'm so careful? I'm probably too careful...but oh well. I'd rather be safe than sorry. Take care of yourself and better luck with the rest of em.   | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:03:49 AM |  its so maddening!!
just cause you agree to meet a guy he thinks its a open invite for more than just a meeting.
i was nieve once and only the once...over meeting someone from the internet in any place but public./ only thing that protected me was my self wits and self control to get out of his place fairly safe. this was about 4 yrs ago now.
i had talked to this guy for well over 4 months..mostly on the phone ...we had tried to meet but i could never get the time over my hours at work and my kids. we had been talking on the phone this 1 nite..and my son was going to his g/f's to pick up a few things. which was very close to where he lived. was only around 9ish at nite.
so dummy here...figured ok..i can go for a quick drink for half a hour..since my son was close by. 
 was the longest half a hour of my life!!!!!! did i have red flags over him nope...had he ever given me a sign he was a freak..nope....
my son dropped me off....was ok..i went in and was comfortable for the first 5 minutes...he got us a drink...and sat on the couch..away from each other at each end. he had no tv in the living room... it was in his bedroom. he asked if i wanted to go in and watch it..said no ...i am fine where i am.
was a hot summer nite,..was over 70 outside still and hot in his place..he was wearing a t/shirt and shorts....no biggie..considering the temperatures....
after i refused to go in his room..he undoes his shorts!!..oh sh!!!!TTT...now i am stuck..for 20 minutes with this freak still..no way out in a area of the city i despise. he starts playing with himself..asking me if its ok... what am i gonna say..he is doing it anyways!!..said whatever..enjoy...and my brain is going a million miles a minute how to get out of this sh1t.
i was so terrified..but still calm and cool..knowing i am now in a bad spot and on my own safety. he is in a 2 story house...and he is blocking my way out and down the stairs. even the phone was on the other side of him and i cant reach it to call emergency.
 i had to play this sucker for a fool..i get up and walk near the window...hoping to see even someone outside to yell at....no luck there....time draggedddd.....as i kept my head turned on this &((_(*....i turned..he had got up and was walking to me...F&ck..now what...he asks if he could hug me..head spins,...so said ok....and i am thinking..i know i cant beat this guy..he is a foot taller and a good 80 pounds heavier than me...i was 130ish at the time..he was well over 200+
by this time i got 10 minutes or so before my son..comes for me.... so glad my common sense is controlling me and not my emotions and me being terrified...*puke* i said to him why dont we sit on the couch..i can hug you then...eeekkkk i was so grossed out at even the thought but i wanted him out of my escape route. so i got him to sit...and i bolted for the stairs ..down the stairs and out.. walked to the nearest house with lights on and stood by their yard....glad my son showed up a few minutes later.
i got home..called this perv..told him what i thought.... called the cops and could have nothing done..since i had no proof and i made it home without him actually touching me
now i will never ever meet any guy but in public!!!!! ladies...always use common sense and self wits....i was new to the internet at the time..and had never met a guy before that time.
sorry for the long post.... | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:17:41 AM | | I found a great way to get rid of losers that don't take a hint. Tell him you are going out with a Jamaican guy with a bad temper, and your brother is a Wpg. cop. That shuts them up pretty good. If that doesn't work, tell him your new boyfriend is getting mad and is going to visit him at home, since you do know where he lives, and he is going to beat the living shit out of him if he doesn't get lost. It will work. It's great for me because it's true, I had to use that once, but your loser won't know it. Or find a big guy from work to knock on his door and ask him really politely not to call you again, or he will come back in a bad mood. Good luck! Sometimes you have to deal with aggression with more aggression than they want to handle. Losers! | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:30:27 AM | Ive had a date like this too
There are some freaks out there be careful
Im glad u got out when u did
sss | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:33:40 AM | 
blonde...
can i borrow your brother occassionally...i alway liked a man in uniform for protection and dang those handcuffs can do wonders on a loser!!
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 1:17:17 AM | so I went to see his apartment. While there he grabbed me in the hallway and started kissing me. He was holding me against the wall and I was feeling trapped and scared when he said something about breaking in his new apartment. I got him to let me go in a nice way and got the heck out of there
However, if that was Johnny Depp it would have been romantic. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 11:16:08 AM | Yes I did report him to POF Guitarchick.......But nothing was done. ALL of his profiles are still on here. So if there are any Pittsburgh ladies on here email me and Ill tell ya who he is so you dont go through what I did.
Oh yeah.....his pics...lol...have to be 5-10 yrs old..........thats why I NEVER go by pics.....just my opinion. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:46:34 PM | There was a post earlier from a gentleman saying that all men were not like this fellow. That is very true, I am sure that most of are decent people that are basically honest and harmless.
Unfortunatly, from a Safety point of view, you have to plan for the one in 100 that is a freak of nature and therefore dangerous. I would say public place meeting only, and if you do decide to meet in private at some point, let a friend know the address, hotel, room number... whatever it so, so that you can be found if needed. A cell phone is also a great thing to have.
Remember that God gave us fear for a reason, if you sense something, listen to it!
I for one would never be offended if someone did not want to go to a private or semi-private place with me... It just makes good sense.
BTW, before you start laughing at my corny POF nick name, I am a Safety Consultant and could not think of anything better at the time....lol | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 1:02:23 PM | Yes my gut feeling was that that guy was not "right" in the mind and I did leave immediately!
Here I am days later and do you believe this guy is still making more profiles and still emailing me and harrassing me????
He must not have many dates if he is still this mad over 1 date.
I dont know how to get rid of the guy. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 2:30:06 PM | | Just wanted to say you are lucky to have gotten out when you did, I on the other hand did not. I met a guy on the site, we chatted for sometime before meeting each other for coffee. Well you know what they say about first impressions an my gut feeling was that he was a nice guy. NOT!!!!!!! Dated him for 5 months and almost ended up 6 feet under. The charm, wit, humor and treating me nice sure went for a "crap" 1 month into the relationship. He got jealous cause I was talking to a co-worker (who was male), took me home a threw me out of his truck, literally. Stupid me, because he apologized I gave him a second chance then a third, fourth and fifth. This "man" is a coward, beating on women. He threw me around, choked me till I could not breathe, then held a knife to my throat and threatned to "slit my throat and be done with it". He called me insesantly, always saying he was sorry and that he would never do it again...bullshit. When he put the knife to my throat that was the last straw! I was fortunate enough that I had recorded everything that he did to me and saved the messages he left on my phone and took pictures of the bruises. I went to the police with all of this and they arrested and charged him. Went through hell over the past year of changing phone #'s, locks to my house, and being stalked by him and his friends. After a year of being in and out of court the **stard got what he deserved......I won, but unfortunately still live in fear and the internet dating makes me very sceptical now. Ladies, we are not punching bags for men and we do NOT have to take the mental,or physical abuse from men. If you find yourself in a situation that does not make you feel comfortable, get out and get out quick. Nobody, man or woman deserves this kind of treatment! There are many good men out there, so don't compromise or settle, it's better to be alone than to be beaten. To all the women who have gone through this, Kudo's to you for getting out and for those that are in a relationship like this, you can get out, believe in yourself, you will be a stronger person for it. Thanks Vito (veets) for screwing up my life, I'm still the winner though, cause I'm alive!!!!!! | |
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