| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:27:49 PM | | You know if a guy is nearly date raping you and his profile is on here, you can get him banned from this site. Just contact the webmaster with your story. Especially if he's using more than one profile or is out there, unstable. I do know of someone who's been banned from here for a whole lot less. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/22/2006 3:56:58 PM | | NOW this guy has 5 profiles on here!! I block each new profile after the harrassing emails but he keeps making more and just wont stop! I truly dont know what to do. I click on "report ____" but they didnt do anything. Who is this Webmaster that can help me? I"m thinking I'll have to delete my profile completely. What else can I do? | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/23/2006 12:42:08 PM | However, if that was Johnny Depp it would have been romantic.
 What a DUMB thing to say Tick Tock! Even if it was Johnny Depp, no woman would think it was "normal" or "romantic" to see a guy start playing with himself when it's totally unsolicited and clearly not appropriate for the situation! That guy was a freak! Why are so many of these men so anxious to get to sex so fast?
But I think it's a BAD idea to go to anyone's place until you've had a few or more dates at public places. However, it is impossible to know someone well enough, as things can always surface later on (as Booney pointed out in her bad experience). You're always taking some kind of risk. It's best to lower those risks as much as you can, within your control.
Sorry you had that horrible experience Sassy, you were smart in how you handled it. At least you were able to escape unharmed.
And as to Pumpkin's dillemma, I think eventually this guy will just give up and find another person to harrass. However, I would keep trying to get someone from POF to get rid of this guy with many guises.... Good luck! Don't give up and let him win - keep your profile in if you can.  | |
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Posted: 7/23/2006 12:51:13 PM | Ladies, we are not punching bags for men and we do NOT have to take the mental,or physical abuse from men. If you find yourself in a situation that does not make you feel comfortable, get out and get out quick. Nobody, man or woman deserves this kind of treatment! There are many good men out there, so don't compromise or settle, it's better to be alone than to be beaten.
 Booney, I'm so glad you went to the police and finally got justice. It is good to be alive, isn't it? I don't know why men are such cowards sometimes. I never had a guy beat on me, but I did have to stand up against a boyfriend (alcohol was involved) and throw him out of my house and call the police. He grabbed my arms so hard he gave me bruises that lasted a week. I was so embarrassed to have bruises I had to cover up, as I consider myself a strong woman. I threatened him with physical harm (turned the tables) and got him to leave, but it was very scary. And I dated him for six months before that happened, and I thought he loved me so much. I think a lot of it had to do with the alcohol, but I think once an abuser, always an abuser. 
I also know there are still good guys out there who would never be cowardly and abuse a woman like that. Just like there are bad women out there, there are bad men, so we just have to look out for the warning signs and do what we can to protect ourselves and the ones we love. I totally agree with what Booney said in the quote above. Be careful out there ladies!!  | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/23/2006 1:00:56 PM | | I'm so sorry to hear what you have gone through...its obvious you dont need this kind of harrassment...no matter how difficult, you may consider changing the number..unfortunately doesnt sound like he's letting up!..perhaps he may give up..and after a while just start calling again...you do have grounds to charge him..I wouldn't let that scum bag get away with it..he left bruises on you!...no one deserves to be treated so badly...keep your chin up you sound like a strong individual..you will get past this..but if it continues...you may have to consider your options..good luck and take care ..and always have your eyes open and your guard up...no matter how comfortable you may feel. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2006 1:39:03 PM | | Just to let those being supportive of my problem on here know. Two of his 5 profiles have been deleted....but not the main ones with the phony pics and ages.....I'm still working on them. Yes, he still bothers me but I've found him to be pathetic at this point. Being this upset over one date tells me he must not have many dates or much else in his life to focus on. I do wish he would just let it go!! I mean "GROW UP!!!" | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 12:49:01 AM | What a DUMB thing to say Tick Tock! Even if it was Johnny Depp, no woman would think it was "normal" or "romantic" to see a guy start playing with himself when it's totally unsolicited and clearly not appropriate for the situation! That guy was a freak! Why are so many of these men so anxious to get to sex so fast?
Guitarchic, did you even read her post? You need to go back to the OP and read it really S-L-O-W-L-Y so there is no confusion on your part. He didn't "start playing with himself" as you may have subconciously added to the story, he grabbed her and kissed her....so I stand by my original statement. Many a romantic movie or "chick flick" has begun this way. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2006 5:32:26 AM | | Sinsrus, geez mate i just read your profile too, and you sound like you have some pretty serious sexual issues to deal with there. Sounds to me you would be the type to do what this guy did. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/26/2006 9:17:25 AM | | I work for a cell phone company, and you CANNOT block incoming calls or text messages, the FCC does not allow it as of yet. The only thing you can do is change your number or contact the police and possibly then you may be able to block it. Some phone models have the ability to block numbers, check with the phone manufacturer. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2006 12:34:06 PM | julietjuliet wrote
"Sinsrus, geez mate i just read your profile too, and you sound like you have some pretty serious sexual issues to deal with there. Sounds to me you would be the type to do what this guy did."
Thanks for your kind words. I know you have a warm heart that contains endless love.
Your professional diagnosis over internet based on a few words in my profile is so accurate. I’ve decided to turn myself into police to prevent Jack the Ripper reoccurring.
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 7/26/2006 2:03:03 PM | | You can call ur phone company and block the number from ur phone or you can call them and they have this service where everytime they call or somthing u press these numbers like 611 or somthing after u call the number and if they call so many times the cops will file a police report. we had a problem with some teenagers in my office makin prank calls and because we have a multiline phone u cant block the number. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 7:56:12 PM | Well, Tick Tock, I only halfway apologize - I thought you quoted another story, my bad. BUT I still think it's wrong for a man to just automatically assume a woman wants sex right away (he wanted to break in his apartment, obviously, that's what he meant). I guess if you are starstruck by someone like Johnny Depp (he's just another person to me), then maybe some chicks would take the bait, but I don't think you can just generalize all women... Is that better?   | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 9:14:03 PM | ^ I accept your humble apology. Anyhow, the point I was making is simply that if the man were considered attractive, then what he did would have probably been considered romantic. How else are you to start a relationship? A man is expected to make the first move - ie. to kiss his prospective date. As far as his comment about "breaking in the new apartment", that's just par for the course. At their age, this would probably be considered more normal than you think on a second or third date. I probably wouldn't have used such a corny line but my intentions would have likely been the same. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 10:47:20 AM | | Well how did all the phsycotic people wind up here. First date was the show it was ok. He did a barbacue his sister was going to be there well I arrived first. He proceeds to talk about being locked up and stupid stuff he did. Make long story short he is on meds for some phsycotic disorder been in nut house & jail numerous times. He wouldn't take no for an answer I was grateful to leave but had to press charges he kept calling saying I was messing with his head. GIVE ME A BREAK that's second phsyco I've met any sane people left if so send them my way. Just ask if they're on meds. Good Luck I need some. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 6:50:09 PM | Bad internet date. Hm. I was 19, he was 27... or 28.. I think. He picked me up, and we went for coffee, and then to a local hot rod show. Wicked vintage cars from the '50's and '60's. A couple later models. Not the point. All of that was fun.
Then he asked if I wanted to go for a drive. BIG RED WARNING BELLS were going off in my head, but I ignored them.
He drove me to I don't know where.. honestly, I had no idea.. and then he bit my neck so hard I bled, and tried to assault me further. I hurt him badly enough to get him off of me, and to make him drive me home.
Yes, he's been charged. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 9:10:08 PM | | Tick Tock I can't believe you. First of all the man would have been considered attractive but what he did would not under any circumstances be considered romantic. So you think what he did is the way to start a relationship - wow I hope the women you meet read this first and know that you think the way to start a relationship is to attack a woman. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 9:19:30 PM | | THE PROBLEM WITH GUYS LIKE THIS IS THEY MAKE YOU GALS MISTRUST ALL MEN. SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU. FOLLOW THE ADVICE GIVEN TO YOU BE SEVERAL PEOPLE AND YOU WILL BE RID OF HIM. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 9:20:36 PM | ms TNMTNGAL
HEY i had to help ok if u wanna block a numbr u dial
star as in *67 then the number such as *67-555-555-5555
if its your area code u can leave out the first 3 nbr
also i lived outta a hotel thats not that bad cuz it was a bouncer gig and they paid me to stay close however dont let ANYBODY be violent with u guys like that suck ! i am sorry u had to have thta happen u seem like a nice person
also u shouldnt ignore him just tell him u are not intrusted i hate when ppl ignore me its just dang rude
pls have a nice day | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 9:22:22 PM | | From reading what everyone has wrote it sounds like alot of other women have been thru the same thing and much much worse. I had never wrote a article before and hoped that what I wrote has helped or will help someone else. The ones that told of experiences that they have went thru and my heart goes out to you in what you had to go thru. Nobody should have had to go thru what alot of you have experienced. My experience was minor compared to what some of you have went thru. Of course there was some negative things but then that is expected when you get alot of people who have different opinions. I do appreciate everyone taking the time to read what everyone wrote and voicing their opinions and sharing their experiences with others. God Bless all of you. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2006 11:36:46 AM | I have been very lucky, I have met many men through internet dating site over the last 7 years... even had a marriage proposal but the timing wasn't right for me. I tend to listen to my intiuition, after a abusive marriage my radar has been working wonderfully.
Ladies we need to take OUR safety seriously. I always tell someone where I am going and have them call me on my cell and with a prearranged code so they know whether or not I am safe.
And for you guys that think sex is ok if we go to your place or our place GROW UP!!
I met a someone and on our third date it was too cold to do what we had planned so we ended up renting a movie and watched it at my home..... He left without trying anything, yes we kept seeing each other and eventually did have sex but not till I was comfortable with it which was many weeks later. | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 8/2/2006 1:37:36 PM |
I won, but unfortunately still live in fear and the internet dating makes me very sceptical now.
Why would this be anymore a common result from internet dating than just normal dating?
There's no freaks in bars?
Chris | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 3/4/2007 1:30:41 AM | | I would recommend always meeting in a public place and always make sure that someone knows where your going and who you are going to meet. Everyone has cell phones and they should be used to let someone know your ok, etc... | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 3/4/2007 12:57:38 PM | | He sounds like a scary guy, good thing you got out when you did and you are safe,,,, | |
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| internet dates from Hell
Posted: 3/4/2007 1:50:21 PM | As a caucasion, if you go to Iraq wearing a US flag, you're not giving approval to be kidnapped or shot. But you're sure make a good shooting target.
Did you plan to see a rock concert in his apartment? Or did he make killer coffee in his apartment? Or did you think you can help him clean his apartment?
ohhhhh, i see, i see -- so in other words, when a guy lies to us and tells us he wants to show us his place he just got because he's excited about it, we're supposed to KNOW it's a lie, that really he plans to molest us or make sexual advances without our approval? and so, if we go there, in spite of the lie, it's our fault we got attacked, right?
OHHHH, ok, i see how it works now.
we are always at fault, us gals, even when we are deceived and physically attacked.
phew, you know, it is really good to finally know that -- you jackass.
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OP: yes indeed, you were physically assaulted. this is a person to be frightened of and stay away from. i know on cingular you can block numbers -- call your customer service people at verizon and tell them you are being harassed by a violent person and you need the number blocked.
good thing you got away before you were harmed further. and, good thing he doesn't know where you live.
also, i have learned in online dating to follow my instincts right away -- in other words, if you are sensing or feeling or fearing that someone might be full of shit and lying to you? in THIS context, they probably are. | |
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