| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 2/2/2007 8:56:08 PM | alana2 she posted this on 7/9/06 the same day a poster recomended that she put restrictions on her mail. It is now 2/03/07 and she has still not bothered with any restriction. That should tell a person something.
As far as someone being interested in their own interest that is why we are on this site. Is it of interest to someone else that you come to a date site. No it is in your own interest that you do so. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 2/2/2007 11:04:43 PM | I am so sick and tired of hearing this crap. What is WRONG with older men talking to/dating/desiring/marrying younger women? On the flip side of the same coin, what's WRONG with older women seeking younger men? Isn't it a thing of personal choice? If you, OP, don't want to talk to older men, unread/delete is certainly an option. I see in many threads in this particular vein that both men and women are shocked/disturbed/incredulous/indignant and even down right angry that anyone older would DARE consider seeking a relationship with a younger person. If two people find attraction and chemistry in one another then WTF business is it of someone else to say that the relationship is inappropriate. If both parties are of legal age and "sound mind" then live and let live. I am 48 yoa and I still date MUCH younger women and will continue to do so for as long as possible/until I meet the ONE woman that I want to settle down with.
Some people say that there is no common ground when there is a substantial age difference, I say that no matter what the ages may be you must SEEK common ground in a relationship.
What about the possibility of the older person dying and leaving the younger alone? My answer is that people die every day and death is no respecter of age. What if the younger person becomes bored or dissatisfied and leaves after a few years? To that I say "I would prefer to have a few years of happiness than a lifetime of mediocraty.
Face it, we all "settle", there is no such thing as perfection.
People, make your personal choices, whatever you feel is right for you, do that. Don't let other people make your decisions for you and in turn don't try to decide for others.
It has been said that there's someone for everyone, what right have you to choose for anyone other than yourself.
Don't hate... participate and appreciate!!!!    | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/8/2007 4:13:13 PM | At 41 I've learned that...men will be men and boys will be boys! A man prefers a woman a boy prefers a girl! If you still don't get it right it down! One day you will.
Don't forget the number of younger girls who are searching for "older men"
In the meantime ignore anyone you don't wish to talk to and remember where you are...posted on a WEB dating site and good looking...they'll all want to talk to you!
Please be carefull!!! | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/8/2007 4:27:50 PM |
At 41 I've learned that...men will be men and boys will be boys! A man prefers a woman a boy prefers a girl! If you still don't get it right it down! One day you will.
I will not only get it right, I will write it down right away when I get it right...
Come to think of it, I've had it right all the time. I guess the handwriting was on the wall...
I couldn't care less if older men hook up with younger women. It's their right, right? | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/9/2007 5:14:59 AM | We older men love younger women. They are much sexier and more alluring... 
As simple as that. And this is also part of the biological design. So nothing wrong except that the women do not want it and forced into it.
Otherwise, it is fine. Many younger women do fall for older men! Maybe you should ask them too! | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/9/2007 5:41:40 PM |
Why is it that on this website there seems to be an epidemic of 40+ men hitting on (trying to talk to) young women ? I am 25 and I get a least 2 messages everyday that are from men 40+ and quite a few IMs. Even when I put a age limit in my profile (22-32)...I still get so many?
They need their glasses checked? or perhaps looking for some shugga gal?
Bizaare, I get exactly the opposite problem........"20 something" women sending me mail. Gimme a break, a 20 year old wanting to meet a 50+? I delete with out even looking.
Weave your own reality, I'll substitute my own...
maybe you older men are trying to live out a fantasy on a dating site, if you actually could get a younger woman, you wouldnt have the time to be here
Unless they are resting up for the nights events behind the keyboard? | |
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smuroF
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Joined: 12/21/2005
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/9/2007 8:34:14 PM | Concidering I'm on the "response" page and I just realized the age
of this post, I'll just add my 2 cents...
Makes men feel younger and more Virile if she accepts....
Just like it makes Women feel younger and sexier...
Even if in reality neither of us are not! | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 134 | |
| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:07:22 AM | I talk to younger women all the time. I also talk to older women and women about my age. I love women and enjoy their company and conversation. In all cases, younger, older, the same age, the chemistry of connectivity, friendship or intimacy is either there or it is not. No big deal here.
If one is on a dating site and wants to limit his or her potential dating to a particular age range, type in the numbers. I do.
What I like about this site is one can set email age ranges. On other sites, I have found that some women either do not read my profile age range specs or choose to ignore them. This, naturally, wastes time for both of us. On other sites I have the same problem as the initiator of this thread. Older women email me on sites where I can not limit emails by age. It is an annoyance, no more. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:20:14 AM | | If someone truly wishes to eliminate mail from a certain age range all they have to is put in a mail restriction. The fact that she did not and still has not says that her entire reason for putting up this thread was attention. Most of you just haven't figured it out. | |
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remo54
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 137 | |
| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:36:36 PM | | It goes back to the cave days,men are instinctavely looking for the youngest most attractive woman they can find to bring back to the cave for breeding purposes to ensure that the species carry on .and I also find younger ladies more open minded.but i have seen a few older ladies that are really attractive. | |
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remo54
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 138 | |
| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/10/2007 3:37:20 PM | | It goes back to the cave days,men are instinctavely looking for the youngest most attractive woman they can find to bring back to the cave for breeding purposes to ensure that the species carry on .and I also find younger ladies more open minded.but i have seen a few older ladies that are really attractive. | |
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hiker4
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Joined: 9/17/2006
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/10/2007 4:23:22 PM | OP,
Sorry if it has already been stated, but by the looks of your profile it is your
MAIL settings that need fixing NOT your preferences
Your current mail settings state you will accept any mail from ANYONE except
the following:
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Must not smoke
Which would allow any age and any location and any relationship type.
Again sorry if this is redundant. And by the way, I see a lot of women in their 40's on POF that are not interested in men over 35! : banana : ! Good for them! : smiles :
H4 | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:38:48 AM | Well, lets see.....I'm gonna pull this from my file of 'true stories'.......because I've been thinking about this recently and wondering if I need to start thinking 'outside the box'......
In my last relationship (lasting six years) I was with a woman my age. Her ex husband had moved on after their divorce to marry a woman literally twenty five years younger than him. Now, everybody, including myself, all LOVED to comment about him 'robbing the cradle'. He even ended up having three MORE kids with this woman, on top of the two he had from his first wife, of which I wound up raising through the six years of our relationship.
As I now look back, I remember most of our years together were spent hearing how she was never going to do for a man what she did for her first husband. Because...well...you know....older women are supposedly 'older and wiser'. And they've now reached that 'total independence' status after watching so much OPRAH. So I never got the total 'commitment' that the ex husband got. I was good enough to raise kids that weren't my own...I just wasn't good enough to get the supposed dedication that the ex got. Basically, I got the 'bittered', 'jaded', and angry older woman who was president of the 'First Wives Club'.....while the ex got the young, smiley, vibrant, and apparently sexually healthy one who wasn't quite so BITTER about life.
After our relationship ended, I started to ask myself if it was just 'the person', or are most the women my age really this way?? Apparently Andy Rooney, while writing that little piece that has been spread over the internet three times about the 'joys of being with an older woman' has been with the SAME older woman for a very long time'...he's not been around the ones who are now just selfish and bitter in their singlehood.
It wasn't really until I was at my church about two months back, talking with a good friend of mine after the service....I was explaining to he and his wife (married thirty years and quite happy )that I was trying to get out there and date again....(It's been about two and a half years since my last relationship..)
His very words were....
"whooo...that's tough!! Especially at your age. The single women have ISSUES"....
The funny part was to watch his wife NOD HER HEAD very emphatically after he said it....This actually took the wind out of my sails. And I began to wonder if everything I had been thinking is true. Are they ALL going to be like this at my age, where they don't put NEAR as much dedication to a good man who would actually appreciate and in fact NEED the vulnerability she gave to something and someone else in her past.
So I'm literally wondering if it's just better to be alone.....or if I should just risk getting the sneers from the masses if I decide to date somebody younger with a little less bitterness. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 10:21:29 AM | | I have not been married and have no children, and most of the men I have met seem to want the women with children who were left by someone for another woman. I am not saying that these women are bitter or that the children are problems, but we who have no ex husband or children are often ignored for the ones who supposedly have so many more skills and attributes since they have been married and have children. | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 11:29:58 AM | You hit the nail right on the head, Piano4te. Bitterness, anger and male bashing are all too prevalent among "older" women. What I have personally experienced as well as seen in many couples around me is the woman tries to make her new man pay for the sins of one or more previous men - even though all the new man in her life wants to do is care for her and love her. Frankly, I will not accept a new love punishing me for things I never did. I believe psychologists may refer to this phenomenon as transference. This condition is not limited to females. Either sex can have this type of problem.
What women (and men) can do after a difficult or abusive relationship experience is seek counseling to overcome their repressed anger. Many of those who do are successful and come to have a fresh and open approach to a new mate.
The number one flag I look for when I meet a new woman is any repressed hostility toward men awaiting her next male significant other. This transference problem is one of the primary reasons I normally restrict my dating to younger women. Although many younger women have had bad experiences with men, their experiences may not have lasted as long or imprinted as severely. Perhaps younger women are simply more resilient. In any event, they seem for the most part not to be so affected by it. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 11:53:58 AM | can i firstly say that men arent great with instructions
they usually open up the packaging grab whats in the box
find the instructions look for any pictures that might make sense and throw it to the side
that is the same with your profile they dont read every word or only see what they want to see
it is funny you know
when i was 18 i went out with a 30 yr old and always looked and wished to try older woman
when i got to 30 i still looked at the 20 year olds but also looked at 40yrs
at 40 i started noticing 50 plus and still looked at 20
now im 48 and you attract my attention i still look at the 20 yr olds
i think as we age our spectrum just broadens
also we are younger looking than our predecessors in their floral dresses etc and younger in mind and heart
so you also see there is an ever growing age spectrum | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 12:02:19 PM |
that is the same with your profile they dont read every word or only see what they want to see
nice example of generalization. If you have read the thread titled men do you read our profile you would know just how far off the mark you are. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 12:14:14 PM | I flirt some with some of the younger gals. Not on these sites but in real life.
I get a boot out of them turning pink lol.
I go to my credit union once each month. There is a cute gal that is about 25 there. After a couple of years - she turns pink when I walk in the door lol.
Last summer - I was the one that turned pink.
I went in to a Hardees or ...... I think it was a Hardees. I walked up to the counter - the gal was about 20 years old and she said “what can I get you - big boy”. I think I was a little stunned and she said “yes - you still have it”. She went on talking dropping hints like crazy - what time she got off and and and and.
Yesterday I was in another fast food joint. A female customer that was about 30 (25-30) years old (very nice looking) locked eyes with me and .......... what a very beautiful smile she gave me.
My guilt factor kicks in with gals under about 45 years old. My ex wife (20 years) is now 47 - so I don’t “try to talk to” the younger gals. I also don’t take the emails from the younger gals to heart in any kind of boy/girl way. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/11/2007 12:23:54 PM |
The number one flag I look for when I meet a new woman is any repressed hostility toward men awaiting her next male significant other. This transference problem is one of the primary reasons I normally restrict my dating to younger women.
Great ..... so women your own age who don't have this "repressed hostility" towards men again end up having to pay for those that do. And men wonder why so many 40+ women are bitter? LOL How would you feel if you were considered too old for someone the same age as you?? | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/12/2007 10:09:09 PM | In reply to msg# 132, I AM LIVING the "fantasy" I am currently dating (for almost 3 years now), a woman that was entering KINDERGARTEN the year that I graduated HIGH SCHOOL. I am also close friends with many 20 something year old women and have recently dated a 26 year old that I have been friends with since she was 18... and there are possibilities there for a relationship that would be classified as "more than friends" and I don't mean just sex either.
I have stated in several posts that age is less a number than an attitude... if you feel young and act young, then you stay young. We don't have a choice about aging, but growing up is a choice IMO...and I for one think it's HIGHLY overated!!!! | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 150 | |
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