| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/13/2007 8:50:41 AM | Wow, Ben, you have been dating someone for 3 years and you are on this site looking?
Hmmm....I take it it isn't exclusive?
I also want to add that I personally don't care who someone dates. But, just because a woman smile and makes eye contact doesn't mean we are sexually attracted to you. Just yesterday I was talking and being friendly with a nice gentleman in his 60's. I thought he was a nice person, but I wouldn't be interested in dating him. I was stunned when he asked me for my phone number. I was polite and told him I was dating someone, but I really don't think I was sending him "signals." heh. I won't stop being friendly, though, that is just how I am!
And, FWIW, my husband left me for an OLDER woman. I am not bitter, jaded, or unhappy. Men tell me all the time how easy it is to talk to me. I hate stereotypes, younger, older, we should be looking at the person, not the age. | |
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remo54
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 153 | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/15/2007 1:36:47 AM | In my experience 40+ men who date 20 something women fall into three camps:
The Educator: This guy has so much sexual experience that feels obligated to spread the knowledge as far as possible.
The Family Guy: Either getting a late start or a second start now that he has figured out there is more to life than work.
The****ead: This guy has to go out with 20 somethings because no woman over 30 would put up with his crap or believe his bullshit. | |
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notard
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Joined: 1/10/2007
Msg: 156 | |
| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/17/2007 10:35:25 AM | | Certain males, particularly alpha males, no matter what their chronological age, attract young beautiful women. Desirable young ladies are attracted to their charisma, intelligence, financial abilities, power, social status, perhaps even their good looks, and more. Some of these men want women near their own age but many prefer good looking younger women. It's their mutual choice and they are free to make it. Personally, I support freedom of choice in personal matters. | |
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pl7808
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Joined: 3/8/2007
Msg: 158 | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/18/2007 7:30:21 PM | I don't know, I have a son who is 26 I know that I couldn't date a man that young. Part of it is the fact that I do have a son that age, and maybe seeing how young men are, I also realize I have nothing in common as far as dating goes. They can recite all the classic rock muscians and song titles they like, but they haven't walked the walk.... there's a huge difference with me.
I had a friend who couldn't accept her age. she is a very beautiful woman but she wasn't seeing the reality of who she is, or that she perceives these young men attracted to her, when in reality who knows if they were or not. What I see in a 40 something man who is looking for an extremely young woman is a man who isn't comfortable getting older. There is a certain immaturity there, and a fear.... I cannot find myself interested in such a man as I want to see someone walk in confidence no matter what age they are....
Lastly age is a number yes, but in the same respect I much prefer someone who can say yes, I remember those days. Someone who is of a kindred spirit, I can find my youth within, on my own, I don't require the dependence on viewing the face of someone who is not intuned with me simply because they are at the youthful state that I wish I were at, sometimes....... | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/19/2007 12:46:05 AM | Great ..... so women your own age who don't have this "repressed hostility" towards men again end up having to pay for those that do. And men wonder why so many 40+ women are bitter? LOL How would you feel if you were considered too old for someone the same age as you??
Actually, most of us don't wonder about it all. We simply realize the situation. Why do you think so many us are less interested in women our age? It is not because the younger women are more attractive physically, it is because they don't blame us for the wrongs done them by someone else.
Personally, I prefer women my age. I have more in common with them. We tend to share common interest and tend to be in the same place in our lives. That being said, all too many of them carry so much baggage and bitterness that it is incredibly difficult trying to make something work. It is not that a woman my age is too old, but rather that all too often, it is that she is too bitter. I'll take responsibility for mistakes I make, but I get VERY tired of being blamed for mistakes made by her former husbands and lovers. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/19/2007 9:06:40 PM | Age means nothing ,it's just a number.I always say that I'm a 25yr old trapped in a 44yr old body.
It's all part of evolution,the more experienced want to breed with the prime of the opposite sex. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/20/2007 12:22:25 AM |
"The Family Guy: Either getting a late start or a second start now that he has figured out there is more to life than work"
Yup, that's me. I worked sixty hours a week from 1985 until the NASDAQ crash (2001).
The past few months are so strange. I'm attacting twenty-somethings. It started in Seattle last year, even before my mental breakaway from Marriage Mentality, two different incidents where the youngster wanted sex but I felt too weird about age.
Part of it is the odds. Eighty percent of the women I meet are young. They're waitresses, bartenders, hotel maids. They go to the clubs, they dance, they play pool and they often initiate the contact.
It's interesting that the twenty-somethings ignore my personals ads, but flirt with me in real life. I don't know what to think about it. Or what to do. Some of it is probably a cultural disconnect, my misreading of their friendliness but there's no question that those two in Seattle came right out about a sexual encounter.
I can't help thinking it's about money. :grin: | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/20/2007 12:39:34 AM | I suppose some young ladies are actually attracted to older men, possibly because the younger guys are rather immature and would rather go out with the guys, I cant really blame a girl for that, and I dont blame an older man for enjoying the company of a younger woman, it's quite an ego boost.
But what about the long term? it's quite possible that the younger woman is going to easily tire of the older man when he slows down and isn't as exciting anymore. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/20/2007 1:04:25 AM |
"the younger woman is going to easily tire of the older man when he slows down and isn't as exciting anymore"
Ahem.
I'm not that exciting *now*.
Besides, what do I care?
I'll be dead by the time she gets bored. 
Lately I've been thinking of a sex spree where I impregnate as many destitute women as possible by promising them big $$$ but then I just die off, leaving behind fifty gene carriers that suck down Federal money for eighteen years, spreading crime, havoc and my genes across the land; I get something back for my tax money and revenge on womankind at the same time. | |
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jponsi
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Joined: 3/5/2007
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/20/2007 6:27:18 AM | I don't get it..... 
You're blessed with youth and beauty, and you complain about being "hit on"?
Why not try this. Read and Ignore. That's all you have to do!
If you really want to be nice, respond with a " thanks, I'm flattered, but, not interested" reply.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/20/2007 10:57:36 AM | I hate generalisations but I have to say that even the 'fat and fifty' types tend to go for women who are younger, prettier and slimmer than them. This leaves most middle aged females with would be toyboys and pensioners/seniors. I wouldn't care but these days many women age better than men.
It's total rubbish that most women our age are 'bitter'. But we know our own minds and I suspect that's not always an 'attractive' trait. Nor are we as impressed by finances. Why do they do it? Because they can! Young females reading this, please send them back to their own age group please.
Frankly I am sick of approaches from men who look like my Dad (who is dead). Any men up to about 10 years younger (who can keep up) please apply here! | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/21/2007 2:04:09 PM | trying to talk? how about succeeding in talking to? look i'm 63, fat, ugly, bald with no money and my six wives have been: 18 two 19's, 23, 22 and the current 27! and she's a model for sears..........hello!
see there are basically two reasons. 1. most women my age are physically broke down and don't feel like doing anything. 2. young girls are tired of young "players" that beat them up, don't respect them, cheat on them, go out with the guys all the time, drink, smoke or do drugs. so what's a better fate??? an old man like me that cooks for them and does the dishes. they get the back rubs. they get treated like a queen and NOT TAKEN FOR GRANTED, BUT APPRECIATED! their ideas and opinions mean something. they call as many shots as i do.
any questions? and i make sure they are fully taken care of sexually BEFORE i get my nut! is that clear enough? | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/21/2007 3:53:46 PM | [quoteThe****ead: This guy has to go out with 20 somethings because no woman over 30 would put up with his crap or believe his bullshit.[\quote]
I don't consider myself to be a *****ead but I never married my first wife who was 19 at the time and I was 32. but having been all over the world and work commitments I jut didn't have time to get involved in a long term relationship, But that didn't mean I didn't have fun alas I did have one long term relationship with a girl who emigrated to OZ but I was taken ill and never got back to where she was and when I did they had moved and I lost touch, and as for my 2nd wife who was Russian she was pro-rata lower aged than my first wife 14 yrs younger than me. I just prefer to go out with younger women. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:05:33 AM | | It seems to make some feel better. I am in my 40's and I left my ex 7 years ago. He's in his mid 50's now and hates to go out, except to an occasional mall to check out the sales. He never listens to music & doesn't enjoy the arts, also hates sports. He loves younger women now and met someone online that is 21 years younger. I feel sorry for her because if she marries him, she will live the life of a 60 + year old. My son noticed that on his computer history, there were lots of photos of younger girls, 20 to young 30, and a lot of them were BBW's. Do many people get engaged to people online from other states? I get hit on sometimes by men in their 20's but since I have a 19 year old, it just seems taboo to me. I'd go younger but maybe 8 years, where people cannot tell the difference. I want someone that is in the same life stage as me. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:49:09 AM | Surely 2 people falling for each other no matter what the age diference whats it got to do with others, I recently finished a 2 year relationship with a well she asked me out when she was 22 an after a very special,loving time we had to call time cos she moved away, despite the age thing she cooked for me, she made sure i was sexually satifised no matter how tired she was, or I was an met all my needs, in all aspects, remember theres no rule book to what we should an shouldnt fall in love with, We always had strange looks when we went to places pubs,such like. Ipersoonally find females in their 20s so sexually attractive, whats wrong with that we all diferent,so live an let live,
So i would love more of the same thing. : | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/23/2007 4:06:00 AM | Re Message 174
My son noticed that on his computer history, there were lots of photos of younger girls, 20 to young 30, and a lot of them were BBW's.
Well I think your son needs a slap for; 1. being nosey, and 2. for running and telling tales | |
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