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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/23/2007 10:54:12 AM | As others have stated, many women do the same thing. I wish I had $1 for every under 35 girl who has hit on me in clubs.
I have dated someone 17 yrs. younger than me and it was a very good relationship. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/23/2007 12:12:25 PM | Hahaha poster 158, this is FUNNY:
Certain males, particularly alpha males, no matter what their chronological age, attract young beautiful women. Desirable young ladies are attracted to their charisma, intelligence, financial abilities, power, social status, perhaps even their good looks, and more.
At 20 to 30, I was somehow dating men who were 35 to 50. Why? Because I saw stability, confidence. I also saw many sidelong stares from couples in his age group--I had grown up with some very disturbing mixed signals from adults, and I was looking for a replacement daddy (not consciously). Certainly an older man is well spoken, has been around the world and learned some things--at least they're more well spoken than a clumsy youth (which I no doubt was). I didn't know I was trading my youth for feeding their egoes (as you prove by that excerpt above). I was loyal and dedicated to my man, I was the perfect submissive house helper. I was dependent emotionally. Did he marry me? OF COURSE NOT! But that is what I was in it for. I do not doubt that they were in the relationship to feel young--and to feel in control.
I recently dated a guy my age (actually 7 years older) who had "forgotten" to mention he had married one of these 35 year olds--a herkin 22 years difference! And what happened in that marriage? He was trying to be 35, listening to rap--even got a face lift. She was trying to find someone more active, and the marriage fell apart. I'm certain she married him for the same reasons I went for older men: a father who abandoned her, and , as a result, a confusing introduction into the adult world.
It's so hard toput all the cards on the table. 'Alpha male' my little toe. This is a man whose maturity level couldn't sustain a relationship with any woman, sexy or or brilliant, in his appropriate age group. | |
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Joined: 1/10/2007
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/23/2007 12:29:41 PM | Some people are either just unhappy with the reality of their lives or not capable of recognizing or acknowledging facts. They attack whatever messenger points out facts they do not want to accept. They prefer to remain in some form of denial and continue to believe in a fantasy universe which only exists within their own minds.
Facts are facts whether we like it or not. I try to recognize them, deal with them and live in reality. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/23/2007 3:17:17 PM |
"It's total rubbish that most women our age are 'bitter'"
Have you tried dating any of them? :)
I suspect not!
I'm not particularly motivating to chase 20-somethings but... what can I say? They're 80% of the women I met and for whatever reason they are sometimes interested. It does seem kinda wrong but... I'm not leading them with marriage proposals.
It does boost my ego. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/25/2007 9:21:50 AM | Because these older guys think if they get someone a lot younger it'll make them think they're the same age and their married friends will pat them on the back in congratulations for being their token stud  . Plus they watch way too much tv where they see these older movie stars with much younger women so they think they need to have the same thing in hopes of looking good. Plus they're hoping a much younger woman will be far more gullible and nieve. No offense to you but women their age are far more wiser to their tricks and don't put up with their crap, plus we've heard more of their lame excuses and lies.
And as older women we get hit on by much younger guys even when it's online and we clearly state an older age limit. Last thing we all want to hear is that "age is just a number". If that were the case it would say 18 to whatever. I have NO interest in dating teenagers and those young enough to be my child nor do I want to date someone old enough to be my father or grandfather. So next time some older guy approaches you, simply tell them, "No thanks, I already have a father / grandfather". | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:11:32 AM |
""It's total rubbish that most women our age are 'bitter'"
followed by
"women their age are far more wiser to their tricks and don't put up with their crap, plus we've heard more of their lame excuses and lies."
Ahem.
Too funny.
That's an interesting list of why I might date a daughter image, but in my case it's just about proximity and sex! | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:19:54 AM |
simply tell them, "No thanks, I already have a father / grandfather".
Do you truly belive that the OP is going to take that advice ?
The same day this thread was posted it was suggested that she put in a age restriction. Seeing as how she still has not done so ? That in itself should say a lot.
The OP merely wanted to draw more attention to herself. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/26/2007 3:24:42 PM | | ok, heres my thoughts for what they are worth, if a man or woman wants younger folks for relationships or whatever, i think its their busniess, i may have said different at other times but hey, live and let live, there is precious little happiness out there, grab it while you can. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 4/16/2007 1:56:48 PM | If your profile has an age respriction of 22-35 then its not possible for men 40+ to message you. The site won't allow it.
The IM's you are getting tho is obviously from dumb*sses who aren't reading your profile and don't care to. There's a lot of that on here. O well, cest le vie.
I find that a lot of men 40+ are attracted to younger women. Why, I'm not sure. But whatever, thats their thing and they have every right. If you are not into them just tell em. Big deal. Can't have everything you want in life, princess. If you don't want em talkin to you don't answer. You are the one makin the choice to respond. There's worse things in life than people wanting to talk to you or hit on you. You are on a dating site after all, anything goes. :)
Good luck and my only suggestion is to keep ignoring them, it's kinda out of your control to a point, so don't stress over it, theres no point. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 4/16/2007 2:10:59 PM | Honey, its called a mid-life crisis.  Men get them all the time especially when they are 40+years. They are trying to recapture their youth. They feel they have missed out on something. Why do you think a lot of marriages fail around the 2oth year. Because a man feels he is slipping away. And has to prove he has the right stuff to attract the ladies.So he tries to go after the young ones. I'm not saying too many of them are going to catch a young one But they will try. Women, get mid life crisis too, but it is no way more often than men. Just tell the guys your not looking for a sugar daddy! | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 5/6/2007 8:45:06 PM | Ladies, please use caution stereotyping all men having a midlife crisis’s at one point or another, Yes, ther are men who try to recapture youth for one reason or another. The cause could be anything from a breakup to loosing his hair. Personally I have lived a very youthful life and would never consider my ways to be a crisis. Because I look young and have several recreational items, may be because I took care of my self and my finances.
As for men here or anywhere, seeking a younger youthful lady as opposed to one his age,
Yea – real stupid, individual seeking long-term relationships might want to start with those within their generation, and one who has similar experiences in life
Unless he really is out to prove a point to himself or an ex that he “still has it”. But if that’s his goal, he will soon find out there really is no “coup-de-vile hiding at the bottom of a cracker jack box”
AGE min/max…..I can only speak for my self, if a “LADY” can sensually stimulate me INTELLECTUALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, I really don’t give a shit what her age is, my only “age” issue: must be ten years older than my daughter, and 10 years younger than my mom…fill your purse with useful stuff, leave the ID at home
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Joined: 1/10/2007
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 5/7/2007 5:44:31 AM | I just returned from a singles group trip and had a wonderful time. The female to male ratio was 3 to 1 and a wide spectrum of ages was represented. During the trip three different women, from about half my age to half my age plus 5 years, initiated conversations with me (not the other way around) and I ended up spending most of my time with any one of them and a couple of the guys. These women were all pleasant, pretty and a whole lot of fun!
Yes indeed there were four women in "my age group" present. One was a motor mouth with the voice of an exceptionally loud crow who never stopped her meaningless jabber even when most of us were trying to rest. Over a noisy bus engine and wind noise she could be disturbingly heard five rows forward. The second one was munching some form of junk food and crinkling its packaging almost all the time and was so fat she had to navigate the bus aisle sideways. The third was married and the "problem person" for the tour guide. The fourth was the "shopper" for whom we usually had to hold the bus beyond its scheduled boarding time at the end of rest stops.
And people ask why men over 40 talk to young women! | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 5/14/2007 3:17:30 PM | | Men think that having a younger woman will make them go back in age...cause they seem to have this mental-menopausal thing not wanting to accept they have reached certain ages. Several friends of mine had problems with their men trying to act alot younger, getting fancy racy cars, or getting ears pierced, getting younger women..etc..etc.., When they hit 30..they go through this crisis, 40..another crisis, 50..another...haven't seen the 60's yet on any of them...lol But, when they get to where they can't "perform", or take care of the young ones financially...they get dumped..then they wise up eventually. :) | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 5/14/2007 10:03:30 PM |
I just returned from a singles group trip and had a wonderful time. The female to male ratio was 3 to 1 and a wide spectrum of ages was represented.
Details, my man, I need details. Don't hold back on us. What kind of trip was it? A cruise perhaps? What company? Where do I sign up? 
And to put my two cents in regarding the ops question. I was married to a lady 12 years younger than me and we lived together for 12 years. It is only natural for me to view younger ladies as my peers but I forget, sometimes, that they don't see it the same way. Deal with it. I have to.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 5/26/2007 7:54:05 PM | When I was about 40 I met a fine woman 13 years younger via a personal ad. We had two dates and she didn't go home. Well, 10 years later she did go home.
What's not to like? She was natural blonde, nice figure, good job, intelligent, had a BMW and kissed great. We had a good life for a long time. We traveled everywhere, China, Hong Kong, Hawaii, Key Largo, Bermuda, Cancun, road trips all over. Bought a beautiful home had parties, ran a business together. Much better relationship that I had had before (marriage). Best relationship I ever had. Yes it ended - but that is nothing new these days. So did my only marriage . . .
Joe | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 5/27/2007 10:27:54 AM | It's terrible, isn't it? How those awful men seek selfish pleasure with women. Yikes. What are we going to do?
"Certainly an older man is well spoken, has been around the world and learned some things--at least they're more well spoken than a clumsy youth (which I no doubt was). I didn't know I was trading my youth for feeding their egoes (as you prove by that excerpt above). I was loyal and dedicated to my man, I was the perfect submissive house helper. I was dependent emotionally. Did he marry me? OF COURSE NOT! But that is what I was in it for. I do not doubt that they were in the relationship to feel young--and to feel in control.
I recently dated a guy my age (actually 7 years older) who had "forgotten" | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/7/2009 7:18:23 PM | whats wrong with hitting on younger girls,, when i was 15 20 i was very attracted to older ladies,, and i wish they would have seduced on me at the time.
and in hindsigth i know i had many chanses with older ladies but i was to shy ,, i do regret i wasen`t more courageous..
I was young and dumb and full of cum,, women over 40 would go young and dumb but full of yum lol | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/8/2009 3:18:54 PM | There are a few reasons men will try to talk to women quite a bit youger than them.
Firstly, it is a bit of a hollywood stereotype... how many flicks have been made the past few years with a 40 something male and a 20 something female in a romantic storyline? - It's hollywood, so it must be true... right?
Secondly, age barriers are legitimately less strict than they were in past times. A couple years ago when I was 46 I dated a woemn who was 28 at the time for a while. The realtionship just sort of "happened" we came into contact a fair bit with one another due to our professional circles, would talk, laugh, have a good time... so we dated for a bit... It didn't quite work out, though we remain friends.... The age matter was actually rather irrelevant.
You clearly have an absolute right to date anybody of any age you choose, and others should respect that choice of age range you make, but I think just as out society has become vastly more tollerate on a wide range of issues (same sex relationship, interracial relationships, etc...) so too it is also more accepting and understanding of larger age differentials than have existed before as well.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/8/2009 3:52:43 PM | I only read the OP, but I'll turn this around. What is it about men 30- trying to talk to me....an older woman.
ITS' SEX DARLIN'! They want sex. No ifs, ands, or buts...(should probably be some kind of apostrophe in there some where....?) That truly is what it is. I went to the local bar/grill (well known franchise) today. Had a salad and a glass of wine at the bar and read the newspaper. Absolutely no other motives. Surprise! Was invited to a hot tub party with a bunch of young men, younger than my own children! Why, I may ask? Sex. Nothing more. Nothing less. Same double standard. They don't understand that a single woman alone at a bar is as uncomplicated as a single man at the same bar. Just looking for atmosphere and maybe conversation. Yeah....Ok....meet the right person, who knows? Doesn't happen often though. The point is however, that they are all looking for sex when older pursues younger, and younger pursues older. No contest. Its' a given. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/8/2009 6:34:26 PM | As long as they are decent human beings, you should be happy.
Unless you're having fantastic luck finding 20 year old guys who have it all together and don't have issues, you may wish you entertained the 40 plus gents when you had the chance...
However, as with all things in this life, regrets always come at the end.
Good luck.
my 2 cents.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/8/2009 11:52:49 PM | OP, I'm 59, and I've been "involved" with women as many as 28 years younger. In fact, I lived with a 31 year old for 8 months. I've also dated women very close to my age, and also had a 6 month "live with" with a woman in her late 40s.
For me, it really isn't about age, but about who I find attractive, interesting, sexually compatible, and where there is that hard to explain "spark".
That being said, having had several relationships with women 20+ years younger, the one thing that has been consistently true about those, it is that they resulted from the much younger woman making the initial contact. The vast majority of much younger women, will feel "Ewwwww, Yuck!", when "hit on" with random contact.
That's probably because, when guys are "newly single", writing to women who are much younger, is in pursuit of a "fantasy", based on "objectifying" much younger women. My experience has been that, women are all unique, regardless of age. I wouldn't want to be "involved", and don't find attractive, most women of any age. For all of us, it's that one in a thousand ( 1/10th of 1%) with whom something real and good is possible. I neither exclude, nor look for, age as a factor.
So, try to be understanding, that some men are going through an "age phase", and ignore them, if it's a turn off, as I do, when women contact me, who obviously ignore what I've clearly stated in my profile. Some people look at online profiles as a sort of "catalog", where they can simply "point and click" to find their ideal. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 3/9/2009 12:06:14 AM |
Why is it that on this website there seems to be an epidemic of 40+ men hitting on (trying to talk to) young women ? I am 25 and I get a least 2 messages everyday that are from men 40+ and quite a few IMs. Even when I put a age limit in my profile (22-32)...I still get so many? Any one else have this happen to them?
Epidemic? You sound like it's the plague.
Men find you desireable and wish to say 'hi' or get to know you. What the heck is wrong with that?
Older men rock.
 yup older men rock  | |
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