| Paying on Dates
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:25:28 PM |
Personally, I think I guy who expects the girl to pay for "her half" is a dead beat.
I guess it's all in how you look at it. I generally look at a girl who just automatically expects for me to pick up the tab as a dead beat.
I look at it like this. I don't believe in paying for someone else's time. I'm not renting them. I'm trying to get to know them. I'm not even sure if I like them yet. What kind of sense would it make to spend money on someone I might not even end up liking?
I guess that's also why I don't exactly "ask girls out." I just ask them if they want to go do something. It's not officially a date.
I have no problem with opening doors and pulling out chairs, though.
What a load of crap ladies, you have equal rights, pay and work its 2008. Only a woman who is a gold-digger will make you or expect you to pay. I mean if she wants to meet and get to know you as much as you do her, then WHY CANNOT SHE PAY 1/2??? We are equals I hope???
And then there's this. As long as the women expecting guys to pay do not align themselves with the cause of feminism, they are free to think however they want. But I've seen plenty who get up on their soap boxes about equal rights and then change their tune when it comes to dating. | |
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| Paying on Dates
Posted: 9/1/2008 6:19:52 PM | | I agree, some times everyone makes assumptions and yet, sometimes it isnt exactly easy to do the whole "whoever asks the other out pays" because sometimes....guys LIKE paying for girls. Then again, I usually do enough "it's my treat" stuff that if a guy says "hey, I'll pay" then I will let him, otherwise, unless noted, TELL the chick what you believe and dont believe as far as this issue goes. Props to everyone. | |
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| Paying on Dates
Posted: 9/2/2008 7:34:43 PM |
I have no problem with opening doors and pulling out chairs, though.
And why is that? Is it because you think that it makes you look good and doesn't cost any money? If you are such a strong believer in equality, than you should take terms with a woman... opening doors for each other or pulling each other chairs
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| Paying on Dates
Posted: 9/2/2008 8:02:46 PM | | If I ask a woman on a date of course I’ll pick up the check. If she asks to go someplace that costs more than I am offering to pay then I am very upfront about the cost being an issue. It doesn’t matter if it’s the first date or the tenth. One big key to dating and relationships in general is having clear boundaries and communicating when you feel they are being encroached. | |
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| Paying on Dates
Posted: 9/3/2008 12:54:20 AM |
And why is that? Is it because you think that it makes you look good and doesn't cost any money?
No, it's because I'm a polite person. I hold doors for everybody whether I'm attracted to them or not.
Thanks for the generalization, though. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 1:27:56 AM | I know this post is pretty old but I'd like to respond to it anyways.
I feel if its the first couple dates just getting to know each other then each person needs to be responsible for their own experiences and show their independence quality's from the start and if the relationship starts to grow then it isn't 50/50 and more, sometimes it will be 20/80 and sometimes 40/70, but knowing from the start that the other person can be independent shows you that when needed they can be there to pick up the slack. | |
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| Paying on Dates
Posted: 9/3/2008 1:50:18 AM | how odd i just found a thread exactly like this elsewhere... but yeah its just my humble opinion that any real man will treat his lady friend on a date.
guys are damn lucky to have women just as their company the least they can do is treat them! arg.. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2008 3:41:04 AM | If I go on a dinner date I always ask before we get in, are you paying or are we going halves. I've lived in Holland for 3 years and noone has ever gone "Dutch" on me on a date. British men however expect the woman to pay for herself, so it should be changed to going "British". If we're just having drinks I expect him to pay, but I still ask in advance to avoid uncomfortable purse reaching, I never drink more than 2-3 glasses of red wine, I want to get the most out of the sex on a first date because the chances are, there won't be a second one | |
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