| why do some feel need to cheat
Posted: 7/16/2006 10:14:32 AM | thanks my first husband ,,cheated on me too- i know the pain - and i refuse to cause that painon anyone else-- i beleive its all about the cheater..there will always be people willing to cheat with them or be cheating with themand beleive their lies.. so after reading most of this i beleive the problem exisit in the cheater- his/her self esteem or his/her situation that they try to justify it by..
i beleive leave before.. then the issue is you and them - not another person | |
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| why do some feel need to cheat
Posted: 7/21/2006 7:44:12 AM | | I've always wondered that myself. And the answer is obvious. the danger of being caught like a kid sneaking a cig or bored with what isn't really there anymore , or the grass is always greener, or just greedy for extra attention,or even just plain ignorance and or stupidity. It can happen after the first week or the tenth year. Either way you look at it, it's real dumb. If you feel like cheatin on your significant other then leave the relationship. and all you cheatin idiots out there that are married...... R emember your vows and what attracted you to the one you cheat on in the beginning. ignorance isn't always bliss | |
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| why do some feel need to cheat
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:15:04 AM | | Well here goes and this is just my story I cheated once and the why was just a sense of curiosity as up until that time I had only been with my S.O. for 10yrs and it wasn't even any fun as I felt so damn bad about it at the time and it falls in the top 10 list of stupid stuff I have done. now on the other side of the coin I probably would not have done it if I wasn't getting accused of it all the time anyway she was insanely jealous and that is what is what finished our marriage 8 yrs later as I couldn‘t leave the house to go to work somedays with out her thinking I was out cheating on her. | |
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| why do some feel need to cheat
Posted: 7/21/2006 8:22:14 AM | | Here is another question on the same topic why do women hit on married men when I was I got hit way more than happens now that I am single? | |
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| why do some feel need to cheat
Posted: 7/31/2006 1:06:21 PM | It's sad, but a lot of men are very insecure about themselves and need the extra validation. They want to know that women will always desire them long into the older years. What they do not understand is that being desired by a lot of women will not necessarily fulfill the need of security. And, I would love to make you drool.
Joe | |
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| why do some feel need to cheat
Posted: 7/31/2006 1:18:30 PM | | Amazing how some people try to rationalize or justify why they cheat! If they spent as much time trying to isolate the problem(sexless marriage,etc.) and fix it as they did in trying to find someone to cheat with them maybe their marriage/relationship wouldn't be a sham and a fake. People cheat because that is their CHARACTER. Many want adventure with security, some need reassurance from strangers that they are still sexy and desireable and yet others are addicted to instant gratification and the thrill of the hunt. And thay ALL have an excuse, a justification as to why it is somehow "OKAY" in "their" circumstances. Real LOVE, true love would stop you from cheating and make you want to fix the problem in your relationship. Obviously all the time, energy and thought focused on screwing around and finding others shows you dont really "love" your spouse. If you did you would be busting your ass trying to fix your relationship not destroy and isolate it further. | |
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