| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/24/2007 10:12:06 PM | THAT'S WHAT I'M SAYIN' JUST TELL UR LOVER THAT U FOUND SOMEONE ELSE, RATHER THAN HIDING IT & LETTING THEM FIND OUT LATER. I KNOW I'D RATHER WANT MY RELATIONSHIPS TO TURN OUT THAT WAY. I KNOW IF PEOPLE WOULD DO THAT RATHER THAN THE OTHER WAY, THERE WOULDN'T BE ALL OF THESE JERRY SPRINGER SHOW'S & MAURY SHOW'S, U R NOT THE FATHER.  | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/24/2007 11:48:25 PM | | Well, is there a difference if he's actively going after different women while he's with you, or are there women that are after him (i.e. "stealin' yo man! as they say) ?? | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/25/2007 12:52:11 AM | since being single, my mates sisters fella, brother, cousin, friend blah blah blah have all tried it on.... all are in relationships.
I'm beginning to think that yes, all men DO cheat or at least if they had the opportunity they would. | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:30:21 AM | I'm beginning to think that yes, all men DO cheat or at least if they had the opportunity they would.
I have to disagree with that statement, I've known men turn it down when it's been offerd because they are in a relationship, I've been in the pub and seen men turn a woman down flat telling them that they are in a relationship and are happy, as for why do men cheat, In my opinion, probably the same reason women do, they are not getting what they need at home. But in saying that, some men and women cheat because they can. I know of a couple, one he has cheated on her a quiet a few times, she always knows and doesn't do anything about it, but he isn't a bad bloke, he isn't happy and she knows he only stays with her because of the kids, everytime he has left she has used the kids as a weapon untill he goes back. So he continues to mess on her, she knows this, but as long as he is living at home she allows him to do it. | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/25/2007 3:45:05 AM | Julie wrote "I'm beginning to think that yes, all men DO cheat or at least if they had the opportunity they would."
Thanks, luv ya too.
Just because a lot of the men you know are creeps and jerks, doesn't mean all men are creeps and jerks. | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/25/2007 4:00:11 AM |
I have to disagree with that statement, I've known men turn it down when it's been offerd
yep me too, i know a barman who has turned quite a few women away since being in his 7 yr relationship, been told by his friends he never cheated, been told by him himself he never cheated.
soon as im came back on the market so to speak..he cornered me and told me how he had liked me for years.... i turned him away obviously because he was my best friends brother in law and because he was in a relationship. | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/25/2007 9:09:55 AM | | When the benefits of cheating outweigh the risks and consequences, cheating will occur. So, it's a combination of missing something within the current relationship, not caring about the relationship or being able to get away with cheating. | |
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| Why Cheat? Please answer.
Posted: 5/25/2007 1:13:57 PM | I wish there was a magic bullet answer for you, but unfortunately it's not that simple. Some folks cheat because they miss the thrill of the hunt. Some for spice and variety. Some cheat because they are totally unable to commit to a single person. Some do it for the danger. Most times it is because they are looking for something they cant get at home.
If you are in a serious relationship and you suspect your partner of cheating, try to examine their behavior for signs. They are there if you know what to look for. A couple of things that should arouse suspicion include:
1. Has your partner seemed short or frustrated with certain aspects of your relationship that remain unresolved?
2. Has your partner changed certain attributes or behaviors (somewhat drastically) as of late? (Personal style/Lifestyle/Etc.)
3. Has your partner been dismissive or smug about deep conversation? Have your conversations been reduced to basic small talk?
4. Has your partner been keeping distance as of late? (looking for more "alone" time, travelling a bit more than normal, going out with friends more often)
5. Have they been (repeatedly) asking you for something that you can't or wont accommodate?
If any of those are a yes perhaps you need to look and listen a bit closer to what they might be really saying.
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