| | do men want LT relationships with Bi-women?Page 2 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | I take your point but in my experience is of Bi people being [quite] promiscuous.
After leaving Uni I met up with a Bi crowd and my lasting memory is of multiple-partners and infidelity. A few even "married" but ALL those that stayed monogamous broke up after 1-2 years. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 7:09:59 AM | pyeinburnaby: I didn't know how else to word it! I am n'either curious or interested in following up on that kind of payback if the woman I was seeing cheated on me with another woman. The ultimate pay back would be I guess to go do/lick one of her ex girlfriends.
(these darn smart azzes that pick up on every little detail of error.....grrrrrr!!!! )
One view I could easily see men thinking about while dating a woman is bi is: "not only do I have to worry about her cheating on me with other men, but also with other women too". | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 1:05:44 PM | To Pablo : Just having a bit o'fun buddy...
However, on a more serious side though...when I am dating someone exclusively...I do not worry about her "cheating" on me...and yes I have had women cheat on me in the past. This -at least in my case- would not change just because the lady was BI. It is, as has been stated already, a matter of trust, which stems from what some have said, IE: communication etc.
I have dated BI women and would again, some were into the entire threesome thing, one was not. None of these ladies cheated on me however.
Each person is an individual and should be treated as such. If you (this is a generalization and not aimed at any "one" person - so rest easy) are bringing in fears of your partner cheating I would say that this is your personal baggage and should be dealt with prior to entering the relationship.
As for the comment about men and their fantasy of being with 2 women. This is true as I understand it, that it is the majority of men's number one fantasy.
However as anyone knows who has explored their fantasies - some are best left as fantasies...lol... cause the reality isn't always the vision one has in their "head" (excuse the pun). Sometimes the fantasy is best left to those professionals that one can rent in the backroom of the local video store.
As a side note... if anyone wants to really see some outstanding hypocrisy, "red-neck" backward thinking homophobia and downright judgemental attitudes...they should check out the "Dating a BI guy" thread... lmao. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 1:36:34 PM | Having the other partner set boundaries is not about jealousy, it's about not being cheated on.
If you're straight you're not bothered that your partner is straight..but that doesn't mean you want them to cheat on you? Right? | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 1:40:35 PM | well, let's see....for me, i would love to live with 2 bi women, just us 3 no others, we can play together, or the girls can play together, or i can play with one of them one on one, safe sex, always hot, no worrying of anyone cheating, cause it would be just us 3....as long as we 3 are loyal to eachother, trust, honesty...i think it would be amazing....2 girls and one guy, in love with eachother, devoted to eachother...so many diseases out there, and some are killers, once yah get it, your toast....3 incomes, cruises, site seeing, this would be so amazing....have our own place....the possibilities are endless....  | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 2:14:49 PM | I've gotta agree with some previous points in some respects - it's about loyalty and trust. One thing aside from that though isn't about trust or loyalty but in the security of knowing that you are giving your woman everything she wants.
The only insecurity I really had being in a relationship with a bi girl is that there is obviously something in the relationship that I can never give her. I don't have a woman's touch, a woman's thought process (hands off my shoes!) or woman's anatomy. So in that respect - I can never be everything she enjoys or perhaps needs. You've gotta be really secure in yourself to be able to ignore that - and I've gotta say, secure as I am in what I have to offer - I just can't ignore that as much as I've tried. So if I were to have a relationship with another bisexual woman - we would have to come to some agreement that satisfied that. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 6:51:07 AM | | I so totally agree with the majority here who simply say cheating is cheating and who you cheat with has no baring on the situation... I personally think being in a LT relationship with a bi lady would be awesome (in fact been there done that) it was fun to both be checking out the same chick walking by in the bar LOL ..if both parties are mature and secure in the relationship it can actually be a fabulous addition to your world of fantasies ..(that we all have) | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 8:43:41 AM |
I've gotta agree with some previous points in some respects - it's about loyalty and trust. One thing aside from that though isn't about trust or loyalty but in the security of knowing that you are giving your woman everything she wants.
The only insecurity I really had being in a relationship with a bi girl is that there is obviously something in the relationship that I can never give her. I don't have a woman's touch, a woman's thought process (hands off my shoes!) or woman's anatomy. So in that respect - I can never be everything she enjoys or perhaps needs. You've gotta be really secure in yourself to be able to ignore that - and I've gotta say, secure as I am in what I have to offer - I just can't ignore that as much as I've tried. So if I were to have a relationship with another bisexual woman - we would have to come to some agreement that satisfied that.
If you're in a relationship or planning on it, you shouldn't ignore this piece of information. In fact, from my experience, it's the single most important piece of information to have and behold.
The fact that a man cannot relate or even touch a woman the ways another woman would is not something to be intimidated by. Think of it as a learning process. Once you admit that you don't know it all, you're more open to acquiring more information. You still won't ever get that good, but you'll get a lot closer if you observe closely.
Another thing to keep in mind is, if you don't know enough to "compete" with a woman in this area, you will never be the monster you think you are and able to rock two or more women at the same time. If they tell you that you are, just thank them and know that they're lying.  | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 10:03:31 AM |
Maybe I am ignorant on the subject of "bi-", but in my opinion, you're straight or gay, bi to me seems that still trying to see what fits better
We all talk about appreciating people for what they are like on the "inside" and perhaps bisexuals see the "inside" better than anyone else and are attracted to personalities rather than the sexual equipment those personalities are wrapped in. Just a thought.
As far a bi person being more faithful or more promiscuous than anyone else, that just doesn't make any sense. I know a lot of straight men and women who cheat and have been very promiscuous, I wouldn't thus, draw the conclusion that every straight man and woman cheats and is promiscuous. People are individuals, bisexuals too. There will be good ones that are faithful and bad ones, who won't keep their pants on for anyone.
I can never be everything she enjoys or perhaps needs.
Good heavens, NO ONE is everything another person enjoys or needs. I don't care if you're straight, gay, bi or are into cows. You will always have differences, compromises and things that aren't all that compatible with your partner. If you have to be someone's absolutely perfect, ideal sexual partner, I think I know why you're single.
And why are the majority of people here thinking that a bi is going to be automatically interested in doing a 3some? Since when are "bisexual" and "swinger" are synonyms? | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 10:14:55 AM | And why are the majority of people here thinking that a bi is going to be automatically interested in doing a 3some? Since when are "bisexual" and "swinger" are synonyms?
You're right in thinking that a bisexual could be looking for an exclusive relationship, but from my experience, those people will tell people they are either straight or gay/lesbian. Otherwise, they're keeping their options open. Most that are open about it want potential partners to know they like both. To me, there's only two reasons for this. Either they know that some will find that attractive, or they haven't made up their mind which they prefer more. Either way, if they're looking for an exclusive relationship, neither of those reasons indicate that they have their stuff together.
In the end, it's all about communication. I would probably date a bisexual woman again, but I would probably be relieved if she said she wanted an exclusive relationship. There's just less to deal with that way. However, if she wants to keep her options open, I'd hear her out before making any definite decisions.
Besides, those that see the word "bisexual" and assume anything will (or should) be easy to read.
Oh yeah....one more thing.
A swinger is not necessarily bisexual. Swinging is when you swap partners. Straight couples who get off on seeing their partner with someone else are swingers. But yes, you can be a swinger and a bisexual. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 10:46:10 AM | It would stand up in the face of men who are looking for the ideal marriage scene. It would have to be a very mature male.
It would be silly for a man to be threatened by another woman. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 11:12:00 AM | Most "bi" chicks only do it for the attention it gets them from guys. It's like "Ooh, look at me, I'll kiss a girl. Aren't I hot?" *looks for the eyeroll smiley*
And as for "bi" guys...I think they're just a little scared to come out all the way. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 12:21:59 PM | | Those men just want to use her for that fantasy, it's pretty clear. The other question, is she a long-term prospects for a serious man? Yes, why not? Better yet, ask yourself, is a bi-man a long term prospect for you? | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 8:27:04 PM | I actually find that I am more attracted to bi women. This is not for the reason that you might think. I find that the struggle for them to find their non exclusionary identity lends them to being far more introspective and tolerant of others than either straight or gay women. They have to find their place in both worlds and at the same time, neither. I find them to be free thinkers and intellectually (generally) far more interesting.
Make any sense?
just my experience.
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| do men want LT relationships with Bi-women?
Posted: 9/29/2006 8:46:52 PM | Nope... no bi women...
One I was with is a great woman... but I just dont believe that a woman that lusts after other women .. really can truly be hot for her man...
A woman wired for a MAN... thats the way to go.. :) | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 8:54:12 PM | | Three is a crowd. Me and my best friend have dealt with bisexual women before, and that experience was in no way pleasant. I am old-fashioned in a way, and I only want to devote my heart to one woman, not two...and I would like to have that woman's heart devoted to me. No third party. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 9:47:03 PM | Just because she is attracted to other women does not in any way mean that she will have to SLEEP with them. In the same way as a woman that is attracted to men does not have to sleep with other men. So you WOULD be devoting your heart to only one.
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Posted: 9/29/2006 11:03:00 PM | You are right in saying that she wouldn't HAVE to sleep with other women, but they usually do.
Its no different when a woman sleeps with another guy, only I know she is bisexual, meaning now not only is there a chance she will sleep with a guy, but a woman too.
Its just my preference, I wouldn't be willing to try a long term relationship, or a relationship period. Friends...sure.
Like I said, from my own personal experiences, its not something I am willing to try again. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 11:43:44 PM | Okay, my gf is bi, so is "our" gf. In my case we (me and my primary gf) share our secondary gf. So yes 3somes happen, but my nose doesn't get out of joint nor her is any of us play separately................ Provided all of our primary relationships remain secure and unhurt because of this arrangement. But then again all four of us are very close and communication is never ever a problem and we all have the deepest respect for eachother as a person to start with.
So. yeah a young guy that hasn't experience all of this is going to be curious and eager to test the waters, but for someone like myself that it is nothing new for..... well my first priority is that everyone feels loved and comfortable, if the sex must stop to help with that then so be it, for me it is just gravy on the steak anyway. Despite what some say fidelity is easily possible, none of us wish to see any of the others hurt, so our actions are governed by this.I cannot physically provide for my mates desire for another woman, and she cannot split in two and feed most mens fantasy of multiple women at the same time, yet here we have each given the other an achievable way to fullfil these fantasies without negatively impacting our relationships. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2006 12:00:26 AM | | I'm bi, but I'm also monogamous, and if the subject arises, i make sure to beat the notion of there ever being a threesome out of a bf's head. So I've had meaningful relationships; the guys knew there was no chance of FFM stuff. Ever. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2006 3:14:28 AM | | Good for you Planet, as I stated in some othe rthread those likely to cheat with a woman many cheat with a man aswell. Too many peole seem intent on lumoing otrhers in groups based on sexuality, race and so on rather than on actions and beliefs. Glad you stick to yours .... good on you girl. | |
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| do men want LT relationships with Bi-women?
Posted: 9/30/2006 4:27:31 AM |
I'm just wondering if men look at bi-women as Long Term relationship
some do,, just a whole host of things to be worked out, and a very large amount of trust. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2006 10:46:37 AM | | I've only know two women who were bi and neither were attracted to me. But I did find both of them quite open and accepting of people with non-standard desires or behaviors. More tolerent than the rest of society in many ways. So yes, all other things being equal, I'd date and even marry a bi woman. | |
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