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Posted: 3/3/2005 10:22:53 AM | blackmanx,
Good post. I like staying positive, and its easier when evil can be avoided, from anyone.
I'm re-adding, www.mensactivism.org
Its a healthy site with little anger or meanness.
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Posted: 3/3/2005 10:59:33 AM | I didn't plan on posting on here but some of the things NoNameZero said really bug me. That's fine, that you have no respect for me or anyone who has been in a abusive relationship, your opinion means nothing because your smug righteousness is flawed by crude logic, I'm only posting to let others know that your naive on this subject. You think it's that easy to "walk away". What about after your already living together, how easy is it to walk away when her name is on the lease or title to your home. You said this:
"If they can convince you to stay you are clearly malleable, so why not use that to convince yourself that they smell funny, or live too far away, or aren't ambitious enough for you. Say it enough times and you can convince yourself, then leave for that reason...wow, i think i solved the whole problem right there. gold!"
Thanks Anthony Robbins for the positive affirmations, I like the one about convincing yourself that "they live too far away" do you mean too far away from your moms house where you live?
Once in a while you find someone who shares similar qualities, ideas and opinions with you and on top of that they may be "drop dead beautiful"; You think that you've found the "One" and become emotionally invested in that person. Next thing you know you're living together but spending the night on a buddy's couch whom you hardly know because your girlfriend has suddenly unleashed a hysterical rage over being molested as a child and secretly distrusts men, including you. I could elaborate but my point is; a deep psychosis, created by past conditioning, could be hiding inside your partner, and at first, you may fail to recognize the signs. I took pity on her and did my best to get her help, but it didn't work. I finally left, when I sold my house and bought a dependable vehicle that could get myself and my belongings the 2,200 mile journey back to my home town on the other side of the united states. It took months of preparation. Some people don't even have it that easy, some people have children to be concerned about. | |
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Posted: 3/3/2005 11:34:21 PM | | well thank you, you just got me all creeped out at 2:35 o'clock in the morning.but thanks anyway thats VERY usefull information. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2005 4:53:01 AM | YES!
You are right all the way Sweetkristine.My problem is or was i put down my foot and told the girl friend you have to stop this. After 15 years of this crap i had the guts to say you stop it or i'm gone,and will start to talk with other lady's ! Well its stop for how long i don't know?
Mental?verbal abuse is a bad feeling to go through!
i know first hand.She won't say you look good today,or what's what with the new clothes or that is way to tight on you!
Why do you put on cologne,are you trying to smell good for who another girl!
When you are in the customer service,you have to look some what good!It is a hard one to swallow. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2005 5:05:27 AM | pack up your sh*tand leave... Its not rocket science.
She attacks you physically. Its even playin fields in my book and a sock in the nose would probally do her good. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2005 5:26:08 AM | The truth is harsh... and needs to be said. Atleast im not playin some bs story that the majority of people do nowadays. I actually say things the way it is.
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Posted: 3/4/2005 5:33:43 AM | | Thanks for the helpfull info.99% of what you said applies to my life.It's good to know I'm not alone.My biggest problem is if her anger isn't aimed at me it's aimed at my boy.I could never leave without him.But God I'm tired.I guess I'll just keep saving till I can dissapear.kimball | |
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Posted: 3/5/2005 2:11:13 PM | Not really sure if it's legal to post to another thread ... noting how POF's censors have felt a need to test the weight of their hands lately. Think this (mine) post from "Ontario's sexist laws" thread really should be here too ... because it is one of the behaviours of an abusive person....
Posted by stormyc
Stop living in fear. You should knwo by the timeyou sleep with a woman, whether shes unstable enought to pull a stunt like that. Anyway, it's not like she'd have fun at the actual trial herself. Personally, i feel that while it might be a bit on the strong side - if this is indeed the case, which I doubt - it's not as if a woman is just going to cry "rape" for the hell of it!
Stormy: WARNING: Not always so.
Sorry ... but in cases where *a person (edit) has* been traumatized by the act ... every other thing in his/her daily life may seem perfectly normal. Human beings are most adept at hiding their demons deep inside. Magic ... music ... all seems right. Ever wonder why some "spin out" on their mates after the sex? Once pandora's box is opened ... there's no going back. Warning signs.... A "two thousand yard stare" (projecting) "acting", crying during the act, remorse ... just for starters.
Sometimes the humiliation of being dragged through the courts is a form of self-punishment ... or they get the attention they secretly want ... or it's a misguided threat to the real abuser. We're talking about some deep-rooted troubles here....
Suggest all check out the Incest Survivors Checklist....
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Posted: 3/5/2005 3:04:16 PM | Well here is one more thing,don't you hate when the g/f calls your cell to check up on you!
There big line is oh i just wanted to see how you were doing,sh*ti just left 1 hour ago. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 8:05:35 PM | NoName,
you have alot to learn!
I have been in that abusive scene, myself, and one of my neighbors abused her husband.
He was 6'3 and very much not a Wussey. At gatherings this woman played the sweet innocent charmer..
She was not that, she cut up her guy into pieces with a razor knife, one cut at a time.
She belittled him every chance she got..
another thing.. have you ever been taught anything? To learn something, it has to be done or said or shown many times for some people.
This is how abusive situations start.
Maybe you should take a course in respect, instead of name calling.
If you haven't been there, then keep your opinions to yourself.
Let's just hope you never become one of the many thousands that have been there, done that.
I am a survivor, comments like yours, are early warning RED flags. You, could very well be on your way to becoming an abuser..think about it.
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Posted: 3/6/2005 8:20:51 PM | ah again NoName,
what is the matter with you?
You obviously have no idea what abuse is!!!!!!!
No respect?? Who do you think you are???
You are a judgemental "little" and very shallow person.
I don't repect you either.
I am glad I don't know your Mother! HA!
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:49:10 AM | WOW!
Putting up with crap from a man is a hole new story!
It doesn't give woman the right to use this kind of stuff on men at all.
i hope you are not like this bluesbabe,please tell me you are not,it almost sounds like it,but i could be wrong.  | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 11:53:33 AM | I lived with one though she was more verbally abusive than physically.She would often try to goad me into hitting her so she could have me locked up.I never gave her that chance.When she started abusing the kids,that was the last straw.
Manx,if you want your cause to get the attention you want,you need to go to the media.You need to do the same things the women's and gay rights activists do.You need to have an a***nal of documentation to back up what you're saying complete with stats.Then you can start working with lawmakers and legislation to make a more gender neutral system. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 12:04:38 PM | Alright i'm going to go out on the limb here and say abuse of a man by a woman is alot less traumatic then the other way around
I wouldn't say less but different.Like you say,if a guy is being abused,what's he going to do?He can't hit back,because if he does,she can say he is the abuser,she can go to a shelter,take the kids and lie all day about what a monster this guy is and basically ruin his life.How is that less traumatic.Maybe less physical,but if going home is like walking on eggshells and you lose your job because of having to deal with the wife's mental issues,it's going to be every bit as traumatic as if she beat you over the head with a cast iron frying pan.
My ex never tried anything physical on me but in the 12 years I spent with her,I suffered major cluter headaches.They were debilitating,often times I would have to come in from work,put ice on my head and lay in the dark for several hours until I got relief.No medication worked.Several months after she left I noticed I didn't get those headaches anymore.
I remember I met a guy in my gym who had a similar situation he looked me in the eye and said,"No matter what you do.Medication or no medication,counseling or no counseling.Your life will not be normal until she is out of the picture and the kids will be the ones who suffer the most."How is any of that less traumatic? | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 12:19:13 PM | Fight for your rights, men. It aint that hard. Drop the macho
act. Fight for your rights. Report the abuse done to you by
the females. Do what you have to. Fight dirty. Fight to win. THEY started this sh*t for us, not the other way around. Fight for your rights, dammit !!!!! | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 2:24:19 PM | Bluesbabe, my argumentative counterpart. What a paid we'd make if we
were to work together. It seems that I can bring out the best and worst in people. It's been fun. I gotta go now. Peace. | |
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Posted: 3/7/2005 2:30:02 PM | I think that Bluesbabe may have a point. I may have neglected my duties
as an MRA. Forgive me, I get....emotional sometimes. Here are the Places with information.
www.safe4all.org
www.standyourground.com
www.trueequality.com
www.mensactivism.org
www.dadsrights.org
www.mediaradar.org
www.batteredmenshelpline.org
www.abusedmen.com
www.itdoeshappen.org
www.mensolutions.org
www.everyman.org
www.mesacanada.com
Good luck, MEN !!!! | |
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Posted: 3/8/2005 1:42:10 PM | Blackmanx, there will always be trouble in the world. Dont sacrifice your life for this. Be with Wendy and be happy. Forget about the "men's revolution" thing.
It's just not worth your life. life is short. you could die tomorrow. or your
girl could catch cancer. enjoy everyday. forget about world issues. they
will be still world issues when you are long dead. peace. | |
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