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Why do some women stay in abusive relationships? Posted: 6/18/2008 6:51:00 PM
It's an addiction to drama. Emotional programming. And co-dependency Are you serious?? Women that are in abusive relationships don't stay in them because they are additcted to drama, emotionally programed or co-dependant... They stay in them because they fear for their life, and quite often they fear for their childs life as well. I stayed in an abusive relationship, because the first time I tried leaving I had been married for a year and I was 3 months pregnant, and when he promised to get counselling, I thought ok... I owe it to my marriage... I owe it to my unborn child to try again... As soon as we got in the car to drive home, he looked at me... and with a large sly smile on his face, said, if you ever try and leave again, I'll slit your throat. The abuse continued, although never physically again, it turned to financial, emotional, and phsyocological. Before I left I was convinced (after him telling me how incapable I was at being a parent) and that my child really didn't need me... that is the kind of thing that rocks your very being. It got to the point I would BEG him to hit me... that way I would at least have proof for the cops that yes I was being abused. I tried going to the police a number of times, they were nice enough to say it was my word against his word... even when they could see the red marks on my neck from when he had held me up against the wall by my throat... luckily the neighbours heard my screams that time, called the cops, and threathened to break the door in if he didn't open it.. What got me out?? He threatened to take my child to another country... I remember crying trying to figure out how I could fight him (his parents are wealthy)... And I remember my daughter who was 2 at the time, taking me out of the room, leading me away from his yelling and abusive talk, she sat me down looked in my eyes, and wiped my tears... I prayed to God that night... to keep us safe... The next morning, we left to get my daughter a hair cut... and we never looked back... we left with the clothes on our backs. I applaude all of the other brave souls (men & women both) who have gotten out and have stayed out... to those of you in abusive relationships... it's not too late... it's never to late to get out... get out and stay out... it's not worth staying.

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