| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 8/19/2006 9:13:24 AM | personaly, i have been with three women in an intimit way and only one was younger and that was the shortest relationship. i believe the younger women have less of an understanding of what they want and just want more of what they need. my track record speaks for its self; i just seem to be more atrackted to an older woman.
it might be because:
1. it was an older woman who intrduced me to the female bodies pleasures...
2. just that they seem to show more consideration for their partners feelings...
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3. they seen to be more careing and considerate lovers...
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4. all of the above...
right now i am 43 and i have two ladies i am talking to. one is a year younger (42) and the second is seven years older. guess witch one i have the closest relationship with at this moment... right, the 50 year old woman. the other has not been as long a contact though and could turn out to be the right one, i don't know yet. there is another in the wings and she is the oldest at 53. a few promising letters but she has not been at the site for 4 or 5 days. she could be out of town or just hidding out to see if i will still be interested when she does return. again, i don't know for sure so i can say what is going on in her life this day in time.
all i know is i am the type of man who takes the risk and willing to let the chips fall where they may.
as far as the nigerian thing, what a trip it is to have the first contact say your the one and i love you with all my heart. add me to your messenger so we can chat! then the first thing they do is ask for money because the doctor won't operate on her mother untill he is paid for the surgery! my responce was quick and painfull... find a new doctor and don't cantact me anymore! followed by them being blocked from any and all contact. ***climbs down off the soap box***  hope you all find the right one for you in your searches.
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 8/19/2006 12:23:32 PM | i dont kno why...but for sum reaon i am strongly atracted to older women...maybe its bcause im very mature for my age....i hear it constantly.....i have a great career and ive already had my own house...im only 22.....and also i think subconsciousally i want that "mother" figure.... i like to be tooken care of.....but i duno...maybe its just bcause i like older women.....so if any of u older owmen out there are intersted in a 22 year old with an amswome career and very hefty pension plan please contact me......
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| Better question: Why are so many men contacting MUCH younger Women?
Posted: 8/19/2006 7:39:21 PM | Let's turn those tables around for a minute. Why do men that are 20 some years older than me, constantly trying to hook up with me? Am I not good enough for someone my own (or close to) age?
I don't want a man in his 50's or 60's. I don't want to be dating someone who qualifies for AARP benefits. I also don't want to be dating someone that is closer to my mother's age than mine.
And to comment to finspot when he wrote that he is looking for a mother figure.... well, I can definitely tell you that I am NOT looking for another child - no matter how "settled" he is or even if he owns his own house. I have two children that I have to take care of. The last thing I want is a partner who needs to be taken care of. That's no fun, IMO. I'm sure there are ladies out there that are cool with it, but it's just not my cup of tea. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 8/27/2006 6:20:01 AM | Ladies...Let me tell yu that most men at one time have had the more mature fantasy. Men are turned on by a great looking sexy lady. Most of them have no baggage, kids at home. So if you don't want the younger man just be nice and tell them whatever you want. The urge at times is so strong that they will keep going on and on.
Myself, I have dated the more mature and enjoyed the company... | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 8/27/2006 7:02:34 AM | It's simple, "kids" think older women are easy, and they believe older women all want boy toys, and all the kids want is sex, and in that kind of relationship, there are no strings, demands, or expectations. Just,,,,,sex.
Hers's is the question, why do women search for 10 years younger, up to their own age, but will not go a few years past their own?
That is so shallow to me, I am cursed, I am a 48 year old guy in a 28 year olds body.
Women my own age search younger, and I rarely find an older woman that appeals to me, although some do exist. And I love the "I don't look my age or act my age". What is wrong with looking or acting you age? Just take care of you bodies!!!!! Work out,,,,,Lots! | |
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| Better question: Why are so many men contacting MUCH younger Women?
Posted: 8/27/2006 7:05:17 AM | | I won't contact a woman 10 years younger than me. As much as I would love to, I don't like the stigma attached to that, but physically and mentally, I don't know many women my age who can handle my energy, or youthfullness. I hang wonderfully with people 10 - 15 years younger than me. I am cursed! But on sites, i leave them alone, unless they contact me. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 8/30/2006 4:13:39 PM | | I have also been aproach by younger men. At first I thought it was flattering., but I thought about it more, If it is sex they want because we know better. Ok good for us. But in reality a woman body changes especially after having children I just cannot imagine an older woman's body and a younger man body together. Especially if they are so young they could be imature and talk to their friends about their date with the older women. I would not mind dating someone even 10 years younger but I don't think I could go beyond that. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/4/2006 2:25:22 PM | | now i'm 25 years old and i can honestly say that i have never dated a woman more than 8 years older than me. so my exposure to this is limited as will be my comments. i myself don't believe that age is a factor but on the same token i'm only 25 i would love to get married and most of the women my age and older are divorced which i don't feel as though i can tolerate so the age isn't the problem with me it's the lifestyle of choice that most older women have chosen. i'm not religous but i don't believe that divorce is a valid option to any of lifes problems. well i don't like him so i'm gonna leave him rather than figuring it out in the beginning. thats my input on the whole dating of older women thing it's kinda pointless but it's my opinion | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/4/2006 3:02:22 PM | | I just have to respond to slammed_aries comment. I'm divorced. Not something that I thought would happen. I didn't go into marriage with that intention. I'm actually divorced twice. My first marriage lasted 10 years, half of that in which he cheated. I'm sorry, but I'm not staying in a marriage with a cheater.I was only 19 when I married him and divorced by 29, so don't think it's limited to older women. My second marriage lasted nine years. He didn't cheat, but thought about it. We just wanted different things in life and probably shouldn't have gotten married to begin with. Again, not staying in a unhappy marriage. Are you willing to stay in a marriage in which you can't trust the other person? I don't know too many people who are. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/4/2006 3:11:15 PM | You are absolute riht. I have been e mailed for beautiful girls from........Siberia!!!! lol! that stated she really love me , she will be the perfect woman for me...blah! blah! blah! lol! a long etc.
I simply erase those e mails ....i think they are funny as jokes ....end of the story.lol! | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/4/2006 3:28:09 PM |
Are you willing to stay in a marriage in which you can't trust the other person? I don't know too many people who are.
my names adrian pleased to meet you. now you know one. speaking for myself i see it as a commitment between two people and granted trust is a part of any good relationship i believe that the commitment overshadows most everything else but obviously thats just my opinion but thats one thing that i try to avoid which is why i'm hesitant to dating older women. you can call it what you want stupidity or what not but thats just me it's how i turned out and how i hope my children will turn out | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/5/2006 5:46:47 PM | | Johnnyss is right on the money with his answer.......Woman for a moment want to feel young and beautiful and the boys want a quick piece of cheap @ss.....I say that bluntly because it is the real truth.....Why would a 24 year old have any interest in someone 40 years old other than for sex? And the 40 year old needs to understand that you are just being used. If you are ok with that so be it. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/5/2006 7:44:16 PM | | I HAVE A COMMENT IT MAY BE BLUNT BUT BLOCK THE KID....I NEARLY 50 YRS OLD...AND IT DOSENT TAKE A BRAIN SURGEON TO FIGURE OUT WHY YOUNGER GUYS ARE ATTRACTED TO OLDER WOMEN...I MYSELF NEVER DATED A YOOUNGER MAN ..NOR WILL I...I DONT EVEN CONSIDER IT FLATTERING WHAT SO EVER...I ACTUALLY GET ANNOYED WHEN YOUNGER MEN COME ON TO ME...I RAISED MY KIDS...THEY ARE GROWN ...I HAVE NO TOLERANCE FOR THAT...I BLOCK THEM IF THEY IM ME...AND IF IM OUT OH WELL I JUST TELL THEM BUZZ OFF...ANYWAY THATS ME...I LIKE MEN MY AGE OR OLDER...I ALSO WILL NOT DATE A MAN WHO IS SEPERATED...JUST OUT OF A RELTIONSHIP OR DIVORCE....TO MUCH DRAMA FOR ME..IM DIVORCED 11 YRS AND HAD 2 WONDERFUL RELATIONSHIPS LONG TERM THAT IS AND DATE CASUALLY NOW I AM NOT THE TYPE WHO NEEDS A MAN AT HER SIDE JUST FOR THE SAKE OF HAVING A MAN...WELL THATS THAT | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/6/2006 6:53:14 AM | After reading these your head must be spinning. First there has to be a great number of women on this site that would love to have your "problem". Personally, I feel that such is by far the greatest compliment given. What I would like to know is why it really bothers you. If I send you my profile and a note, why does youth bother you? Now is it that you are getting these from the cream of the male hormone crop? Are they being nice, suggestive or down right perverts?
Reading the comments to this forum makes me what to hand out honorary Psychology Degrees. I especially like the comment about them wanting mommies and their increased maturity levels.
This is where the issue really is. Age is the number years that has past since your birth. Nothing more, nothing less, HOWEVER, maturity is not synonmous with age, especially with men. Now before I get goofy threats, this has been proven in recent studies. It has been recommended that boys start school one year later than girls. Now what they lack, they may be seeking, or even better yet, what their former relationships had may have missed the boat on maturity.
To the comment about them wanting mommies, ah the old Freudian complex. This may be true to some but very few, and to those that it does apply, seek help, you do need Dr. Freud.
I believe that these men are asking for a mature relationship, UNLESS, they are bluntly asking for something else. I also believe that those men who have sent you their profiles with honorable intentions....Are providing you with the greatest compliment an older woman can receive. Even the waltzing hormones are providing you with a great compliment, it all comes to your own free will on how to respond.
To the lady who likes to play football in the mud at 42. I'm up for a game, but flag football, I bruise easy.(LOL)
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/6/2006 12:29:36 PM | I find that I seem to relate better to younger men. I've seen men of all ages who are downright immature, so it goes both ways. Based upon my experiences, some men in their 20's think that women who are 30+ are better in bed (not necessarily true, of course). It's that whole "Mrs. Robinson" thing! Many mature younger men also feel that women their age are too vacuous (and vice versa for those 20 something women who date older men).
But everyone has their own personal preference about who they want to date, based upon many different factors. So I agree with the poster who recommended changing your contact preferences. If the men don't like it, too bad. It's your life, and you know what makes you happpy. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/6/2006 1:41:44 PM | | At the age of 37 i'm divorced and all of the younger women that I have ever dated have turned out to be nut cases. I know that we shoud not judge people because of other people's actions but it's really hard when one is burned badly. I prefer to date older women because they don't play the head games that their younger counterpart seem to do. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/6/2006 2:12:41 PM | I also seem to relate better to younger men. But I keep the age difference to within 10 years.
I have children in their mid twenties and don't need guys of that age trying to date me. If there are women out there that do, good for them. Enjoy. It's just not my thing. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/6/2006 3:24:39 PM | Because you're experienced, mature, know what you like and not a silly little girl. The most anoying thing on the planet is a giggly, silly, stupid young girl that thinks my only purpose is to rescue her from her lack of self worth.
Older ladies only please. | |
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| Why so many younger men contacting older women??
Posted: 9/28/2006 4:48:11 AM | Speaken as a younger man, Some younger men are acutally alot more mature then others, and older women are more what they like,some are looking for a mother figure yes,some are looking for a new experence,yes.
But for me its the fact that an older women has gone threw life,and understands what there looking for, if I sent a message and they tell me im to young , I understand that and but becuse I message you doesnt mean Im looking to get into a realtionship with you, some people acutally are looking for conversation, and that where the older women comes into play, they are wiser, and can hold a better conversation. most dont want to talk about sex, but life itself. Some younger men like I said are mature for there age, and find that Females there age have nothing to talk about besides music/partying and the bar's.
to me that gets old,I want infomation that I can relate to,I like listening to others experences and learning from others. Someone once said "the differnce between a fool and a wiseman is, that a fool learns from his/her own mistake where the wiseman learns from others".
Im not saying ALL the youngermen who contact an older women are like myself, alot are M.I.L.F hunters, guys who like to brag to there buddies.But if you dont want to be messaged by younger men, why not use the fuction on this site that wont allow them to message you at all? eaither you dont know how to you, sub consensly you find it flattering.
I have dated a few older women and I have found that the realtionships where 100% better then most of the girls I have dated my age.(not all there are some very mature girls my age) and another thing is most girls my age has kids not just one but 2-3, and most younger men dont want that, to me it doesnt bother me (maybe its due to the fact I was raised by a single mother and understand the inner streght it takes for a single mother,and I find that just as attractive as the wisdom of an older female). but everyone is differnt and unless they post here, or you ask the youngermen who message you, you never know why they are. you can only guess at the reasons, and thoese guesses can be way off or right on.
To ever one is there own,so if the older women really want to know why younger men are contacting them ask them (I bet most here it has to do with your pictures or profile,just as doctor Phil has said on one of his shows last year).
P.S. Sorry for the Typo's but im sure you can read it, if not hmmm oh well.
Bceuse I Kwon erveoyne udnresnatds Tihs, and if I bet you read that as fluant as this sentence. | |
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