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Posted: 7/19/2006 3:45:49 PM | | i read your profile treeman and i dont understand how you can sit there and say that two parent kids are best . how could you even think like that ? are two parent kids better than your daughter ? i really hope you dont think like that .no kids are better than my kids . and i hope you think the same about yours . are you teaching your child that she would be better if she had two parents ? you need help. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 4:33:55 PM | Sly 84844,
Go over my long winded post...
The arguement is for STARTING a new birth child into this world with one parent on purpose..
Not single because the 1 parent is abusive,addict, molester,etc etc (Thats not what the thread is about)
Yes I am a single Dad and it is "better", because my X lives on the streets a herion addict, and hasn't seen her kids in a year(my daughter) and her sons (years)?????
Then there is parents that lost their spouse to death or such. You do the best you can.
However, Yes a child has a much much much better chance at life with ...........
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As I stated 2 "loving" (&) "caring" parents, not one.
Hope that clears it up for you.
Joe | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 5:21:20 PM | treeman...I want to argue just because I can. That whole thing was really annoying..your handsome your daughter is darling but I don't know for me that...whole post based on ????
"factual knowledge"(in my head doing the deep white guy voice) ;)
It was really annoying to me. Should have just posted some reference links rather then that.
I almost fell asleep.
Should edit..props to you for being a father and a daddy. Your children are blessed as well as your ex..we all choose our lives awesome for your children and you that you chose them. A lonely sad one for your ex..kharma. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 5:37:53 PM | | so your going to sit there and tell me your daughter would have a better chance with two caring parents insted of one ? your crazy . the chance your daughter has depends on you and you as a father . if you give your child a a good chance at life she will grow up to be just fine . you can do just as much for them your self as you can do with two parents. learn to braid hair go shopping and do girly things with them i did . talk to them about anything they want to talk about . i do . a child only has a good chance if you provide one for them . can you braid hair or do you know how to apply makeup when they want to dress up . i do all of this and a lot more . my kids do have two parents and there both me . | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 6:01:32 PM | Sly ...Uh ....YES.....,but,past first question you are preaching to the choir my man.
There is nothing I can't teach my daughter. I'm not going to boast here in the post, trust me she year(s) ahead of herself right now and we are together all but except when I am on job-sites.
Two things I think I am great at A good parent, and a hard worker.
By the why PINK the Jersey singer(Alicia Moore) was raised by a single dad.
However, those are the exceptions. Real statistic show that children do better in life when they have both loving/caring parents.
Not knocking the singles that "have" to play both parts,
What's CRAZY. is a world with all the negelected children.,that have NO parents (start with the 2 million plus in state foster care in the USA) , and all the troubled teens with no family support , and the OP speaks of a women not investing in these children, but to purposely bring a child here without a Father from day one.
OT: Hey Mermaid. Still got pics of the girls in their little red dresses. Sorry the post was boring, reposted from another thread where older women looking for sperm donor. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:05:32 PM | | well if i was capable of having another child i would but i cant so i wont . when my kids get a little older i will probly adopt a kid or two . i dont believe a person should go out and have a child just to have one . butt if sombody really deep down inside wants a child. i think if they are responsable enough then they have that right . there are a lot of single women out there that are having kids and alot of them do a very good job . there are alot of single father out there that do a great job too. what pisses me off is that you have a lot of women out there having children that dont even want them . i think people need to use more birth control . not all birth control is 100% butt most of it is 99% . i believe that would help with the unwanted children that are born everyday . i tell you whats sad . the beloit memorial high school in beloit wi had to open a daycare at the school becouse so many teens are having babies . this is the kind of stuff we need to worrie about not an adult having a baby that wants one | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:37:45 PM | treemanbdj....
your right i agree with you on your post and this is what i think....there is some things mother can NOT do for their son and some things a father can NOT do for their daughter i mean a girl/boy needs both parents, if not as a couple as a "family" who is apart but is there for one another in hard times DEALING with the children. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:39:19 PM | | Please tell me what I can't teach my sons because I don't have a penis. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:43:25 PM | none of us is saying a mom could NEVER teach their son everything but there will come a time in your sons life that he IS going to need his dad around even if you two are split and there is going come a time when your little girl IS going to, need her mom around.
it kind of gets old seeing women/men now days NOT wanting their kids/baby to have anything to do with their mom/dad just because yall as a couple could NOT make things work or because the mom/dad has, made mistakes in their lives.
and this is N.O.T. bashing/throwing stones at any single mom/dad on here......maybe you should enlighten who the post is POINTED towards "jenni". | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:45:39 PM | Ok so please tell me then at what point in my sons life will they need their fathers around because I can't handle it because I don't have a penis?
Edited to say it's OBVIOUSLY pointed at you seeing as I am directly under your. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 7:48:38 PM | You may feel that is selfish.......but maybe she wanted to have a child to love and raise. She may have felt that her clock was ticking and if she didn't have a baby now she'd never have one...... she can always find a man... but she may want him to be the RIGHT man!
I've had friends suggest I have a baby.........but I want the whole enchilada.......so maybe it's not in my cards! I do feel that kids need both parents.. but I'm not going to judge someone for following their heart. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:20:31 PM | *jenni*
Your READING to much into the post i posted if that comment was towards me but in my eyes there are babys/kids who DO need their dad around and apart of their lives especially if the babys dad loves them and wants to, be a part of their baby/kids life its sad how moms/dads are NOT allowed to be a part of their childs life because of other peoples selfish need's and this is NOT directed to anyone on this fourm or you!. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:23:40 PM | | i agree with jenni . tell us what we cant do. so i dont have boobs and jennie dont have a penus . omg jenni we better call our surgions and get boobs and a penus lol . some people need to quit reading so many books that are wrote by people who dont even have children . | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:27:19 PM | so am i wrong thinking a child or should say a little boy deserves to have his dad in his life if his dad is NOT a "deadbeat" dad and acturally does care about him?.....
lawrd yall people take things way to serious at times just because ONE doesn't agree with what some one else post or says does NOT mean that your situration/opion does NOT matter because it does, some people just have different siturations!  | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:29:44 PM | I really don't think I'm reading into anything. I'm just asking you to explain yourself and you keep contradicting what you're saying.
First you said...
there is some things mother can NOT do for their son and some things a father can NOT do for their daughter
Then I asked you what you meant and you said...
none of us is saying a mom could NEVER teach their son everything
Yes you did. Read the first quote from you.
but there will come a time in your sons life that he IS going to need his dad around even if you two are split and there is going come a time when your little girl IS going to, need her mom around.
So I asked you to explain yourself yet again. And you said...
but in my eyes there are babys/kids who DO need their dad around and apart of their lives especially if the babys dad loves them and wants to,
So if they do NEED their fathers (or mothers in other cases), it's obviously becuase that one parent can't provide something for them. I'd like to know what.
We NEED water to survive. We NEED love to thrive and grow. We NEED interaction with other people and animals to develope properly. What does a child NEED from a member of the same sex that the member of the opposite sex can't give them? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:31:58 PM | Excellent point costergal...Clock ticked for 2 decades and you haven't found that "right" man????
Might be a sign "it's not in my cards!"
Might have to kick back be the Adopt, do foster work, be the best Aunt, Girl Scout Leader, Sunday school teacher,Ski Instructer for kids....etc etc..
In the meanwhile, profile and pics look sweet. I think I got the whole enchilada and a 5 year head start on the baby deal.....lol Now can I send you a plane ticket??? Expedia is just a click away..
BDJ
Thats easy Jenni.....Two chances at an organ transplant, blood fusion, or other medical emergencies need it occur... Two biological doubles the chances..as well as the 2nd side of the family!!!
Do you all really want me to post a long list????
Hey guys, must of us here are great loving single parents, but lets not be so closed minded to thinking that 2 loving parents wouldn't be twice a good.
Look at your paycheck this week.....wouldn't 2 be better then 1???
Oops Jenni that was number two on the list...LOL Give ne the word I'll come back and post a dozen things that a child needs two parents instead of one to do... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:32:06 PM | I've thought about adopting which would make me a single dad. I see it as a contradictory act: selfish and selfless. Selfish because I want to be a dad. Selfless because I'm giving a child a home with lots of love and better opportunities that s/he may otherwise not have had. Okay, you can argue that maybe a better family might come along with two parents, but you cannot predict how things will play out -- could be worse, too. Plus, if I meet a woman then great. But why would I want to miss the chance to have kids just because I cannot find the right woman?
Tom | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:33:40 PM | *jenni*
It goes BOTH ways and yes there are things a mother (me/anyone else) can not do for their son and things a father can not do for their daughter without the other parent i just do not see why so many parents even around where im at think its BEST if a child/baby, grows up without a father/mother when the mother/father are GOOD people and loves their child/baby and does everything in the world for their baby.
Your trying make it seem like im against single moms wich i am NOT i just think single dads/dads have as much hard times/problems as us single moms/moms do! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:34:17 PM |
so am i wrong thinking a child or should say a little boy deserves to have his dad in his life if his dad is NOT a "deadbeat" dad and acturally does care about him?.....
That's not what you were saying...you were saying that a mom could not care properly for her son cause she's not a male and that a man could not care properly for his daughter because he's not female. That there's things they can't teach their opposite sex child.
There is nothing wrong with saying that a boy deserves to have his dad in his life is his dad is not a deadbeat but it's not a NECESSITY for that child to grow up happy and healthy especially if there is something wrong with that parent and he/she is not fit to be around the child. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:36:17 PM |
jenni*
It goes BOTH ways and yes there are things a mother (me/anyone else) can not do for their son and things a father can not do for their daughter without the other parent i just do not see why so many parents even around where im at think its BEST if a child/baby, grows up without a father/mother when the mother/father are GOOD people and loves their child/baby and does everything in the world for their baby.
You really need to read what I'm saying. WHAT is it that a mother or father can NOT do for their oppposite sex children. Good lord I've only asked you this a gazillion times already, in plain english, the WORDS are right there! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:38:29 PM | *jenni*
you have your views/thoughts on this and i have mine and they may not be the same views/thoughts but not everyones child father/mother is NOT wanting to have anything to do with their kids and its stupid to, go back N forth over something were obvious aint going to agree on/see things in the others views.
every single parent has a different situration and not all of us will do things the same way so lets just drop it because its pointless to go back N forth ranting at one another.
im NOT a hateful/bitter person and if my post's come off sounding that srry! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:39:45 PM | | No one said you were bitter...I've asked you a simple question about 5 times now and you're not answering it, why is that? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:42:30 PM |
agree with jenni . tell us what we cant do. so i dont have boobs and jennie dont have a penus . omg jenni we better call our surgions and get boobs and a penus lol . some people need to quit reading so many books that are wrote by people who dont even have children .
Well, I'm getting a breast reduction so maybe that will make me more manly and able to be a better parent to my sons.  | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:45:44 PM | "WHAT is it that a mother or father can NOT do for their oppposite sex children. "
Nothing.........a mother can teach their son about sex/protection/girls/give them love advice aswell as a father........can teach their daughters about the same thing im srry if i misunderstood your post, my mind was not working to well.
Im just saying and wondering how come so many people find it EASIER to seperate kids from their mother or father than it is to fix whatever problems they are haveing no child should be with a parent i guess not everybody, thinks/feels same way but ive seen to many kids whos been done this way haveing go without a mother/father who have came out in worse shape than they ever was in. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 8:49:03 PM | you said this TWICE
there are things a mother (me/anyone else) can not do for their son and things a father can not do for their daughter without the other parent
And you said this TWICE
Nothing.........a mother can teach their son about sex/protection/girls/give them love advice aswell as a father........can teach their daughters about the same thing
Which is it?
Edited to say, forget it, I give up. | |
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