| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/26/2008 9:13:46 AM | i don't let many people in~so when a man plays a game, it bothers me. i live a quiet life and don't understand why some men are just plain ole' headcases???????? if he likes you, then "be there" if not then say goodbye, "I don't like you"
What is sooooooooo hard about that? geeeeezzzeeee | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/30/2008 7:26:22 AM | listen woman do the same I dated some one nice for over 3 weeks the other night when saying good-bye othere things were saying hello  binka binka everything but the home run(she started it) of course im not going stop especially after 3 cosmos any way it happened she did 4 or 5 times me once and we could not wait for tomorrow for breakfast..she sent me a e mail saying that she wanted off match and did not want me to see here any more I didi talk to here and she said it was here not me. so she dissapeared and i got dumped for a vibrator Eric sorr if it sounds volger   | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/30/2008 8:00:29 AM | | Very wise words Survivor! I recently went thru this same ordeal myself. Thank God, I'm at a place in my life where my self esteem is good, and I knew I didn't do anything wrong. One of my ideas is, some people are serial daters. When you are online, there are always others emailing and contacting you. No matter how good a relationship is, some believe there just might be something better out there. Some have relationship fears also, or unfinished business or recovery from past relationships. Whatever the answer, I agree, you're better off without them. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/30/2008 10:17:44 AM | | Men disappear for one reason...so they can come back when they want to. If they give you a reason then they have lost that chance and if the grass ends up not being greener then they have Plan B...YOU! | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 2/10/2009 8:05:00 PM | | yeh they usually eventually call you but its usually just to get some more and then they disapear again. Thats when you dont answer anymore. Just let them go. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 2/10/2009 8:08:05 PM | | I agree, if you dont want the twenty questions atleast do it by e-mail or text and leave it at that. Its better than nothing and wondering especially when you like the person saying good bye but atleast you know to let it go and go on. Cause the guys sure dont like it when we try to contact them back. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 2/11/2009 2:12:43 AM | It is more of an ending if someone tells you directly, but someone's behaviour of not pursuing you is a message!
Judith | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 2/11/2009 7:17:04 AM | | Hard to say, but if I had to make a sensible guess it would be that the individual(and yes, both men and women should be included in this issue) doesn't have the nerve to speak up and be honest in their interest level. What's really sad is the person pulling the "Houdini" is somewhat placing the other person's lives on hold, for as long at that person will allow it....being up front and honest is the best route to take. Whether or not you care about the other person's feelings....it's a sign of respect to be up front with the person you're seeing(or no longer seeing, I guess). | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/1/2009 12:58:33 AM | Women do it too.
With that being said...probably they do it because they are still in the process of learning how their equipment works. Age is not an indication of sexual maturity.
Get to know the guy first....have him become emotionally dependent on you....then have sex.
Trust me, this will be a very very rare thing. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/1/2009 6:03:17 AM | kyloz has a very important truth though she didn't think of it I am sure. Everything in a relationship as she states it even is about what she wants ,what she gets, and love or relationships cannot be built on that. First off, love is not about what you get in a relationship it is about what you can give of yourself to one another [and it takes both sides]. Any man can in short order see from how a woman acts if it's all about her or if it's about them, and if it's about them usually dissapear shortly if she is that way.
truthfully though, it's hard to find a woman who can talk openly with a man without her making it about what she wants and what she expects. Thats a simple truth in our society and probably a hugew reason we have the highest divorce rate in the world today. Now thats not saying there aren't men out there just like that, but as a man speaking of what I have spoken tyo and thats females. So no offence ladies really.
The other thing one see's is that their are always alteriral motives for why a woman does something. It seems they say they want love and so forth but in reality they want some guy to control, a sugar daddy so forth or so on. If a guy approached you ladies that way how long would you even talk to him [1 second}.men are no differen't.
Now I don't mind once settled as a couple if a woman takes control of what she is good at in a relationship. Weather it be the banking orwhat you do for Christmas.My self just wish I could talk to a woman that wasn't afraid of a true relationship and wasn't all about herself and what she gets and wants | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/23/2009 10:38:27 PM | | I admit. I'm a stinker. I did it once. No ballz on my part. Karma will come back to me twice over I'm sure and kick me in the arse. I really don't think he was that into me tho . It has been done to me in the past. **sigh** | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/24/2009 8:49:15 AM | | I think what it comes down to is that they need to change what they are looking for to intimate encounter. I am sure there are women on this site who are looking for intimate encounters also. I say, change your status and find each other. Leave those of us who are really looking for more to find it. Why lie? Why waste our time and energy? I just don't get it. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/24/2009 8:54:21 AM | | you don't seem to have a very good view of women. Some of us only want truth and honesty and do not have ulterior motives. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/24/2009 10:41:33 AM | Some men/woman do this some of the time "Not all" they do it because they know they can get away with it. If you have their details and you want closure in your own way. Contact them and question why...if not its just a case of putting it down to experience and move on.
If it were me I wouldnt waste another thought on them.
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| It's not just men who disappear. Women disappear too, especially women you meet online :(
Posted: 3/24/2009 10:57:10 AM | | I was dating a woman from Plenty of Fish for a couple months, and the only day she has contacted me during the past TWO weeks was after I intiated the conversation, and that was because I rarely ever heard from her. That text conversation was on March 16th (over a week ago). At that point, I was convinced that she is seeing someone else. For every women on these dating sites, there are probably at least 10 men competing for her. If you meet a woman online, and you haven't heard from her in over a week (or not more that a couple times in two weeks), then she is seeing someone else and she just doesn't want you to know about it. This is true ESPECIALLY if she removed her profile from Plenty of Fish, because this means that she has her select group of men to date, and she doesn't want any more men contacting her. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/24/2009 1:17:36 PM | Because they can. It's not that the man has done a specific disappearing act on you, it's just that he's moved on to something new, somebody new, someplace new, which occupies his time and his mind! He's someplace happy, with somebody new, while you're sitting, talking to your girlfriends, wondering..."why has he done this disappearing act"?
Take a look at this interview with comedian Steve Harvey, author of "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man..." (Mr. Harvey was a guest on the Oprah Winfrey Show, 3/23/09)
Steve Harvey Answers Relationship Questions
After a few dates, some guys just stop returning calls and texts. Even if they aren't interested, don't they want closure?
Steve has a simple answer to this question…no. "Ladies, you're not going to get closure from a man," he says. "We don't do closure. And you know why? Because we don't even know you're having an issue. We're stupid."
If you're hoping for a courtesy call, Steve says you can forget about that too. "We're not courteous. Listen, it's not in our DNA as great communicators anyway," he says. "See women keep waiting on closure. Bring it on. If you want closure, close. Move on with your life."
So, that's just one guy's opinion, but from what I've experienced, this assessment is absolutely correct. Men do not close...they don't call...they don't explain that it's over. They just move on. When that happens, women have got to have renewed strength to do the same, thereby monitoring, and creating the "closure" in our own lives! So now... I feel this way... To heck with a guy doing a disappearing act! If that happened to me...when he did decide to ever re-appear, he wouldn't be able to find me! I would not answer the phone, the door, or any of his stupid e-mails! | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 3/24/2009 1:25:00 PM | ~OT~ I don't get the whole obsession with "closure" personally. He/she doesn't respond? Isn't that closure? We get dumped (for what we think is: no apparent reason.) Isn't that closure? It's over ~ that's closure. At least in my mind.
Why do men do the diappearing act?
Because people today are disposable and expendable. Men AND women live behind a wall of anonymity (texts, cell phones, internet) where real emotions such as empathy and kindness mean very little. Sad as that is? It is. JMO  | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/4/2009 12:04:12 AM | | kitten purrs should learn that karma isn't what you'll get back two fold. When you act on darma darma destroys your karma setting a new path. The big thing then is what you missed out on and secondly how much darma will interfear ion your hopes and dreams when they come | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/4/2009 9:47:10 AM | It's not worth giving head space to.
Whatever the reason, you shrug your shoulders, clean house and move on. Or you waste precious time and energy obsessing or ruminating on an unproductive pursuit. Your choice. | |
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