dwf44
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Joined: 3/21/2009
Msg: 476 | |
| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/4/2009 10:49:45 AM | simple...its just easier ...no one likes a nasty confrontation
I would have to disagree with this. You could end things by text or email to avoid a potential confronation or the why not questions. If the other person keeps trying to contact you after you have told them that you're not interested, then block or ignore them. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:26:38 PM | | Maybe they think you'll try to convince them to give you a chance. I think that's why some women suddenly stop writing. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/4/2009 1:48:53 PM | | my god think you have been chatting to sameguy i have making plans and not turning up dont understand this a quick message is all it takes to say they changed there mind not too much too ask its very hurtful and not nice | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/5/2009 7:55:47 AM | The better question is why do people ( both men and women ) do the disappearing act. The majority of women that I have talked to on internet dating sites have either
1) done the disappearing act
2) ignored me for 1-2 weeks. Then tell me that they aren't interested. By then, I had already moved on. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/5/2009 1:52:56 PM | | Okay ladies.. STAY AWAY from Ferris in Stafford... 'immature and incontinent' is a nice description. He is looking for a size 2, non-black woman (and let's not forget the 38DD bra-size) who is needy enough to put up with his washed-up, tore-up knees wanna-be football player with turf-burn keloids scars... Help him put on his diapers..!!! | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/5/2009 8:58:48 PM | | Don't call me a traitor, men....Maybe some men do it because they don't have the emotional maturity to deal with a situation where so many, "feelings." are going to be involved. He can't come over to your house and say, "This relationship's not working out anymore, I'm gone." Not unless you responded, "Well, that sucks," and immediately forgotten about the guy, because you were popping open a beer. If it went like that, guys could handle it. But, heavy emotional interaction, accusations and recriminations, explanations, guilt and tears? In the modern age of communications it's too easy not to man up and talk it out. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/6/2009 9:00:08 AM |
Don't call me a traitor, men....Maybe some men do it because they don't have the emotional maturity to deal with a situation where so many, "feelings." are going to be involved. He can't come over to your house and say, "This relationship's not working out anymore, I'm gone." Not unless you responded, "Well, that sucks," and immediately forgotten about the guy, because you were popping open a beer. If it went like that, guys could handle it. But, heavy emotional interaction, accusations and recriminations, explanations, guilt and tears? In the modern age of communications it's too easy not to man up and talk it out.
EXACTLY. In other words, cowardice. Too selfishly concerned with making things easy on their own ass to have any consideration for the other person. This is not how adults should act. Especially 'men' who like to pride themselves on being strong. Emotionally men tend to be the weaker sex, and while I understand this, it really gets old having to deal with an adult as if they were a child. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/6/2009 3:24:16 PM | | i think its because they find someone else they are interested in. i had someone do this to me. we went out had a good time and had possible plans on another day and i was too tired that night from work and i had told him that night might not work because of work and when i told him i just wanted to go home and not out, he disappeared until about a month ago and asked me what happened and why i never got back to him...clearly things did not work out with the other woman he was interested in. i have also found that people on dating sites are more flighty in that they disappear. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 4/6/2009 3:52:48 PM | | I tried dating someone my own age. After a couple of dates, things were a little shaky. See, being a widower and a single parent, I feel the need to plan probably 70-80% of my life since it reduces stress and provides for stability. She on the other hand was a free spirit and in one email, suggested that there were medications for those that planned too much. Needless to say that email pretty much closed the book on my wants to communicate/date that lady any further so I dropped it. Now that I look back on things, I wonder if that email was her dropping me .... lol | |
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ceoil
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Joined: 6/12/2009
Msg: 488 | |
| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/4/2009 10:55:48 PM | a) he was only mindplaying you to get a thrill out of it
b) he found something easier, more goodlooking or whatever reason it could be
c) you scared him away
d) he doesn't think you want the same thing
Just a few reasons I could think of... | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/5/2009 5:15:43 AM | | I have just had this happen to me by this girl. we dated on wednesday and never heard from her for a few days and was too much of a coward to tell me face to face! | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/15/2009 3:49:46 PM |
will somebody tell me what a bunnyboiler is ?????? Is it like a****tease?
A bunny boiler is like from the movie Fatal Attraction, Glenn Close boiled a bunny to get Michael Douglas's attention
(I WON'T BE IGNORED DAN!!) | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 10/31/2009 10:37:44 PM | | they may have cold feet, want to be alone or putting the woman on the back burner in case the front burner gal does not work out! | |
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| Why do men do the disappearing act?
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:40:37 AM | | A bunnyboiler is an obsessive female stalker who can't take "no" for an answer. (See Fatal Attraction starring Glen Close). Ciao Juz, or should I call you BB? :) | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/1/2009 12:46:04 PM | I think that, as in all generalizations, this is a dangerous comment to make. If the original poster here has the belief system that all men are the same (in some negative way), she will draw that negative type of men to her. She is making a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Beware of generalizations. If someone was a particular race and you said everyone of that race was the same, you would rightly be accused of racist beliefs.
Treat people as individuals, each one unique and different, and you will get a more positive response from others.
Judith | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/2/2009 9:33:07 AM | | It really is amazing how people (men and women) can do disappearing acts. I had that happen to me not all that long ago. We went out a few times (no, there was no sex LOL), and we seemed to a great connection and common interests. After our last date, I received a text from him that by no means implied that he didn't want to see me again. So I went along thinking that we would and sent him a text a few days later with no response, left him a voice mail the next day with no response. So WTF? My only conclusion is that the guy is a coward or he decided to put me in the OPTION column if another woman doesn't work out. I don't care now, but it was a little bewildering when it happened. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 11/2/2009 1:15:19 PM | | They are either not feelin' it anymore or found someone else, and are too much of a coward to tell you to your face. Just say good riddance. I understand people lose interest- I have too, but someone should just be honest and tell the other person what's going on. Not really nice to just disappear. | |
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