| Confident But Ugly Men
Posted: 3/21/2008 3:24:33 PM |
Women won't sleep with someone they aren't physically attracted to.
Neither will men - and BTW - WHY would either gender want to? Isn't that sort of the point of sexual attraction (the "attraction" part)? What exactly is your point with this brilliant discovery?
If she won't date me she is a waste of my time I don't need her to hangout or talk with me. I already have friends for that. Id rather cut my losses and move on.
So you don't talk to any women who won't date you at all? That's a nice attitude. Women wouldn't smell this coming off of you by any chance would they?
I do understand moving on if a woman's not attracted to you tho, in the sense that you should stay in the game and meet women who ARE attracted to you - your chances are better in dating those, obviously. No different than the rest of us. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 3:37:51 PM |
exactly 'how' much does confidence help
Example.
I didn't have much confidence in the interview I was going to with the company I am with. They were another "internet resource" blah blah blah. I figured I'd take the time and money they were going to use on me in training to find a "real job".
Breezed through first interview because I didn't give a shyte.
Same with second.
By the third I'm starting to think... DAYUM I think they actually like me...
By the fourth, the president, who I now never see, is quizzing me.
My job is not difficult. But those corporate monkeys made me jump hoops and take it seriously — and I had NO effin doubt I knew more than they did. Before I started day one they had me remembering why I have the references I do.
And now I take my skills seriously but work lazy enough to live by beach and park 3 years later.
exactly 'how' much does confidence help
You figure it out. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2008 10:48:41 PM | !!! LET ME JUST PIONT OUT ---
THIS POST HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR ALMOST 2 YEARS.
2 YEARS!!!!!
ARE YOU KIDDING ME?
~ HERE'S THE DEAL ~
--- WHEN IT COMES TO LOOKS OF MEN. THAT'S ONE OF THE SMALLEST CONSIDERATIONS WOMEN TALLY UP IN A GUY. ---
--- WHEN IT COMES TO LOOKS OF WOMEN. THAT'S ONE OF THE BIGGEST CONSIDERATIONS MEN TALLY UP IN A GAL. ---
Seriously, guys have it easy in that department. All a man has to show is a sense of Authority. Just be a man. She's programmed by nature to respond accordingly. Woman is submissive to the almighty manhood, Mother Nature has provided. Trust me, I know.
Now granted, I definitely consider myself sexy, along with the countless set of women I've been accustomed to. People tend to see me as attractive. Overall when I'm in a setting, I feel pretty confident that I hold my own pretty well. I don't really care about that though. What it boils down to is compatibility and aim.
I've dated and sexed beautiful and basic women. I've never had a basic looking girlfriend though. They've both been head turners. It's funny though, there's something that really gets me going about basic women. I like something flawed. It just seems more real to me. Maybe a bigger nose, or weird shaped ears, or just some of their facial expressions. There's something in me that just gravitates towards the basic. Especially in the sex department.
So called, "Higher Attractive Women", seemed to have not turned the hott switch on with me. I'd just rather look at them, or have them seen at an event with me of some sort. That's not it, but it's sort like that...
Anyways... The Final words are... Men, don't listen to what comes out of a Woman's mouth. Most of the time, she doesn't know what she wants. She's attracted to the opposite of what she usually says. Just make her feel an overwhelming sense of attraction and you'll get her doing all types of unthinkables to be in your presence. You'd be that heavenly drug. Make her always need/want a fix. It's a balancing act.
And when you do sex her, make sure you lay pipe right every single time!
She just needs to feel. Don't have her think. She wants to feel. She'd rather be mad at your than indifferent. Have her hate you, before she is indifferent. She needs to feel. It's her life line.
I don't care how you're feeling. You could have just worked 93 hours in a row without a break. You could be recovering from a 39 car pile up, it doesn't matter. LAY PIPE right every single time damn it!
That's this guy's advice. It's worked for me. It is working for me. It will keep working for me. It's a mathematical equation. 1+1 will always be 2.
Lady's... FEEDBACK!
TELL EM' IT'S TRUE!! | |
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| Confident But Ugly Men
Posted: 3/22/2008 2:58:28 AM | YES. if a man has balls, he has everything.
confidence is sexy. if not fake of course, which kills it after the first 30 seconds.
and even if i still didn't like mhim enough, i'd respect him for sure. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 6:03:49 AM | | I agree with Vamp, a physical attraction is just the nature of things, always ask my self if i saw her in public somewhere would I approach her, and conversly would she?? a must have thing, | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 9:05:06 AM | Match-me,
I see you are 26, and I do believe that sometimes your stuff works with young women, or women with not much confidence. But I know, for myself, now that I am older, if a man ticks me off, I don`t care how he looks, what he says, or how he "Lays his pipe" (I Love that expression- new one for me) I`m out of there.
Life is to short and too sweet to put up with alot of crap. I don`t need to be plumbed that bad, to put up with much. Theres alot of plumbers willing to lay pipe for most women. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 10:32:03 AM | No matter what a person says... maybe you don't have to be a model, but if you don't have some kind of physical attraction the relationship it will never get past the friendship stage. JMO
And what's wrong with having more friends? That sounds really self-centred that if you don't meet the love of your life there is no room for someone you enjoy talking to? I never understood that on here. If you don't have room for more friends.. how can you have room in your life for a relationship? | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 6:56:40 PM |
No matter what a person says... maybe you don't have to be a model, but if you don't have some kind of physical attraction the relationship it will never get past the friendship stage. JMO
And what's wrong with having more friends? That sounds really self-centred that if you don't meet the love of your life there is no room for someone you enjoy talking to? I never understood that on here. If you don't have room for more friends.. how can you have room in your life for a relationship?
There is nothing wrong with having friends, but if every woman that is your friend is someone that just found you unattractive and who you yourself was attracted to (at least at one point) that will just be hard on your confidence and self-esteem and make you feel not good enough. Who wants to hang around someone who they know thinks they are ugly? | |
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| Confident But Ugly Men
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:00:19 PM |
WHEN IT COMES TO LOOKS OF MEN. THAT'S ONE OF THE SMALLEST CONSIDERATIONS WOMEN TALLY UP IN A GUY.
After my tenure on this and other dating sites, I must say that's a load of bull. Women check out guys' pictures here every bit as much as the guys check theirs out. And I dare say the women are one hell of a lot pickier. | |
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| Confident But Ugly Men
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:03:17 PM |
And what's wrong with having more friends? That sounds really self-centred that if you don't meet the love of your life there is no room for someone you enjoy talking to?
You know what, I tried being "just friends" with a woman I was in love with, and lemme tell ya, I will never, ever, ever do anything like that again. Yeah, I enjoyed talking to her, but every time I was with her I felt like I wanted to take a fork and stab myself repeatedly.
Never again. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 7:25:00 PM | A certain amount of confidence makes any person better looking, whether male or female. However, I find that over-confidence seems to take away from anyone's appearance.
There's a fine line between too much and just right...
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Posted: 3/22/2008 9:39:37 PM | | You know what... I'm starting to think that maybe I need to just give up. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2008 9:53:13 PM | "Neither will men - and BTW - WHY would either gender want to? Isn't that sort of the point of sexual attraction (the "attraction" part)? What exactly is your point with this brilliant discovery?"
my point was confidence doesn't help if the woman isn't physically attracted to you read the original post sherlock.
"So you don't talk to any women who won't date you at all? That's a nice attitude. Women wouldn't smell this coming off of you by any chance would they?"
if she's not interested in me romantically or sexually she's a waste of my time. I do talk to girls who wouldn't date me BTW I'm just not a sucker for this "let's just be friends" crap I don't have time to be some drama queen's shoulder to cry on when she is having problems with Mr Bad boy.
"I do understand moving on if a woman's not attracted to you tho, in the sense that you should stay in the game and meet women who ARE attracted to you - your chances are better in dating those, obviously. No different than the rest of us."
NOOOO really!!!! What exactly is your point with this "brilliant discovery?" | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 12:39:49 PM | There is nothing wrong with having friends, but if every woman that is your friend is someone that just found you unattractive and who you yourself was attracted to (at least at one point) that will just be hard on your confidence and self-esteem and make you feel not good enough. Who wants to hang around someone who they know thinks they are ugly?
A woman who's not attracted to you doesn't necessarily have to find you ugly - shes...um....just not attracted to you. One has nothing to do with the other. I've met a lot of men over the years that were handsome, but I wasn't attracted to.
You know what, I tried being "just friends" with a woman I was in love with, and lemme tell ya, I will never, ever, ever do anything like that again. Yeah, I enjoyed talking to her, but every time I was with her I felt like I wanted to take a fork and stab myself repeatedly.
How did you come to be in love with a woman you never dated or were friends with in the first place? Just curious. I've never been in love with anyone I didn't know long enough to be friends with or date (outside of a distant crush, which isn't exactly love).
my point was confidence doesn't help if the woman isn't physically attracted to you read the original post sherlock.
Of course it doesn't - unless you're saying confidence DOES help if a woman IS physically attracted to you, in which case I can see there being some profoundness to it. If however your point is not to be confident at all because it doesn't change attraction, then that's sort of negative, but hey whatever gets you thru the day. Typically people should be confident regardless of what's going on - not to get points.
if she's not interested in me romantically or sexually she's a waste of my time. I do talk to girls who wouldn't date me BTW I'm just not a sucker for this "let's just be friends" crap I don't have time to be some drama queen's shoulder to cry on when she is having problems with Mr Bad boy.
Again sounds like doing something only if it benefits you, but I'm sure that's not what you're saying. How about just being a friendly person in general, no matter what the outcome (to you) is? Too much effort?
NOOOO really!!!! What exactly is your point with this "brilliant discovery?"
My point was that I agreed with you - nice job with the kneejerk response, tho. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 2:31:16 PM | | i'm also visual. Confidence will help you but if i can't be physically attracted to you there just isn't the same connection... | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 3:46:54 PM |
How did you come to be in love with a woman you never dated or were friends with in the first place? Just curious.
Long, painful story that I'd rather not get into. Let's just say that I really didn't want to fall for her, but I did despite myself. | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 3:51:41 PM |
And when you do sex her, make sure you lay pipe right every single time!
Something to be said about a truly romantic Renaissance man...........soooooooooooo HOT.
:eyeroll:
She just needs to feel. Don't have her think. She wants to feel. She'd rather be mad at your than indifferent. Have her hate you, before she is indifferent. She needs to feel. It's her life line.
Someone hold me back please? I really cannot afford to be banned AGAIN already!
I don't care how you're feeling. You could have just worked 93 hours in a row without a break. You could be recovering from a 39 car pile up, it doesn't matter. LAY PIPE right every single time damn it!
Now this might be the one truly meaningful thing to come out of this human beings fingertips....
Especially if you are laying SEWER pipe...... | |
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Posted: 3/23/2008 8:45:51 PM | I wouldnt say ugly. I knew a guy that was 290 pounds and stood 5' 8" and was an AC repair guy. This guy slept with beautiful, gorgeous women because he was confident and loveable and sexual all rolled into one. I know a girl that was very very beautiful and dated a guy that looked like Shrek. Thing is that women become attracted to many things. You can overcome looks. Its one thing if you are online or at a club. It becomes harder in those situations. At work or with friends or the other regulars that come in to your local whole in the wall you can express yourself and use your charisma to express yourself as a more rounded individual.
Looks help and to say otherwise is stupid, but I have seen first hand the things that confidence, sexuality, a powerful presence, sense of humor, or friendliness can overcome. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:51:54 PM | STARUHA -
TOO BAD YOU'RE ALL THE WAY IN WASHINGTON. I'D SHOW YOU WHAT A NEW AGE RENAISSANCE MAN DOES IN HIS SPARE TIME.
AS STATED PREVIOUSLY, DON'T LISTEN TO THAT WOMAN, JUST
"LAY PIPE!"
I LOVE THE MATURE WOMEN THOUGH. 36-47
UGLY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT.
I'VE HAD WOMEN STATE THEY'VE NEVER HAVE SEX WITH ME, FOR WHATEVER REASON & 3 WEEKS LATER, WE'RE BREAKING VASES IN HER BEDROOM.
LISTEN TO THIS KIDD FELLAS'
DON'T GIVE UP, JUST SHAPE UP.
EXCERCISE - 
EAT RIGHT - 
GET A NEW WARDROBE - 
FIRE YOUR BOSS -
"THEN, GO LAY PIPE!" 
" PROPERLY THAT IS!"
SHE SHOULD BE LOOKING SOMETHING LIKE THIS -- 
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Posted: 3/27/2008 5:16:44 PM | 99% Of women would go for the better looking man whether they were confident or not. I mentioned this before,its not what your perception of yourself is (Cool,confident,witty etc) but how you are seen by the person you are trying to attract,which in this case would be "Ugly".
I know I'm bound to get a lot of flack for saying this,but I know from experience that 99% of women won't even give you the time of day,let alone find out about your inner qualities if you don't "look" the part.
Sad but true | |
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Posted: 3/27/2008 10:33:19 PM | Sexiness is relative. I've known a few genetically superior males (physical and intellectual) who had not one once of sex appeal in them. Yes, they were good looking, but they were flat. Conversely, I've known some less-than-attractive men, who were sexy.
It boils down to one's attitude.
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Posted: 3/27/2008 11:01:48 PM | well, from my own experience it is all about attitude. The truth is that sites like these ones really close up your world, and also the view you have of the other sex. I've been gone for a few months now, and in those months I began to just learn more about life. I've learned that it is not all about looks, heck no. It is more about having the actual idea of what the hell you are going to talk about, when you meet a new lady or guy. Heck, once in a bar I saw this beautiful native American lady, the one thing that got me to talk to her is to ask her what nationality she was, she replied with a nice smile and said her nationality. In the end, we just were talking for half an hour, and I pointed out my own mix roots. It was a nice chat, I also ended up getting her phone number as well. I made a new friend, and one that seems to be interesting to talk to. I do not care anymore about trying to find a chick to go out with or trying to find a date, even using this site is just boring now. I much rather go out to a museum and talk to a few people about what I see on a painting, then to get mad over something as dumb as saying that women are picky and what not.
We all are picky, we all have a certain amount of trades, we have to be attracted to, in order to connect.
well, that's what i've learned, after being gone for a while now from this site.
Also!!! op, just stay away from sites like these ones. They do harm people more than they help. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2008 2:05:40 AM | | Your not ugly its just you think you are.Hell someone asked me a few years back if I believed in the loch ness monster.I said no I used to date her.Hmmmm | |
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