| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 3:50:40 AM | Uncle enrico, I agree with you 100%. How oral sex can be treated in such a light-hearted, casual way now, I'll never understand. I guess it's a generational thing.
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 4:07:21 AM | girl your exactly like me (full on high sex drive) it aint our fault!! men just feel a little intimidated cos we now when we get horny we want sum ****in pleasure who care if its on the first date you have to give them a test drive before you bye lol dont worry that sex maniac is out there.......waitin xxx
luvsa shortie keep it up girl xxx | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 4:38:27 AM | You're right about it being a generational thing, Ninki.
I don't have much of a memory of it either in high school or college. It wasn't a "mass movement." None of the presidents were known to like it.
Now it's like it's good for the environment.
I still don't get how it's not really sex. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 12:38:23 PM |
men just feel a little intimidated cos we now when we get horny we want sum ****in pleasure who care if its on the first date you have to give them a test drive before you bye lol
^^^An example of "then" vs. "now". The younger generation has convinced themselves that self respect is no longer needed. If you say it to yourself enough times, you will begin to believe it.
Check out the posters profile and pics. Shocking last week, normal today.
I think we should cut out the next couple steps of regress and just start having orgies right in the streets. Heck we are all horny, why not? We can do whatever we want, right? Just as long as we don't go crying on the forums in guilt the next day. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:42:14 PM | | trust me when i said i know what you are going through i been there it's not easy i have done the same thing and after you beat yourself up mostly when they don't call back but that easy you just say to hell with them it's the one that do call again you don't want push to fast and you feel like you can't slow down but it can work out i guess i'm saying follow your heart | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:56:10 PM | No.
Is intercourse on the first date a killer?
Not unless you do it very wrong.
Don't buy into society's rules that sex is wrong or dirty.
Unfortunately, you have to buy into the rule that it's wrong in public.
You are different than a male, but you are human.
Do you think guys enjoy the stimulation any less than you?
Would it be more wrong for them to eat you out on the first date?
Live with passion, or suppress your passion and hope you get to use it another day.. ( but it doesn't work this way)
The most important thing for you to figure out right now, is what you want in a man.
Alternatively; keep a cucumber warm in your pocket and excuse yourself for a snack when the mood arises. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 3:22:32 PM | Hi there....
There is always a wrong and a right....there has to be logically speaking.
In the modern world we live in, sex is no longer an act between two people that genuinly love one another....sometimes it is just a sexual need. But there are lots of women, myself included, who have made mistakes.
Men can seperate sex and love.....women tend to give sex because deep inside they want to be loved and want a lasting relationship. But love has no way of growing if you don't give it chance. Love has to grow slowly.....no-one can love straight away....people who say they love someone straight away are in love with the idea of being in love and feel strong physical desire which seems like love....but loving with the heart and mind is something else, it takes time. You have to pretend it's like a seed you plant, you give it a bit of water, not too much because too much water will drown it.....too much sun will dry it out.....do you see what I mean......too much too soon puts an incredible amount of pressure on a person.
Honest.....this is a question I have heard women ask tons of times. If a man is GENUINE then he will wait. If he doesn't then you must value yourself enough to walk away. Please do try this, because if you do then it will make you feel special and you will attract the right kind of guys. If a guy tries to get you drunk or get you alone watching a movie in his house then you should learn to recognize the fact he probably has an ulterior motive.
If you give sex to a guy before you know he is genuine then you have lost him. Guys have to fall in love emotionally with a girl first. It rarely works when a realtionship starts off with sex.....you will find that if you do the same thing again, then the relationship will probably fizzle out. The same situations keep on happening to people UNTIL they learn the lesson!
Also......listen to your gut feeling about what you are doing as that is your higher-self warning you in advance! That little voice inside of you is always right!!
Take care sweety and may you meet someone wonderful who will love you genuinly as you deserve xx | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 4:26:32 PM | | I'm not mad at you girl....It is a known fact that women reach their sexual peak between 28 and 40.Nature will prevail...ailways.Plus It sure is fun...... | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 4:53:01 PM | Sluts are awesome.
I have no qualms about being intimate with someone early on, not to say it is the standard course of action, but if desire is strong I don't feel it necessary to "hold out" just so I can build up some illustrious false image of purity and virtue. I've never had a guy lose interest in me simply because things got sexual right from the start.
Probably because things have only gone that route when the connection was deep, energy flowed, and there was a profound attraction other than just physical. That is to say, I've had sexual encounters on the first date, but never a one night stand, the guys have always wanted to pursue it further. A certain level of mutual respect and draw between the two involved is prerequisite | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 5:16:54 PM | if your interested in someone u better show it or they will just move along to the next.
any sort of sex on the first date (if u really got the hots for the person) is the way to go. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 7/19/2006 6:29:46 PM | see... there's nothing we can tell you that you haven't already told yourself. you know all the answers and you know what you are doing is wrong. It's wrong because it makes you feel like sh*t afterwards.
so again. nothing we can say to you besides what you already know. when you get tired of feeling like sh*t after all your dates, you'll start wanting to be respected a lot more than wanting to be  ...
when you're ready... you'll know what to do, in the meantime I hope you are having safe sex so that you don't spoil your life forever.
good luck. | |
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| Hey, revive this thread, it's killer!
Posted: 11/22/2006 9:34:04 AM | A guy once said to me why would I go on a date if all I am looking for is sex, I could just go to the bar and bring a girl home.
also why would he want another date he already got what he wanted.
so for me I think its better not to do it on a first date but I have no issues with other people doing it sometimes I wish I could be like that. | |
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| Hey, revive this thread, it's killer!
Posted: 11/22/2006 10:39:20 AM | | Msg 66...Why assume she 'got religion' or 'felt like sh** afterwards"? Perhaps she got what she wanted and didn't want anything else but a one-night-stand? Or perhaps when her number came up she was just looking for another warm body that was available? Or perhaps she didn't enjoy herself and figured why repeat it? As for the 'swallowing', perhaps you should simply enjoy that some stranger even 'gave head' in the first place...especially if the guy doesn't reciprocate. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 11/22/2006 4:55:41 PM | | Nah, it happens. As long as there is mutual respect, take it for what it was. You had fun, he had fun.... so move forward, weather it works or not. I have taken things pathetically slow before, and also done the opposite, it only matters as much as you make it matter.... | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 11/24/2006 9:04:59 PM | | YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, YES, | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 11/24/2006 9:36:29 PM | basicaly no i suppose inthe states where aids and stds are rampant i would say that an sort of conduct in volving intimate contact is a risk in australia we have less of these sort of problems
basicaly mutual mastebation is something ive never done in australia we either have itercoures
or we kiss each other good nite or shake hands or say get ****ed we live in a different society than yours but i will say mutual masterbation is totaly disatisfieing and you would probably
feel less satisfaction and dississpointment than watching a good class
y porno and you would probably regret doing it than not having done it and if you are going to pick up strays off these sites then you as they are looking for intimant encounters and it was hypocritical of you to be miffed that bozo the clown was on the sniff yet you were sniffing around for another sexual encounter if you are going to surf the adult contact lines then if you have had a sexual encounter then this is the nature of the beaste if you cant handle the fact that everyone is cruising for encounters including your self then you had better join a cristiam fellow ship group in your area because if you had of been out with me i would have thrown a condom on my rooster and had intercourse instead of this mutual jacking off
thats what we call in australia heavy petting thats what my 16 yr old daughter would do with her boyfriend in the back of a car or in the bushes go find a nice man and have sex or bi sexua find a lgirlfriend have dont play kid games
i think that you are a****teaser that wont put out and the reason bozo or bozos look is because you dont **** and untill you do the guys are going to llook else where i most certainly would if you insisted on only on onwanking any way i only blow vaginaly or analy not by pulling my rooster even oraly so i definantly would look else where and untill you accept if a
man or women doesnt have intercourse then theyn will look else where so yes mutual masterbation will not be a very good out come proves you dont putt out and your****teaser
get alife find somebody sincerly adrian tarr ps if you **** youll be happier | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 11/24/2006 10:30:01 PM | Yes it is... and you already knew that.
But the little oral sex thing is not what worries me about your post. It is the apparent (please if I am wrong forgive me) lack of confidence that you exhibit, even when you sound like a modern "sexually liberated" woman, you seem like someone who needs more friends.
Oral sex, (even actual intercourse) will not secure a relationship.
Nope, you are not a slut bag. If a man does this, it wouldn't be an issue. But, I do agree with your decision to take your profile down. Have a fresh start. Many would think that it is "dishonest" but in this environment... How many people are?
Some of the comments/suggestions are basic but great. Do not go into people's houses and don't open your door to a stranger.
Please, take care of yourself. Ok? | |
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