| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 10:29:45 AM | This thread is hilarious....
First Date:
Oral (both ways I gather)
Mutual Masturbation
Surprised you didn't call someone up for a three-way .....
Wow!......I used to take forever to get up the nerve to hold hands with any girl in High School 
You two will be legends by the time you really get down to business...  | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 10:54:51 AM |
It’s hard enough having to kiss a $hitload of frogs before you find a prince 
As we get mature not only this kind of ^^^^ kissing is getting more difficult but thinking about THE ONE, let oral sex on the first date ... seems to be a "real" Fata Morgana | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 12:39:16 PM | | It's not a totally bad thing as long as the chemistry is there and it's mutual. I can understand where you are coming from about kissing and the hormones taking over. I myself was raised by good parents and would truely enjoy finding the partner of my dreams. The problem is, finding the right person who is not just trying to ad another notch to the bed post and then off they go. Believe me, women can be just as bad if not worse than men at this. When I was bartending, I watched many, many single and married women come in, scout the place and leave with different men on a routine basis. During deer season, when all their so called significant others were out at deer camp was a special time for them. You are not a bad person by any means for letting this happen. I'm sure that there has been many instances where two people meet playing the hard to get game and never talk to each other again. Each of them think the other was not interested for some reason and they move on not knowing they may have been very compatible. Unfortunantly, it's a sex them, leave them world to most and the internet provides a large nest of victims. I have been saddened my share of time's by the same thing that you are encountering. If I was to meet someone and we hit it off very well, I would stress the fact right then, that both should remove their internet ads. I have been told a few times by the opposite sex, that they only have friends of the opposite sex and that they are just plain friends. When I ask if they are all homosexual men, the response is, no they are not. Being the man that I am and knowing how the lower brain thinks, I know these men are patiently waiting for the right moment when the female has drank too much, or any other possible chance to mount the woman, then most likely to never be heard of again. For starters, heterosexual men prefer to hang out with their buddies playing poker, fishing, watching football ect...Either the women that have told me they have all men friends, do not understand that these heterosexual men want in their pants or these women think that I have an IQ of -22 and they are just wanting to add me to their man harem. There is the right one for us out there somewhere and don't let this get you down. Remember that we only live one life and even the short term adventures can make the body feel good as long as it's safe. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 12:42:32 PM | ^ scientific fact......the length of the post in in direct corralation to the similarity of the topic to the username....it's a fact!
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 12:56:19 PM | Oral sex on a first date now in my opinion it does not get any more intimate than that  The woman would have to move me in a certain way for me to go down on her  after just meeting her
It has only happen maybe two or three times in my entire life (me going muff diving on a first date  ) One of the times that was all I did was eat her out and she came real quick a very silent and intense orgasms 
Having my tongue on her milky white skin and her beautiful tasting pink yssup was all I needed to becum satisfied  She was even surprised that I didn't insist on intercourse that very first encounter  It was so good
Butt every time after I just couldn't resist myself any longer and oral sex kind of took a back seat to our sexual escapades 
Couldn't figure it out for the life of me and it didn't last long either  but life is too short to box with doG so NEXT  | |
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ladycs
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 1:13:55 PM | Didn't read ALL the posts on this, so if it hasn't been written before:
In direct answer to your question: YES, oral sex on the first date can literally KILL you if it leads to AIDs. Any of you young people have a clue what that is, how it can kill you in myriad, horrible ways? Look into it.
Oh, and for the uninitiated, how about getting a current AIDs test, see if you might already be a victim.
Please, people, become aware, become educated on STDs and AIDs. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 4:59:02 PM | I think this whole subject is a trick to get people to chat. Apparently 7618 of you saw the title ORAL SEX and went to it like a shark on a blood trail!!! Okay, I fell for it too, I guess everyone likes oral. Hmm.... maybe they should post a lesson and techniques column.
No- its not a killer unless you get a disease and die, although possible, probably unlikely, more likely to get a disease that will just make you have sores.
If the person and you actually had something that clicked then you may see them again, although sex right off the bat takes away alot of the mystery and interest, unless you are a really cool, deep person that can keep em guessing. Bottom line is what you did is over, stop being upset and learn from it. Like my Ma always said, "if you wouldnt want it on the front page of the newspaper, then dont do it". Ofcourse that was after she had robbed that bank. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 5:25:11 PM | I am sorry that you have gone to oral sex many times as you suggest. I am old enough to have screwed up many times myself, and have been with many women that have done the same. I can for sure tell you that once you have done something sexually, and actually anything. That once you have that it becomes a part of you that you can't ever rid yourself of!!! All you can do is try your best to control that part of you... But here is where it gets really difficult: do you tell a potential new man about your past and weekness, or do you leave that part out? I can tell you from experience and experience knowing many that choose that road, that the truth always comes out at some point!! Then you are faced with lieing, being a slut, etc.
My suggestion is to be truthful right up fron't when the time comes, avoid oral sex and intercourse until that time comes. Then hopefully he will have just as much of a shaded past as you do and won't have a problem with yours!!!
Otherwise, please keep doing as you have in the past and engauge in oral sex on the first, second, or third date. We men that love women like you have been sure do love what you do!!!!~!~~!!!!
I know this seems harsh, I don't mean for it to be, but that is how it really is. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 5:55:10 PM | "I did not have sex with this woman" Bill Clinton.
You need therapy, you dont know what you want , you love sex but you dont want it but you really want it... You're just too loose and where's your dignity? On the first date? wow!!!!
How far apart do we leave? You can call me in case of emergency.
Seriously, STDs and AIDs are real! and the numbers are alarming!!!! People that have them don't look sicks. I dont know but I would not exchange sex with any disease.
STDs and AIDs are hardly in the news front page, people hear about it but know very little about it.
I am not sure if there is a law that prosecutes anyone for spreading disease knowingly and if the culprit can medically be traced. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 7:55:11 PM | You know how girls always complain that guys don't call them after the first date? Well, I'm willing to bet those are the girls who don't give head on the first date either. Whoooo BOY I'm glad I'm here just for friends!!!
For the record, DRUNKnLAZY, any guy who doesn't call me afterwards because I didn't service him is DOING ME A FAVOUR...
SingleinFlorida:
I feel for your struggle, and I welcome you to message me if you want to talk more directly.
Take care,
M~H
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 8:04:16 PM | Oh and I didn't think me eating her out on the first date was what killed the relationship or doomed it It was just that even though she was a luscious creature our bodies were awkwardly uncompatible Now that's happened to me on a couple of occassions the lady was no doubt beautiful butt was a little out of shape kept losing her breath, couldn't stay in positions for too long and plain old got tired 
It's all good as long as you are feeling it nothing i could think of wood make oral sex on the first date wrong unless of course its stanky  then i wood excuse myself and use the bathroom wondow as an exit  or just tell her HEY BABY YOU STINK | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/26/2006 8:15:50 PM | It's pretty ignorant that some people here are making light of the OP's upset. She doesn't feel nice about herself in this situation, and a few responders are egging her on as if it's the greatest news for them.
If she wants to try conducting herself in a way that boosts her dignity and increase her chances of meeting men who want HER, not just sex for its own sake, it's just rude (even jokingly) to seek her for a 'good time'. She needs some constructive guidance, not lewd solicitation.
(even if this a hoax, only to prompt talking, the principle is the same: trying to get kicks out of someone else's regrets is wrong.) | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/27/2006 12:48:30 PM | First of all,,,,,Bill Clinton said it is not sex, and he should know,,,secondly, as someone said earlier,,just have coffee, and dont go to your house the first date, it is harder when your younger to learn the things you dont like in a person, as you get older you get turned off quicker,( for me anyway) thats why you dont have sex on the first date, you might get to know this guy and think he is a creep, atleast make a 3 date rule, tell the person that right off, ask questions that mean something, like about his parents, his ex's, his kids how he treats them, dicsiplines them and so on, does he turn the t.v off and spend time with the homework with his kids? does he tell them to go to there room so he can remain self absorbed in himself,,there are lots of clues to find out what make this person click,,you are skipping all of them.
O,K back to Bill Clinton, He got himself in a lot of hot water trying to convinse someone oral sex is not sex,,you might to. Just care for your self a little more, its a good habit to get into. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/27/2006 12:52:35 PM | don't go back to his place
and don't go back to yours... unless you are alone!
go for an afternoon date that is coffee and a bookshop (if you like that kind of thing)
Starbucks are not exactly known for thier comfy chairs then you have an excuse to go meet the girls after...
now if this guy called you up and wanted to go out again would this change the way that you felt?
I have had sex on the first date and it was AWESOME... and sometimes not so AWESOME!
so once you are finished beating up on yourself... move on, live and learn... and hey what you doing tonight?
come on that is kind of funny right?
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:11:07 PM | I wouldn't even think about sex on the first date.
And I'd probably want to know a woman for awhile before even thinking about oral sex. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/28/2006 12:20:40 PM | | Hey, I love oral sex, love giving and receiving. If the woman is willing and ready so am I. We are all sexual just some of us more than others, I love sex anytime anywhere, I live in Crestview, fl, if your a lady who wants to be eaten and loves to climax, I am on here just e-mail me. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/28/2006 7:48:59 PM | I only think about sex on a first maybe a few million times subconciously of course and it's never about the lady I happen to be with
Now if I am thinking about sex and that particular lady then I know she wood be the one the true one  | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 12/28/2006 11:22:40 PM | Unprotected sex on the first date. You folks seem to think that oral sex is not going to spread STDs and HIV, along with plethora of noxious viral infections.
Ever hear of the Darwin Awards?
Mutual masterbation. Jesus H Christ. Who in the hell came up with that brainy idea as surrogate intimacy? Coupled with oral sex, you may as well just phuck and get it over with - certainly, little is left to be explored in upcoming dates. No wonder the OP pissed on about her first dates rarely making it to the second date - her 'strangers with benefits' method of speed dating is unlikely to be confused with actual dating for romantic purpose.
*scratching head*
The premise behind this thread is nutso. It reads like a bad porn script. | |
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:37:19 AM | okay .... read through many of the posts - some judgemental, some not, yadda, yadda, yadda ....
Unhealthy Shame, Judgement, condemnation, BLAME, do nothing but confuse and hurt any situation, they do more harm than good. Forgiveness is key!
You, me, everyone here is a work in progress, and we all learn on our own personal, individual curve. I personally can relate to your encounter and your guilt, and expecially the sex drive! etc. Maybe you need to figure out what it is you are really looking for before you date. I know I do, and I am making adjustments all the time.
Most importantly of all FORGIVE. Learn to forgive yourself, and learn from each experience. It's not always easy to do.
Remember, you can never control what someone else will think, do or say, therefore, get to KNOW YOURSELF better. Remember that you are only human, and in being human you're (we all are) going to make mistakes. Take everything in and make the decisions for yourself, stand be hind them and be responsible for your own actions.
It's okay to say NO. It's okay to say yes too. It's not good or bad, it is what it is - notice that - ... Set a goal for yourself and what you want, then work towards it. Your parents morals are not YOUR morals unless you choose to abide by them for yourself. Was it a "bad" thing? You decide, then move on and don't do it again to the best of your ability, or .... do do it again if you so desire and can live with yourself.
You owe it to yourself to learn and grow from each experience, to make adjustments for the next time. Choose for yourself, no matter what circumstance you find yourself in. If you make a mistake, forgive and move onward, press toward your goal. If you fall, get back up, keep pushing and you'll get there!
~VG
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looger
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| Is oral sex on the first date a killer?
Posted: 1/6/2007 6:44:58 AM | Good morals and feeling shitty about sex on the first date ? like is this shallow and you should feel some sort of guilt about acting on your strong sex drive ? Personall I like a responsive woman . Seems to me that religion preaches sex for anything other than procreation is immoral . Sex is not slutty - sex for personal gain at the expensive of someone else is slutty . Sex can be very giving for both sides . I think you should enjoy and give enjoyment without guilt . Just be careful . There is nothing wrong with you - you are just very healthy .
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