| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:21:28 AM | I don't go running, but I am cautious. Even though there are a fair number of Buddhists, Taoists, 'spiritual but not religious', agnostics, and atheists online, not all are otherwise compatible, so I've dated people from virtually every faith (or lack of) in my time.
The ones that I am most cautious with are those who say they put God first. I can understand putting your children first (aside: that's understood - you really don't need to state it, as emphasizing it is a turn-off as well), but I don't wish to compete with your concept of God. However, if that is important to you, it is good to state it, even if that means you get fewer responses. The responses you do get will presumably be more in tune with what you are looking for.
If we get past that, the real issue becomes how we'd deal with divergent beliefs, and how (assuming they would) they affect how we'd deal with each other in a relationship over time. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/19/2006 6:26:33 PM | | Running just may not be the most accurate descriptive word but as it was used---. Well in a word, yes I do. Actually out of respect for myself and respect for them, knowing that I'm not at all religious, I cannot understand why I would waste their time or mine. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/19/2006 6:51:48 PM | OOOH! I have avoided this forum for various reasons. But, I've read all posts and with all due respect, I have a tendency to avoid talking about religion and politics in a public forum. However I think, if two people are entering a "serious" relationship, it's vitally important that both are on the same page in regards to these two subjects.
For me, I think that this subject is not important in a profile but certainly important in a relationship and should be discussed in private between the two individuals.
On the other hand if someone specifies that their religious beliefs are important to them, then to be forewarned is to be forearmed and people can govern themselves accordingly.
Just my take on it.
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/19/2006 10:02:01 PM | "The most lovable and admirable of my wife is that she persists to high trust and deep commitment to God. She is such a good wife."
Some words you only need to hear once and will never forget. I heard this 25 years ago, and I am still thinking of it from time to time, because it is so strange and confuse to me. I am still trying to understand what that has to do with a good wife???? And he sees it as the most "lovable" part of her???
So, folks, I don't think all people will running if religion is mentioned in someone's profile, there must be some fishes who think those people are good catches. It takes one to know one. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/19/2006 10:16:03 PM | | "Religiosity" is a philosophy which is alien in my concept of my world, so, yes, if someone mentions that their "god" is of utmost importance in their life I assume we really do not have a meeting of the minds philosophically and I would not be interested in developing a relationship with that person. I have been in that situation, it was a cause of great strife and I am too sure of my belief system (I do believe in a higher power but it is completely my defined higher power). I would hope those who mention religion and the need for it in their profile attract those who have the same perspective, to each her/his own... | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:37:36 PM | Idahosun...you have put into words exactly how I feel on this subject, and I agree, to each his/her own. I don't think that a POF profile is the place to mention religious beliefs anyway. I have gotten e-mail from several women whose profiles state that they are Christian and are looking for a Christian man. I answer all my e-mail because I think that is the courteous thing to do. But if they took the time to read my profile they would know that I'm not the type they are looking for. And that's what I tell them. I also have my own definition of a higher power. My own family and many of my friends think I'm some kind of heathen because of my beliefs. My Dad has told me that I'm going straight to hell. I tell him that I'm already there...HA. Or I resort to two of my favorite quotes from Mark Twain...
"I'll take Heaven for the climate and Hell for the society"
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"I don't like to commit myself about Heaven and Hell- you see,I have friends in both places" | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/20/2006 12:09:59 AM | Long ago I married a very lovely Wesleyan woman (strict Baptist, if I remember right). Things went along quite nicely for us until we moved to live closer to her family. I remember one particular Sunday in a brightly-coloured church in Eastern Canada where the congregation (or conclave, or brood, or whatever they were called) were all speaking "in tongues". This was one of the strangest and most unnerving hours I have ever endured - to be the only one from an alien planet in a room of roughly two hundred people. Since then, whenever the topic of organized religion has come up in more than a passing casual manner, I've tended to shy away. Here at POF, if I read or hear of an overly-emphasized religious choice or preference ... well, I won't say that I run, but I wouldn't say that sneaking away when that person's back was turned wouldn't cross my mind. My own beliefs in this area are just that and not something I tend to dwell on in public.
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/20/2006 4:39:29 AM | Great thoughts everyone.
I'm sure that sometimes people put that on their profiles because they are looking for someone who lives by a certain standard. But some of them word it in such a way that makes the hair on my neck stand up. Oh SHOOT! I tried to hide that.....the hair on my neck. ha ha ha
I'm also on alert when someone says their grandchildren are the most important thing in their life. I know they are probably just trying to let prospective suitors know that they are nice family loving people but sometimes what it says to me is..."I've got this great family but I still need someone to cook and have sex with." | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:34:51 AM | .
Not very religious here. However, I attend weekly meetings populated by many different types of clergy simply because I am interested in the topic of the meeting.
I seldom attend any services. Except, that is, those few times when one of the clergy I know have a special function. (As an example: I recently attended a 50th anniversary mass for a popular local priest who I know well.)
As for those who wear their religion as a badge of distinction . . . well, let’s just say that they would not really be interested in me very long.
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:13:25 PM | | Being religious, per se, doesn't send me running, but when it's the subject of one of the first 3 sentences I read in a profile, it makes me wonder. I guess that's the result of being raised in a town full of bible-thumpers. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:38:34 PM | | touchy touchy touchy don't know why all the regulars are running away afraid!!!!! ha ha Well I liken religion to the army....both are trained in a specific way (depends on the deity worshiped) but still have different squadrons that have their own particular regiments.......Religion has its purpose is society same as governments .....and as with governments......I respect the principle and even admire it but don't think I would 'join' a church any more than I would join an 'army'. And this is my thought on ordinary religion ......never mind the fanatical nature of people who devote themselves to a 'church' or 'organizaton' and its subsequent rants, rather than the real principles upon which the religion was based. All divine stems from the same, alas not all humans follow the same devine. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 6:47:59 PM | Religion doesn't frighten people off, but religious nuts do. A religious nut is a kind of bigot who tries to ram their personal beliefs down everybody else's throats. They tend to have rather small and closed minds so thay are offputting yes. Most sensible people avoid them.  
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 7:41:28 PM | Peresphone> I gotta agree with you there about those who try and shove their religious attitudes/beliefs down upon others. Fanatics are a definite turn-off.
When religion is mentioned in a profile, especially when they say they want a 'good christian woman', I tend to avoid them. And it's not that I don't believe in God (I do.) Being religious and being a spiritual person are two different things in my book. Too often people who claim to be a religious person seem to think that they have to convert everyone they meet to their own terms of thinking; and to me, anyways, a spiritual person believes in the karma of the way they live, and appreciate everyones different thoughts. (Maybe the word I'm looking for is they're more tolerant.) I don't knock others that want that, it's just that when I see that in a profile I think that maybe they're going to be more judgemental, and start preaching on everything you do if it doesn't agree with them. And yes, I have met lots people like that in my lifetime. (Some were relatives, even.) | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:12:25 PM | There is nothing wrong with stating one's believes... he is looking for some one like minded: good for him, he is eliminating most of you from his list. Religious people have faith, if you do not, leave them alone, no need to get on their cases.
Some say right away, they do not want children, looking for tall, short, fat or thin persons, non moskers, Jewish, catholic... you name it,.... religion is vey important in some people's life. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:30:02 PM | Like Carolina_Guy, I too have my own brand of religious beliefs. I was scuttled out of Sunday School and not invited back because of my beliefs. Something about the day's lesson did not make sense to me, so I asked for an explanation. I was told "you just have to have faith". I replied with "No I don't!"
I'm quite willing to discuss each other's beliefs, debate positions and perhaps agree to disagree. I learn more about myself and the other person through deep discussions on any subject.
I have a very dear friend who was going through a very difficult time, had an enlightening experience in which she "found God". She has gained the strength to deal with her situation through reading the Bible and attending church regularly. She is so excited about how wonderful she feels now, that she does have a tendency to want to share this with others. She has always been a very loving, giving, supportive person and for her, this is just another way for her to try to give something to help her friends get through their own issues. Occasionally, she goes too far and we always forgive her.
Anytime we experience something that excites us or makes us feel good, we have a tendency to want to share this with others and hope that they enjoy it as much as we do. So, if someone preaches a little, I can deal with it. But, if they try to shove it down my throat...their way is the only way, I'll be left to believe that they are just as controlling in other facets of their life...and I'm gone!!
When checking out the profiles, it's not so much that religion is mentioned, it's how it's mentioned that might encourage me to move on. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:30:51 PM |
There is nothing wrong with stating one's believes... he is looking for some one like minded: good for him, he is eliminating most of you from his list. Religious people have faith, if you do not, leave them alone, no need to get on their cases.
Thank you Tramp, you said that well. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/20/2007 2:56:36 AM | To be honest with yopu the more I see of "Religious" peoples behaviour the more I stay away from it. They seem to be a bit of a biggoted lot and in the last village I lived in I was in a band--we performed for the church a show based on thomas Hardies music and anecdotes ( he was a fiddler and collector of folk music) None of the congregation would attend as they did not know what it was about even though the ticket sales were towards their roof!
Well the show was a sell out from the non-church going element of the village. The a while late I was asked by the chuch organist would we do the show again as the congregation heard it was a good show and wanted to see it now! So I said yes we would perform it again but this time we would charge! I did not expect to hear anymore---but lo and behold--they booked us and thoroughly enjoyed it! That is church attitude for you.
We were also banned from Midnight mass---I went to church for a carol service and the vicar wanted to ignore me on my was out---proffering his hand to all his regulars---so I had to profer mine to him! Have I been since? NO!
I am a believer in being good to people---maybe buddhist/humanis/spiritualist/ufologist----but I am no biggot---I do not practice a religious faith.
If someone was religious I would not initially be put off but if they tried to convert me--well---on yer bike!
My sister follows a weird indian faith and has tried to get me involved but---I just say I am not interested.
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/20/2007 6:40:05 AM | It scares me off when men say that they want a "good" woman without the Christian. What is a "good" woman? One who obeys and does as she is told? Does she get a treat and a pat on the head if she does what she is supposed to do?
If religion is a big part of a person's life, it needs to be mentioned. I am pagan, yet men don't always seem to pick up on that from my profile. To those who email me and mention that they "love god," I always want to ask, "Which one?"
I would not be compatible with a fundamentalist Christian (or Muslim) man. That need to be made known upfront. So if it is important to you that a potential partner shares your faith, you need to mention that fact. | |
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| Do people go running if religion is mentioned in their profile?
Posted: 4/20/2007 7:49:56 AM | To me, the religion issue is just like the other more contentious issues: the abortion issue, smoking, the seal pup hunt, gender equality, and things of this nature. When I meet someone who's views are 'set' and unyielding (and different than mine) and I can 'sense' a conscious attempt by them to make me believe as they do, I realize that my talking with this person for any length of time will just lead to difficulties. I don't exactly run, but when I see this in a person, I really don't make any attempt to move closer.
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