| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 2:42:07 PM | I will not add to negativity.
I will not add to negativity.
I will not add to negativity.
Must go off line now..........I will not add to negativity.
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 2:46:59 PM | I understand your attempt Horselady to inject humour into posts and you do. I've used up numerous pairs of Depends with your topics.
And when you say, " I don't want people to take quotes from it to spin their own story in a negative manner." I understand this too.
So, as I said in another thread this morning, when I sense that someone is injecting negativity into what is mean't to be a lighthearted thread....sometimes I have a knee jerk reaction. Because, I question whether the negativity is being injected on purpose to just stir the pot.
Sometimes I see this trend by the same and certain posters. Therefore, I become impatient & intolerant. But, this is NO EXCUSE for behaving badly.
And I sent myself to my room last night for a big "time out" and I woke up this morning with my warped sense of humour still intact.
So everyone if I offended anyone in any way .... MEA CULA....MEA CULPA....I didn't intend to offend.
Two wrongs don't make a right.
As I said in another post this morning......
I'm going to try to ignore so as to not give "the negative" credence.
And, for the next little while I am strapping both of my knees with bungee cords to the legs of my computor desk.
I enjoy your topics of discussion Horselady. Please keep them coming.
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 3:35:35 PM |
I think it's a toss up between negative people, and people who get their rocks off trashing negative people. It all seems the same thing to me: negative. How many ways can people find to say they are better than other people? It's a spring that never runs dry.
Mea culpa Paco, I never looked at in that way before - thanks for pointing out the error of my ways | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:41:30 PM |
hmmm, I'm thinking it's kinda negative to be so negative about being negative. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 4:44:47 PM | more:
It's good to be kind--we can all agree on that I think, but can't you just imagine a forum where everyone out-polites each other trying so hard not to be "negative" or offensive, that nothing real gets said? We can pretend we don't have the thoughts and feelings that we have I suppose, but is that healthy or helpful?
I'm not suggesting that we be cruel to each other or that we shouldn't cushion our remarks of disagreement so they don't sting, but we're all adults here and if someone steps out of line, someone else usually points it out. I'm ok with that and in fact recently apologized to someone on another thread for my tendency to be condescending. (Am I being condescending here now I wonder?)
So, self-castigations aside for a moment, let's all accept our humanness and try to see the humor when at all possible. And gosh, there ARE differences between men and women. Thank God.
Sometimes you gotta laugh to keep from crying. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:46:23 PM | At first I thought the alternative-rock musician Peter Murphy wrote these 3 thoughts! I suppose there are several famous Peter Murphy's out there!
1. Do not believe everything you hear!
2. Let go of needing their approval!
3. Eliminate your own negative thoughts!
These make sense to me; #1 especially pertaining to gossip. Maybe we could add:
4. Don't take things out of context.
BTW, horselady48, I happen to enjoy your humor very much!
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:50:49 PM |
BTW, horselady48, I happen to enjoy your humor very much! Thank you 
A woman went in for a physical the other day. The doctor asked her to disrobe. When she did the doctor noticed she had a big red "H" on her chest. The doctor said; that's strange. How did you get the red "H" on your chest? The woman replied: "My husband went to Harvard and beloved the school so much he never takes his block sweater off...even when we make love." Several days later; another woman came into the doctor's office for a physical. The doctor went through the same routine. After she disrobed, the doctor noticed she had a big "M" on her chest. Not wanting to appear stupid, the doctor said: "Your boyfriend must have gone to Michigan." The woman responded" "I don't know what you are talking about, but my girlfriend went to Wisconsin."  | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:56:09 PM |
hmmm, I'm thinking it's kinda negative to be so negative about being negative.
Well personally, choirbebe ... I think that's kinda negative of you to even mention about it being kinda negative to be so negative about being negative ... expressing this myself, in a most positive way, of course ... 
Ah yeah ... big kudos for horselady's humour from this little part of the pond, as well. 
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:57:47 PM | | hey horselady, you should be paid for keeping us entertained. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 5:12:44 PM | | HorseLady, I love your humor. Don't stop posting just because a few want to take your posts seriously. There's nothing wrong in "celebrating differences" using humor and, yes, even using stereotypes. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:55:01 PM | | On some profiles on an adult site I was looking at by accident one day, the dog having bumped the computer with his tail, I noticed a strong preference for negative people and no real interest in the positive ones. How can this be, that for dating it's one way but for sex, another? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 6:09:08 PM | Aaaahh, Paco Leys ... you hit the nail right on the head, my friend -- another one of those wonderful "differences in the siteses". Ain't it lubbly?
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 9:24:55 PM | | Horselady it is pretty simple. All you have to do is keep a mental note on those individuals that take selected quotes and spin them, go look at their responses in other threads. I am postive that you will be completely reassured that the problem doesn't lie with you, your humor or your postings. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 9:49:53 PM | ..moraima,
That so funny and your trying so hard. I'm proud of you for not adding to negativity.
...maeflowers | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/18/2006 10:47:34 PM | the four agreements - don miguel ruiz's code for life
agreement 1
Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
agreement 2
Don’’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’’t be the victim of needless suffering.
agreement 3
Don’’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
agreement 4
Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/19/2006 4:06:16 AM | Lipstick sunsets
I have read, Dan Miguel's "The Four Agreements" ....twice.
It's required reading for me at least once a year...just to keep me focused. I think it's time to read it again.
Gotta run Now where did I put that book?
Muskoka | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/19/2006 8:18:47 AM | Wow, I saw the title of this thread, and I just had to jump in...I have so much to offer! Thank you, Horselady!
Friends, don't take negativity lightly. A truly negative attitude is a talent and skill not easily attained. It takes years of practice, study, and effort. And it's always two steps forward, one step back! Just when you think you have achieved the pinnacle of negativity, along comes someone with a sense of humor and a positive attitude, and completely destroy everthing you have worked for!
One upside to this, however, is that the ability to cast that negativity on everyone else, and not on oneself, is much more easily attained. In fact, it seems to come almost naturally to those of us who are striving toward negative perfection.
So don't give up, all of you "wannabes". You too, can be negative if you truly want it, are willing to work hard, and sacrifice! I don't think you will ever reach the levels I have achieved, but if you use me as an example, you can remain focused on your goal!
So much for "Beer Stein's Theory of Negativity". Let me know if you need any counseling on the matter. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/19/2006 9:45:30 AM |
the four agreements - don miguel ruiz's code for life - Excellent - thanks
betterallthetime -  | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/19/2006 2:30:49 PM | | betterallthetime - excellent way to look at it. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 2:47:43 PM | | actually a better idea, horselady. just get away from them. not their fault they are in one of lifes troughs at the moment, but being brought down by them, anymore, no thanks. been there. dosent help them or you. sounds hard. not a bit of it. only when you have given so much, do you understand. kind regards, cyril. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2006 2:55:53 PM | | cyril------msg. 46---this is how I handle my non-cyber world, it's the cyber world's negative people that causes me grief. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/20/2006 6:21:05 AM | Strange conundrum that all this thought on being positive would not happen without the negative to think about.
I've yet to meet anyone without negative traits and it seems to me that the more positive one tries to appear, the more negativity is nestled inside pushing to get out.
It seems healthier to have an equal balance of awareness of the positive and the negative in ourselves.
If you are pointing out that someone else seems negative, aren't you being negative?
If someone is truly negative, would you not be acting more positive in trying to help this 'negative' person to feel more positive instead of announcing an attempt to ignore it? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 6:49:57 AM | One of the most amazing things about humor is that we laugh at ourselves. I have laughed repeatedly at some of the posts that Horselady has put up....sometimes seeing people I know...other times, laughing at myself when one of my 'quirks' is commented on.
I don't find the humorous gender bashing threads juvenile or disgusting....just a reflection of life. Some of us find Bill Cosby incredibly funny...why? Because he makes us see the humor in everyday things, and laugh at ourselves for the silly things we do.
Once in a while, something hits close to home....we recognize a particular personal trait, and it makes us uncomfortable when it shouldn't....we are all individuals, each with our own quirks. You must remember....somewhere out there, there is someone who finds those quirks endearing!
My father was never very good at cooking...I'm told that when I was very young, he was making me a soft boiled egg for breakfast....My mother entered the room...he asked her, "These eggs have boiling 1/2 hour..do you think they are soft yet?"
My mother loved to tell that story...and to this day, I think of him whenever I boil an egg....Some might consider that bashing if it appeared in a 'men can't cook' thread....I know she told it because she loved him..and he enjoyed the laugh every time. | |
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| Negative People
Posted: 7/20/2006 9:59:57 AM | .
Well, a couple times I read the leading post in a thread and guessed that it must be humor simply because it was logically silly. So, no problem, I just back up and go to another thread.
Such is life. Not everyone likes what I write and I don’t expect to like everything everyone else writes -- but I do enjoy biting humor.
Heck, even for those couple people around here who enjoy sniping at me from time to time . . . I don’t mind, I just will not qualify them with an answer.
Fact is, Horselady starts many threads. Many are interesting to me. Although, usually I have no comment.
As for rules of life, mine are very simple:
Help when I can.
Try not to hurt anyone.
That’s about it for me. . . . . LOL
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