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a real talking person was talking here the wold of stuppidty is coming to an end.Quiet ! They might wake up and envy the out of the rest of the honest ones. Thank you
 MrSnapHappy
Joined: 12/19/2007
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Posted: 1/22/2008 10:41:32 AM
yes.....................................................................................
 indianaman
Joined: 9/25/2005
Msg: 453
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Posted: 1/25/2008 9:03:47 AM
You should be picky about whom you marry. But I think women are way too picky when they reject me for a second date. It's just a second date, it's not marriage. What have you got to lose? First date impressions are probably 50% accurate at best. So these women are dumping me based on inaccurate information.
 bsg789
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 454
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Posted: 1/25/2008 9:35:10 AM
You should be picky about whom you marry. But I think women are way too picky when they reject me for a second date. It's just a second date, it's not marriage. What have you got to lose? First date impressions are probably 50% accurate at best. So these women are dumping me based on inaccurate information.


Unless the first date was really bad, I would usually go out with a man 2-3 times before deciding if I'm really interested in him. I have been on first dates that were okay, but the second date was great. I have also been on first dates that were great, but the second date was terrible. Some people expect earthshattering chemistry with a stranger on the first date. Otherwise they lose interest. Some people always think that they can find someting better even if the first date went reasonably well.
 KinkyBastard
Joined: 1/3/2008
Msg: 455
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Posted: 1/25/2008 10:34:35 AM
Well... As the idea goes, we all want to find that "someone" to settle down with for the REST of our Lives... Well most of us do anyway. So that said, one has to be pretty sure that they've made the right choice.

But it's all give and take and compromises. On the face of it, I know that I probably won't get exactly what I want in a woman and will have to make do with someone that closely fits the bill.

So yeah I'm a little picky. But I'm also realistic too. Especially now that I'm in my mid 30's.

But that said, do we all really know what we want deep down anyway? I've been out with women that I thought were not my type and some have turned out to be very good experiences. Heck I dated one such girl for FIVE years.

So I seem to know more about what I don't want than what I do want.
 ACEnHTWN65
Joined: 8/6/2006
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Posted: 1/27/2008 6:57:59 AM
Absolutely women are to picky now days. Women have a lot more to chose from and I will admit have more to do than men do at times. Women believe in fairy tales and the real life. They set standards so high that no one can live up to them and use the littlest excuse to bail. Women want a man to stimulate their mind and have all these rules but think they dont have to do anything to win us. I still believe that men should be the pursuers but women have to make themselves worth pursuing.
 CatchinNJ
Joined: 11/23/2007
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:03:06 AM
I don't think you can be too picky, if that is what makes you happy. Why should I 'settle' just to be with someone. Maybe that is part of the 50% divorce rate...people just giving up.
 Fifi47
Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 458
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:04:23 AM
Lets see, I seem to be overlooked because I have not been married, am not thin, am short, have a graduate degree, have short brunette hair, am attractive but do not stop men on the street, have opinions and stand up for what I believe in, have religious beliefs, and try not to be dysfunctional....now who is picky? seems to be both men and women I guess....
 motionsofenergy
Joined: 1/22/2008
Msg: 459
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:13:16 AM
definately. i think most people are looking for the pefect partner and therefore selling themselves short. there is no such thing as perfect. i also find that people are picky over the smallest of things.

ive been told no on occassions because i like techno and the other person doesnt, wtf?.
what kind of criteria is that, i dont like amy winehouse but im not going to pass up an opportunity to talk to someone because of it.
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Posted: 3/31/2008 5:58:45 PM
Can't afford to be picky at my age, life is passing by too quickly!
Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 3/31/2008 5:59:22 PM
Can't afford to be picky at my age, life is passing by too quickly!
 OAS500
Joined: 2/8/2006
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Posted: 4/1/2008 11:26:31 AM
QUOTE: "Are people these days 'too picky'... "


Yes, absolutely.
Myself included.........

Somebody slap me.
 Unlike Dorothy
Joined: 3/18/2008
Msg: 463
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Posted: 4/1/2008 12:45:11 PM
My thoughts on it are this: Better single than sorry!
 bsg789
Joined: 12/4/2007
Msg: 464
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Posted: 4/1/2008 12:59:10 PM
Yes. I'm not saying people should date someone who is the complete opposite of their ideal type. However there is nothing with changing your standards so that they became more reasonable and / or flexible.
 scintillation1
Joined: 1/25/2008
Msg: 465
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:03:57 PM
Sure.

When I was younger I would keep seeing someone if I enjoyed their company. They would fizzle out in time. No harm done. Enjoyable times.

However, these days I'm looking for something that won't fizzle out. So I've become a lot more picky.
Thats not to say that I rule someone out on the first date unless they are really off the mark. More like a 2-3 dates before I think there is or is not a possibility.

Then I guess the guys are doing the same thing, so what i thought was a possibility they might think not.

Just waiting to find someone who feels the same.
 Lbm_ru2
Joined: 8/27/2007
Msg: 466
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:07:25 PM
The thoughts that come to my mind about it is that we tend to be loosing patience at dealing with humans, like the way we get bogged down as to what to buy in a super market where so much is thrown at you that even though you just went with the purpose of looking around, but you end up buying some. May sound weird, but we are indirectly the prey of the consumerism in every walk of life. Can't get better when it is stuff to decorate ourselves, our houses our family, but its the other way round when dealing with individuals. Some people naturally are predisposed to more choices than others but imagine they are not the only one, actually they are still quite a few others like them. Added to it the disinterestedness at our disposition which is quite natural because we tend to get bored so easily and look for reasons like 'i think i need another one', 'its not working well lately' or 'i saw a fine piece the other day which I might buy'. Indirectly we have lost the capability of nurturing at things to make them work for as long as it is possible. We have given up on the desire. Its just material mindset. Wonder if thats what is coming back to us.
Coming back to pickyness, which is just a repurcussion of this entire phenomenon, because either you have too many choices or you have learnt after making a few bad choices in your past, but the sad part is that everyone is fishing with the same mindset so it isn't helping too many constraints don't help anyways.
 jf468
Joined: 12/4/2007
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Posted: 4/1/2008 1:32:09 PM
People often say "I know what I want and I refuse to settle". However sometimes what a person wants is different than a person is realistically able to get. Sometimes lowering your expectations so they become more realistic is NOT a bad thing.
 Lucky_Vet
Joined: 3/27/2005
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Posted: 4/1/2008 2:14:31 PM
"...is that why that they stay single, even though they don't want that, either? Your thoughts..."



Unrealistic expectations imposed by a self serving propaganda machine owned and controlled by elites who profit from divide / conquer tactics, socialism, and conflict between races & Sexes.

Buckle your seat belt Dorothy, its only the beginning.
 life_of_leisure
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Posted: 4/1/2008 2:48:55 PM
> Somebody slap me.

I can get you spanking, oas500, but you almost have to have Spitzer type funds...
 VocabVocale
Joined: 3/21/2008
Msg: 470
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Posted: 4/3/2008 4:35:40 AM
You know, it is a crazy world dating-wise.

A good colleague of mine said this really well,

"I am not looking for a female, but a person who is female."

Behind the make up, behind the clothes, behind the drinks, behind the social outings, behind the photos at the club, behind the smiles and good times, who is that person? A part of our being does go for looks, that is undeniable. Sometimes, it would be interesting to think for a moment, can I see myself old with this person and have that person light up my life in the years and decades to come. (for all those seeking long-term) If you need to go to a party every weekend, does that really make you an exciting person? (not necessarily)

Careers don't define you. That person can be an accountant making a lot of money, but if you do not have one shred of honour or no joy in who you are, keep the money, you need to check yourself. I do have a good job, but I have nothing to BRAG about. You could look like a model, but at 45, the looks have to die sometime. What's left?

At the end of the day, we all have our preferences. It would be nice though to sit even for a few minutes, and get to know someone. Doesn't hurt.
 .Marc
Joined: 2/11/2007
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Posted: 4/3/2008 4:43:17 AM
I wouldn't say we're too picky-- but I would say that some of us don't even really know what we're looking for. We THINK we do... but I'm not sure that we know what we're really looking for until we've found it. Or not.

I'm picky about my internet dating. First contacts that are only chat requests aren't responded to. My profile is big enough that if someone can't find at least ONE thing to talk about in the first contact I hold little hope for anything. I'm online looking for something that I won't run across in real life... so I'm more picky here.
 tall.cold.1
Joined: 10/18/2006
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Posted: 4/3/2008 6:21:14 AM
I am very picky. Anybody who's looking for a potential life partner should be. I suppose my main consideration over everything else is financial. Is she able to make enough money so that she doesn't need financial help from anybody else? Of course, when a woman is pregnant and has pre-school children at home, then the man is going to be the sole breadwinner doing those years, but the rest of the time she should be making decent money and contributing to the family's savings.

Money isn't everything, of course, but being poor and broke all the time isn't that appealing either.
 dekomisier
Joined: 2/28/2008
Msg: 473
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Posted: 4/3/2008 8:53:02 AM
people aren't picky, but rather unloving
 Masked_Hero
Joined: 12/14/2003
Msg: 474
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Posted: 4/3/2008 9:27:41 AM
You can throw me in the picky catigory... I want a Lamborgini ! Im not leave'n the lot with a Honda civic...
 designingwoman
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Posted: 4/3/2008 9:28:49 AM
Amen Masked Hero!!!

Yeah people are too picky when they pick their nose!! Couldn't resist
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