| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:23:42 AM | | I'm picky and perhaps because of that I might have miss out on alot of great opprotunities with some great men, but that's just the way it goes. I know what I find appealing and what I'm looking for, so I don't settle for less. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 1/13/2007 9:47:31 AM | I'm very picky, and would rather be on my own than "settle". The right partner would be nice, settling would be a step down from how my life is going as a single person.
A car would be different..... I might not be able to have my dream car, but still need transportation, so I'd "settle" for something that was good enough. Partnering up for is different, I would not "settle". | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 1/13/2007 10:16:47 PM |
I think men and women are looking for totally different things. Men are visual creatures who look at the physical part of the relationship (how someone looks and how much 'fun' he can get from her) is most important. Women want a guy to care about and for the guy to genuinely care about her.
Guess again, I know just as many women as men that will tell you they want someone that looks good. Women are not after a guy for his personality, they want the same thing men want. They want a partner that is good looking, and that they are attracted to.
How could you get romantic with someone you didnt care to look at??? Personality can only go so far. The way I see it, looks attract, personality keeps. That goes for both men and women | |
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Posted: 1/14/2007 8:42:30 PM | | Cant say I would be that picky Monkey, but that is just me. I do agree with you I dont care too much for women that have to spend there time in a bar, or think the only true way to deal with something is to get hammered to the point they dont rememebr what went on that night. Going to a bar to shoot pool is not a bad thing to do to meet someone, granted there are also a ton of other things to do, but it can be a fun. I have met up with two women in bars, so far neither were big drinkers, both were fun times playing pool, but the drinking was not the focous. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:00:27 PM | Women on here are very shallow.. Some not all. They barely take the time to investigate a person. They see a picture and they immediately pass up on you! they are so rude and inconsiderate.
I'm a great guy, I have a lovely personality and very kind and warming.. but they don't give a rat's A$$ if they decide your picture sucks..
too picky indeed! | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/1/2007 6:50:13 PM | I don't think people are too picky now-a-days. I think people are just being selective. Look at what dating, relationships and marriage has turned into .... pure BS. Nobody knows what it means anymore to stay together, to remain faithful and to work through the good and the bad. People, my self included, are just shielding themselves from this ever occuring to them and basically not settling for anything but the best for themselves. I know that anything can happen but at the same token one tries to avoid being put in a nasty situation. I will not stand to be treated any less than I would treat my other half. It has taken me until now to find exactly what I have always wanted for myself. I too have been told that I was waaaaay too picky but I would have rather lived a life alone than to be with someone that was undoubtedly not for me just for the sake of being in a relationship. I now tell those people .... "look at what being too picky got me ... it got me the man I have always dreamed for". I have never been treated with such respect, care and unconditional love as the man in my life is giving me today. So on a final note, yes I definitely think people need to be picky/selective when dating in today's society. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/1/2007 10:56:58 PM | Theres like 6 gazillion people on the planet.
Somebodies getting laid :D ALOT.Wish people were alot more picky.No wonder the worlds flooded with retards and freaks.(sighs)Well I feel better,...tc peeps | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/2/2007 5:46:31 AM | In a word,Yes!...you see all these profiles saying i just want someone who dont lie. Or i am just looking for a man/woman who is not gonna cheat...and that looks and other things dont matter.
But then yo9u get chatting to them and find they have a whole long list of must be's or must not be's. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:13:37 AM | | ok I know I am very picky and yes very single also. LOL. I hate being alone but I would rather be alone that to just "settle" for what I don't want and then be in a bad relationship. Been there and done that. It sux. So, I think we have to picky in this day and time. I don't think what I want is something I should not be able to have but it seems sooo hard to find these days. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:22:35 AM | I am admittedly too picky.
However I am trying to change my thinking...I found this on a website and might help all of us in our dating paths........
For every good thing we find in someone, we tend to find 5 bad things at the same time. And if we keep focusing on the negative, we might just be alone forever.
Here are some tips on how you can be less picky:
-When you go on a date, instead of thinking about what you didn't like about him or her, think about what you did like.
-When you find something you don't like about a person, think about whether that thing is really a deal breaker for you or are you being too picky.
-Think back about how many times you have run into a guy or a girl who you nixed immediately who is now happily married, looks "pretty normal" from a distance and you walked away thinking that maybe you were too impetuous with "that one". If this has happened often, think about not letting it happen again.
-Legitimate deal breakers are things like differences in values, religious differences, lack of sexual chemistry and drinking and drug issues.
-"Legimitate pickiness" is cutting him off because he is a half inch shorter than the height you tend to date or because she has C cups instead of D cups!
-If you are unsure whether or not you are being too picky, "phone a friend", an honest and direct one and ask his or her opinion.
-Keep in mind that no one is ever going to be perfect. Not even you!
Good luck everyone with your fishing..... | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/20/2007 9:52:34 PM | I do not think it is about being picky. I can bet that the most part they will stay on the site because they are curious to see if : "that someone better" may come along and leave a message. I do not need a lot of women. Damm I can barely afford one women so ther! | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/20/2007 10:09:44 PM | Uh huh.
Is it any wonder, being part of the internet generation, I'd argue it's turned us all into narcissists.
Especially since myspace, it's created thousands of self-obssessives. Everyone so busy trying to make themselves appear perfect..that you end up thinking you're too good for everyone.
So people stay single, stay unhappy because they see themselves this way, what they're looking for in a partner now HAS TO MATCH THE CRITERIA.
Nobody gets given a chance anymore. You find somebody unattractive, you don't reply to a message. They have an opposite perspective on religion/philosophy of life, you don't date them. They talk to you in a particular way, for example in short hand, they think you're unintelligent, even if you only just learnt how to type on a keyboard.
It's all about first impressions now. No second chances.
We're all looking for the idealized version.
Too bad it doesn't exist. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/20/2007 11:07:11 PM | definately they are. i mean its o.k. to have standards and to be someone picky for values and stuff or to not wanna date someone whos really ugly and stuff but i mean common.nowadays people just dont have the same tastes.what used to be considered a good looking person now could almost be considered ugly or average it seems by lots of people.people need to get real and also look at themselves in the mirror.if a girl doesnt look like angelina jolie why does she expect to find nothing but a brad pitt look-alike lol
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/20/2007 11:16:24 PM | I think the more picky the better . Then maybe there wouldnt be so many topics such as why do men /women Blah blah blah in the forums
I dont have the right to be picky by conventional standards but I am . I judge on attitude , disposition , and emotional stability then physical appearance and that may have me single for a while but be damned if ille be with some one Ille just end up despising and my standards may not be the same as any one else but heh whats good for the goose is not neccesarily good for the gander ( or some thing like that) | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/20/2007 11:29:13 PM | Definatly ask what's being picked out.
Me, it's not about the physical aspects so much as personality, morals and values.
There are things that I just believe in that I just WONT settle on.
I can over look some physical imperctions more so than my values.
However, I do have to be physically and sexually attracted to someone at least. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/20/2007 11:56:43 PM | The simple answer, imho, is that some are and some aren't.
At the age I am, I feel I better know now what I look for in a potential future partner than when I was raising my children/working/going to college all at the same time. Dating during those days, I tended to look more for the physical attraction and now it's a better balance of both mental and physical attributes I seek. | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/21/2007 12:14:48 AM | ~OT~ I'm over the top picky anymore. I even disclose in my profile, in detail that is the case. No reason to lead anyone to believe differently.
The reality is however: what I'm picky about may not be an issue for someone else. I think this is often overlooked. Just because I have set-in-stone wants/desires/needs/etc., certainly doesn't mean that the next profile is picky about the same things I am. I think this is where: there is someone for everyone comes into play. JMO  | |
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| Are people these days 'too picky'...
Posted: 5/21/2007 12:23:29 AM | | Im incredibly picky. I cant count the number of people I havent replied to simply because one little thing on their profile irked me. Id rather be picky than to be unhappy with someone who doesnt totally do it for me though. | |
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