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Posted: 3/3/2005 8:34:57 PM | Cheating is that kick to the crotch ... that stamps on a heart....
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Posted: 3/3/2005 11:39:12 PM |
My ex cheated on me 3 yrs into our marriage. I thought that was the most difficult thing I'd ever been through...UNTIL it happened again 8 yrs into our marriage.
the *ss would have been history the first time around. once a cheat, always a cheat...a leopard never changes his spots...period.
there's no excuse for cheating...
men are physical beings well, so am i...
cheating is just plain WRONG...
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Posted: 3/4/2005 4:30:55 PM |
the *ss would have been history the first time around.
Ahhhh, I said the same thing....UNTIL it happened to me. I filed for divorce the very next day after finding out and when he called me up 3 months later out of the blue (right before our divorce was to be finalized) crying and begging for me to at least hear him out. I knew I had to. After he PROVED to me that he was willing to do WHATEVER it took to get me back and let me tell you that it was NOT easy (for either one of us)....that was when we reconciled and for 5 yrs our marriage was better and stronger than it had ever been. One of the big factors in our reconciliation was that he NEVER lied to me. He told me the brutal, cold, hard truth. It took a lot of work for us both....he couldn't move back home right away, he had to go to counseling with me and for himself, he had to remarry me....and he did....and I had to learn how to forgive him. We both had to learn how to effectively communicate with each other. It was HARD work. Do I regret taking him back? No...when all was said and done(after the 2nd affair), I know that I did everything in my power to keep my marriage and my family in tact and I have no regrets. Besides that, I got my youngest son out of our reconciliation and I wouldn't give him up for anything!
once a cheat, always a cheat...a leopard never changes his spots...period.
I disagree. I know of plenty of people who have cheated and have never done it again and won't. I don't think EVERY person who has cheated in the past will continue the behavior, although, I do think it happens again more times than not.
I ABSOLUTELY agree that cheating is WRONG. I don't condone it...never have, never will. I'm a firm believer in ending one relationship before starting another. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2005 4:35:03 PM | | i hope he's not out with my 'ol lady right now........................ | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 2:53:15 PM | Thank you lonestarblues29!
Cheaters always find excuses to defend themselves or to completely deny that what they did is considered cheating. For example : chatting with so called "ex" online every night , calling her bonita, sending her kisses or encouraging her to masturbate is called friendship and not cheating to some!
Even when the other party has made it clear that contact with immediate ex is not tolerated by her!!
Cheaters rarely confess what they do. They get cut and then there have million excuses or even blame their partner for finding out!!!!
I think if humans could have more empathy with one another, they would not hurt each other like this.
This poor wife might catch a STD from her husband!!!!
communication and trust are the foundations of a relationship. I have empathy for the man who is not feeling satistied with his wife. There can be many reason why she does not like it, a good sex therapist can certainly assess and make recommendations. If your wife still is not in to it, then you can say bye bye and get it some where else. This way, there is no betray and you know that you can not change her, but change your partner. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 4:24:37 PM | | If yo aren't willing to do it in front of her or tell her about it, you are cheating. I feel for your situation, but yes you are cheating. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 6:54:58 PM | | I think you know the answer to your question. Human beings have an enormous ability to rationalize anything to get what they want. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 7:47:04 PM |
If yo aren't willing to do it in front of her or tell her about it, you are cheating. I feel for your situation, but yes you are cheating.
This... a thousand times this.
Cheating is subjective. like most things in life. To the OP.. maybe getting a BJ from someone else isn't cheating in your relationship.. easy way to tell? Does your SO know? is she ok with it? If she is, it's not cheating. If she doesn't know... then it doesn't matter if she would be ok with it or not, it's cheating.
I'd put good money on your SO not knowing, and you're just trying to justify your behavior. You wanna get a BJ? talk about it with the lady... it doesn't matter if you have talked before, it's apparent that it is more important to you than you probably related to her in those conversations. If it's so important to you that you absolutely cannot stay faithful in your relationship, perhaps you should consider not being in the relationship with this person. It may be shallow, and you may look like an ass, but in the end if you aren't going to be true to that person anyways, you might as well let them off the hook now as opposed to having them leave you later. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 7:54:31 PM | | lol ... do you tell her you get blow jobs off other people, cause if its not cheating she wont mind ... right?????? | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 7:55:47 PM | If you have to hide it, or won't do it in front of your mate.
If you have to lie about it! If your unwilling to discuss it!
It's cheating! | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 7:57:51 PM | OMG how stupid can you possible be. If you are in a relationship that is exclusive it means no sex outside that relationship that includes all forms of sex.
Heres an interesting concept have you talked to her about what you feel is being neglected in your relationship.
Also this is called making excuses for bad behaviour it doesnt depend on any situation its not okay to cheat because to cheat you must lie. | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 8:24:16 PM | | WELL BASICALLY CHEATING IS NOTHIN BUT A BICTH AND MY EX THINKS I CHEATED ON HIM BUT TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH I NEVER CHEATED HE HEARD RUMORS SO NOW HE WONT BE WITH ME EVEN THOUGH WE SLEEP TOGEATHER AND WE ARE FRIENDS NOW. BUT I LIVE WITH HIM WHERE FRIENDS AND I CANT STAND THAT WHERE NOT TOGEATHER EVEN THOUGH WE ARE SCREWING. THE ONLY REASON WHY I PUT MY SELF UP TO THAT SITUATION IS BECOUSE SO I CAN GET TIRED OF HIM AND HIS EGO AND MOVE ON. SO YEA THE WORD CHEATING IS A BICTH | |
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Posted: 10/12/2008 9:04:40 PM | Re the Opost
"Cheating" is breaking the rules of a GAME (eg cards).
Thus the use of the word cheating implies that dating and rels are a game.
Breaking a law is not cheating, it is far worse.
Dating has no laws or rules. Only the rules agreed or implied by the two daters or SOs. | |
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