| Pathological Liars
Posted: 10/17/2006 8:02:41 PM | | WE NEED TO TALK GIRLFRIEND!!!!!! Oh the stories we could probably share. I'm right there with ya | |
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| Pathological Liars
Posted: 10/17/2006 8:02:58 PM | | WE NEED TO TALK GIRLFRIEND!!!!!! Oh the stories we could probably share. I'm right there with ya | |
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| Pathological Liars
Posted: 10/17/2006 8:30:08 PM | | I believe you are exactly correct. You named it all. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 12:51:07 PM | womansavers.com
just as good as dontdatehimgirl.com
but you can also give a glowing recommendation instead of just trashing a liar/cheater/player - I like that! | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 12:54:52 PM | Hey CB,
Sounds like your ex was a good con. I hope you spotted this stuff soon after you hoooked up. | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 3:13:52 PM | Is nothing bad with you jadey83. I met someone on line who lie to me so bad... includidng his firts name he told me his name was Francisco but his real name is Marcial, he lie me about his age he told me 36 but he was 41, he gave me 2 diferent adress... too.
he was lieing for a whole year and he made me change a plane ticket... for more than 10 times so... i waste like a 2000 dollars in this liar.
And after this i used to miss him... is nothing wrong with you it happens... but u will get better im sure....not all the women are like her, and im hopeful that not all the men are like him
A big kiss for you
Me | |
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Posted: 10/18/2006 3:35:25 PM | OK so my sister does this and we all know it, but what do you do to help them stop.
Do story writers fall into this category? | |
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Posted: 10/27/2006 9:10:14 PM | | You have posted some very interesting facts here. My ex fiance of 4 years fit each criteria to a "T", I felt like he was always lying because of low self esteem. He not only lied to me, but also to friends, family and his employer and coworkers. I think he need psychological help, but at least he is no longer my problem. Thank God. | |
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Shelea
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Joined: 10/18/2006
Msg: 160 | |
| Pathological Liars
Posted: 10/28/2006 4:34:21 AM | | Wow sure sounds like me ex of two and half years.....he was so good at being a pathological liar that I did not see it for the first two years. Then agian I saw nothing but love when it come to him for he was my life, nothing else mattered....and now I am paying for it dearly! He played on his self pity trips when he did not get his own way or if he got mad at me he would become very self centered. When one of those moments occur he would flip to another personality and make up some lame excuse to break up with me and go to his other life which I thought to be that he was moving on for he would send me an email telling me so. Through the two and half years it was always the same person that he would move on with. Then the same thing would happen to her as he did with me and he would work his way back into my life only to turn it upside down once again and yet this other woman and I would take him back everytime. Sad part is that it is so scary that I did not see what he was doing for he was that good. Quite the charmer he was! | |
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nich32
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Joined: 10/31/2006
Msg: 161 | |
| Pathological Liars... Tips for dealing with
Posted: 11/5/2006 1:37:42 PM | Liars tell LOTS of lies.. therefore:
1) The first one you discover will not be his/her first lie.
2) At the FIRST lie ... DOUBLE the emotional distance between yourself and the liar.
3) DO NOT accept the 'explanation' at face value... it is likely a lie.
4) If you are never told another lie (VERY unlikely).. you may reconsider your reationship.. maybe... but why would you want to wonder if every future statement was true?
5) When you are told the second lie (MORE likley).. REDOUBLE the distance. and... see rule #3 above.
6) Three strikes and 'yer out'.
7) Don't try to analyse WHY the person lies.. this only leads to extended stress for you. NOTHING you can do will change his/her behavior.
8) DON"T take the liar back into your life... unless you are a clinical psychiatrist needing subjects. | |
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| Pathological Liars... Tips for dealing with
Posted: 11/5/2006 4:57:46 PM | Not to make light of a very serious subject, but I can't just blow out a candle, make a wish that the liar stops lying for a day like in that Jim Carey movie "Liar, Liar"?
Seriously though, love is based upon trust and if someone breaks that trust by lying, then I think the only direction the relationship can turn is south.
Sadly, I don't think that a lot of these people actually know what they are don't conciously as it's likely they've learned these "surivival techinques" at a very young age. | |
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| Pathological Liars... Tips for dealing with
Posted: 11/5/2006 5:26:03 PM | | Haven't read much anything in here cause it is way too complicated. I have experienced numerous path. liars in my life, details would take a novel, and they just lie no matter what, more effort in lying the better, no cure no hope. that's why they call it pathological. My son was a clinical sociopath, nearly graduated to a psychopath, no logic, only thing is to theorize it it as a brain miswire, nothing to do with personality or choice. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2006 5:48:13 PM | | How do you know this? Was he anilized by a psycologist? and if divorcing,could be venting..plus you deleted your profile,and are young,im 47,and theres alot more to all this with alot of metal illness involved people.. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2006 6:06:08 PM | | What I don't like is when you're believing everything somebody says and then waaayyyy down the road you realize that, about half, if not more of what they said were lies. You then don't believe anything else they say and why should you? I don't like to think that someone would lie that much but they sometimes do. I've been through it. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2006 6:11:48 PM | | Hey, do you know my ex-husband?? Because you explained him to the tee.... thanks for the break down every one should be warned about these jerks.. I especially love the part when you wrote how they believe their own lies...oh my god they must have been seperated from birth...you think we should reunited them... lol Thanks ... At least now I can look back and laugh.. I realize now how much of a loser he is...Valerie | |
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Posted: 11/5/2006 6:17:55 PM | | BOY OH BOY....I COULD SHARE STORIES WITH YOU....my ex lied about everything, including that he had an incurable illness. I don't understand how people can tell these lies and still wake up in the morning and feel ok with themselves. And it's hard not to blame yourself for falling for it. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2006 7:24:43 PM | I think It depends on the lies, and you need to take Into account some illnesses ( Bipolar ect ) this Is actually part of the Illness at times, so you can no more hold some of their " stories " against them than you can the Flu against your work mate. If there's a medical reason I really think It needs to be viewed a LOT different than If there Isnt.
I knew someone Bipolar who had some wonderful stories at times, all totally harmless, and In effect they werent lieing - they believed them at the time - Big difference If you ask me. | |
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Posted: 11/5/2006 7:59:34 PM | Friendlynfun, to answer:
Sorry about the profile delete, I just recently did that because as soon as I updated it to reflect that I no longer was looking, found my match, etc. I started getting emails. The more severe I worded it the worst it got. So I got radical. I shall put it back now cause it needs to be there. Anyway, I have a son, now 22 and daughter 19. Yes, he was officially diagnosed, in fact because he was smarter than the school officials he would fool them everytime and they wouldn't put him into the "special" public school. So round and round I went getting called from work constantly to come get him. The shrinks were worthless, he was smarter than them. The problem was where we lived, the system had no procedure or whatever to deal, and no support at all. Like there was no such thing as a bad kid in that county. I raised him form 2 to 15 years old, then sent him up to live with his mom in New Hampshire. There he quickly got locked up in detention till he was 18, because he had been able to go on so long without any consequences from the system for destructive dangerous actions that needed some action from the authorities. In my county, no matter what a kid did you could not get any reaction from the authorities except official order for psych. eval. Over and over and over. Now at 22, he has become a productive part of society, cause there he got consequences. My daughter did have mental issues, only one Phd diagnosed her perfectly, but again the system sucked. Three times in state and private institutions. Can't go into it this post, the system really screwed us with her. The last state institution said to
send her to live with my ex. Social svcs took her away less than a month after getting there, and she was locked up till her 18th bday. Also, both of my kids even overwhelmed the doctor that according to everyone was THE world renowned best kid shrink. My daughter screamed rings around her, she was smarter than them, too. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2006 6:32:18 AM | | I wish my STBX husband would read this! I've become the manifestion of his lies, deceit and betrayal which is mere manipulation, control and dominance! By controllling what I do and don't know it gives a feeling of power to that liar. Pathological liars don't know they're lying. But sociopath liars do. It took me $100's and 6 months with a psycologist to figure out it wasn't me that undermined the marriage. That's how suckered in I was. I went to a doctor to come to terms with the aftermath of his lies. Great book!! When you're lover is a liar. Everyone should read it. My husband lost a wife who glorified him and cherished him, he walked out on his family after he bought a corvette and posted a personal ad on line and got caught. What a scmuck | |
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Posted: 11/6/2006 6:50:17 AM | | Agreed.....there is alot on that list that describe some of the people I've met online and real life. I've been burnt quite a few times, from women pretending to be my best friend, only to my having to end these so called friendships to avoid their destructive gossiping and nastiness to me. Same with men that tell you what they think you want to hear, just to get what they want. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 9:17:12 PM | | Isnt it funny i was at Oaks Day and overhearing things as you do when people are try hards i couldn't believe what many guys were saying so i casually approached 2 guys going at a girl approx 28, 1of them mentioned a town i used to live in and guess what he didnt know any of the street names i mentioned any way when 1 of the guys made a very clumsy attempt to tread on my sandal with his shoe i thought she must enjo the co. of liars went to the birdcage too get away from it lo and behold 2 young girls sat at my table and expected me to tell them i was part of the film crew what a joke i told them where the ladies toilet was. so if i hear another complaint about liars watchit. no joke. Rob. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 9:19:54 PM | | dont believe in bipolar we all have our ups n downs i think its just an excuse to bend the truth. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 9:30:22 PM | | good 4 you! i live i victoria oz and i would recomend speaking up 2 many people sit back and let it happen | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 9:51:04 PM | sounds like an ex of mine for sure.....scary stuff. thanks for posting OP.
how come I can never find this (COMPLETEKAOS) profile? | |
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