| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:00:51 AM | | Get with the program OP, online its all about the looks. If you aren't attractive, you aren't getting anywhere on here. Nobody cares about your personality, they only care how you look. I'm so sick of read/delete its not funny. And i don't bother with the good looking ones on here, used to but they can't be bothered. They'd rather hook up with some good looking guy who is only going to jerk them around. I'm about one more rejection away from leaving. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:11:53 AM | Very true, it is your oinion, but I happen to agree with U on this one!
It's just my opinion ~ but Barbies are such a rare find. And they come with some pretty big issues: she's high maintenance, doesn't have a job, she requires itsy tiny shoes, her social skills suck, and Ken is gay ~ what man wants to date that?? LOL
Think positively. Look at all the threads on this topic. Men and women complain about this. Stop looking so hard, just have a good time while you're here and see what happens. This is not speed-dating. It's just like the real world except you have the option to meet people from all over the world. What a gift. Good luck OP!! You see I actually dated quite a nmber of these types of girls, but I kept finding the same things wrong! That they were just to high maintenance, or they did not like to get dirty (for lack of a better set of terms). So I said to hell with them then! I still find myself looking at a beautiful lady, but in the end that beautiful lady is going to f*** up not only her life, but the guys life as well! So I find myself still liking to look, but I do not dare to touch! It is like the old wives tale "you can look, but you sure better not touch!" | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:52:57 AM | I agree with the OP, and yes, I understand this is an online dating site, so pics are usually the first things ppl look at and then decide from there, hence her issue. It's like a vicious circle. I feel the same way as the OP, if your not blonde, tan and / or have your boobs hangin out in your pics, you tend to get overlooked, so my question is, is there anyone really on here for anything serious? I have been on here for a short time but I am considering leaving, simply becuase of the above mentioned and the nasty notes I get from men, if YOUR here for a booty call, seek out those ladies whose profiles CLEARLY say thats what they are here for too, mine says long term, gee, I wonder if that is what I am looking for , and NO, I wont change my mind becuase you tell me your "member" is like 15 inches, sheesh.
OP, you and I are just regular ladies looking for regular guys and will only be appreciated by such. No one should EVER base "love" or just interest on how someone looks, HOWEVER, I do have to say that yes, when you see someone attractive walkin down the street your first thoughts arent damn, I bet he is faithful and a good provider or damn, she looks like she is willing to commit, you get my point here. But, all in the same breath, online dating sites have something more to offer then meeting someone off the street or in a club, they have a safe way to really get to know someone (IF both parties are being honest) without looks or sex to get in the way. Your not sitting directly in front of that person, so some (myself included) feel abit more comfy allowing more of our natural self to come out. I find that when trying to "pick up" someone in person, ppl tend to be nervous, so they either try to hard or are just not themselves.
So, I guess what I am trying to say is that both sexes should always try to get to know someone, even if they dont seem so appealing at first, because hey, you never know. You can be the hottest person alive, yet if you have an ugly personality, that makes you look all the more unattractive. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 7/21/2006 2:59:07 PM | Im not looking for a barbie.........my sisters barbie's looked very morbid on my toy tractors when I was a kid.....that gave me a clue then LOL! Im looking for a redneck girl (read my profile)
now that im grown, and have a real tractor, it wont work now either! give me a brassy/sassy, work on the truck, get greasy, smoking fightin, little on'ry amazon........Ill be VERY happy.
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/16/2007 7:02:12 PM |
The men on this website are snubbed to an orders of magnitude higher degree than the women here when they send out their messages, despite how thoughtful they are. And the most common response from the women is "we just get so many... we can't possibly be expected to read them all."
Thing is, the men who actually post in complaint of this behavior on the part of women usually write very decently and respectfully, and the women complain that they are inundated with an endless supply of E-mails to the tune of "hey u r fine lets hook up k?" These are NOT the same men who post in complaint. Furthermore, the number of women who complain about this are paltry in comparison to the men's figures. And as anyone can tell you, both genders on this site have little shame about moaning and griping. It simply isn't an issue for women, collectively at least. If you are a woman on this site, you are on average going to experience an E-mail volume several times that of men without lifting a finger. If you're not, try posting a better picture and see what happens.
Haha no kidding man. I've been on this site for a few months and I have received all of about 3 e-mails from someone who I did not already send a message to... and I would say nearly half of mine go unanswered despite the fact I always try to write something intelligent and respectful that clearly indicates that I have read their profile and appreciate what they have to say... | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 2:38:55 PM | this is a valid question I suppose... lets be fair most all people have a level of what they find attractive I know personally many of the girls I find more than attractive my buddies will cut right apart. I feel they are full of crap and they would be right there if she gave them the go however I do not believe this is the case with every guy my saying this may hold less weight as I have dated exotic dancers a model and a couple other excessively attractive ladies, yet a few others who I find equally or more attractive fall short of "barbie" one "big boned ", one who had a big nose, one who was some what plain and others to me (as it should be to others) who were far more attractive for just who they are attraction should include personality and further more in the physical it should be a "package deal" "oh she`s so hot but her butt is a little big" or "I like her but her hair is too short" all I can say to people like this (way way too many of them) is GROW UP! could be why there alone! life is short but it`s really long when your alone don`t stress dear he`ll come along keep looking you won`t find him if you don`t keep your head up Woody | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:21:05 PM | Perhaps it's beacuse COUNTRYGIRLJO -User closed account Jul 21 2006 2:20PM?
I don't think men are asking for much when meeting a new woman, most of us don't want a BARBIE we just want a woman who has a waist. A girl that our arm will actually fit around. If she is over weight and not getting enough attention she knows it. However she is the only one to blame and the only one with the power to change it.
Being open minded is when you are able to consider ideas that lie outside of your social/cultural/religious sphere so naturally there is no room for women who have a bad attitude towards men who are not interested and don't repond in the way that YOU want them too......
Especially when the Op does not show her profile or photo. I myself normally have a policy of not corrosponding with whinny, complaining, invisible women who don't exist, but I am smoking pot right now so perhaps it's just really good pot and you actually are a real person. That is until the munchies kick in and I eat something with sugar in it then I will not be high any longer and you will again cease to exist....
I must however give you credit, for half of your last sentence was indeed true.
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 3:34:39 PM | | I think one of the nicer things about websites like this is the ability to just not respond to an email if you're not interested. That way, you don't have to deal with the uncomfortable situation of explaining to a perfectly nice person that you just aren't interested, for whatever reason. So what if no one answers your email? All the men you didn't email aren't whining to you about you not contacting them, are they? Move on. As the website alludes, there are "plenty of fish" in the sea. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 4:12:05 PM | She was a 2 at 10, but she was a 10 at 2.....
Beauty is always in the eye of the beholder, and that eyesight changes as time goes by,,,right now i can't be sure i just spelled everything correctly....
This is just a website for people to see each other online and if you don't think looks play a major part in things at that stage of the game well then happy hour is over for you buddy!
Take this for what it is, don't get too serious about things on here....if you REALLY HAVE to meet the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE....you will probably bump into that person at the store or the gym, or at work...something like that...but probably not your own living room! This can be fun, but you can't get too heart-achy about it... | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 4:32:31 PM | "Take this for what it is, don't get too serious about things on here....if you REALLY HAVE to meet the LOVE OF YOUR LIFE....you will probably bump into that person at the store or the gym, or at work...something like that...but probably not your own living room! This can be fun, but you can't get too heart-achy about it... "
Amen, brother.  | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 4:39:12 PM | Your not....Put good pics on site and see what happens....the Barbies are usually the most fowled up people anyhow...Jus look around...
Im sure Ill get responses from some delusional woman claiming blah blah.. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 4:51:37 PM | Look you will find someone who likes you for you and it won't matter what you look like now I'm not saying this has a person who met that person because I haven't.  but I haven't given up I met people who get to know me but once they see me they don't want to talk. That's cool their missing out on a great person if they do that to anyone, Just remember the ugly duckling he became a beautiful swan and when we become swans it won't matter. So don't let pety people get to you I don't it bothers me but I get over it just like we all have to. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 9:15:53 PM | | Because men don't want fat chicks(like me) They want paper thin, wafer-like chicks that will have sex 24/7, and won't complain. So if you have curves and an opinion, men automatically don't want you. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 9:31:06 PM | Ya know..them barbies are good for one thing....
Ya sure they look hot as awa hell,but most are cold hearted and shallow...
Hard to find a hottie that gonna set it straight but be nice about what she wants and needs.....Not be snotty and cold..
Ya know,nothin worse than a woman that faults you on a first date cause you are "to much of a jokster"as it was put to me,yet she wants to be friends first.That was lame..The has the nerve to diss you cause ya have a passion that different than hers,then be so cold as to say a person has bad breath,yet she is a smoker..When was the last time that drinking beer gave a man sweet smelling breath...To top off the insult train she says she wants to be picked up in a car!!!!.......Yeah,we all love them barbies,but it aint for their minds and hearts.. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2007 9:37:35 PM | I think sometimes I just stay on the forums to try and dispel the myth that old fat chics with gray hair get no attention. Now, we may not get as much attention as some of the hot looking ones, but I'm not looking (was not, I mean) for the guy that is looking for the hot chic. Some of it is luck in just having the right person read your profile at the right time. Then not trying to pick from the same group of men as a billion other women. It doesn't mean I end up with losers (I don't). It means I end up with a guy that is also trying to choose from a different pool of women than a billion other men.
Think outside the "box", the profile, the stupid cliches. Who would possible want to be like someone else? I guess it doesn't bother me not being "Barbie," because I'm not at all attracted to "Ken." I'd rather date Ken's weirdo cousin that no one talks to because he's a geek and just looks funny to some people. (I know lots of my family stays far away from "Auntie Strange") :-p | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/17/2007 10:08:39 PM | Sad reality of materialistic people.
If you are male
You must be at least 5'11 (mostly 6 feet) just to even be considered.
If you are female
You have to have a beautiful face or be real thin.
Life isn't fair. But hey, when I stopped caring that's when I started feeling happy.
For me personally, I don't care about the height or weight, as long as I am attracted to the person, the physical attributes do not matter.
My preference is shorter women BUT I do not object to the possibility of dating a taller woman, this is where most women fail when they don't even consider dating a male who is "short" or at least the same height as they are. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/18/2007 2:38:57 AM |
You must be at least 5'11 (mostly 6 feet) just to even be considered.
hmmm... not quite sure if that's true.... i'm 5'9"... i've dated two girls i met off here... one for about 4 months the other about a month and a half.... which constitutes basically the entire time i've been on here lol. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:25:42 AM | | Hi, I been through the same thing but on the opposite end...I had to change my intro. and said what was on my mind..now I get responses all the time. Guys tell me they were intimidated by my looks and said they thought I was out of their league..too funny! I think I look alright for my age...I'm not skinny or a barbie , but I do take care of myself, I am educated, down to earth, and very independent. I'm not on here for sex or to be treated like a sex object, but looking for love. I often wonder..what is average? Good Luck in your search.. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/18/2007 3:38:10 AM | Let's get real. It would appear that quite a few people of both sexes join POF and start messaging the most attractive people they can find. There are plenty of women on here that are on over 300 people's favorites list. If a man gets about 10% of that, he is doing good. Even I get so many messages at times I can't possibly answer them all, and I'm not even that hot. I'm not grotesque or anything, but I'm sure not George Clooney.
The cold, harsh truth is, if you have unrealistic expectations, you are in for a big let down. In real life, I think Barbie would go for G.I. Joe because Ken is too effeminate, but she likes to go shopping with him. The point is, just because you aren't a Barbie doesn't mean you can't have a "dreamboat" of a man, but you have to keep in mind that attractive people get a lot of attention, and they may not notice you at first, or ever, so you will probably be looking for a long time. POF is much like the Bush economy: The top 10% of earners get all the breaks. On POF, the top 10% of the "lookers" get most of the attention. I came here looking for a very specific type of woman, and if you aren't it, it is no personal offense to you. Nobody on here is obligated to be interested in anyone. A bad attitude absolutely lessens your chances of meeting someone. Lighten up. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 10/18/2007 4:07:45 AM | | Well....!!!! You can blame it on the women's fashion magazines.....!!!! Have you ever seen a size 12 model in them.......????? NO..!!!! Most look like sticks..and so women aspire to look like them.......and NOW.....men expect it, too...!! | |
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