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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/7/2008 11:52:23 PM | Men are visual creatures, and also sexually-hyped creatures. By the same token, many men do not want to enter into relationships with women who are bitter. They do not thrive on conflicts with women, and do all they can to try to avoid them.
Just an observation, but you do come across as being angry and bitter. That is a strong reason as to why they may not be responding. Keep in mind that anytime you post something to the forums on here, it appears on your profile. As such, men who receive your messages and check out your profile will see your posting on here, and ask themselves if they truly want to get involved with someone who is angry and bitter.
I understand your frustration and do sympathize. I do recommend that you be patient. Someone WILL come along. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/8/2008 2:31:47 AM | Someone will not necessarily come along. I've been online a long, long, time and seen and heard all of the various approaches and philosophies as to how best to meet someone here and hopefully jumpstart your love life.
Let's be honest, most of us begin on these sites by browsing the pics, if we like what we see then and only then do we read the profile and if we like what we hear then and only then do we make contact. If you are of average or less than average looks and particularly of an older age group you will more often than not be bypassed and your emails ignored by the vast majority of the opposite gender.
You can email, post in the forums, keep your pics recent, have your profile updated regularly and occasionally reviewed, and maybe TRY and IM people and you may still end up spinning your wheels if you don't look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie.
A very few of us don't judge on appearances alone so I remain here in the hopes that I will find one of them and also enjoy the forums. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/8/2008 4:47:39 AM |
You can email, post in the forums, keep your pics recent, have your profile updated regularly and occasionally reviewed, and maybe TRY and IM people and you may still end up spinning your wheels if you don't look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie.
How refreshingly honest and 100% true.Not you typical run of the mill politically correct load of bull most people try to tell you. Cheers for honesty. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/8/2008 7:14:58 AM | I agree with Sassy ... change your 'tude. There are men a PLENTY on this thing (even when you aren't looking) ... I am by FAR no barbie - I'm a country girl and a cowgirl to boot (not the most feminine career, you know it) - start by trying to RELATE to them ... people appreciate it - not just men, not just women ... | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:40:35 AM | I know how you feel! Not a barbie here nor do I want to be!! I like who I am, yes a little on the plump side but working on that for my health not the guys, (it's going great I might add!) Even if I lose the weight I won't be a barbie!
It's all in how you see yourself! 
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/8/2008 1:23:25 PM | To Hell with "Barbie" look alikes!
It's that old, common, Western misconception that I believe, is getting more and more outdated!
I love women in ALL their colours and cultures. The only thing I'm fussy about is their health, because I guess (subconsciously) I wish to have healthy, good looking offspring.
So, as long as I'm attracted to a woman, who is of "healthy" weight, is a light/non smoker and who tries to lead an active life (even if that just means plenty of sex  ) I don't give a rat's ass if she happens to be a "Barbie" or not. Actually, I tend to find Black, Oriental, Indian, Latino/Mediterranean women sexier than the Barbie stereotypes. Just look at mainstream culture. Dark women like Rihanna, Beyonce and Naomi Campbell are challenging these old views by storm.
So Ladies, don't get too hang up on these old (very old) clichés. And if you happen to come across a man that exhibits them, then obviously he's narrow minded and hence, no good and should be kicked, immediately, to that proverbial kerb! | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 1/8/2008 8:40:17 PM | Mitch:
I'm not sure who you're addressing your comment to; you may be directing that toward someone who is no longer in this thread. A bit vague...
I'm sharing my comments/experiences/observations with others in this forum. Other people have had similar experiences and we can all benefit from kicking ideas around. I enjoy the feedback. If my comments are offensive or disconcerting to some, then maybe they need to join another thread...(?)
And...what I'm starting to realize is that we're ALL visual creatures...women have ideas of what appeal to us just as men do....and we have other criteria that we deem important and then we start to make an evaluation...Both genders have that in common. What this thread is about is how it seems that some people may have physical standards that are a tad unrealistic (women included.)
P.S. SHOW me a man who is truly sexually hyped and I'll tilt my hat....LOL...anyway, back to the drawing board...
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Joined: 1/29/2008
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/18/2008 3:07:25 PM | I have the typical 'Barbie' look, and I'm overlooked all the time. It's frustrating when people don't want to get to know me, and instead just look at my pic and assume I'm a bimbo. I am a smart girl with a lot to offer!! Read my profile instead of checking out the pic!! >:-( | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:32:16 PM | Ok, I read some replies and I can tell you why your being over looked. Any dating site you join will give advice about appealing messages of telling someone about yourself. This is one of the first things of finding anyone with the same interest. Photos get noticed and probably 10 times higher for responses.
I’ve read many profiles here in POF, and about 50% said they will not respond if no photo can be exchanged. People are leary over an internet because they have looked at photos that were probably 10 yrs or so old. That becomes a bad experience for them. Some are good and finish the date out with never intentions of calling again. Other have walked out when they felt deceived. If the photo isn’t current, tell them how old the photo is.
Most of the replies I read have no photos, with the same problem. I also far from Barbie myself, but believe honesty is the best policy. Just remember we aren’t everyone’s type, but we are somebody’s type.
Good luck to each and all in your searches. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/19/2008 4:02:10 PM | | Give yourself some credit we all get judged in some form sometime by ones who don't even know us and blow us off its called life,but sometimes they are the ones who are missing out and dreaming of a fantasy land,the way I see it if one misjudges you they may lose and get something worse,never judge a book by its cover,regardless of peoples thoughts hold your head high and drive on there is someone for everyone. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/19/2008 4:06:55 PM | I am not a Barbie, Don't want to be though I am trying to eat healthier & become healthier in the process. I've only had my ad on POF a short time & am getting a ton of emails, I even went on one date, It didn't work out but that's why the site is called POF!
I didn't get to view countrygirljo's profile, but I think it all depends on how you market yourself, & a good picture can't hurt, & I think women are visual creatures too.... | |
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DonQ
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Joined: 1/10/2008
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/19/2008 8:34:05 PM | I really think you'reover generalizing here just a bit. Why its true we as animals are stringly attracted to those with "perfect" features, its not true that only those with "perfect" features are chosen here or anywhere else.
We live and love in an off-the-rack world so the "tailor-made" people are few and far in-between.
Just relax a bit. When the right guy comes along for you he wont look anywhere else and you'll forget about the times you felt you were snubbed. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/23/2008 10:32:05 AM | | what a completely stupid friggin idiot! HELLO MORON! Guys that aren't Ken get overlooked too...day in and day out. It's not all one-sided so stop trying to play the part of a victim looking for sympathy. | |
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/23/2008 3:03:42 PM | I am no Barbie and it actually has always worked for me.
There are a wide range of preferences.
Not all men want a Barbie .
I have had compliments from men that are attracted to the non Barbie types .
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| How come if you are not A BARBIE you are overlooked....
Posted: 2/28/2008 5:51:44 PM | I'm no barbie either baby and I get lots of emails / IMs.
Must have something to do with positive energy and self confidence. If you feel good about yourself and believe people want you, girl it'll start "raining men" in your direction in no time...start listening to that song from the weathergirls, it'll lift your spirits!
Have fun and be positive!! | |
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