| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/10/2007 6:34:44 PM | | I don't have help either, but I find it better that way because then at least they are not always underfoot. In the end though the kids will see which parent was there through everything and which one has not, don't fret in the eyes of your kids you are a hero! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/10/2007 7:08:15 PM | | I've been a single mom now for 7 and a half years to 5 kids.My 15 year old and 7 year old are soecial needs and my 9 year old has ADHD.My other two (20 and 18) are all rightWe separatedAug.1999,my youngest was born Sept 1999.They all have the same father.He does pay child support but I don't see it as I'm on income support and it just goes to them.But he is trying to get the amount that he pays reduced as he says that he can not afford that amount.The only time that he seen the three youngest was when I dropped my oldest son (24,number 6) off at his house as he was staying there until he went out west (Canada).I do get a little help from my father. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:15:26 AM | | i have an 8mnth old kid his father n i have been split up for four mnths he has not asked to see our son since then, n has provided no support imean being in a small country town there is not much hasle to make a trip to see your son one wud think. i kno i am only young n doing this on my own is the hardest realisation i have ever had to come to but it is worth it i mean i kno that every time that room lighting smile appears on his gorgeous face that its all for me n because of me, hisfirst word was to me hisfirst steps will be towards me it is well worth the heartache n self doubt it is the most overwhelmong task but one day at a time makes me realise that its the best thing in the world n no one has more love for there chid then a single parent, the parent that chose not to run away, that chose not to put there own needs b4 their childrens | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 6:17:41 AM | | 25M here, Just Fought and won full custody of my son last year and i do not want help from her. When she has him she needs my money, the govt to pay for and anything else she can mooch. She doesnt make anything worth going after her for Child Support and she would more than likely quit and just suck up my tax money anyways. So yes you are not alone and i wouldn't trade a single struggle i have to go back to the Rubber Stamped "Father gets every other weekend" BS the court dishes out. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 7:00:43 AM | I am a single mother of 2 young children. My son will be 5 on St. Patrick's Day and my daughter is 8 months old. I have full custody of my children and my ex sees them every other weekend. He keeps our son overnight on his weekends but right now he's still just seeing our daughter for an afternoon. She's still nursing and is very attatched to me right now so it's hard for him to take her overnight (he certainly can't breastfeed her like I can). He will start taking her overnight in time though.
Other than those every other weekends, I have no help. It's just me and the kiddos and I like it like that!  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 1:10:33 PM | I am a single mother of three wonderful children, a 15 year old daughter, an 11 year old boy, and a 6 year old little girl. They are my whole life. I have no support what-so-ever from their father.
My oldest daughter is from my high school sweetheart that went bad and he has popped in and out of her life for 15 years and I have tried so hard to make it work between the two of them but now she has been hurt so many times by his empty promises that his last act is unforgivable in her eyes (He moved to another province wiht his new family and they are pregnant with their second child without telling her anything about the baby or moving).
So now that makes him missing in action as well.
I am not sure how someone can up and leave their child behind without looking back. They have no idea how great they have become and what they are missing out on.
Unfortunaltely the world has become cold and the caring factor is slowly depreciating and this is a more common then we would like it to be. We just need to be extra strong for our children and let them know that they are the best in the world and not to worry about the other parent cause they are the ones loosing out.
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:22:38 PM | Hello, what's that I even had boyfriends that have said count me out. So I did, I don't even remembr asking before that statement was made. You start to feel like the plague. She's now 12. I can't rely on family or friends either
B | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 3:51:42 PM | My daughter is going to be 16 next month, I have raised her alone since she was 2 with no help. Her Mom passed away so I really couldn't have even hoped for help. All in all though, it's been a great and wonderful lifes experience for me
Fred
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 5:58:13 PM | | sad but true theirs alot of us out there that have no help. i too im a single partent and i have rasie my kid since she was born yes the father did see her when he wanted which was not that much. hes was a selfish person. he never put her needs berfore himself. he once said to me do you know hoe hard it is to rasie a 3 year old when i was the one with her full time. i have the best thing wich is and will always be my daughter who is 13. it gets me mad that there are so many people who are so selfish and have no promble having sex with you and not taking care of their own kids. our goverment does nothing to stop this. its too easy for people to get off easy. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:17:25 PM | | I have court ordered child support. Of course she has never paid any in 3 years. it is only hurting her kids but she does not care. She see them when it fits into her schedule. and my youngest alway has a bad atitude when he gets home. You are not alone just do the best you can with what you have and pray it is enough. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/11/2007 11:51:44 PM | I have been a single parent now for 18 years and although I wish his dad could have been part of his life, he doesn't know what it would be like to have a dad. He has plenty of uncles and male role figures in his life. Financially it has been a hard and humbling experience to ask for help. I was always one to try my hardest to make it on my own and we, I think, have definately learned to live below the poverty line. He is old enough now to get a job and start making some money to cover his own expenses, which is great. He is now one of the greatest teenagers a mom could have.
Keep plugging away, it only gets better. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/12/2007 12:07:36 AM | I'm A single mom, and don't get any support from her dad, he'll call up and ask to take her(20 months) for a few hours maybe once or twice a month, And I got another on the way so we'll see if this one's dad is going to be around.  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:55:55 PM | | My 5 year old's father has never paid a cent (we seperated and divorced when my son was 1 yr. old) even though there is a support order in place. I found out that he moved with his girlfriend to New Mexico and had a baby girl last October...great, another kid he won't be supporting. My ex has this great plan of moving to new places when life gets "hard." Eventually he'll run out of land. Thank God I have a college education and a great job!! My family doesn't help either, but that's okay, my son and I have loads of fun together. I wouldn't trade it for the world and to be honest, my son has a better chance of having a successful life without his drug-addicted, warranted father around. No I don't say a bad word about his father to him, but he would only be a bad influence on my smart, sweet boy. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 2/13/2007 5:37:52 PM | I don't get any kind of financial help with my son, that doesn't mean, however, that his dad is not in his life. I think that having a loving parent participate in a child's life, if that is not possible, I think its best to continue without.
Too often, children's needs are overlooked in a battle of money, or anger... these things are natural, I just think its' important that the children have people in their lives who love them..... then everything kinda sorta falls into place  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/19/2007 10:19:36 PM | good evening i was looking at this site and came across your add and thought i would reply. my name is marlene and here is my story. i am a single parent of 2. 1 boy and 1 girl and my girl is 16 and my boy is 5.
i left my daughter dad when she was 8 months old and what a great thing that was because the relationship was about drugs and booze. i got out of that life style and he still is going 100 % i had come to realize that was, is and always will be his #1 love and i would not compete.
my son is the one that i think you will relate to even though i do get support for my son when and if he makes it but my son's dad lives in the city and chooses to not see his son and even if i wanted to. i have been told by lawyers and judges that no matter what i want there is no way i can go after him for support. why? i am glad you asked that. this is because he is on aish. and our lovely government will not go after a disablity. unbe****inglievable. sorry for the language but this government pisses me off. so not only does my son get to grow up not knowing his dad but he has to live a very dificult live because i can not got support for him but make no mistake i am a very determind person and i will give the best life that i can and you know the funny thing is. i ask aish how i can get support for my son and they so pretty much good luck. so he can go out and have 100 kids and not pay a dime. so, tell where is justice. pls reply either on here or at free_spirit_70@hotmail.com and let me know your opinnions. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/20/2007 4:32:17 PM | | I have no help and haven't for 7 years, at the end of the day, it's his loss, my kids are fine and that is all that matters to me. don't get me wrong it's hard sometimes and I feel like screaming in frustration, as I have all the responsibilty, with no one to share it with, but they are very few and far between. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:18:06 AM | | I have been raising my daughter on my own for almost four years. Her Dad is actually a pretty good Dad, but when the time came for him to help with money, I said that I could handle it on my own just fine. I really don't that being financed by a parent is really what a child needs. Just the love, understanding and repsect of both parents is far more important. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/21/2007 10:31:19 AM | | I do get some help, not willingly though I had to take my kids father to court to get him to pay, and to take his kids which he ****ed up after the second visit so now he sees them 4 hours a week seperatly.. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/21/2007 12:35:40 PM | His dad is in australia so i dont get every other weekend. his aunt has cancer so she cant handle the energy. his grandfather died so he misses him. my mom is not the kind of person he wasnts to see so he does not go.
i stay home with him when he is sick, when he fell on the playground and broke 2 bones during a hurricane when i could get no ice because the elctricity went out.
i lost jobs so many times it is not funny.
i wake up any night he needed me and tried to function at work.
i would hide the welfare card when i got food in case the person standing behind me was a father of a kid at his school.
i try to date but men dont understand i have to pay a babysitter.
so any one out there complaining about the dad visiting, at least u have time to do something when they are not there.
i am completely on my own. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/21/2007 5:34:04 PM | | I am a single mother of two boys, who pretty much raised my kids on my own even while I was married to their father. I worked long hrs to make ends meet untill I could no longer handle the stress. I lost my job due the stress I was under, even when he sis work he didn't help much with seeing that kids had the things they needed cause he always came first. New playstations and other expensive items bought for the kids ended up being sold without my knowledge so he would have money to do the things he wanted. So I seperated from their father in hopes he would grow up and take on some responsibility. When that didn't happen I filed for divorce. Now have been divorced almost 3 years and still no help with child support. When the FOC catches up to him he, once he does get work, he quits so they can't take money out of his check anymore. After all the mental abuse my boys and I took from this man, I would rather NOT let my boys see him. However it is court ordered. Is there any court that will see that mental abuse in a child is just as bad as physical abuse? It sure does cost enough. | |
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