| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/21/2007 7:03:13 PM | i am a single mommy with no help......my son was in the hospital for 10 days and his father showed up 2wice. since then he hasnt been over or called.....so you are not alone and nor am i. it just makes us stronger.
the only thing i can say is to never bash the other parent, it could make your kid resent you instead.
smooches
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/21/2007 8:55:43 PM | | I have four boys all under ten and I am a single mother doing it all by myself, im not sure if this helps you but just know I know how it feels. But I do what needs to be done cause I am all they have, right now. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:45:59 PM | | ok, I hope you are sitting down. I have a 22 year old and a 7 year old. My 22 year old's dad was never a part of our life and now my 7 year old's dad is part of his life. I have to say that it was easier when I did not have to make decisions with anyone, but now, it's so nice to have someone else there who loves this little man as much as I do and takes him a fair amount of time. There are pros and cons to having the other parent involved. It's a hard job being a single parent all alone. I consider myself to be very lucky now. I don't know many people who are all alone with their children, but maybe in your case, it's a good thing. I hope they have some positive female role models in their lives as well as you. Keep up the good work-it's worth it in the end. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:34:08 PM | | well i've been doing it on y own for 13 years and its tough my son will never understand what he did wrong for his dad to hate him..you know it's sad when the other parent is not involved emotional it is not right..people tend to forget that the child/children are the ones who suffer | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:23:23 AM | | I'm 23 and I have 2 children. I have a 3 1/2 y/o son and a 1 1/2 y/o daughter and they have different dads. My sons dad won't talk to me at all. I have talked to my daughters dad a couple times through letters cause he has been in an out of jail since before I had her. I have no help from either of them and its been very hard and stressful. Thankfully I have my family, but thats not the same, cause they help sometimes and then they complain to. I don't know how to explain it. I knew I wasn't the only person out there like this, but glad to know there are people to talk to, cause none of my friends are single parents so its hard. They don't understand what I'm going through cause they are married or dating the person you know. Anyways thanks for listening | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:26:04 AM | | Ain't that true about the suffering for the child. My daughter is to young to understand but my son is 3 1/2 and every once in a while he asks me about his dad and I tell him what I know I don't say anything rude around my son cause I don't think thats okay my mom use to do it about my dad and I hated it. It just hurts me, cause my kid will say mom is my dad gonna come see me. And I just have to say maybe sometime not really sure. And it breaks my heart cause then he will tell me sister or mom that his dad is going to come see him from California sometime. And his dad doesn't realize what that is doing to his child. We had a 1 night stand and I got pregnant, but still thats not okay to not take care of something you made. My son is so very smart and I don't know who wouldn't want to know him. It just kills me inside that he does this to him. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:16:37 PM | I have a 10 week little boy who is my life since I found out I was pregnant. At first i was with his father and literally had to force him to come to appointments and scans. He had no thought for me or the child during the pregnancy and caused a lot of stress. Then in September 2006 he throw me out and my family was 250 miles away. So I moved back to my parents and didn't hear from him until my baby boy was born, then since then he has seen him twice and the last time was when he was 3 weeks old.
I get mo help or support financially or emotionally.
All I can say is thank God for my family, they've been my rock. Although I don't want his father to be a part of our lives, I will lwt my son find out how much or an a******e his "father" really is when he is old enough to decide.
To all the single parents out there good on you and hold your head up high, be proud and don't let the un-feeling gits effect you because it's them that miss out on their beutiful children growing!!
Love and respect to you all x x x x  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:31:58 PM | Regardless of no dad, or breaking up after years of being with someone... it is always hard to raise a child on your own... the cliche of it takes a town to raise a child is so damn true...
I never had help from my son's father, long story(posted it elsewhere) but yeah, never wanted it either... never asked for financial or other help from him....
I went back to school when my son was young so I could become what i had always dreamed and also solidified the fact I could always take care of my own and give him everything he needs and more :)
It is hard raising a child with two parents together... and even harder when you are the only one who takes the tantrums and sleepless nights, and yet you are the only one that sees the smiles, hears the giggles and gets the hugs and slobbery kisses...
I wouldnt change my life for the world, regardless of how hard or complicated it gets :)
Good luck everyone :) You are doing a great job! feel free to message me if you wanna chat or get together :) | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:53:58 PM | My son has never seen his mum and i hope he's lucky enough not to meet her. I had a lucky escape and i hope he never needs one , we want nothing from her finantialy or otherwise. Just remember kids are a joy and not a chore.
good luck,one is sometimes better than two | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:35:52 PM | | I have 5 kids and no help from their dad who is now claiming he wants DNA tests before supporting his kids. I informed him that I was leaving town to a better one where I would have more supports and that if he wanted to see them that maybe he should pay for the DNA tests | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:57:34 PM | I am a single mom of 2 children.My son is 7 and daughter is 4 i've only been at it for 6 months alone but honestly my children listen better now to me then they ever have.I have not got any help in the 6 months with their dad but it really don't matter to me i look forward to seeing my children as soon as i awake they are my inspiration.No offence but i think people come on and write these to see if anyone else feels the same way and maybe for some inspiration,to know its not all that bad and we all really can get threw being a single parent my children made me who i am take care y'all. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 3/29/2007 1:39:11 AM | In response to mssge 284
Hey Nicnic,
I want to say congrats!!!!....on the birth of your new baby boy! I hope you are enjoying every moment you can with him....it goes by fast! I am glad you have alot of family support for you and the baby....you are fortunate to have them (as am I having my family as back-up).
I read your post and couldn't help responding to something you said....mainly that you want your son to figure out what an A$$HOLE his dad is when he gets old enough to decide for himself. Believe me, I can totally appreciate how mad and (insert explitive here) you are right now....and this is a great place to vent your frustrations...but...I am pretty sure there will come a time (very soon) that you will not want your son to figure out what a failure his Dad is....because in the end....that will only hurt him...won't it?.....I am going through the same type of scenerio as you right now....except I am not angry anymore.....and would do anything to protect my kid from the unbelievable hurt that comes with her father rejecting her....I wish you and your son all the best in the future. Above all....enjoy your new lil one....this is a special time. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 4/1/2007 11:03:04 AM | | Im a single mum with no help. Split with ex hubby when my child was a year old....she is now 12....not had any help or seen him in all that time.....(not that i would want to see him right enough lol)....Im lucky that i have a great family who have been there to help and support me all these years ..dont know what i would have done without them.x | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 4/1/2007 1:01:46 PM | | i have no help from my daughters dad. he only lives across the road from me aswell. and to be honest,as much as his help would have come in handy now and then i haven't needed him. and i get all the credit for bringing up a well mannered compassionate young lady(also mouthy towards me but thats a teen thing) . | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 2:40:30 PM | | i have three children, and ive been seperated from father for almost 12 yrs. Im better of on my own, he never helped when i was with him, and i personally think im better of without him and the children with him in their lives. Each person is different and has their own opinion, but i sincerely hope my children grow up knowing how hard i have worked to get them everything they want. After all tho, love is much more important. Everyone compliments me on how well mannered and kind my children are, which makes me feel proud, as it can be very hard. So i know i have done a really good job on my own. | |
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Posted: 4/1/2007 3:20:34 PM |  hi well im a single parent to 2 girls aged 10 and 6 1/2. their dad walked out on me wen the baby was 4month old and eldests 4 birthday was 3 days away. since then he has paid me nothing or helped in anyway so u not alone. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 4/1/2007 5:28:44 PM | | i dont understand how a mother could abandon her child!!!!!!i am raising my 5 year old boy alone. i have not seen or heard from my sons father in 4 and a half years. my son is better off anyway his father is a major looser and could only teach him bad habits. its not always easy but i would not have it any other way. atleast i have my family to count on | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 4/1/2007 10:27:57 PM | | I have a 12 year old girl who just came back to live with me after almost 9 years of not being with her everyday. She was living with my sister , which i am very greatlyful for, but there were issues between my sister and myself that made it very difficult for her to accept me for me, (my sister) and had nothing nioce to say aboout me , and my daughter has heard these negative outbursts. I have made mistakes in my life and have paid for them dearly. NOw that my baby is living with me , i am finding it to be very stressful, I havent been around her everyday , just phone calls, which was good , but not the same as being togethere, so now that we are here together i am finding that this aint easy. I am so stressed, that i dont know if i am coming or going. My daughter has told me that she doesnt want to live here with me and has made it very difficult . I cry every night and wonder if i am doing everything i can. I have no support from my family, just a few resources that i have tried to help me when i need it. But lately , nothing seems to be working. What can i do ? i love my daughter , but i'm falling apart here , Anyone have any ideas? please help me . You can email me at pamgthompson@hotmail.com , trying to keep my daughter happy and me sane, thank for your time. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:36:44 AM | | im a single parent 2 a 14 year old son and i think the fact that i av raised him on my own with no help frm his dad is fantastic,he is polite and kind,has manners 2 his elders and as never bin any trouble 2 me,in fact i think that if his dad ad bin in our lives it most likly wud av bin a on off thing causin my son more upset and sleepless nights than anything,as i have seen with all my friends that av ad on off flings,an all them UNCLES dont do any child any gud. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 4/2/2007 9:47:15 AM | My brother is a single father of a six year old. He has had full custody for 3 years now and gets nothing from the mother. She shows up twice a year, (for my nephew's birthday and christmas) then takes back off again. But on the other side, he is better off without his mother in his life in this case.
As for myself, I am a single mother. The father took off when I was 3 months pregnant and we are still trying to track him down. My son is now 6 months old and he is the greatest thing that has come into my life. I have a great family and they have been there every step of the way. | |
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