| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:31:00 AM | we have to stop being angry about not having any help.I understand that it is frustrating at times,but who cares...we have great kids and we need to focus on the positives .There are people that cannot have children and here we are blessed with them.Yes it would be nice to have help from the fathers/mothers but we dont...so we may struggle a little bit.But i am sure every single one of you would smile and say its all worth it when u look into your childs eyes.
remember what doesnt kill us makes us stronger....focus on being a great parent and not the lack of help that we get | |
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Papa_L
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Joined: 5/20/2007
Msg: 379 | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/30/2007 2:58:56 PM | | um this is extremely common my kids are 3 and 6 and there dads dont help out my oldest childs father dont even see her and my sons dad comes around for an hr when he feels like it. my best friend is a single dad he got a 5,6,9 yr old and there mom left a yr ago and she takes them one weekend a month and makes the kids clean when she has them and leaves them with sitters and he is pretty much doing it on his own. She dont pay support just like my kids dad dnt pay. so its lot more common than u may think it is | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/30/2007 7:25:31 PM | | I have 3 crazy but beautiful lil ones. I do have help. Im lucky. My mother takes them once a week so I get time to me. Also my ex inlaws try to spend time with the kids often, and take them maybe every couple of months. As for their father, anyone can be a sperm donor, it takes someone special to be a daddy. and men it could go the same way for being a mommy so to speak. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/30/2007 7:49:36 PM | | I am a single father of Triplets. I've had them fully since the were 6 months old. Completely changed my life for them and their mother carried on like it was just a commom cold. It's hard but I know that once I succeed at this, my boys will see that there isn't anything they can't do. It's important to believe that and have faith that God has a plan. I made it in a book... it was just a brief mention but it made feel like a million dollars... | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:48:14 AM |
How many sinle parents have their kid or kids
over 12 years.........and not a single complaint.....sorry if thats a disapointment to some, but i fought for it, and got what i asked for, shit may happen, but raising my babies..... now thats been some funny shit | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/31/2007 9:45:54 AM | | My kids are being raised by me and only me. This has been my life for the last 5 + years. I have family that is local but they have trouble with dealing with my son's disability. They want him to be "like everyone else" and cannot accept that he's not. Their father has fled the state to avoid prosecution from his first ex-wife so he is of no help either. I spend my time shuttling my kids to school and extra curricular activities by myself. It's tiring but it is so awesome to have your child come up to you and hug you after winning the soccer game or baseball game. I wouldn't trade it! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 5/31/2007 8:59:20 PM | Thank you kindly ma’am. Quite frankly, I see children as a gift from a higher source, delivered to this earth by a lady
Hence, a man should pay homage to that lady who gave him the opportunity to be a part of this gift, and to complain is disrespectful.
Besides, without the opportunity with my kids, I’d never have known how friking cool and hilarious cartoons are now days.
Some of my greatest single parenting moments were Saturday morning, 3 and 6 year old, couch, me coffee, bottle for my boy, juice box for my girl, crazy looking cereal, 9 am, cat-dog, sponge-bob, etc….., before I knew it, 12 noon, nap for them, I’m still in my pj’s, second cup of coffee, and what do I do,…. keep watching.
My kids forced me to reaccept my youth, I owe them for that. | |
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babs3
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Joined: 7/30/2006
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/1/2007 1:51:29 AM | Sweettestthang,
You are so right! I couldn't imagine my life without my kids! I don't think I would have had as much pure laughter and joy in the last 10 years if it weren't for my kids! As a single parent, I only want to focus on the good....but....As a single parent, I will forever defend the bad rap some of us single parents get! | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/1/2007 11:20:14 AM | | my ex left me even before I found I was preganant and later when I did find out he said he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby and that 6 years ago even though things can be hard at times I have learned to smile and be thankful that I have such a wnderful lil boy who means the world to me so I say to you just takes things one day at a time and everything will turn out just fine | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/2/2007 10:39:07 AM | single mum here with no help, yes it gets hard at times, but, i wouldnt change it, me and my girls have a great time together, they are developing very well without their father in their lifes.. but they do know that there is something missing, which, naturally im worried about..
im also worried when they are a bit older and say...mummy, why doesnt daddy want to see us?? ... im lost for an explanation, truely am.. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/2/2007 7:46:04 PM | Even prior to becoming single , I was the nurturer in the children's lives. I quickly learned that you can not make a partner (other parent) be loving or an active participant. The children live with me out of choice as they know where they are unconditionally loved, safe and cared about. I have without hesitation put their interests first and been an active supporter of the children ( coach, pta dad, scout leader). They have never been denied any activity the desired to participate in and even though I have carried all responsibilities on my own shoulders, I have never trash talked their mom..I am sure they will remember how I carried myself when they are older. My hope it that it will enable them to be happy & healthy adults aas well as good partners with their future love. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/3/2007 6:48:42 AM | i amsingle parent of 12 year old for 7 years.his mother calls hims and promise him
things and never deliver.she promises to get him and never does.it confuses my son
and makes me angry.i am just making it and i think it is definitely time to get child
support from her.hopefully hell go to college and could sure use extra money | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/3/2007 8:58:34 AM | | Well after reading this thread, I see that it's a lot more common than I had orginaly thought. My son has two moms (Ex's sisters child) and neither one of them is part of his life. He is my son and we do well on our own. I try two teach him not to hate and forgive but at 14 teen and no one from his bio family has anything to do with him. It's a hard task. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/3/2007 9:44:43 AM | I have 3 kids, 22, 19, and 16. I have received child support for my kids, but only until 18 and graduated. The courts felt that college expenses did not need to be included because they could receive grants and scholarships, so I was not granted support for them after 18 even while they remain in college. I think most of us understand that support for your kids does not end at 18 these days unless you choose to push them out the door. In my case, all three of mine still live with me and I have continued to support them while their father was certainly glad to wash his hands on supporting them after 18. Now, my oldest is going on his senior year in college - mostly paid for through student loans, grants, and scholarships. Thank the Lord that I am able to be here and provide him a home. My daughter but has always dreamed of going to Georgetown University. Last year she applied and was accepted there, but she turned it down because she didn't want to burden me with the financial responsibility. It broke my heart for someone to have worked so hard to reach her dream - just to let it go. So she went to the local university this past school year and worked a full time job to save as much as possible. I told her that she must pursue her goals, and no matter what I had to do to help make that happen, I would do it. I am proud to say that she didn't let her dream go and decided to reapply. Two weeks ago, we received confirmation from Georgetown that she has been accepted a second time! This time she's going!!! I don't care what I have to do - she deserves that opportunity. My youngest son, is going to be a junior in high school and has for the last two years been #1 in his class. I believe that he will also attend the university of his choice and again, I will be there to support his/ their efforts. Yes, my kids are smart but I'm not posting this to simply brag. I am posting this to hopefully encourage others to continue supporting your children in their dreams and to believe that the seemingly impossible can be achieved despite the lack of support from the other parent. I am facing a very tough road ahead, but the joy that I recieve from seeing them flourish is priceless.
I am blessed beyond anything I ever imagined just to have my children in my life. May God bless all you parents who continue to support your children despite the personal sacrifice it requires. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/3/2007 10:26:09 AM | Me and three, since April 2004.
Now my oldest daughter is 10, and my boy/girl twins are 6.
It's been one helluva ride, some of the funniest moments when at the drive-thru and the people inside look in the car to see THREE baby seats.
It's chick repellent, I tell ya!  | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/3/2007 11:59:08 AM | my ex was away alot so feltlike a single parent,have been on my own for 3.5yrs now,the boys are almost 12 and just turned 6.Their father doesnt answer the phone let alone phone to check on their welfare etc,doesnt have them,and i have no family support,so just me and my boys but wer`re ok i think-theres laughter and food and warmth here:-D | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/8/2007 8:40:48 PM | | well power to ya realdeal.....as to your question....us fathers are a small percentage compared to the girls i have noticed but we are there....i am a single dad of a 14 year old boy and loving every minute of it.....it's been a huge strugle trying to be a part of his life but persistance pays off.....my worst peeve now is the some guys now that make us all look bad......and it chokes me just to print it but dead beat dads...and dead beat moms realy make me sick......ROCK ON SINGLE PARENTS....now its just a constant battle trying to find more time to do stuff together....being wrapped up with wok work and more work and all that is. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:25:51 PM | | My son's father has had no contact with him at all since he was 3 years old (he's 8 1/2 now). I prefer it this way as it would just hurt him unnecessarily to have a man who doesn't really care about him in and out. In that sense its a good thing, the bad side is that he misses not having a dad and wants it all the more. There are times its difficult or you wish for it to be different, but in the end I am exactly where I want to be. | |
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| How many sinle parents have their kid or kids with no help?
Posted: 6/8/2007 10:00:35 PM | I'm just crying to myself tonight. My ex got half the house money, work settlement etc and has fallen thru the cracks. I get no support, no "every other weekends" totally 100% of the time...my poor kids.
Yes, I feel sorry for myself, but feel sorrier for them. What a dad they have. But I over compensate, do to much , stress myself out like crazy. And cry when I am alone...
What a life we lead....
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